Braktastic
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I'm trying to figure out why our family pours so much time, money, and energy into this endeavor, so I'm curious to hear the responses. Thanks.
wow - that seems extreme. Is Mark Spitz coaching that team? I don't think I could make that level of time/money investment unless my kid was really very much dedicated to it. My son does a variety of sports - club, school and informal - the most expensive of which is his club soccer which is about $900 for the year (Fall, Winter and Spring seasons) and includes the uniforms, all league games and tournaments, and the parent time investment is much less.I'm getting there myself. Like everything my wife does, she seems always to choose the things that take the most time and money for what's in our wheelhouse. 8 and 6 year olds just joined a very competitive swim team. It costs a grand per kid for just the practices (meets cost extra but cost isn't listed so I'm sure its a lot) and in addition we have to volunteer 40 hours or pay $15/hr for every hour we don't volunteer. Practices are 3 times a week and for 6 weeks in the summer, they had 7:30 am practice 4 days a week. My kids aren't very competitive athletically so I don't think their swim careers will lead to any type of scholarship and they really only do it b/c we tell them to.
Holy moliness.I'm getting there myself. Like everything my wife does, she seems always to choose the things that take the most time and money for what's in our wheelhouse. 8 and 6 year olds just joined a very competitive swim team. It costs a grand per kid for just the practices (meets cost extra but cost isn't listed so I'm sure its a lot) and in addition we have to volunteer 40 hours or pay $15/hr for every hour we don't volunteer. Practices are 3 times a week and for 6 weeks in the summer, they had 7:30 am practice 4 days a week. My kids aren't very competitive athletically so I don't think their swim careers will lead to any type of scholarship and they really only do it b/c we tell them to.
I don't know how to answer, but I can look back to the travel baseball team my son played on for a number of years as an example. The head coach and all of the assistants naturally had kids on the team, but only the head coach really 'got it' when it came to what coaching youth sports, especially at the younger ages, should be about, which is developing skills and creating postive memories/experiences. That was his focus the whole time, and it culminated in an amazing run in Cooperstown at age 12. Unfortunately, the head coach's son was good but really uninterested in playing, and it came out after my son left that team that he was only there because his dad was the coach and as soon as he had the choice, he stopped playing. Even though that was the case, the head coach committed so much time and effort into that team that all of the kids who stayed in baseball after that team broke up are contributing players on their HS team, and I believe that the ones that stopped before high school probably are still skilled enough to at least make the team. On the other hand, some of the assistants were more worried about wins and losses and/or their kid getting as much playing time as possible. This lead to at least one payer quitting and another--my son's best friend at the time FWIW--left for another team before quitting two years later.But should I encourage them to like one sport over the other just because I could really be involved versus just supporting them?
They've had a couple of olympic medalists on that team; goldblatt and someone else that i can't remember. It gets even better. Anyone that's had their kid in dance can attest to how rough a dance recital can be; 2+ hours just to watch your kid dance for a few minutes. A swim meet makes a dance recital look like a pleasure cruise. The only one the oldest had so far was a shorter one lasting over 4 hours where she did four races in that time lasting about 2 minutes total. Sorry, I can't be doing that. If they do stay on the team until their junior and senior years, the cost per kid is ~2500 just for practices along with 80 hours of volunteer time. Effing insane.wow - that seems extreme. Is Mark Spitz coaching that team? I don't think I could make that level of time/money investment unless my kid was really very much dedicated to it. My son does a variety of sports - club, school and informal - the most expensive of which is his club soccer which is about $900 for the year (Fall, Winter and Spring seasons) and includes the uniforms, all league games and tournaments, and the parent time investment is much less.I'm getting there myself. Like everything my wife does, she seems always to choose the things that take the most time and money for what's in our wheelhouse. 8 and 6 year olds just joined a very competitive swim team. It costs a grand per kid for just the practices (meets cost extra but cost isn't listed so I'm sure its a lot) and in addition we have to volunteer 40 hours or pay $15/hr for every hour we don't volunteer. Practices are 3 times a week and for 6 weeks in the summer, they had 7:30 am practice 4 days a week. My kids aren't very competitive athletically so I don't think their swim careers will lead to any type of scholarship and they really only do it b/c we tell them to.
The answer to the questions of what kind of coach I would be would be one that is about the kids. I would want to foster a healthy competitive spirit and encourage them to better themselves (as a player in the sport and beyond).I don't know how to answer, but I can look back to the travel baseball team my son played on for a number of years as an example. The head coach and all of the assistants naturally had kids on the team, but only the head coach really 'got it' when it came to what coaching youth sports, especially at the younger ages, should be about, which is developing skills and creating postive memories/experiences. That was his focus the whole time, and it culminated in an amazing run in Cooperstown at age 12. Unfortunately, the head coach's son was good but really uninterested in playing, and it came out after my son left that team that he was only there because his dad was the coach and as soon as he had the choice, he stopped playing. Even though that was the case, the head coach committed so much time and effort into that team that all of the kids who stayed in baseball after that team broke up are contributing players on their HS team, and I believe that the ones that stopped before high school probably are still skilled enough to at least make the team. On the other hand, some of the assistants were more worried about wins and losses and/or their kid getting as much playing time as possible. This lead to at least one payer quitting and another--my son's best friend at the time FWIW--left for another team before quitting two years later.But should I encourage them to like one sport over the other just because I could really be involved versus just supporting them?
Basically, I think you'd have to ask yourself which kind of coach you would be: the kind that strives doggedly to engage all of the kids and put winning second, or the kind that puts winning and/or their idea of their own kid's best interests first? But more importantly than that, how do you think your kids would handle you coaching them?
The question wasn't how long do you let them play youth sports, the question was how long did they play youth sports. The reason I asked was because if most kids drop out of youth sports by the time they're 13, then I'm beginning to question why there's such a focus in our household on youth sports. Although it sounds like this forum is not indicative of that age 13 drop-out.Can OP explain the premise of the question? I don't understand the "how long do you 'let' your kids play sports.
Wouldn't you ordinarily let them play for as many years as they're interested?
The answer to the questions of what kind of coach I would be would be one that is about the kids. I would want to foster a healthy competitive spirit and encourage them to better themselves (as a player in the sport and beyond).
When the next betDid sports year round from about age 6 to college. Once in college I just played intramurals once in awhile. Most of the time I drank beer and ate crappy food. I was pretty thin until college. Been a fat turd since college (besides the occasional weight loss bet that gets me to shed some lbs).
Both of my kids play sports all year except the summer. In the summer they do a week or 2 of a sports camp (daughter volleyball, son did soccer and a baseball camp).
Good question. I need to lose weight stat. Like for medical reasons.When the next betDid sports year round from about age 6 to college. Once in college I just played intramurals once in awhile. Most of the time I drank beer and ate crappy food. I was pretty thin until college. Been a fat turd since college (besides the occasional weight loss bet that gets me to shed some lbs).
Both of my kids play sports all year except the summer. In the summer they do a week or 2 of a sports camp (daughter volleyball, son did soccer and a baseball camp).
I've just reach my breaking point but am not motivatedGood question. I need to lose weight stat. Like for medical reasons.When the next betDid sports year round from about age 6 to college. Once in college I just played intramurals once in awhile. Most of the time I drank beer and ate crappy food. I was pretty thin until college. Been a fat turd since college (besides the occasional weight loss bet that gets me to shed some lbs).
Both of my kids play sports all year except the summer. In the summer they do a week or 2 of a sports camp (daughter volleyball, son did soccer and a baseball camp).
That's too bad that it's not fun for you anymore. But, I can understand that. It really can get to be a grind.Braktastic said:The question wasn't how long do you let them play youth sports, the question was how long did they play youth sports. The reason I asked was because if most kids drop out of youth sports by the time they're 13, then I'm beginning to question why there's such a focus in our household on youth sports. Although it sounds like this forum is not indicative of that age 13 drop-out.randall146 said:Can OP explain the premise of the question? I don't understand the "how long do you 'let' your kids play sports.
Wouldn't you ordinarily let them play for as many years as they're interested?
I guess we're fortunate that our children get good grades, and are in good health with little in the way of disabilities besides ADHD, which is under control with medication. Still we are reaching that time when youth sports really starts to kick it up a notch, my son is 13, and my daughter is 11. My daughter is the better natural athlete, but neither really seem destined for high school sports, maybe my daughter. It is so insanely competitive in our area, and I'm wondering what's the point of it all. It isn't fun anymore for me. I guess it is still fun for them and that's the point, but again it isn't fun for me anymore, and I'm questioning our priorities.
Well since my daughter is only 9. 5 years so far.Funny how the OP asks how long your son/daughter played sports and a lot of the reply are "I played this sport blah blah blah".