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bentley said:
Usual21 said:
That's awesome news! I hadn't seen this thread until now, but my wife and I also had to go the IVF route. Our son is now 19 months old and the best thing that ever happened to us. Good luck!
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Thanks! We had our first regular ultrasound on Friday. It cost us $30. I had to check to make sure they hadn't left any zeroes off the bill.
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We are lucky that my wife and I are both teachers with great benefits when it comes to IVF cycles. I get 3 and she gets 3. Our first cycle failed, but the second one was a success. We had a scare when he cervix started opening up about 5 months early. She had to get a cerclage (stitched up) and put on bedrest. It was hard for her and I give her all the credit in the world. Sending good luck vibes both yours and Bentley's way for a safe pregnancy. Keep us informed.p.s. A fun site I used to visit was www.noodad.com Almost like and FBG for new dads.
 
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Tiger Fan said:
bentley said:
Tiger Fan said:
Congrats GB.Going back for analysis after the surgery next month
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Best of luck. I was wondering where you were in the process.
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3 months after the surgery all of my key #s are up around 35-40%. It should be even better in 3 more months says the doctor. Only bit of good news we've had in the past 18 months
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Awesome TF. :goodposting: I hope things continue to progress.Mrs.One's twins are at 16 weeks and we find out the sex of each tomorrow. ...and best of luck to Bentley & U21 Families!
 
mr. furley said:
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mr. furley said:
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Mrs.One's twins are at 16 weeks and we find out the sex of each tomorrow.
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:yes:
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20 Weeks - Boy and a Girl
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nice, the best case scenario right there :thumbup:
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Buddy of mine going through this scenario right now. Has a girl, wasn't going to have any more kids after this (both married later in life) and knew he was having twins. Was hoping for two boys. He's giddy with having the one though....Keep us posted bro!!!

 
Just had twins a few weeks ago. 1 girl 1 boy. Been amazing. Took 4 years and a bunch of fertility treatments. I give up anything 4 them.

 
itriple said:
Just had twins a few weeks ago. 1 girl 1 boy. Been amazing. Took 4 years and a bunch of fertility treatments. I give up anything 4 them.
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Congrats to both itriple and One!!! itriple and One -- PM me if you want to know what the future holds. I have 5 1/2 month old twins (boy & girl). Life can be hectic at times, but things get more stable as you approach the 6-month mark.
 
bentley said:
Early_10 said:
bentley said:
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mr. furley said:
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20 Weeks - Boy and a Girl
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Awesome. We find out what we're having on 1/13.
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You'd make the prettiest Bentlettes ever.
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I'm pulling for a daughter. You get to buy lots of stuff for little girls and they smell good. Little boys break #### and cause trouble.
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Update - We're having a little boy. Still way excited about it. Seven weeks from the due date. We had a premature labor scare last week, but we think things will be fine.
 
bentley said:
bentley said:
I'm pulling for a daughter. You get to buy lots of stuff for little girls and they smell good. Little boys break #### and cause trouble.
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Update - We're having a little boy. Still way excited about it. Seven weeks from the due date. We had a premature labor scare last week, but we think things will be fine.
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I've never heard of a father wanting a daughter. Gotta be 100000x worse to have a daughter in the teen years than a son.
 
Anonymous Internet User said:
bentley said:
bentley said:
I'm pulling for a daughter. You get to buy lots of stuff for little girls and they smell good. Little boys break #### and cause trouble.
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Update - We're having a little boy. Still way excited about it. Seven weeks from the due date. We had a premature labor scare last week, but we think things will be fine.
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I've never heard of a father wanting a daughter. Gotta be 100000x worse to have a daughter in the teen years than a son.
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Really I'm happy either way, but you have to think about the other 60 years or so you interact with them. I've had a couple old dudes tell me that you have a daughter for life and a son until he gets married.
 
Anonymous Internet User said:
bentley said:
bentley said:
I'm pulling for a daughter. You get to buy lots of stuff for little girls and they smell good. Little boys break #### and cause trouble.
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Update - We're having a little boy. Still way excited about it. Seven weeks from the due date. We had a premature labor scare last week, but we think things will be fine.
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I've never heard of a father wanting a daughter. Gotta be 100000x worse to have a daughter in the teen years than a son.
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I heard Louis CK do a pretty hilarious bit about this recently. I can't do it justice in this forum, but basically the punchline was that he's fine with whatever his daughter does, as long as it's something the daughter WANTS to do. Which makes sense to me, anyway.BTW, I'm new here. Wife and I are kicking off efforts in a week or so. :limbers up:
 
Annyong said:
Anonymous Internet User said:
bentley said:
bentley said:
I'm pulling for a daughter. You get to buy lots of stuff for little girls and they smell good. Little boys break #### and cause trouble.
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Update - We're having a little boy. Still way excited about it. Seven weeks from the due date. We had a premature labor scare last week, but we think things will be fine.
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I've never heard of a father wanting a daughter. Gotta be 100000x worse to have a daughter in the teen years than a son.
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I heard Louis CK do a pretty hilarious bit about this recently. I can't do it justice in this forum, but basically the punchline was that he's fine with whatever his daughter does, as long as it's something the daughter WANTS to do. Which makes sense to me, anyway.BTW, I'm new here. Wife and I are kicking off efforts in a week or so. :limbers up:
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GL GB.
 
Anonymous Internet User said:
bentley said:
bentley said:
I'm pulling for a daughter. You get to buy lots of stuff for little girls and they smell good. Little boys break #### and cause trouble.
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Update - We're having a little boy. Still way excited about it. Seven weeks from the due date. We had a premature labor scare last week, but we think things will be fine.
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I've never heard of a father wanting a daughter. Gotta be 100000x worse to have a daughter in the teen years than a son.
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We had a boy a year and a half ago, but I'd like to experience both, if possible.
 
Nigel Tufnel said:
Anonymous Internet User said:
bentley said:
bentley said:
I'm pulling for a daughter. You get to buy lots of stuff for little girls and they smell good. Little boys break #### and cause trouble.
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Update - We're having a little boy. Still way excited about it. Seven weeks from the due date. We had a premature labor scare last week, but we think things will be fine.
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I've never heard of a father wanting a daughter. Gotta be 100000x worse to have a daughter in the teen years than a son.
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We had a boy a year and a half ago, but I'd like to experience both, if possible.
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If you want guaranteed results, you can always buy a girl baby in China.
 
Update - still not pregnant :lmao:

Going to talk to doctors about IVF this week. Any tips on questions or whatnot we should be asking? mrs. TF is already doing a bunch of research on her end....just wanted to come here for advise.

 
Tiger Fan said:
Update - still not pregnant :lmao:Going to talk to doctors about IVF this week. Any tips on questions or whatnot we should be asking? mrs. TF is already doing a bunch of research on her end....just wanted to come here for advise.
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You should be aware that the statistics they give you are virtually worthless. Some places will promote themselves as having a very high rate of success, but that's because they turn away the most difficult cases like women over a certain age or with certain health problems. Other places will have very good doctors but low success rates specifically because they take those difficult cases and women over the age cutoff elsewhere go flocking to them.Having been through the process, I think the most important issue may be convenience. You have to go into the office like a zillion times to get things checked out, and if the place is far away or they make you wait for an hour before seeing someone each time, it just adds a lot of stress to an already stressful process. So I guess it wouldn't hurt to ask questions about that.I would also ask about the quality of porn they have in the jerkoff rooms. I went to several places and some places just don't put in the effort. Best of luck with everything. It's not a lot of fun to deal with.
 
I agree on the convenience thing. For us, the most important thing was being comfortable with our doctor. Ours was fantastic.

I also agree on the success rate stats. One thing we liked about our clinic is that they were very honest with everyone about the success rates and have the stats by age and complication posted on their website.

As far as the "educational" material goes, I believe that the age of the portable video media player has rendered the doctors' selection obsolete.

Luckily for us, after one IVF cycle, we have a bouncing baby boy and a second frozen embryo that we're going to have inserted this fall. Best of luck! Feel free to PM me any time if you have questions during the process.

 
bentley said:
I agree on the convenience thing. For us, the most important thing was being comfortable with our doctor. Ours was fantastic.

I also agree on the success rate stats. One thing we liked about our clinic is that they were very honest with everyone about the success rates and have the stats by age and complication posted on their website.

As far as the "educational" material goes, I believe that the age of the portable video media player has rendered the doctors' selection obsolete.

Luckily for us, after one IVF cycle, we have a bouncing baby boy and a second frozen embryo that we're going to have inserted this fall. Best of luck! Feel free to PM me any time if you have questions during the process.
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Didn't realize this was a possibility. How much was this extra cost? Yeah, we're lucky enough that it's only about 10 minutes away, so not a problem at all on convenience.

Thanks for the heads up (fatguytoo)

 
fatguyinalittlecoat said:
Tiger Fan said:
Update - still not pregnant :thumbdown:Going to talk to doctors about IVF this week. Any tips on questions or whatnot we should be asking? mrs. TF is already doing a bunch of research on her end....just wanted to come here for advise.
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You should be aware that the statistics they give you are virtually worthless. Some places will promote themselves as having a very high rate of success, but that's because they turn away the most difficult cases like women over a certain age or with certain health problems. Other places will have very good doctors but low success rates specifically because they take those difficult cases and women over the age cutoff elsewhere go flocking to them.Having been through the process, I think the most important issue may be convenience. You have to go into the office like a zillion times to get things checked out, and if the place is far away or they make you wait for an hour before seeing someone each time, it just adds a lot of stress to an already stressful process. So I guess it wouldn't hurt to ask questions about that.I would also ask about the quality of porn they have in the jerkoff rooms. I went to several places and some places just don't put in the effort. Best of luck with everything. It's not a lot of fun to deal with.
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To add to what he says--also a very high success rate might be due to the implantation of many embryos and what my urologist suggested we ask (since we were using an IVF Dr that he was not very familiar with) was what is his multiple birth percentage and how many embryos does he implant on average.As opposed to many in this thread, We had a single birth and our daughter is almost 3 years old now. Before our first consult with the Dr, we looked thru the baby pics photo albums and tried to get a feel for how many sets of twins and triplets pics were posted in there.I don't think I would be asking about the quality of their porn collection, but then again, I was afraid to touch anything in that room, I felt like I was in a Times Square booth, knowing how many had been in there before me. Having said that, my one Doc had a tv/dvd combo and I had another with a few old Playboys that had seen more use then I could ever imagine.
 
Tiger Fan said:
bentley said:
I agree on the convenience thing. For us, the most important thing was being comfortable with our doctor. Ours was fantastic.

I also agree on the success rate stats. One thing we liked about our clinic is that they were very honest with everyone about the success rates and have the stats by age and complication posted on their website.

As far as the "educational" material goes, I believe that the age of the portable video media player has rendered the doctors' selection obsolete.

Luckily for us, after one IVF cycle, we have a bouncing baby boy and a second frozen embryo that we're going to have inserted this fall. Best of luck! Feel free to PM me any time if you have questions during the process.
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Didn't realize this was a possibility. How much was this extra cost? Yeah, we're lucky enough that it's only about 10 minutes away, so not a problem at all on convenience.

Thanks for the heads up (fatguytoo)
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The Dr will review that with you, it was a few hundred IIRC from my guy. They will also offer your sample freezing, depending on where the problem lies. Also the reason they do it is to work over the ins company a little for you, since the fertilization process is the most expensive part and if you have some extra embryos to take a 2nd round with premade, you might get away good and not have to go thru the month of shots etc on the wife.Here was one thing that made us lose a few months and start the entire process over--one doctor we went to participated in our insurance. His embryologist did not participate in any insurance and my coverage is network only. My fault for not asking? I assumed that all in house doctors would fall under the same billing umbrella, but we all know what they say about assume.

Good Luck and any questions--you can feel free to PM me or post here--lots of FBGs seem to have been there and done that and always helpful.

 
The Big Guy said:
fatguyinalittlecoat said:
Tiger Fan said:
Update - still not pregnant :thumbdown:

Going to talk to doctors about IVF this week. Any tips on questions or whatnot we should be asking? mrs. TF is already doing a bunch of research on her end....just wanted to come here for advise.
Click to expand...
You should be aware that the statistics they give you are virtually worthless. Some places will promote themselves as having a very high rate of success, but that's because they turn away the most difficult cases like women over a certain age or with certain health problems. Other places will have very good doctors but low success rates specifically because they take those difficult cases and women over the age cutoff elsewhere go flocking to them.Having been through the process, I think the most important issue may be convenience. You have to go into the office like a zillion times to get things checked out, and if the place is far away or they make you wait for an hour before seeing someone each time, it just adds a lot of stress to an already stressful process. So I guess it wouldn't hurt to ask questions about that.

I would also ask about the quality of porn they have in the jerkoff rooms. I went to several places and some places just don't put in the effort.

Best of luck with everything. It's not a lot of fun to deal with.
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To add to what he says--also a very high success rate might be due to the implantation of many embryos and what my urologist suggested we ask (since we were using an IVF Dr that he was not very familiar with) was what is his multiple birth percentage and how many embryos does he implant on average.As opposed to many in this thread, We had a single birth and our daughter is almost 3 years old now. Before our first consult with the Dr, we looked thru the baby pics photo albums and tried to get a feel for how many sets of twins and triplets pics were posted in there.

I don't think I would be asking about the quality of their porn collection, but then again, I was afraid to touch anything in that room, I felt like I was in a Times Square booth, knowing how many had been in there before me. Having said that, my one Doc had a tv/dvd combo and I had another with a few old Playboys that had seen more use then I could ever imagine.
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I snuck in a homemade tape.
 
Good luck.

Nothing worked for us until our first try with IVF. It's a miracle procedure. Now we have 11 month old twins. :)

 
CrossEyed said:
Have you considered adoption? There are a LOT of kids out there that need a home and loving parents.
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I'm pretty sure it goes without saying that virtually any couple that goes through these sort of issues considers adoption as an alternative. Just as I'm pretty sure it goes without saying that people have an innate preference to have children who share their genetic material. It's basic science. There's also a preference for going through the "full" experience, including caring for a child basically from the date of birth. Fortunately we haven't gotten to the point where we have seriously considered alternatives yet, but to my knowledge, it's really hard to set up an adoption from birth. Of course, my knowledge is largely based on jokes from Raising Arizona. "Five years? What else you got? He said they got two Ko-reans and a negro born with his heart on the outside."Also, I'm only one guy, but my experience has been that my wife is particularly emotionally attached to the idea of being pregnant/giving birth. Doesn't make sense to me, but of course women do and think a lot of things that don't make sense to me.
 
TobiasFunke said:
CrossEyed said:
Have you considered adoption? There are a LOT of kids out there that need a home and loving parents.
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I'm pretty sure it goes without saying that virtually any couple that goes through these sort of issues considers adoption as an alternative. Just as I'm pretty sure it goes without saying that people have an innate preference to have children who share their genetic material. It's basic science. There's also a preference for going through the "full" experience, including caring for a child basically from the date of birth. Fortunately we haven't gotten to the point where we have seriously considered alternatives yet, but to my knowledge, it's really hard to set up an adoption from birth. Of course, my knowledge is largely based on jokes from Raising Arizona. "Five years? What else you got? He said they got two Ko-reans and a negro born with his heart on the outside."Also, I'm only one guy, but my experience has been that my wife is particularly emotionally attached to the idea of being pregnant/giving birth. Doesn't make sense to me, but of course women do and think a lot of things that don't make sense to me.
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I understand. My wife was pretty attached to that idea also. She's now VERY attached to a little boy that was placed in our home when he was 3 months old and will be officially ours in April. I don't have a biological child, but I can't imagine loving and caring about a child any more than I love and care about him.
 
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