What area of Charlotte do you live in? I think we are looking at south Charlotte or Fort Mill area.
I live in Matthews and if I was moving would seriously consider Fort Mill or Union County(Weddington/Waxhaw). Taxes are cheaper if you live outside of Mecklenburg county and it seems like Union county schools are better.
Traffic is a pain in the ### regardless of where you live but if you live near the light rail that is a viable option if you work downtown.