Max Power said:
A person I care about is on vacation until Sunday and I have some news that will most likely bother her during her trip. No one died, and this is more of an 8-9 out a ten on the scale of bad.
Some decisions are going to have to be made when she gets back and I'm conflicted if I should tell her and potentially ruin her good time or wait until she gets back and have to make a decision on short notice.
I'm looking for some opinions here.
If it's not life or death or something that needs immediate handling then you wait till she comes back. Text or call her and say we need to meet in person I need to tell you something after she's back. Maybe wait a few hrs let her unpack and everything before breaking the bad news. I feel telling people bad news in person is way better if it's something pretty bad unless there is no way you can meet in person.
Reading more and what you said about the situation though this is gonna depend on a few factors
1) History of this person with these thought?
If this is something new then I contact her if it's close family. If this is something that is "Normal" I wait. My Uncle is Bi-Polar and has done some stupid stuff including suicidal tendancies but never acing on them. Most of the time he does stuff just so the attention is solely on him
2) Does this person have other issues like stated above my Uncle Is Bi Polar
If so depends on the other issues
3) How old and how close of a family member?
Is it a child or brother or sister or father or mother? If not I think it could wait
4) Is said person in a safe place now receiving medication and help needed to prevent this?
If no maybe a heads up is something to do
5) Will this person be able to help in a big way?
If Yes and the impact can be immediate I tell her
If this person has issues and does things like this for attention on them all the time I wouldn't say anything till she got back honestly. Some people have issues but also know how to use those issues to try to get attention on them. My uncle will sometimes do stuff at parties like go off by himself, act like he's not having fun and other things just so he can get attention on him. My aunt and him just had their first child (Already had issues with how to name her) and my families fear is he's gonna get upset with the family paying attention to my new cousin then him. My cousin is our first female cousin. Technically she's not as my Uncle Godfather had a baby out of wedlock and put her up for adoption. She's older then my cousin who's 33 and me who's now 30 but we've never met or heard or seen pictures of her and kind of had been a family secrete not known to the 7 cousins for yrs until maybe 2-3 yrs before my pop-pop died. For now though my Grandma has her first granddaughter she can see and that could cause some attention issues with my Uncle/My cousins father.
the last bad news we got on vacation was that our dog died. 
