@Chemical X kind of sad update coming...
Today I met with Padme's father to get him to sign some paperwork. Basically, even though he has given up his parental rights, he still has the right to be told that custody of his daughter is being moved to a different set of guardians. He is currently out on bail, but expecting to go back to prison because of two charges of stealing cars.
So I met up with him in a small town about 60 miles north of Columbus, where I live. We found a bank that would notarize his signature without being customers, and without even charging a fee (much love, @faheybank!)
After having the paperwork signed I expected to shake his hand, wish him well, and be on my way. But this guy is a talker...
He started by saying how happy he was that my wife and I were taking care of his daughter, since he'd known us for a long time and knew that we were a good family. He almost came to tears a few times because he wasn't able to take care of her because of the bad decisions he'd made. He kept talking and talking and talking...
But I really felt bad for him. Yes, he's made bad decisions. Yes, he chose to sell drugs. But he tried to shield Padme from his bad lifestyle. He's been in prison for her last 5 birthdays and Christmases, and he's looking at another prison term here in the next month or so.
He's not a good guy. I have no delusions about that. But, talking to him today, I still felt bad for him. He knows he messed up, and continues to mess up. He knows he's probably going to prison, again, and he doesn't say he's being railroaded, wrongly accused, whatever. He knows he messed up and is ready to face the consequences.
But the overarching topic of my conversation with him today was, he loves Padme. He misses her. He wishes he could be part of her life, but he just keeps making bad decisions (that end up with him in prison.)
Honestly, I wasn't sure how to react. On one side, it's a father being forced to recognize that the court has decided his daughter should live with someone else else. That kills him inside, I'm sure. On the other hand... He was a drug dealer, raped his sister-in-law, and stole a couple cars after he got out of jail.
It's pretty hard to he sympathetic toward him. Yet, still, I am. Because I saw him today and how much it tore him up that his daughter was being handed off to yet another family to raise.
I ended up assuring him that we would take good care of Padme. That she was happier in our house than she'd been in either of the previous two she'd lived at. And also, that if she wanted to talk to him, I wouldn't stand in the way.
I got the legal paperwork signed, but today was just really heartbreaking.
Today wasn't a very good day.