What's new
Fantasy Football - Footballguys Forums

Welcome to Our Forums. Once you've registered and logged in, you're primed to talk football, among other topics, with the sharpest and most experienced fantasy players on the internet.

my lifes in the crapper (1 Viewer)

B

bluemagic

Footballguy
so here i am......24 and i dont know how to maintain any sort of life

ive been unemployed for 4 months and im behind over a thousand on my rent. my only work experience is in painting, construction and HVAC and they are all dead industries right now it appears where i live

the landlord wants me out......ive begged and borrowed all i can over the past few months

if i have to leave i have nowhere to go...nobody in my family is willing to take me in..not even either of my parents

whats the next step? where do i go from here?

i just dont see any answers

any suggestions? right now it looks like it would be better to no longer exist

 
bluemagic said:
so here i am......24 and i dont know how to maintain any sort of lifeive been unemployed for 4 months and im behind over a thousand on my rent. my only work experience is in painting, construction and HVAC and they are all dead industries right now it appears where i livethe landlord wants me out......ive begged and borrowed all i can over the past few monthsif i have to leave i have nowhere to go...nobody in my family is willing to take me in..not even either of my parentswhats the next step? where do i go from here?i just dont see any answersany suggestions? right now it looks like it would be better to no longer exist
Click to expand...
Army? Navy? Air Force? Marines?
 
First step would be to stop posting on a message board and start looking for a job. You're 24. Life is good.

 
kupcho1 said:
bluemagic said:
so here i am......24 and i dont know how to maintain any sort of lifeive been unemployed for 4 months and im behind over a thousand on my rent. my only work experience is in painting, construction and HVAC and they are all dead industries right now it appears where i livethe landlord wants me out......ive begged and borrowed all i can over the past few monthsif i have to leave i have nowhere to go...nobody in my family is willing to take me in..not even either of my parentswhats the next step? where do i go from here?i just dont see any answersany suggestions? right now it looks like it would be better to no longer exist
Click to expand...
Army? Navy? Air Force? Marines?
Click to expand...
i tried the navy a few months ago........i dont qualify for medical reasons
 
bluemagic said:
so here i am......24 and i dont know how to maintain any sort of lifeive been unemployed for 4 months and im behind over a thousand on my rent. my only work experience is in painting, construction and HVAC and they are all dead industries right now it appears where i livethe landlord wants me out......ive begged and borrowed all i can over the past few monthsif i have to leave i have nowhere to go...nobody in my family is willing to take me in..not even either of my parentswhats the next step? where do i go from here?i just dont see any answersany suggestions? right now it looks like it would be better to no longer exist
Click to expand...
sell the computer you are posting on?
 
kupcho1 said:
bluemagic said:
so here i am......24 and i dont know how to maintain any sort of lifeive been unemployed for 4 months and im behind over a thousand on my rent. my only work experience is in painting, construction and HVAC and they are all dead industries right now it appears where i livethe landlord wants me out......ive begged and borrowed all i can over the past few monthsif i have to leave i have nowhere to go...nobody in my family is willing to take me in..not even either of my parentswhats the next step? where do i go from here?i just dont see any answersany suggestions? right now it looks like it would be better to no longer exist
Click to expand...
Army? Navy? Air Force? Marines?
Click to expand...
no they wont and i dont know why......ive been almost at this point several times in the past 3 years and they offer no help
 
There's absolutely no work you can do?

Have you tried filing for unemployment?

Where do you live (state)?

 
bluemagic said:
so here i am......24 and i dont know how to maintain any sort of lifeive been unemployed for 4 months and im behind over a thousand on my rent. my only work experience is in painting, construction and HVAC and they are all dead industries right now it appears where i livethe landlord wants me out......ive begged and borrowed all i can over the past few monthsif i have to leave i have nowhere to go...nobody in my family is willing to take me in..not even either of my parentswhats the next step? where do i go from here?i just dont see any answersany suggestions? right now it looks like it would be better to no longer exist
Click to expand...
Wow, what did you do to your parents that they won't take you in?
 
of course ive been looking for work..i just got home from 2 interviews for jobs im not qualified for and know i wont get

 
Well, for starters your spelling and grammar is better than 90% of the FBG's in these forums, so you've got that going for you.

Might be a good time to look for work in areas that you haven't thought about before now. Since you are online, search through any and all job opportunities on places like Craigslist.org and Monster.com.

Time to "think outside the box". Hell, be a dishwasher or a clown that sings telegrams. Try anything.

Don't let yourself fall into a funk/depression. Go visit old people in a nursing home; try to cheer them up.

Good luck.

 
dundeeslugger said:
bluemagic said:
so here i am......24 and i dont know how to maintain any sort of lifeive been unemployed for 4 months and im behind over a thousand on my rent. my only work experience is in painting, construction and HVAC and they are all dead industries right now it appears where i livethe landlord wants me out......ive begged and borrowed all i can over the past few monthsif i have to leave i have nowhere to go...nobody in my family is willing to take me in..not even either of my parentswhats the next step? where do i go from here?i just dont see any answersany suggestions? right now it looks like it would be better to no longer exist
Click to expand...
Wow, what did you do to your parents that they won't take you in?
Click to expand...
i didnt do anything to my parents........they are both actually former dug addict/alcoholics who i had to take care of in my teens before they seperated...........last one i lived with was my mother who booted me out so she could go live with her fiance
 
yeah dude, bite the bullet and take whatever job you can get... let your landlord know what's up with the job, and hopefully he will help you out.

 
Controller said:
Well, for starters your spelling and grammar is better than 90% of the FBG's in these forums, so you've got that going for you.Might be a good time to look for work in areas that you haven't thought about before now. Since you are online, search through any and all job opportunities on places like Craigslist.org and Monster.com. Time to "think outside the box". Hell, be a dishwasher or a clown that sings telegrams. Try anything.Don't let yourself fall into a funk/depression. Go visit old people in a nursing home; try to cheer them up. Good luck.
Click to expand...
i cant do certain work that requires people skills because i suffer from crippling social phobia......its hard for me to even leave the house and the only jobs i was ever good at were working with my hands and not dealing with people
 
Find a trade the you can easily learn and move up in. Find a decent restaurant. You can work there as a grunt to start but turnover is usually high and you can move up quickly if you want to learn and do your job well. Plus they might feed you.

 
Last edited by a moderator:
First of all - what ever might be in your past, is there - do not let it influence or destroy your future as well

You are only 24, so there is much to live for, a whole lifetime to experience

Try to become positive, devise a vision for your future - 6 months, 1 year, 5 years, etc

The perseverance of the Human Will is a Wonderful Thing

 
Cavalier said:
Hit a trade the you can easily learn and move up in. Find a decent restaurant. You can work there as a grunt to start but turnover is usually high and you can move up quickly if you want to learn and do your job well. Plus they might feed you.
Click to expand...
ive actually thought of working in food prep.........i enjoy cooking i have no formal training though and all ads i see are for people with years of experience in the business
 
bluemagic said:
Controller said:
Well, for starters your spelling and grammar is better than 90% of the FBG's in these forums, so you've got that going for you.Might be a good time to look for work in areas that you haven't thought about before now. Since you are online, search through any and all job opportunities on places like Craigslist.org and Monster.com. Time to "think outside the box". Hell, be a dishwasher or a clown that sings telegrams. Try anything.Don't let yourself fall into a funk/depression. Go visit old people in a nursing home; try to cheer them up. Good luck.
Click to expand...
i cant do certain work that requires people skills because i suffer from crippling social phobia......its hard for me to even leave the house and the only jobs i was ever good at were working with my hands and not dealing with people
Click to expand...
You're going to have to try to deal with that if you are going to move forward in life. Have you looked into having your condition treated? Even if you think you can't afford it, there may be programs out there to help you through this.
 
TidesofWar said:
First of all - what ever might be in your past, is there - do not let it influence or destroy your future as wellYou are only 24, so there is much to live for, a whole lifetime to experienceTry to become positive, devise a vision for your future - 6 months, 1 year, 5 years, etcThe perseverance of the Human Will is a Wonderful Thing
Click to expand...
thats impossible because right now for all i know at the end of the month ill be in the streethard to stay upbeat
 
bluemagic said:
Controller said:
Well, for starters your spelling and grammar is better than 90% of the FBG's in these forums, so you've got that going for you.Might be a good time to look for work in areas that you haven't thought about before now. Since you are online, search through any and all job opportunities on places like Craigslist.org and Monster.com. Time to "think outside the box". Hell, be a dishwasher or a clown that sings telegrams. Try anything.Don't let yourself fall into a funk/depression. Go visit old people in a nursing home; try to cheer them up. Good luck.
Click to expand...
i cant do certain work that requires people skills because i suffer from crippling social phobia......its hard for me to even leave the house and the only jobs i was ever good at were working with my hands and not dealing with people
Click to expand...
I would go see someone and get some meds for the social anxietySome Paxil or something could really help you out
 
bluemagic said:
Cavalier said:
Hit a trade the you can easily learn and move up in. Find a decent restaurant. You can work there as a grunt to start but turnover is usually high and you can move up quickly if you want to learn and do your job well. Plus they might feed you.
Click to expand...
ive actually thought of working in food prep.........i enjoy cooking i have no formal training though and all ads i see are for people with years of experience in the business
Click to expand...
get your foot in the door with a busboy job or something...
 
Moe Green said:
bluemagic said:
Controller said:
Well, for starters your spelling and grammar is better than 90% of the FBG's in these forums, so you've got that going for you.Might be a good time to look for work in areas that you haven't thought about before now. Since you are online, search through any and all job opportunities on places like Craigslist.org and Monster.com. Time to "think outside the box". Hell, be a dishwasher or a clown that sings telegrams. Try anything.Don't let yourself fall into a funk/depression. Go visit old people in a nursing home; try to cheer them up. Good luck.
Click to expand...
i cant do certain work that requires people skills because i suffer from crippling social phobia......its hard for me to even leave the house and the only jobs i was ever good at were working with my hands and not dealing with people
Click to expand...
You're going to have to try to deal with that if you are going to move forward in life. Have you looked into having your condition treated? Even if you think you can't afford it, there may be programs out there to help you through this.
Click to expand...
ive actually just begun looking for a shrink and maybe get meds......but im worried its too late because in less than a month i dont know where im going to go...........i dont even know where my next meal is coming from half the time and i dont eat every day
 
bluemagic said:
Controller said:
Well, for starters your spelling and grammar is better than 90% of the FBG's in these forums, so you've got that going for you.Might be a good time to look for work in areas that you haven't thought about before now. Since you are online, search through any and all job opportunities on places like Craigslist.org and Monster.com. Time to "think outside the box". Hell, be a dishwasher or a clown that sings telegrams. Try anything.Don't let yourself fall into a funk/depression. Go visit old people in a nursing home; try to cheer them up. Good luck.
Click to expand...
i cant do certain work that requires people skills because i suffer from crippling social phobia......its hard for me to even leave the house and the only jobs i was ever good at were working with my hands and not dealing with people
Click to expand...
OK, but still I would advise you to look at anything and everything that you possibly could do, and think beyong the types of jobs you've had up to now. Don't limit yourself and you might find something sooner, even with the limitations of the social phobia. I work in accounting, and over the years I've seen many accounting personnel who were outstanding but were asocial. What I'm saying is, don't focus on what you can't do, search for something you can do.
 
Prostitution down?

Seriously. You've only been on the board a few days. After a while here, you won't even notice you're homeless.

 
bluemagic said:
Cavalier said:
Hit a trade the you can easily learn and move up in. Find a decent restaurant. You can work there as a grunt to start but turnover is usually high and you can move up quickly if you want to learn and do your job well. Plus they might feed you.
Click to expand...
ive actually thought of working in food prep.........i enjoy cooking i have no formal training though and all ads i see are for people with years of experience in the business
Click to expand...
You have to knock on doors and sometimes you even have to kick them open. They usually don't open for you. Go out and give it a shot. Seem enthusiastic, sincere, and a little desperate. Trust me, at every restuarant you go to there will be at least some people the current manager is not happy with. If you get a shot, make the most of it. Good luck.
 
Go to every single grocery store you can and ask if they have openings to stock the shelves at night. You can make decent money at grocery stores.

 
Gadabout said:
I've had to endure a few of those moments in my life so far. They ain't fun!

Two things:

1. Where do you live?

2. Are you familiar with tensile structures?
Click to expand...
i live in bronx nycand no im not familiar with tensile structures as any more than a laymen

my only real skill is artwork if anyone wants to see............i just dont think im good enough to make a living from it

 
bluemagic said:
Controller said:
Well, for starters your spelling and grammar is better than 90% of the FBG's in these forums, so you've got that going for you.Might be a good time to look for work in areas that you haven't thought about before now. Since you are online, search through any and all job opportunities on places like Craigslist.org and Monster.com. Time to "think outside the box". Hell, be a dishwasher or a clown that sings telegrams. Try anything.Don't let yourself fall into a funk/depression. Go visit old people in a nursing home; try to cheer them up. Good luck.
Click to expand...
i cant do certain work that requires people skills because i suffer from crippling social phobia......its hard for me to even leave the house and the only jobs i was ever good at were working with my hands and not dealing with people
Click to expand...
:lmao:
 
bluemagic said:
so here i am......24 and i dont know how to maintain any sort of lifeive been unemployed for 4 months and im behind over a thousand on my rent. my only work experience is in painting, construction and HVAC and they are all dead industries right now it appears where i livethe landlord wants me out......ive begged and borrowed all i can over the past few monthsif i have to leave i have nowhere to go...nobody in my family is willing to take me in..not even either of my parentswhats the next step? where do i go from here?i just dont see any answersany suggestions? right now it looks like it would be better to no longer exist
Click to expand...
sell everything you own except the computer you are on. apply for financial aid, take out student loans and get ready for the best 4 years of your life. it is called college. after 4-5 yrs of undergrad if you are not happy, take out another 60k and go to law school. you will be about 32 when you are done and if all else fails, you can go back to painting.
 
Cavalier said:
bluemagic said:
Cavalier said:
Hit a trade the you can easily learn and move up in. Find a decent restaurant. You can work there as a grunt to start but turnover is usually high and you can move up quickly if you want to learn and do your job well. Plus they might feed you.
Click to expand...
ive actually thought of working in food prep.........i enjoy cooking i have no formal training though and all ads i see are for people with years of experience in the business
Click to expand...
You have to knock on doors and sometimes you even have to kick them open. They usually don't open for you. Go out and give it a shot. Seem enthusiastic, sincere, and a little desperate. Trust me, at every restuarant you go to there will be at least some people the current manager is not happy with. If you get a shot, make the most of it. Good luck.
Click to expand...
where thats where social phobia hurts..........im too nervous to go around asking everywhere i can which is why im only comfortable responding to adsthats why ive finally made the decision to seek help i just hope i have enough time for some medication to stabilize me.........if the shrink even gives it to me right away
 
bluemagic said:
Gadabout said:
I've had to endure a few of those moments in my life so far. They ain't fun!

Two things:

1. Where do you live?

2. Are you familiar with tensile structures?
Click to expand...
i live in bronx nycand no im not familiar with tensile structures as any more than a laymen

my only real skill is artwork if anyone wants to see............i just dont think im good enough to make a living from it
Click to expand...
NYC - not exactly ideal for those with social phobias and no money. How about moving to a cheaper less populated place for starters?
 
look im not fishing for sympathy or lame jokes here........im only asking for suggestions because i dont know what else to do

i told you im seeking help

 
Jaysus said:
bluemagic said:
Cavalier said:
Hit a trade the you can easily learn and move up in. Find a decent restaurant. You can work there as a grunt to start but turnover is usually high and you can move up quickly if you want to learn and do your job well. Plus they might feed you.
Click to expand...
ive actually thought of working in food prep.........i enjoy cooking i have no formal training though and all ads i see are for people with years of experience in the business
Click to expand...
get your foot in the door with a busboy job or something...
Click to expand...
:lmao: Seriously, man. Working at a restaurant is a score because not only will you get some kind of financial pay, but you may also score food, meaning you can apply the check you get from your restaurant mainly to your rent.
 
bluemagic said:
any suggestions? right now it looks like it would be better to no longer exist
Click to expand...
Based on your last sentence, please dial 1.800.SUICIDE (784.2433). Really. Even if it's only a fleeting thought, it is worth your time to talk to someone about what is going on. I nearly lost a friend to suicide (no one had any idea he was in such a world of hurt) and I wish he had told someone, even someone on an anonymous help line, what he was feeling/thinking. Hang in there man.
 
Nigel said:
bluemagic said:
Gadabout said:
I've had to endure a few of those moments in my life so far. They ain't fun!

Two things:

1. Where do you live?

2. Are you familiar with tensile structures?
Click to expand...
i live in bronx nycand no im not familiar with tensile structures as any more than a laymen

my only real skill is artwork if anyone wants to see............i just dont think im good enough to make a living from it
Click to expand...
NYC - not exactly ideal for those with social phobias and no money. How about moving to a cheaper less populated place for starters?
Click to expand...
how can i move with lint in my pocket? and this computer and internet service belongs to my grandmother by the way guys
 
bluemagic said:
so here i am......24 and i dont know how to maintain any sort of lifeive been unemployed for 4 months and im behind over a thousand on my rent. my only work experience is in painting, construction and HVAC and they are all dead industries right now it appears where i livethe landlord wants me out......ive begged and borrowed all i can over the past few monthsif i have to leave i have nowhere to go...nobody in my family is willing to take me in..not even either of my parentswhats the next step? where do i go from here?i just dont see any answersany suggestions? right now it looks like it would be better to no longer exist
Click to expand...
Well, it's a bit late to start asking these kinds of questions but as others have already stated.... there are always jobs to be found. There is no shame in taking a job as a janitor, at McDonald's, etc., but do something. Grocery stores are always hiring as are bars and eateries. No matter how menial you consider the job, do it well. You may be able to work two or more of these kinds of jobs at the same time to make ends meet. You're not looking for a career here, but you may end up finding one by accident.As for your living situation, you don't have any friends that you could crash with for a short time until you can make enough money to afford your own place again? Or potential roommates to share the rent/bills with?
 
bluemagic said:
Controller said:
Well, for starters your spelling and grammar is better than 90% of the FBG's in these forums, so you've got that going for you.

Might be a good time to look for work in areas that you haven't thought about before now. Since you are online, search through any and all job opportunities on places like Craigslist.org and Monster.com.

Time to "think outside the box". Hell, be a dishwasher or a clown that sings telegrams. Try anything.

Don't let yourself fall into a funk/depression. Go visit old people in a nursing home; try to cheer them up.

Good luck.
Click to expand...
i cant do certain work that requires people skills because i suffer from crippling social phobia......its hard for me to even leave the house and the only jobs i was ever good at were working with my hands and not dealing with people
Click to expand...
Read The Game
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

Similar threads

B
Daughters Apartment - Water in her bedroom from rain - what to do
2
Replies
55
Views
1K
b-snatchers
B
DJackson10
My GF and I are being targeted at work and my store manager is telling us to stop drama despite being the ones bullied
2
Replies
51
Views
2K
Jayrod
Jayrod
Keerock
I now make the rules…
3 4 5
Replies
233
Views
6K
Ministry of Pain
Ministry of Pain

Users who are viewing this thread

Total: 2 (members: 0, guests: 2)
Top