Hmmmm. Finally watched it. I was a huge fan of You Can Count on Me so was really excited about this one.
I assume rockaction tagged me in the thread due to some love/hate posts (I'll read the thread after posting), but I was right in the middle. LOVED the acting, with the exception of the nephew who I thought was the weak link (and not just because he was a ginger). In particular, Affleck deserved every accolade he received - he physically seemed like a different person between the current time and the flashbacks. I just love his understated but compelling form of acting. Michelle Williams was mesmerizing, as always. Supporting performances from the brother and the brother's best friend were particularly outstanding.
The parts I liked the best were small moments, like standing in the hospital trying to keep it together when he learned his brother died. Or another favorite was when he was asking the kid if he wanted to see his dad at the morgue and said something like he "looks dead. He doesn't look like he's sleeping, but it isn't gross either." Things like that seemed real, and were so well done.
The settings and cinematography were lovely.
But...but...something about it left me a bit cold. I didn't feel a strong emotional connection to the story or characters as I would expect. I also felt it could be draggy, and was too long by at least 30 minutes - and I often like long, slow movies. And most of all, I HATED much of the use of music. There were at least three flashback montages where WE KNOW SOMETHING SERIOUS AND DRAMATIC IS HAPPENING BECAUSE HERE IS SOME SERIOUS AND DRAMATIC MUSIC TO TELEGRAPH THAT TO YOU. Blech. Felt manipulative and overwrought. I probably could have done without the whole flashback of the fire, complete with manipulative music, and learned of it in another fashion.
ok, I've typed a lot. Could go on even more but will stop there.
tl;dr - Meh.