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2 hours ago, DJackson10 said:

So I have a buddy who I've known for at least 17 years now who lives up the street from me. Another friend of mine who was friends with him both had a falling out. They were 2 grades above me ended up going to PSU together and also lived 4 houses down from each other (I lived on the next block). Anyway once they got up to PSU main campus things got bad. The friend I still hang out with complained about my other buddy going to hang out with other friends, he also changed his major 3 times and wasn't the best student. At home he and his sister were spoiled but his Sister doesn't even seam to act like him at all. Anyway the matter got worse over the 2 yrs they were there. From him not doing simple chores around the apartment they shared, to what they were going to do on the weekend etc. (Fortunately there was no issues on owing anyone money). After they graduated my other buddy said rooming with him was the worst thing he did choice wise and he told me he once asked our buddy why he never made friends at college. His answer "What's the point of making friends in college if you never see them again?" that just doesn't make sense his answer and I have a couple of friend I hang out with from college. Anyway my buddy cut him off cold turkey in 09 and for 9 yrs the friend I still Hang with insist he did nothing wrong (Never his fought think Donald Trump type here on that). During the 08 Philies run my buddies mom (One who I don't see anymore) died and no-one ever knows the real story. His mom's cousin is my dentist and there were some rumors but nothing confirmed. Anyway he was close to his mom and a buddy of mine asked if he wanted to go out. He said he had chores and my other friend had the audacity to say to him "Your family cleans too much". this coming from a guy who's only chores at home ever were take out the trash and pay his rent and is lazy. He basically ghosted him after that comment. 

Anyway time has gone on the guy moved out from home and lives like over an hour away with his job and basically no one has seen or heard from him not even his mom's brother who he was close to and he doesn't respond to calls or text even from me. My other buddy since then has gotten worse. Outside of our likes in sports we have very little in common in terms of movies, video games, music, etc. We were at a 76ers/Bulls game (We live in Philly) me the Bulls guy and he 76ers and we ended up sitting behind the bulls bench last year. The Bulls fan behind us asked if he was a Bulls or Sixers fan. Basically my friend admitted his favorite sport was basically he liked all 4 Philly teams but would considering himself a bandwagon fan. This is a guy who gets upset over me for cheering Florida gators and Chi Bulls over Philly teams or PSU. My PSU hate the child abuse scandal hit too close to home for me but even then I had heard a few things prior to former employees and others about Joepa and others at the University that would paint them in a different lite. My Bulls love comes from the 90s and MJ ERA and I've always stood by them. I can't take him to a bar or club as he doesn't drink and he'd completely embarrass himself even trying to pick up a girl plus all he has is work clothes and sports jersey and Tees nothing really casual to wear. And he'd want to leave the bar in an hr after getting there since he's "bored". Either way we had some miscommunication last week. I was on vacation all week and he wanted to go to Phils game on Sun with Arrietta pitching. I told him I would be in the City Saturday night for plans with my brother and staying his house over night and then I was going to an Italian cafe to meet up with The AC MILAN Philly Club and watch the soccer game. So I told him we can go Wednesday since your off. He tells me Saturday while I'm at work it's his dad's birthday so probably no game on Wednesday might take his dad. I responded back that's fine forgot Flyers Playoffs started that night want to watch that. Wednesday we're talking and he wants to see two different movies then me. I decided maybe the one but I was running late coming back from errands. he then changes his mind and says how we always see movies I want to see. I told him not true but also there's not a whole lot out there that interest me that we both like plus Hollywood at this point is doing remakes of everything it seems. So the Flyers come on Down 3-0 in the 1st and he basically makes a smart ### comment how I wanted to watch the flyers over the Phillies. I asked why it mattered you had your dad's birthday. He says well we celebrated on Sunday actually. Ok you don't think maybe you could've told me that between Mon and Wed especially before you asked on a Movie? Depending on Price I'd have maybe went. Anyway his whole text ended up seaming how he was rooting for the Flyers to lose while talking up the Sixers. I really wanted to tell him he was being a real jackass at that point and even tried to get me to explain to him why I dislike the Sixers. I told him I've Done it so many times I already I don't want to rehash it. 

Anyway I've been planning to cut him off for good but maybe I'm an ####### but I use him because he drives and I don't. Also he's one of the few friends I kind of have that is available. My friends some are dead do to OD's, married with kids or have jobs and our schedules don't line up ever. Should I stick with him till I end up driving and cut him off cold turkey or cut him off now. If I cut him off now should I say something to him or basically ghost him, or maybe lie how I'm just super busy when he wants to do something? I should say the dude is gonna be 33 in Nov but he acts like he's some Middle school entitled brat who thinks he knows everything. 

 

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Can’t believe we let PSU in the Big Ten. I thought U of Illinois had low standards. 

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3 hours ago, DJackson10 said:

So I have a buddy who I've known for at least 17 years now who lives up the street from me. Another friend of mine who was friends with him both had a falling out. They were 2 grades above me ended up going to PSU together and also lived 4 houses down from each other (I lived on the next block). Anyway once they got up to PSU main campus things got bad. The friend I still hang out with complained about my other buddy going to hang out with other friends, he also changed his major 3 times and wasn't the best student. At home he and his sister were spoiled but his Sister doesn't even seam to act like him at all. Anyway the matter got worse over the 2 yrs they were there. From him not doing simple chores around the apartment they shared, to what they were going to do on the weekend etc. (Fortunately there was no issues on owing anyone money). After they graduated my other buddy said rooming with him was the worst thing he did choice wise and he told me he once asked our buddy why he never made friends at college. His answer "What's the point of making friends in college if you never see them again?" that just doesn't make sense his answer and I have a couple of friend I hang out with from college. Anyway my buddy cut him off cold turkey in 09 and for 9 yrs the friend I still Hang with insist he did nothing wrong (Never his fought think Donald Trump type here on that). During the 08 Philies run my buddies mom (One who I don't see anymore) died and no-one ever knows the real story. His mom's cousin is my dentist and there were some rumors but nothing confirmed. Anyway he was close to his mom and a buddy of mine asked if he wanted to go out. He said he had chores and my other friend had the audacity to say to him "Your family cleans too much". this coming from a guy who's only chores at home ever were take out the trash and pay his rent and is lazy. He basically ghosted him after that comment. 

Anyway time has gone on the guy moved out from home and lives like over an hour away with his job and basically no one has seen or heard from him not even his mom's brother who he was close to and he doesn't respond to calls or text even from me. My other buddy since then has gotten worse. Outside of our likes in sports we have very little in common in terms of movies, video games, music, etc. We were at a 76ers/Bulls game (We live in Philly) me the Bulls guy and he 76ers and we ended up sitting behind the bulls bench last year. The Bulls fan behind us asked if he was a Bulls or Sixers fan. Basically my friend admitted his favorite sport was basically he liked all 4 Philly teams but would considering himself a bandwagon fan. This is a guy who gets upset over me for cheering Florida gators and Chi Bulls over Philly teams or PSU. My PSU hate the child abuse scandal hit too close to home for me but even then I had heard a few things prior to former employees and others about Joepa and others at the University that would paint them in a different lite. My Bulls love comes from the 90s and MJ ERA and I've always stood by them. I can't take him to a bar or club as he doesn't drink and he'd completely embarrass himself even trying to pick up a girl plus all he has is work clothes and sports jersey and Tees nothing really casual to wear. And he'd want to leave the bar in an hr after getting there since he's "bored". Either way we had some miscommunication last week. I was on vacation all week and he wanted to go to Phils game on Sun with Arrietta pitching. I told him I would be in the City Saturday night for plans with my brother and staying his house over night and then I was going to an Italian cafe to meet up with The AC MILAN Philly Club and watch the soccer game. So I told him we can go Wednesday since your off. He tells me Saturday while I'm at work it's his dad's birthday so probably no game on Wednesday might take his dad. I responded back that's fine forgot Flyers Playoffs started that night want to watch that. Wednesday we're talking and he wants to see two different movies then me. I decided maybe the one but I was running late coming back from errands. he then changes his mind and says how we always see movies I want to see. I told him not true but also there's not a whole lot out there that interest me that we both like plus Hollywood at this point is doing remakes of everything it seems. So the Flyers come on Down 3-0 in the 1st and he basically makes a smart ### comment how I wanted to watch the flyers over the Phillies. I asked why it mattered you had your dad's birthday. He says well we celebrated on Sunday actually. Ok you don't think maybe you could've told me that between Mon and Wed especially before you asked on a Movie? Depending on Price I'd have maybe went. Anyway his whole text ended up seaming how he was rooting for the Flyers to lose while talking up the Sixers. I really wanted to tell him he was being a real jackass at that point and even tried to get me to explain to him why I dislike the Sixers. I told him I've Done it so many times I already I don't want to rehash it. 

Anyway I've been planning to cut him off for good but maybe I'm an ####### but I use him because he drives and I don't. Also he's one of the few friends I kind of have that is available. My friends some are dead do to OD's, married with kids or have jobs and our schedules don't line up ever. Should I stick with him till I end up driving and cut him off cold turkey or cut him off now. If I cut him off now should I say something to him or basically ghost him, or maybe lie how I'm just super busy when he wants to do something? I should say the dude is gonna be 33 in Nov but he acts like he's some Middle school entitled brat who thinks he knows everything. 

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Ben Simmons sucks. 

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My friend's cousin's mechanic was going to read it, but couldn't get past the 3rd paragraph.

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Super don't care.

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I hope it did you good to type that all out OP, 'cause no one else understood a word of it.

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10 hours ago, Chaka said:

It's Billy Madison, right?

Yup

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I actually don't blame @DJackson10 for avoiding the thread since starting it. 

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5 minutes ago, Cjw_55106 said:

I actually don't blame @DJackson10 for avoiding the thread since starting it. 

His thumbs are still recovering from the original post.

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:lol: that was quite the stream of consciousness posting right there

Intrigued about not being able to drive. Can you elaborate on this please?

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Wait, which one was Buddy again? 

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Update on this developing drama?

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16 hours ago, Ignoramus said:

Sorry, but we're going to need some more details if we're going to be able to offer advice.

In English this time please.

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Have you tried PMing shuke? I heard that's the thing to do round these parts.

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17 hours ago, DJackson10 said:

Anyway time has gone on the guy moved out from home and lives like over an hour away with his job and basically no one has seen or heard from him not even his mom's brother who he was close to

My only insight would be to refer to your buddy's "mom's brother" as his "Uncle" - it just flows better and is the more common nomenclature.

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13 hours ago, Drunken knight said:

My friend's cousin's mechanic was going to read it, but couldn't get past the 3rd paragraph.

Did he see Ferris Bueller at 31 Flavors last night?

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17 hours ago, Cjw_55106 said:

My sister had the same problem in jr high. 

Fixed. 

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Lol fail

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Please disregard our conversation in the “Dallas cutting Dez” thread. Clearly you have more important matters to contend with. 

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obviously, i can’t make any determination until i see your rooster.

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17 hours ago, DJackson10 said:

 

Anyway I've been planning to cut him off for good but maybe I'm an ####### but I use him because he drives and I don't. Also he's one of the few friends I kind of have that is available. My friends some are dead do to OD's, married with kids or have jobs and our schedules don't line up ever. Should I stick with him till I end up driving and cut him off cold turkey or cut him off now. If I cut him off now should I say something to him or basically ghost him, or maybe lie how I'm just super busy when he wants to do something? I should say the dude is gonna be 33 in Nov but he acts like he's some Middle school entitled brat who thinks he knows everything. 

 

All jokes aside, if this is true you need to work on not being an awful person. 

 

Oh and it’s clearly time to come out of the closet and tell your buddy that you’re breaking up with him. 

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18 minutes ago, Tom Servo said:

Did he see Ferris Bueller at 31 Flavors last night?

Well, a group of us are collecting money to buy Ferris Bueller a new kidney. They run about 50 g's, so if you wouldn't mind helping out...

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4 hours ago, Cjw_55106 said:

I actually don't blame @DJackson10 for avoiding the thread since starting it. 

I just learn to ignore the ignorant comments. If you don't care about a thread no need to lash out insults and act like a child. I also dealt with people like this on my old board. I found it was better to ignore many of them then waste my time in a pissing match to get their jimmies off. 

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3 hours ago, Nathan R. Jessep said:

:lol: that was quite the stream of consciousness posting right there

Intrigued about not being able to drive. Can you elaborate on this please?

I'm Autistic and have Apsergers so my reaction time and such isn't what a "Normal" person without this would have. I've found some Defensive Driving companies that if I pass my permit test to get a permit I could go out with them and they can give me a better idea if I would be able to drive or not. I've gotten around with either people driving me, public or using uber. Also I never really needed a car or licenses as I went to Community college and the College was a 20 min bus ride. My job that I've had since the end of Jr year (going on my 14 anniversary there at the end of June) is in walking distance as well. So for me there was never as well that NEED TO DRIVE type thing others would've needed. 

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Only read the first few sentences but I'm 100% sure this is the script for an old Charles in Charge episode.

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1 minute ago, DJackson10 said:

I'm Autistic and have Apsergers so my reaction time and such isn't what a "Normal" person without this would have. I've found some Defensive Driving companies that if I pass my permit test to get a permit I could go out with them and they can give me a better idea if I would be able to drive or not. I've gotten around with either people driving me, public or using uber. Also I never really needed a car or licenses as I went to Community college and the College was a 20 min bus ride. My job that I've had since the end of Jr year (going on my 14 anniversary there at the end of June) is in walking distance as well. So for me there was never as well that NEED TO DRIVE type thing others would've needed. 

That makes sense, thank you. That was pertinent info, IMO. 

And I agree with @STEADYMOBBIN 22. If you're serious about this, man up and stop using your "friend" as a taxi if you know you're going to cut ties with him after securing other transportation. It's hard to know the dynamic (from his side as well as yours), but you're doing both of you a great disservice with the current arrangement, IMO. 

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5 minutes ago, Kanil said:

Only read the first few sentences but I'm 100% sure this is the script for an old Charles in Charge episode.

I want Charles in Charge of me

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12 minutes ago, DJackson10 said:

I just learn to ignore the ignorant comments. If you don't care about a thread no need to lash out insults and act like a child. I also dealt with people like this on my old board. I found it was better to ignore many of them then waste my time in a pissing match to get their jimmies off. 

We kid because we love.

 

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46 minutes ago, STEADYMOBBIN 22 said:

 

All jokes aside, if this is true you need to work on not being an awful person. 

 

Oh and it’s clearly time to come out of the closet and tell your buddy that you’re breaking up with him. 

As usual Reading comprehension doesn't seem like cowboys fans dealing quality. All joking aside did you even read the part about how it's always about him, how he insulted my other buddy after his mom had died and nothing is ever his fault? I'm starting to think the guy has something mentally wrong with him like Bi-polar (His dad was diagnosed with it about 4-5 yrs ago) or I blame the parenting for not letting him mature and giving into him all the time. His dad was always the yes guy taking us to games and stuff and my other friend and I didn't feel comfortable at times about it. He even complains about having to work retail when he has a SPorts management degree from PSU. his problem was he wasn't a proactive student (Very lazy), he doesn't have the personality you need in the field to network or made some friends, and it helps if you know people. He left a very nice job working for Camden Riversharks who disbanded not long ago but the guy he became friends with went on to work for an MLB team in their minors system. Didn't stay connected with the guy. I told him you may not like the job but something good could come out of it. 

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Just now, DJackson10 said:

As usual Reading comprehension doesn't seem like cowboys fans dealing quality. All joking aside did you even read the part about how it's always about him, how he insulted my other buddy after his mom had died and nothing is ever his fault? I'm starting to think the guy has something mentally wrong with him like Bi-polar (His dad was diagnosed with it about 4-5 yrs ago) or I blame the parenting for not letting him mature and giving into him all the time. His dad was always the yes guy taking us to games and stuff and my other friend and I didn't feel comfortable at times about it. He even complains about having to work retail when he has a SPorts management degree from PSU. his problem was he wasn't a proactive student (Very lazy), he doesn't have the personality you need in the field to network or made some friends, and it helps if you know people. He left a very nice job working for Camden Riversharks who disbanded not long ago but the guy he became friends with went on to work for an MLB team in their minors system. Didn't stay connected with the guy. I told him you may not like the job but something good could come out of it. 

 

No. No, I did not.

 

 

I certainly hope it all works out for you. I look forward to discussing football with you. Have a great day. 

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4 minutes ago, Nathan R. Jessep said:

That makes sense, thank you. That was pertinent info, IMO. 

And I agree with @STEADYMOBBIN 22. If you're serious about this, man up and stop using your "friend" as a taxi if you know you're going to cut ties with him after securing other transportation. It's hard to know the dynamic (from his side as well as yours), but you're doing both of you a great disservice with the current arrangement, IMO. 

Kind of agree but unlike him I can admit where I'm wrong. I think a lot of it tends to be how he was raised. Never really expected to do much chores wise, parents let him do whatever he wanted and always yes'd him. Outside of a few interests we have nothing in common. He also became friends with this guy who basically mooched off him at work. Nice guy but went through a separation with finance and kids involved. Never seems to have enough money but if he stopped wasting it on #### he didn't need he'd have money. He owes my friend by my calculations about $2K from lunch/dinner meals, tickets for sporting events, rides home, etc. One of my buddies worst qualities is he holds these sports talk radio opinions like gospel truth as well as incredible hypocrital and pig headed. Nothing ever is his fault. 

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5 minutes ago, STEADYMOBBIN 22 said:

 

No. No, I did not.

 

 

I certainly hope it all works out for you. I look forward to discussing football with you. Have a great day. 

I just want you to know I'm only messing with you. One of the few Cowboy fans I know I can have a discussion with. 

 

I'd rather not cut him completely off that's the thing. I can still go and enjoy a sporting event with him and we tend to see Springsteen almost every year when he comes to Philly. So I do enjoy those things with him. His other issue is he's too much by the book won't take chances. If you read the Eagles thread and I talked about my experience at the Parade this friend scolded for what he believed I was too drunk. I told him to lighten up Francis we just won the SB I'm gonna get drunk if I want too. Plus that's not even anywhere close to as drunk as I ever been. I wish he'd take more risks. 

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8 minutes ago, STEADYMOBBIN 22 said:

We kid because we love.

 

I should just make this clear and not using it to play victim but do to my Autistism it's hard for me to see what's a joke at times and what's mean spirited. 

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Forgot to start it with “And on the first day God...”

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Just now, DJackson10 said:

I should just make this clear and not using it to play victim but do to my Autistism it's hard for me to see what's a joke at times and what's mean spirited. 

My jokes are never ever mean spirited. 

Your post was a pretty long winded stream of  consciousnes but I did read it. Yes, all of it. 

I came away away that you should either accept your friend for his “faults” as you have your own “faults” as do we all.  If you don’t think you can continue to be his friend the way he acts currently, maybe you should try talking with him and expressing your concerns. If you don’t have that type of friendship to begin with, then you aren’t really that good of friends. 

Even if your friend is a Narcissistic jerk wad with zero accountability, I don’t think you should use him for rides.

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Just now, STEADYMOBBIN 22 said:

My jokes are never ever mean spirited. 

Your post was a pretty long winded stream of  consciousnes but I did read it. Yes, all of it. 

I came away away that you should either accept your friend for his “faults” as you have your own “faults” as do we all.  If you don’t think you can continue to be his friend the way he acts currently, maybe you should try talking with him and expressing your concerns. If you don’t have that type of friendship to begin with, then you aren’t really that good of friends. 

Even if your friend is a Narcissistic jerk wad with zero accountability, I don’t think you should use him for rides.

My other buddy at the time who I no longer see and I tried doing this with him. Almost like an intervention and it didn't work. Heck this is a guy after the NHL lockout My other buddy and I went to the Home opener without him and he screamed at us and wanted a "Meeting". The issue there was we both worked with a guy who was in my grade huge Flyers fan. before the lockout ended or when we realized we'd have hockey we talked of getting opening night tickets. Well my Co workers dad got him tickets for him and his dad and didn't realize he was taking me and another friend. Last minute I told my buddy hey lets check online and see if we can find any reasonable ticket price for the game if not we won't worry about it I can come over and we can watch the game. Well we found tickets. He told this friend now that we went to game and explained what happened. Dude went ham.

It's probably just best to end it but I'm thinking of just doing it over the phone. The issue with even doing any of this is he's gonna BS to his parents why we aren't friends as he did with out other buddy. They just think the dude was ignorant and called off a friendship without an explanation or goodbye since this guy acted Stupid about not knowing why it ended. I work in retail and see his parents routinely so it'd be a little awkward. Plus I'm kinda of friends with his sister since she knows a lot of my friends. I could break off the friendship and next time I see his dad in the store explain why we don't hang out anymore. Maybe give him insight why our other buddy hasn't talked to him in like 9 yrs. My concern is maybe it's not him exactly the problem and he has some mental illness that has never been taken care of. My Uncle is Bi Polar and like I said friends dad. I've seen a few examples of him possible having it over the yrs. Honestly I don't know why they didn't do this but after his dad was diagnosed with it the Drs should've told him to have both his kids tested as it's been recommended by Drs depending on severity for you that you shouldn't have your own kids and if you want kids either adopt or another way. However that shouldn't really be my business either. 

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