Oh man. Now you’re asking big questions I can’t answer.
This isn't that hard. There's a simple answer. You didn't drink because the dog #### itself. You didn't drink because your wife poured you a glass of champagne. You didn't drink because work was hard. You didn't drink on Labor day because it was a holiday. You always have a story when you drink, or when you skip exercise, or when you go off the rails on your diet, but it's the wrong story.
You drank because at that moment, you wanted to drink more than you wanted your goal.
You had people over at your house drinking Saturday night and your wife got #### faced Sunday night. You didn't. Because you wanted your goal more than you wanted to drink. You were interested in your goal and you were thinking about being 220 by Halloween and maybe even 200 by new year's and you were excited enough to turn down alcohol and drink water all day.
The hard question is what changed?
Here's a famous actor explaining what happened
You are very good at short term goals. you can row an hour and eat a can of tuna and an apple, or eat nothing but melon and avocado toast and a salad and forget dinner. You have the willpower to do this for days.
As soon as you have visible success, though, you change mindset completely. You are no longer doing it, you have done it. And victory defeats you time and time again.
You have worked really hard today. You had a ####ty day, literally and figuratively. You worked hard and didn't eat anything you wanted. And it all got derailed with one bad decision.
You worked really hard for the last 3 weeks. Then you had desserts, and drinks, and drank again tonight. And you risk undoing all that work, for a day like today, that you didn't even enjoy yourself.
What a waste of all that work it would be if you backslide now. And it is happening. You are currently failing.
But it doesn't have to be that way. Today you can finish strong, avoid the cookies and comfort foods and have some fuel and nothing else. Tomorrow you can start over., with 7 weeks to go, and commit to the idea that the hard part isn't eating a good breakfast, but staying on target all day, every day. It's not working out harder today. It's working out consistently until you hit your goal. It's not skipping one drink. It's stopping drinking for 7 more weeks.
And that was something you said you could do. Because the weekends are the hard part. Weekdays are easy. Do you remember saying that? Because that was the exact moment you failed. When you decided it was easy, you no longer took it seriously enough to handle the first challenge and it happened the very next day.
Bro. You are better than this. When you want to be. But you have to want to be. You have to be honest with yourself and see these failures as what they are - the learning experiences that helped you to finally do this because you want this enough to sacrifice day after day until you get where you're going, and to want to tell us that you made it through another difficult day more than you want that drink and another excuse and another lecture.
7 more weeks, and then you can tap the brakes. Not until. You have done a great job for nearly 3 weeks but you haven't accomplished anything yet. Not until you see it through. And learning to see it through will pay dividends in your whole life. Do this with me.