I'm struggling to think of why Goodell would take it easy on Rice and why Harbaugh would go out of his way to praise him, if they'd seen that video.
Goodell has been decapitating players via discipline since he took the job. I do not understand why he would go out of his way to protect/defend/lessen the punishment on Ray Rice for this kind of thing.
How was his initial punishment out of line with every other wife beater in the league?
I do not understand the question.
If you're saying that Goodell is only a disciplinarian when it comes to offenses other than beating women, I am not aware of what suspensions have been handed down in the past for similar incidents (or if there have been). That said, I've always felt Goodell was a bit over-the-top in enforcing discipline because he was concerned with defending the NFL brand. If that's true (and maybe I'm wrong), it sure seems that players hitting women should be a bigger offense than doing a little pot. I mean ####, they make us look at pink cleats and hand towels for a month for breast cancer awareness.
That's why I can't believe that Goodell saw this tape, and decided that on this issue, meh, 2 games is fine. I just find that hard to believe. That's not making Goodell out to be a saint or anything, I would just find that inconsistent with his approach in the past.
Basically, I think Ray and his wife decided that it would be best for them both if they did/said whatever they could to protect Rice's career, and they came up with a version of events that was much more favorable to Rice than the actual truth. I think they sat down, told that version*, Goodell looked him in the eye, and he swallowed the story.
I just find it difficult to believe any sane person could see that tape, and think 2 games was appropriate, and be convinced that the tape would somehow never see the light of day in this day and age. Why would Goodell do that? He brings the hammer down on players all the time, what benefit is it to him/league to let Ray Rice off easy, especially when the downside is the public gets a hold of that tape and makes him look like a fool (at best)?
Same thing applies to Harbaugh, who went out of his way to talk about what a great guy Ray is, he made a mistake, etc.
Again, maybe I'm wrong, and the head coach of the Ravens and the commissioner of the NFL don't think that punching out a woman is a big deal. I just find it hard to believe.