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I just received a call from our HR department that one of my former employees was found dead in his apartment. We don't have confirmation on cause of death, but I suspect suicide.
He started with us about 2 months ago. Older guy in his mid 50's. Not married, but spoke about having a girlfriend. Very easy going guy, hard worker, never late, never complained about anything. Last I saw him was on the 5th of July when he was leaving work (I didn't see him the 6th, but he did work that day). He called in sick on the 9th, 10th, and 11th, but he didn't talk to me, he called and talked to someone else. I tried to reach him on the 11th to see how he was doing and to remind him that we need a doctor's note any time someone misses 3 days in a row. He still didn't call me, instead choosing to call another employee to say he wasn't coming in. At the end of the week, HR instructed me to send him an email instructing him that he has to call me as soon as possible. Failure to do so would could lead to termination. Still nothing. On Sunday the 15th, he attempted to call his coworker again to say he wouldn't be in on Monday. He was instructed to call me. Which he did. He said he was really sick and was going to see the doctor the next day. I told him I hope he feels better and to give me a call once he sees the doctor. That's the last I spoke to him. He didn't show up for work Monday, Tuesday or Wednesday and didn't contact myself or HR. The decision was made to terminate employment for job abandonment. HR sent the letter out on Thursday. On Friday, his son contacted me asking if I had heard from his Dad. I put him in touch with HR. Later that day the police did a wellness check at his apartment and he was fine. I was relieved but confused. Today, they did another check. Had to break down the door and found him dead.
Looking back on the events, I should have recognized the signs. He recently applied for a promotion and during the interview process we questioned his job hopping history. He probably struggled with mental illness and may have lost those jobs the same way he lost this one. We have zero cost programs to help people. It just never crossed my mind that this happy go lucky guy, who loved to fish, tell jokes, and was always happy, would need any help. I hope he's finally at peace.
He started with us about 2 months ago. Older guy in his mid 50's. Not married, but spoke about having a girlfriend. Very easy going guy, hard worker, never late, never complained about anything. Last I saw him was on the 5th of July when he was leaving work (I didn't see him the 6th, but he did work that day). He called in sick on the 9th, 10th, and 11th, but he didn't talk to me, he called and talked to someone else. I tried to reach him on the 11th to see how he was doing and to remind him that we need a doctor's note any time someone misses 3 days in a row. He still didn't call me, instead choosing to call another employee to say he wasn't coming in. At the end of the week, HR instructed me to send him an email instructing him that he has to call me as soon as possible. Failure to do so would could lead to termination. Still nothing. On Sunday the 15th, he attempted to call his coworker again to say he wouldn't be in on Monday. He was instructed to call me. Which he did. He said he was really sick and was going to see the doctor the next day. I told him I hope he feels better and to give me a call once he sees the doctor. That's the last I spoke to him. He didn't show up for work Monday, Tuesday or Wednesday and didn't contact myself or HR. The decision was made to terminate employment for job abandonment. HR sent the letter out on Thursday. On Friday, his son contacted me asking if I had heard from his Dad. I put him in touch with HR. Later that day the police did a wellness check at his apartment and he was fine. I was relieved but confused. Today, they did another check. Had to break down the door and found him dead.
Looking back on the events, I should have recognized the signs. He recently applied for a promotion and during the interview process we questioned his job hopping history. He probably struggled with mental illness and may have lost those jobs the same way he lost this one. We have zero cost programs to help people. It just never crossed my mind that this happy go lucky guy, who loved to fish, tell jokes, and was always happy, would need any help. I hope he's finally at peace.