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that's brutalFlaming Moe said:What went wrong, GM? Did your wife stop drinking?and all the while it was my marriage that was falling apart.
As funny as that is, the truth is, yeah....sort of. We stopped having fun as a couple and started drifting in different directions. She always waited for me to grow up and I never really did. I'm a great dad, but a horrible husband. So I'm told.Flaming Moe said:What went wrong, GM? Did your wife stop drinking?and all the while it was my marriage that was falling apart.
Mrs. BSR said:I posted 46 times in this thread? Yikes.
Thanks. I was wondering. I also wonder how many picked option #4 before it was deleted.For any non-voters who may be waiting for the half time score before officially weighing in:[69].........Nothing Let it go.[127].......Go to Counseling. [80].........Have my wife call this guy to figure out the events.
Yeah, I've had friends whose wives told them this. All of them selfish and pathetic attention hoors who can't deal with the fact that their husbands love their children. Most of them walked out on hubby & kids for a boy toy.As funny as that is, the truth is, yeah....sort of. We stopped having fun as a couple and started drifting in different directions. She always waited for me to grow up and I never really did. I'm a great dad, but a horrible husband. So I'm told.Flaming Moe said:What went wrong, GM? Did your wife stop drinking?
and all the while it was my marriage that was falling apart.
HUGE sigh of relief: We can go back to making fun of you.The latest.Ultrasound went great. Got a 3D pic of the face, very cool. Everything looked good.She does have one less vessel in the cord then they'd like. However, everything looks normal and they're not too worried about it.Things looks good.
Glad your wife's baby is doing well.The latest.Ultrasound went great. Got a 3D pic of the face, very cool. Everything looked good.She does have one less vessel in the cord then they'd like. However, everything looks normal and they're not too worried about it.Things looks good.
HUGE sigh of relief: We can go back to making fun of you.The latest.Ultrasound went great. Got a 3D pic of the face, very cool. Everything looked good.She does have one less vessel in the cord then they'd like. However, everything looks normal and they're not too worried about it.Things looks good.
Glad your wife's baby is doing well.The latest.Ultrasound went great. Got a 3D pic of the face, very cool. Everything looked good.She does have one less vessel in the cord then they'd like. However, everything looks normal and they're not too worried about it.Things looks good.
Do you intend to do a paternity test after it is born?The latest.Ultrasound went great. Got a 3D pic of the face, very cool. Everything looked good.She does have one less vessel in the cord then they'd like. However, everything looks normal and they're not too worried about it.Things looks good.
Glad your wife's baby is doing well.The latest.
Ultrasound went great. Got a 3D pic of the face, very cool. Everything looked good.
She does have one less vessel in the cord then they'd like. However, everything looks normal and they're not too worried about it.
Things looks good.
Hooray!By the way, have you tried checking the phone and e-mail records?The latest.Ultrasound went great. Got a 3D pic of the face, very cool. Everything looked good.She does have one less vessel in the cord then they'd like. However, everything looks normal and they're not too worried about it.Things looks good.
veryDo you intend to do a paternity test after it is born?The latest.Ultrasound went great. Got a 3D pic of the face, very cool. Everything looked good.She does have one less vessel in the cord then they'd like. However, everything looks normal and they're not too worried about it.Things looks good.
Haven't made a decision on this one yet. If I don't do it, there will be small nagging feeling that may last my entire life. It won't consume me, and it won't affect my relationship with child #3. However, If I do it and it turns out it's not mine, would I abandon the kid? Knowing Steve, I don't think he'd jump right in and take responsiblity for this. So the one who really ends paying the price if I walk is the kid. It'd be tough to walk away. AveryDo you intend to do a paternity test after it is born?The latest.Ultrasound went great. Got a 3D pic of the face, very cool. Everything looked good.She does have one less vessel in the cord then they'd like. However, everything looks normal and they're not too worried about it.Things looks good.
Please dude... tell me you aren't serious with this. How in the world is your wife getting pregnant with another dude's baby not enough for you to walk away? You must be joking man.Haven't made a decision on this one yet. If I don't do it, there will be small nagging feeling that may last my entire life. It won't consume me, and it won't affect my relationship with child #3. However, If I do it and it turns out it's not mine, would I abandon the kid? Knowing Steve, I don't think he'd jump right in and take responsiblity for this. So the one who really ends paying the price if I walk is the kid. It'd be tough to walk away. AveryDo you intend to do a paternity test after it is born?The latest.
Ultrasound went great. Got a 3D pic of the face, very cool. Everything looked good.
She does have one less vessel in the cord then they'd like. However, everything looks normal and they're not too worried about it.
Things looks good.
From the kid I mean. I should walk to let him grow up without a father? Without a family unit? Just because the 'real' father is a jackass? I would expect most men to step up and take responsibility. I don't expect that to be the case here.Regardless, I'm pretty convinced I have nothing to worry about. It is an interesting hypothetical though.Please dude... tell me you aren't serious with this. How in the world is your wife getting pregnant with another dude's baby not enough for you to walk away? You must be joking man.Haven't made a decision on this one yet. If I don't do it, there will be small nagging feeling that may last my entire life. It won't consume me, and it won't affect my relationship with child #3. However, If I do it and it turns out it's not mine, would I abandon the kid? Knowing Steve, I don't think he'd jump right in and take responsiblity for this. So the one who really ends paying the price if I walk is the kid. It'd be tough to walk away. AveryDo you intend to do a paternity test after it is born?The latest.
Ultrasound went great. Got a 3D pic of the face, very cool. Everything looked good.
She does have one less vessel in the cord then they'd like. However, everything looks normal and they're not too worried about it.
Things looks good.
at anyone who doesn't know this is a trip when the OP considers the possibility of his wife having an illegitimate child to be "an interesting hypothetical".From the kid I mean. I should walk to let him grow up without a father? Without a family unit? Just because the 'real' father is a jackass? I would expect most men to step up and take responsibility. I don't expect that to be the case here.Regardless, I'm pretty convinced I have nothing to worry about. It is an interesting hypothetical though.
I don't know that I could ever consider raising a child that my wife gave birth to because the guy she cheated on me with to get pregnant isn't a good enough father. That takes a whole different breed of human.From the kid I mean. I should walk to let him grow up without a father? Without a family unit? Just because the 'real' father is a jackass? I would expect most men to step up and take responsibility. I don't expect that to be the case here.Regardless, I'm pretty convinced I have nothing to worry about. It is an interesting hypothetical though.Please dude... tell me you aren't serious with this. How in the world is your wife getting pregnant with another dude's baby not enough for you to walk away? You must be joking man.Haven't made a decision on this one yet. If I don't do it, there will be small nagging feeling that may last my entire life. It won't consume me, and it won't affect my relationship with child #3. However, If I do it and it turns out it's not mine, would I abandon the kid? Knowing Steve, I don't think he'd jump right in and take responsiblity for this. So the one who really ends paying the price if I walk is the kid. It'd be tough to walk away. AveryDo you intend to do a paternity test after it is born?The latest.
Ultrasound went great. Got a 3D pic of the face, very cool. Everything looked good.
She does have one less vessel in the cord then they'd like. However, everything looks normal and they're not too worried about it.
Things looks good.
OK dude. Whatever. The point is I'm about 99% sure I have nothing to worry about here, so think you're off base with your comments.at anyone who doesn't know this is a trip when the OP considers the possibility of his wife having an illegitimate child to be "an interesting hypothetical".From the kid I mean. I should walk to let him grow up without a father? Without a family unit? Just because the 'real' father is a jackass? I would expect most men to step up and take responsibility. I don't expect that to be the case here.Regardless, I'm pretty convinced I have nothing to worry about. It is an interesting hypothetical though.
I predict that this thread will be revived when the original poster finds out the baby doesn't look like him at all. In fact it looks like Steve. Sounds like a good plot twist!!!OK dude. Whatever. The point is I'm about 99% sure I have nothing to worry about here, so think you're off base with your comments.at anyone who doesn't know this is a trip when the OP considers the possibility of his wife having an illegitimate child to be "an interesting hypothetical".From the kid I mean. I should walk to let him grow up without a father? Without a family unit? Just because the 'real' father is a jackass? I would expect most men to step up and take responsibility. I don't expect that to be the case here.Regardless, I'm pretty convinced I have nothing to worry about. It is an interesting hypothetical though.
Tune in next week when Brenda learns that Dylan has been cheating on her with Kelly.Haven't made a decision on this one yet. If I don't do it, there will be small nagging feeling that may last my entire life. It won't consume me, and it won't affect my relationship with child #3. However, If I do it and it turns out it's not mine, would I abandon the kid? Knowing Steve, I don't think he'd jump right in and take responsiblity for this. So the one who really ends paying the price if I walk is the kid. It'd be tough to walk away. A
I quit reading this thread ages ago because of the obvious that was going on. So could some please post the cliff notes version ? I feel the need to catch up.I predict that this thread will be revived when the original poster finds out the baby doesn't look like him at all. In fact it looks like Steve. Sounds like a good plot twist!!!OK dude. Whatever. The point is I'm about 99% sure I have nothing to worry about here, so think you're off base with your comments.at anyone who doesn't know this is a trip when the OP considers the possibility of his wife having an illegitimate child to be "an interesting hypothetical".From the kid I mean. I should walk to let him grow up without a father? Without a family unit? Just because the 'real' father is a jackass? I would expect most men to step up and take responsibility. I don't expect that to be the case here.Regardless, I'm pretty convinced I have nothing to worry about. It is an interesting hypothetical though.
He probably already suggested MITYH to do this twice.What does George think about getting a paternity test?
From the kid I mean. I should walk to let him grow up without a father? Without a family unit? Just because the 'real' father is a jackass? I would expect most men to step up and take responsibility. I don't expect that to be the case here.Regardless, I'm pretty convinced I have nothing to worry about. It is an interesting hypothetical though.Please dude... tell me you aren't serious with this. How in the world is your wife getting pregnant with another dude's baby not enough for you to walk away? You must be joking man.Haven't made a decision on this one yet. If I don't do it, there will be small nagging feeling that may last my entire life. It won't consume me, and it won't affect my relationship with child #3. However, If I do it and it turns out it's not mine, would I abandon the kid? Knowing Steve, I don't think he'd jump right in and take responsiblity for this. So the one who really ends paying the price if I walk is the kid. It'd be tough to walk away. AveryDo you intend to do a paternity test after it is born?The latest.
Ultrasound went great. Got a 3D pic of the face, very cool. Everything looked good.
She does have one less vessel in the cord then they'd like. However, everything looks normal and they're not too worried about it.
Things looks good.
Congrats on a great trip though... it will be interesting to see what you come up with next. The wife is pregnant 9 months after the original incident was pretty impressive. Seriously: In concept I hate trips, and I wish Joe would ban people for them. It's not like real life isn't interesting enough such that people have to concoct fictional stories to keep the FFA interesting.That said, sometimes the trips create good conversation about moral dilemmas - and when well done (like this one), they can be entertaining.So carry on... you have legions of FFA readers "hooked" on this saga.OK dude. Whatever. The point is I'm about 99% sure I have nothing to worry about here, so think you're off base with your comments.at anyone who doesn't know this is a trip when the OP considers the possibility of his wife having an illegitimate child to be "an interesting hypothetical".From the kid I mean. I should walk to let him grow up without a father? Without a family unit? Just because the 'real' father is a jackass? I would expect most men to step up and take responsibility. I don't expect that to be the case here.Regardless, I'm pretty convinced I have nothing to worry about. It is an interesting hypothetical though.
Let's say it's not your kid and you let her get away with it, she will do it again. It's like you gave her a free swingers card and your not invited pass. BTW, yes it will consume you when the kid hits his/her teens and says "I HATE YOU DADDY" as they always do.Haven't made a decision on this one yet. If I don't do it, there will be small nagging feeling that may last my entire life. It won't consume me, and it won't affect my relationship with child #3. However, If I do it and it turns out it's not mine, would I abandon the kid? Knowing Steve, I don't think he'd jump right in and take responsiblity for this. So the one who really ends paying the price if I walk is the kid. It'd be tough to walk away. A
C'mon someone help me out !I quit reading this thread ages ago because of the obvious that was going on. So could some please post the cliff notes version ? I feel the need to catch up.I predict that this thread will be revived when the original poster finds out the baby doesn't look like him at all. In fact it looks like Steve. Sounds like a good plot twist!!!OK dude. Whatever. The point is I'm about 99% sure I have nothing to worry about here, so think you're off base with your comments.at anyone who doesn't know this is a trip when the OP considers the possibility of his wife having an illegitimate child to be "an interesting hypothetical".From the kid I mean. I should walk to let him grow up without a father? Without a family unit? Just because the 'real' father is a jackass? I would expect most men to step up and take responsibility. I don't expect that to be the case here.
Regardless, I'm pretty convinced I have nothing to worry about. It is an interesting hypothetical though.
Urinal cake has a nice ring to itThe names John or Johnny seem fitting.
I am pretty sure that if he insists on the paternity test his marriage will be over no matter what the result.If it comes back that MITYH is not the father then the marriage is finished. If it comes back MITYH is the father then she is never going to forgive him and the marriage is toast (and he still won't know for sure if his wife cheated).There is no way that I wouldn't get a paternity test. Easily justifiable to the wife..."this will put is matter to rest once and for all for me honey" It will slowly eat awa at you if you don't do it. You can't tell me that regardless of what happenedd in that stall, you haven't thought if it may not have been a isolated incident. GET THE TEST, your marriage will be betterfor it.
I disagree. If she agree's to the test she is almost admitting to having had an affair. Any women that I know who did not have an affair would be insulted by the question being asked.I am pretty sure that if he insists on the paternity test his marriage will be over no matter what the result.If it comes back that MITYH is not the father then the marriage is finished. If it comes back MITYH is the father then she is never going to forgive him and the marriage is toast (and he still won't know for sure if his wife cheated).There is no way that I wouldn't get a paternity test. Easily justifiable to the wife..."this will put is matter to rest once and for all for me honey" It will slowly eat awa at you if you don't do it. You can't tell me that regardless of what happenedd in that stall, you haven't thought if it may not have been a isolated incident. GET THE TEST, your marriage will be betterfor it.
I disagree with the bugman. See Bill Clinton etc.I disagree. If she agree's to the test she is almost admitting to having had an affair. Any women that I know who did not have an affair would be insulted by the question being asked.I am pretty sure that if he insists on the paternity test his marriage will be over no matter what the result.If it comes back that MITYH is not the father then the marriage is finished. If it comes back MITYH is the father then she is never going to forgive him and the marriage is toast (and he still won't know for sure if his wife cheated).There is no way that I wouldn't get a paternity test. Easily justifiable to the wife..."this will put is matter to rest once and for all for me honey" It will slowly eat awa at you if you don't do it. You can't tell me that regardless of what happenedd in that stall, you haven't thought if it may not have been a isolated incident. GET THE TEST, your marriage will be betterfor it.
As stated before in the thread, once the baby is born, test its paternity without his wife's knowledge.She never needs to know that he needed to know.I disagree. If she agree's to the test she is almost admitting to having had an affair. Any women that I know who did not have an affair would be insulted by the question being asked.I am pretty sure that if he insists on the paternity test his marriage will be over no matter what the result.If it comes back that MITYH is not the father then the marriage is finished. If it comes back MITYH is the father then she is never going to forgive him and the marriage is toast (and he still won't know for sure if his wife cheated).There is no way that I wouldn't get a paternity test. Easily justifiable to the wife..."this will put is matter to rest once and for all for me honey" It will slowly eat awa at you if you don't do it. You can't tell me that regardless of what happenedd in that stall, you haven't thought if it may not have been a isolated incident. GET THE TEST, your marriage will be betterfor it.