Kiddies gather all around and take a seat as story time is about to start.
I'll try and keep this as short as possible, but trust me there was a much longer one brewing. My wife, my bil, and I met with the funeral home Tuesday. With everything we planned the price is roughly 4500 for the cremation and other goodies. After getting a small peak into her finances up to Tuesday is that there isn't squat to pay for this. The wife and I aren't happy that we will have to pay out (but more than willing to do it) that much to bury her mother, but her brother keeps railing on and on about these stocks mom got in the divorce.I think my wife feels that because mom couldn't pay for anything that people will look down on her. My bil is railing at us about where the stocks are that mom got on the divorce from fil. Well mother lived on her own in the house she got in the divorce all while not working. Not that she wasn't looking for work but at 50 most places won't hire you with no job experience and at your age. So common sense says she sold stocks to stay afloat. So Tuesday me trails on about the stocks and we again tell him she sold them. And tonight he brings them up again. But the kicker we get last night from bil's wife (she's a major c u next Tuesday) she sends my wife a text about this. I never liked your mom and how shameful and deceitful (about her finances and how she was much sicker than she let anyone know) she is and how she had no money. Well she had no money due to Medicaid taking over everything she had. The only thing up in the air is her $3000 life insurance policy. The items I was going to take I don't want them anymore, I'm only going Monday not for your mother but to support my husband. So Wednesday my wife went to her aunt to get a loan to cover the expenses until I can get some of my stock sold. She suggested talking to her aunt and mil's cousin who's a billionaire about covering everything because he mentioned earlier before #### hit the fan that he was offering. So he's covering it and the sil is still acting like a ####### nutjob. And another point is my bil had the money too. To me why the hell is the actual relative balking about paying and I who's only an in-law go to bat and say we have the money, I don't care, let us use what we got because this was your mom. It's like I'm acting the way her son should be, not the outsider looking in.
God I hate people who assume that if a relative dies I'm getting something. I look at it like this, it's your money do whatever makes you happy as you earned, we didn't.