Sabertooth
Footballguy
Yeah you fancied yourself quite the player. ANd made sure everyone knew about how good you were. Loved all those threads.
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When i was in my prime my ROI, ITM%, and Final Table % were braggable.
2008 was insane: http://www.officialpokerrankings.com/pokerstars/zam88/poker/results/EB0BE59391AA4E4983B4AEA4D29F1CB5.html?t=2
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sbonomo
Footballguy
I think we need more of an explanation than this. Amazing how priorities change as we get older. Oat's, I think we are close to the same age and I know my life has changed. I still have buddies hanging on to their late 20's early 30's.....I just could not imagine it any longer.
Otis
Footballguy
Not much more to explain. Down time is limited. A wife, a couple of house moves, a handful of pregnancies and couple of daughters later, and life is surely different. Now, I wouldn't trade back for anything in the world. But there are surely nice things about the old life that I wouldn't mind more of (time alone with the Mrs., time to just kind of chill out on weekends without being ordered to do puzzles or color with someone, sleeping in past 6am, etc.). And there's more pressure than ever -- I never used to worry about my job security, now the minute I have a bad day or things start going wrong, I get all kinds of anxiety and start worrying about that big mortgage payment and those three other mouths to feed. Much of that is self-imposed and unnecessary I'm sure, but I've generally just become much more of a worrier than I used to be. I used to feel bulletproof in comparison, which was a pretty nice and carefree way to live life.sbonomo said:
But overall it has more meaning now for sure. You adjust, and you make the most of the down time you do have, and you still look forward to your weekends but they're just different kinds of weekends.
sbonomo
Footballguy
Nothing wrong with this, it is called growing up. I am still a kid at heart as well but i do understand that i have responsibilities both personally and professionally.Not much more to explain. Down time is limited. A wife, a couple of house moves, a handful of pregnancies and couple of daughters later, and life is surely different. Now, I wouldn't trade back for anything in the world. But there are surely nice things about the old life that I wouldn't mind more of (time alone with the Mrs., time to just kind of chill out on weekends without being ordered to do puzzles or color with someone, sleeping in past 6am, etc.). And there's more pressure than ever -- I never used to worry about my job security, now the minute I have a bad day or things start going wrong, I get all kinds of anxiety and start worrying about that big mortgage payment and those three other mouths to feed. Much of that is self-imposed and unnecessary I'm sure, but I've generally just become much more of a worrier than I used to be. I used to feel bulletproof in comparison, which was a pretty nice and carefree way to live life.sbonomo said:
But overall it has more meaning now for sure. You adjust, and you make the most of the down time you do have, and you still look forward to your weekends but they're just different kinds of weekends.
Thorn
Footballguy
Raider Nation
Devil's Advocate
I'm truly sorry for bumping this, bb. I was just clowning Oats a little bit but I should have skimmed the thread first. I feel terrible. :(
bigbottom
Footballguy
Please guys, there's no reason to feel bad. This was a really, really good memory. I'm glad I was able to be in the moment during times like these, even before I got a major dose of perspective. The lesson is a good one. Take life as it comes, and find happiness where you can.
AAABatteries
Footballguy
BB, you are an incredible man. Chance was given the perfect Dad.
RUSF18
Footballguy
I totally teared up reading those last few posts. Such an amazing perspective you provide, BB. A bit more emotional than normal, as last night, my wife and I really sat down and thought up the time frame for when we're gonna start trying for our first.
I'm having a bit of a single night myself with her out with a friend, and I caught up on SoA on DVR and now watching the end of this Series game. Honestly can't wait for that next step, god willing.
I'm having a bit of a single night myself with her out with a friend, and I caught up on SoA on DVR and now watching the end of this Series game. Honestly can't wait for that next step, god willing.
Raider Nation
Devil's Advocate
I will be single my entire life, and not just because nobody will have me. I have lived with two different girls for a total of about 6 years. Being single is better than having someone around who must be pleased. I can wake up at 3pm if I want to (and usually do). I don't have to go for walks in New Hampshire in the fall when football games are on. I don't need to hear endless stories about how her job sucks while I'm trying to chat with ibuddies I've never met. I can eat a bag of donuts for dinner if I feel like it. I can skip the gym one day without getting a dirty look from anyone.
Those of you who are happily married -- I'm thrilled for you. It's just not for me.
Those of you who are happily married -- I'm thrilled for you. It's just not for me.
Frostillicus
Footballguy
Binky The Doormat
Footballguy
I have been married for 27 years with 2 great kids.
This sounds pretty incredible.
BigBlue_RI
Footballguy
Somehow my fantasy team Is 5-2 however it's been a lot of work based on right decisions on lineups and of course luck. My draft was not that good by my normal standards mainly because my job and family required my attention more this summer. It's still been hard to sit down and figure out trade offers to better my team and with my daughter due to be born mid-December, I wonder how much thought I'll be able to put into the fantasy playoffs. Since we had trouble getting pregnant for her, and with it being smack in the middle of the holidays, I think this is one year where I say fantasy football will be what it will be. Hey I am coming off title #5 last season in 21 seasons, I think I can take a pass!
Mister Martie
Footballguy
My wife doesn't do any of that miserable #### you just described, thank god.
bentley
Footballguy
Seven years ago. I feel like the Otis attention whoring has continued to grow, but at an even pace. Others have definitely come along and surpassed him.
When this thread was started, we were really coming to terms with our fertility issues. Seven years later we have two mostly wonderful boys. I think about BB's perspective any time I get too frustrated with JR.
Judge Smails
Footballguy
I've got a keeper. Very lucky.
DA RAIDERS
Footballguy
me too. i can't imagine putting up with half the #### i see in other peoples relationships. let alone, the misery that RN describes.
Raider Nation
Devil's Advocate
You ain't kidding, pal.
I do love the single life, though. So in essence, it was a blessing to date a string of witches. I even left out the part about being able to get drunk and play cards at the casino for days on end, without having to check in with anyone.
DA RAIDERS
Footballguy
i hear ya. i didn't get married until i was 35. and as we dated, i hid nothing. she liked me anyway and made zero effort to change me. she's hot, 10 years younger, seemed like a no brainer. 10 years later, so far so good.
Binky The Doormat
Footballguy
A jabby quote from all the way back in '07. I think it might be best to just let that one go ...bentley said:
bentley
Footballguy
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breeze
glumpy
breeze
Thanks BB. I remember reading your post the first time, and feeling that moment through you--and when I saw it again it took me back. I cherish those memories myself these days and I'm glad you can recapture them too.
James Daulton
Footballguy
Dark Matter
Footballguy
The FFA, what a cool place some times. This hit home big time today and I needed it. Thank you.
mr roboto
Footballguy
BB you are truly a class act and a wonderful man.
My perspective is a bit different because I got married pretty young. I met my wife in college and got married after my senior year of college. Married at 22, first child at 24 which came as a bit of a surprise because we were planning on waiting longer to start our family. I found the most incredible woman I could ever find and locked it up quickly which I do not regret at all. 10 years later with two beautiful daughters I am a very lucky man.
That said, when my wife and I go into the city for a date I sometimes envy the single life that is on display there. I do wonder if I would've been more adventurous with traveling or career choices if I had remain single longer. One thing that getting married young and starting a family young forced me to do was to look at life from a legacy perspective. Another reason why I was glad to start a family young is because I lost my father at a very young age and never really knew him. I always dreamed of being a father and starting a legacy of generations of children and grandchildren that could serve as a bit of a substitute from what I missed growing up.
My time is rarily my own. This weekend alone, we had three scheduled family events and I have yard work to do. I did get out and play nine holes of golf today with some buddies in the middle of the day which was wonderful. My wife wants me to go golfing or go have fun with the guys or go get a drink or watch a football game with my buddies. She knows that I will always choose family time and family obligations over my personal time so she has no issue with me carving out a bit of time for myself and my buddies. I give her the same freedom as well.
We talk about what we will do when the kids are out of the house. We will probably be in our late 40s or early 50s when the kids are gone and fully plan on buying a condo in some really cool city and living the city life and going out for drinks and dinner whenever we want. We have committed to one another to live the life that neither of us really had in our younger days when were older. Hopefully we will have more money than most people do in their 20s so we can really live it up at that point.
I concur with BBs point that it is pretty useless to look at the grass on the other side and lament how green it is. There are so many choices you can make with whatever life you're living now that will make it an incredible life. Granted, issues with marriage and kids and work can be stressful and difficult to navigate. However, we only get one trip around this club and none of us really knows how long that's going to be. We have a lot more control over our happiness than most of us ever imagine.
My perspective is a bit different because I got married pretty young. I met my wife in college and got married after my senior year of college. Married at 22, first child at 24 which came as a bit of a surprise because we were planning on waiting longer to start our family. I found the most incredible woman I could ever find and locked it up quickly which I do not regret at all. 10 years later with two beautiful daughters I am a very lucky man.
That said, when my wife and I go into the city for a date I sometimes envy the single life that is on display there. I do wonder if I would've been more adventurous with traveling or career choices if I had remain single longer. One thing that getting married young and starting a family young forced me to do was to look at life from a legacy perspective. Another reason why I was glad to start a family young is because I lost my father at a very young age and never really knew him. I always dreamed of being a father and starting a legacy of generations of children and grandchildren that could serve as a bit of a substitute from what I missed growing up.
My time is rarily my own. This weekend alone, we had three scheduled family events and I have yard work to do. I did get out and play nine holes of golf today with some buddies in the middle of the day which was wonderful. My wife wants me to go golfing or go have fun with the guys or go get a drink or watch a football game with my buddies. She knows that I will always choose family time and family obligations over my personal time so she has no issue with me carving out a bit of time for myself and my buddies. I give her the same freedom as well.
We talk about what we will do when the kids are out of the house. We will probably be in our late 40s or early 50s when the kids are gone and fully plan on buying a condo in some really cool city and living the city life and going out for drinks and dinner whenever we want. We have committed to one another to live the life that neither of us really had in our younger days when were older. Hopefully we will have more money than most people do in their 20s so we can really live it up at that point.
I concur with BBs point that it is pretty useless to look at the grass on the other side and lament how green it is. There are so many choices you can make with whatever life you're living now that will make it an incredible life. Granted, issues with marriage and kids and work can be stressful and difficult to navigate. However, we only get one trip around this club and none of us really knows how long that's going to be. We have a lot more control over our happiness than most of us ever imagine.
Courtjester
The Town Drunk
I guess since we are sharing---
My wife and I went to high school together--she pursued me all through high school, but I was the so called popular guy and I dated a lot of girls and made a lot of mistakes. Just by fate we ran into each other right after high school, she gave me her number and it was odd because the night I called her after that encounter, I told my mom--when I make this call, I am done. I will marry her.
Sure enough--that happened.
Flash forward 25 years. We are still together, but we are blessed/cursed with two beautiful, really gifted girls (15 and 10) They are tops in their class. dancers, musicians, athletes, involved in you name it.
Yet tonight my 15 year old goes off on me as usual and I walk the line of, do I respond? Do I let it go? How do I handle it? I handled it poorly and went to war with her. She DVR'ed a bunch of movies--like 10 but we have several programs recorded from the past years where she was featured on the local news and I need to find a way to get them off. So in fear of losing those, I deleted some of her movies Well WW3 broke out and she decided she was talking one of our laptops to her room as retaliation. I told her no. Weeks ago, she dropped her 17in HP laptop I bought her and it doesn't work. I remind her she has an Ipad/Ipod and an Iphone she can watch whatever she wants, but that isn't good enough. So she storms off--all the while my wife and my 10 year old scramble to the bedroom to go to bed.
So the long and the short is I sit here in my den, drinking and I feel like such a bad parent. I have raised good students, given them all I can monetarily and frankly every minute of my time (my wife and I haven't had a date night in forever--think years), but did I raise a good person?
I have read BB's story over and over and it does help find perspective, but I still am full of doubt. .Putting things in context, I feel so shallow complaining about mundane crap--but it just kills me inside I just don't know, maybe after the next beer I will find an answer.
My wife and I went to high school together--she pursued me all through high school, but I was the so called popular guy and I dated a lot of girls and made a lot of mistakes. Just by fate we ran into each other right after high school, she gave me her number and it was odd because the night I called her after that encounter, I told my mom--when I make this call, I am done. I will marry her.
Sure enough--that happened.
Flash forward 25 years. We are still together, but we are blessed/cursed with two beautiful, really gifted girls (15 and 10) They are tops in their class. dancers, musicians, athletes, involved in you name it.
Yet tonight my 15 year old goes off on me as usual and I walk the line of, do I respond? Do I let it go? How do I handle it? I handled it poorly and went to war with her. She DVR'ed a bunch of movies--like 10 but we have several programs recorded from the past years where she was featured on the local news and I need to find a way to get them off. So in fear of losing those, I deleted some of her movies Well WW3 broke out and she decided she was talking one of our laptops to her room as retaliation. I told her no. Weeks ago, she dropped her 17in HP laptop I bought her and it doesn't work. I remind her she has an Ipad/Ipod and an Iphone she can watch whatever she wants, but that isn't good enough. So she storms off--all the while my wife and my 10 year old scramble to the bedroom to go to bed.
So the long and the short is I sit here in my den, drinking and I feel like such a bad parent. I have raised good students, given them all I can monetarily and frankly every minute of my time (my wife and I haven't had a date night in forever--think years), but did I raise a good person?
I have read BB's story over and over and it does help find perspective, but I still am full of doubt. .Putting things in context, I feel so shallow complaining about mundane crap--but it just kills me inside I just don't know, maybe after the next beer I will find an answer.
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Raider Nation
Devil's Advocate
I have football on the big screen, MyFreeCams on the other screen, and I just ate two hot dogs before bed.
Enjoy going antiquing or whatever you married guys do while the NFL is on tomorrow.
Enjoy going antiquing or whatever you married guys do while the NFL is on tomorrow.
proninja
Footballguy
Is you jerking off and eating hotdogs by yourself while watching TV supposed to make married guys jealous?
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snellman
Footballguy
Teenage girl, nothing more to say. As a father who has raised 2 (now 20 and 19), I can tell you there will be many more nights like that. Don't ever take it personal because they will come out the next day and view you as king of the world. Relish the king of the world moments and forget about the worst person moments. Just be a steady force for them.
bigbottom
Footballguy
That's a really cool story.
A bad parent would have given in and let her do what she wanted. Or not given a damn about the videos on the DVR to begin with. From where I sit, it sounds like you are the definition of a good parent. Providing for your kids, giving them your time and attention, and providing them with guidance and accountability. As others have said, this just boils down to the fact that you are sharing your home with a teenager. Watch your back!
If you find the answer, be sure to let the rest of us know!
jamny
Footballguy
I was only about a year removed from a 5 year relationship. I was friends with my wife for a few months when other friends started pushing me to ask her out. I wasn't ready for anything serious and I told them that if we went out, I'm positive we'll wind up getting married. Well, I asked her out and 25 years later we're still happy. I get plenty of time alone as I work from home a lot, but I always look forward to hanging out with her. For me, so much better than being single.
AhrnCityPahnder
Yinz-o-riffic
proninja said:
NutterButter
Footballguy
STEADYMOBBIN 22
Footballguy
I just want to say BB is the man and he's made me rethink my perspective on my family life.
I thank him for this. Him being such a good person has made me a better person and I value life a little more.
Sounds corny but it's 100% true.
I thank him for this. Him being such a good person has made me a better person and I value life a little more.
Sounds corny but it's 100% true.
bigbottom
Footballguy
bigbottom
Footballguy
gianmarco
Footballguy
Raider Nation
Devil's Advocate
^^^^
4 married guys.
4 married guys.
chauncey
Footballguy
I'm going to withhold judgment until I know who was on screen two.^^^^
4 married guys.
Mr.Pack
Footballguy
