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Footballguy
IMO, we have a household financial situation that I suspect is in the minority. We have completely separate finances. Back in the day, for some reason, it was decided that bills are to be split 50/50, as in each side contributes 50% of the total regardless of income. That was ok when we earned similar salaries.
Years ago, we both worked and made about the same. Bring on the kids and Betty was the one that opted to further her career, so Alex scaled back and attended more to the kids and the family. Jump ahead to present day, with kids pretty much out of the house, and Betty is the one doing better in the workplace.
This sets up the following math problem. Alex makes $50K. Betty makes $100K. Monthly bills are $8K. Given that each side is supposed to chip in an equal amount, that means Alex has $2K leftover per year while Betty has $52K as a starting off point (some of which goes to a retirement account).
Of course, Betty is loving life, as she has a lot of disposable income. Alex on the other hand, is struggling to meet the bill threshold that may have worked 20 years ago but hasn't been fair and equitable now. Since Betty has a lot of disposable income, she disposes it a pretty rapid rate. I'm guessing in most households, Betty would not have thousands of dollars to do whatever she wants with, and that money in would go to savings, more into retirement funds, paying down bills, etc.
We have reached the point where Alex and Betty are not thrilled with the financial arrangement. Alex says how about evening things out to account for the 15+ years of taking one for the team and raising the kids. Betty says . . . want more money, get a better job. And Betty says she is tired of always being the one paying for fun stuff and discretionary spending. Betty wants Alex to get a $100K job AND pay her back for her having to pay for dinners out and an occasional vacation.
Any other households where the finances are out of whack? Any other households where the husband was the one that turned into Mr. Mom? Any other constructive comments beyond "start hiding money"?
Years ago, we both worked and made about the same. Bring on the kids and Betty was the one that opted to further her career, so Alex scaled back and attended more to the kids and the family. Jump ahead to present day, with kids pretty much out of the house, and Betty is the one doing better in the workplace.
This sets up the following math problem. Alex makes $50K. Betty makes $100K. Monthly bills are $8K. Given that each side is supposed to chip in an equal amount, that means Alex has $2K leftover per year while Betty has $52K as a starting off point (some of which goes to a retirement account).
Of course, Betty is loving life, as she has a lot of disposable income. Alex on the other hand, is struggling to meet the bill threshold that may have worked 20 years ago but hasn't been fair and equitable now. Since Betty has a lot of disposable income, she disposes it a pretty rapid rate. I'm guessing in most households, Betty would not have thousands of dollars to do whatever she wants with, and that money in would go to savings, more into retirement funds, paying down bills, etc.
We have reached the point where Alex and Betty are not thrilled with the financial arrangement. Alex says how about evening things out to account for the 15+ years of taking one for the team and raising the kids. Betty says . . . want more money, get a better job. And Betty says she is tired of always being the one paying for fun stuff and discretionary spending. Betty wants Alex to get a $100K job AND pay her back for her having to pay for dinners out and an occasional vacation.
Any other households where the finances are out of whack? Any other households where the husband was the one that turned into Mr. Mom? Any other constructive comments beyond "start hiding money"?