James Daulton
Footballguy
Son's graduating in a couple Saturday's, the baccalaureate mass is the Friday before. The college is 3 hours away and my parents were all set to drive in Friday, go to the mass, and attend graduation on Saturday. Now we're not religious or anything but the whole ceremonial aspect is neat and kind of important to me. Find out this weekend that my parents will be driving down Saturday instead. They are going to "help" my sister (who's also coming with her husband and two kids) with one of my sister's kids. He's 18 and not exactly special needs, but he never really matured and he's super hyper unless he's medicated all the time. Anyway, my parents have 3 kids and like in many families I imagine, we siblings and the grandchildren don't all get equal attention. In my family my sister and her family get like 60%, my brother and his two young kids get like 30%, and me and my family maybe 10%. Now my sister and brother have needed my parents a lot more over the years than I have (either with babysitting, giving rides, financially, emotionally, etc), but my son is their 2nd grand kid to graduate. For my sister's kid (who's always been a #### btw), they flew to his college two days before the graduation and stayed the next day. For my kid, if they get stuck in traffic, they'll miss the graduation. I feel like I should tell them how I feel but I don't want to open up the whole can of worms about how they choose to spend their time because frankly in almost all circumstances IDGAF but in this case it involves my kid getting shafted. And secondly, if they do change their mind and come after I talk to them, what's it mean? They would only be doing it to placate me. And my sister and her husband take this kid all the time to different places so the excuse is either bull#### or they're just being over the top "nice" to my sister as usual.
Talk to them or let it go? I can let it go and not hold a grudge but I want them to know how I feel but they're like 75 and not going to change anything now. Other than this type of thing they're good grandparents.
Talk to them or let it go? I can let it go and not hold a grudge but I want them to know how I feel but they're like 75 and not going to change anything now. Other than this type of thing they're good grandparents.