I've read this entire thread and my take is this ... MITYH, you need to sack up and stop being afraid of confrontation, or shut the F up. Your good buddy Steve allegedly took advantage of YOUR WIFE. Either this entire thread is bogus, or you are being a total wuss hoping this will just blow over and work itself out. Show some fight, brother! If your wife was truly taken advantage of, show her that you give a ####e and won't let this dude get away with it! And accusing your wife of infidelity is generally not conducive to a happy marriage, and something I highly doubt she takes lightly. You just can't throw around serious accusations and then not take any action. Very, very weak on many levels.