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50th B-Day Present for Wife (1 Viewer)

Chadstroma

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Crap.... with everything going on (a whole thread on it but short of it is my wife is battling cancer) I haven't even considered that her 50th is on the 19th.

I need help. I have no idea what to get her but want to get something and then also don't have a ton of extra cash right now because of everything going on and spending on the kids for Christmas. On top of that my wife is not easy to get shop for. She isn't the typical wife where I can get her a spa treatment thing and call it a day.

I need ideas. Help.
 
Massage/spa treatment, if she's up to that.

And then... Jewelry, if she's into that. After the year she's had, she deserves something special- especially at 50. Something that will stay with her.

But I get it if funds are understandably tight.

My wife is impossible to buy for.. I've finally realized to just get her something remotely close to what I think she's like from a place with lots of other options and a good return policy so she can inevitably re return it and get something else.
 
candlesticks always make a nice gift, and uh, maybe a place-setting or maybe a silverware pattern.
Smelly candlesticks are hit and miss with her. Talk to more about the place setting or silverware pattern though... I am not following.
 
Massage/spa treatment, if she's up to that.

And then... Jewelry, if she's into that. After the year she's had, she deserves something special- especially at 50. Something that will stay with her.

But I get it if funds are understandably tight.

My wife is impossible to buy for.. I've finally realized to just get her something remotely close to what I think she's like from a place with lots of other options and a good return policy so she can inevitably re return it and get something else.
She doesn't like massages by strangers and not in the spa thing either and only let's me give her one when she is up for special alone time which she will not be up for for quite a while.

Jewelry could work but for what she would want it would cost a pretty penny that would make it hard to do right now.
 
Fwiw, this has been a go to for cheapish easy jewelry.
 
candlesticks always make a nice gift, and uh, maybe a place-setting or maybe a silverware pattern.
Smelly candlesticks are hit and miss with her. Talk to more about the place setting or silverware pattern though... I am not following.
you are off my list good sir........

 
candlesticks always make a nice gift, and uh, maybe a place-setting or maybe a silverware pattern.
Smelly candlesticks are hit and miss with her. Talk to more about the place setting or silverware pattern though... I am not following.
you are off my list good sir........

I am ashamed. Please forgive me.
 
Caveat, this will do you very little good for the 19th.

But to get back in her good graces by Valentine's Day (or anniversary or some other holiday greater than 2 months out), highly suggest paintyourlife.com. They painted a picture submitted of my kids on a swing from behind/looking away. It's 5 years since the picture was gifted and my wife recently remarked that it's the one thing she'd take from a burning home. Cost was around $300 if I remember right.
 
For 50 I’d want to do something special, and favor an experience over material gift. Any way you can afford a trip somewhere she's always wanted to go, but defer payment?

My wife is a big tennis and Federer fan, and I wanted to take her to see him at the US Open. The problem was, her birthday was several months before tickets went on sale. So I just got her an apple, Federer’s signature Wilson racket, and wrote a nice card describing my intentions to take her to NYC.

The initial gift cost a couple hundred bucks, though the trip + tickets were a lot more down the line. Still, I had time to make those purchases.
 
I have a feeling that a special event or experience with you and/or the kids will be all that she wants this year. Dinner and a movie/show where you make it all about her and her favorite things and you are golden!

Wish her a big Happy Birthday from me and tell her she was in my dreams recently!
 
Do something for her that she always asks about. For instance if she cooks a lot, or likes baked treats, prepare a full dinner and dessert for her of things that she has expressed interest in or that you know that she likes.

Anything that shows you have been paying attention to what she likes, what she talks about when you have been managing your FF squad for like 45 minutes on a Tuesday in week 3.
 
Do something for her that she always asks about. For instance if she cooks a lot, or likes baked treats, prepare a full dinner and dessert for her of things that she has expressed interest in or that you know that she likes.

Anything that shows you have been paying attention to what she likes, what she talks about when you have been managing your FF squad for like 45 minutes on a Tuesday in week 3.
yes...and perhaps a class you two can do together.
 
Would a nice, cozy blanket keep her warm and toasty? We use these "It's made by a family-run business crafting premium textiles since 1826 and has been awarded the German environmental OEKO-TEX® label." blankets from The Vermont Country Store. They are just the right weight for staying warm in front of the TV. Totally soft. We have six of them. Got one and just kept on buying.
 
Do something for her that she always asks about. For instance if she cooks a lot, or likes baked treats, prepare a full dinner and dessert for her of things that she has expressed interest in or that you know that she likes.

Anything that shows you have been paying attention to what she likes, what she talks about when you have been managing your FF squad for like 45 minutes on a Tuesday in week 3.
yes...and perhaps a class you two can do together.
to bounce off this, we’ve done some nice evening classes at sur la table. it could be a nice gift…..of course if you aren’t buying her male hookers and blow. or maybe after the class?
 
Does she like smoothies? I scored one of those "magic bullet" things at my company's White Elephant exchange today and it looks pretty sweet. I know it's not super elegant or anything, but maybe one of those in conjunction with a subscription to one of those services that sends fresh fruits & veggies every couple of weeks?
 
Does she like smoothies? I scored one of those "magic bullet" things at my company's White Elephant exchange today and it looks pretty sweet. I know it's not super elegant or anything, but maybe one of those in conjunction with a subscription to one of those services that sends fresh fruits & veggies every couple of weeks?
My wife has one (the blender) it's pretty sweet
 
I need to come up with a pick up line for her after having brain surgery (she asked me to pick her up tomorrow)..... I am coming up empty on this one.
 
Good thing you're not pushing this to the last minute.
In my defense.... Nov and Dec have been a blur.
So what are your general thoughts on the wife's 50th? Seems like a Catch-22. She may be not happy about a big party advertising that she hit 50. And she also may be upset that you didn't plan anything big for a big birthday.

You're kinda screwed either way.
 
Good thing you're not pushing this to the last minute.
In my defense.... Nov and Dec have been a blur.
So what are your general thoughts on the wife's 50th? Seems like a Catch-22. She may be not happy about a big party advertising that she hit 50. And she also may be upset that you didn't plan anything big for a big birthday.

You're kinda screwed either way.
I think she will let me slide with her having two surgeries in the last 5 weeks or so.

She wouldn't want a party in normal times. Though, if my head was not spinning the last two months, I would have been more prepared to do something.
 
With everything she has going on, I like the self care package idea, especially if you help her here and there:

My wife loves these and they are very affordable yet nice:


I like the robe idea, throw in some slippers, I personally use All Birds Slip ons as indoor/outdoor and they are are awesome for bothe men and women.

The robe is a solid idea too, throw in some good soaps, couple lotions and maybe a candle and you are golden.

Follow up with dinner and/or a trip when she is up for it!

Good luck and keep going! All the best to you and your family!
 
I went with just getting a bunch of small things that I know she would like or likes. A super fancy nice pillow and a fancy wedge pillow thingee (I am fairly confident that pillows are her favorite thing in life)... a smelly candle.... a personal Ninja blender thingee for the different Mushroom coffee things she drinks and maybe she can do more smoothies.... a few other things.

The good news is that she is super low maintenance.

I don't think she wants to make the 50th a big thing in general and she isn't into parties either and even more so now. The kids have been confused on how old she is because she always tells them 29 or something. My youngest, 9 then asked how old were you when you had me? 20. So, then how old were you when you had my sister? And my wife was like 'ok, time for you to go home' as we were leaving my inlaws to come home. :lmao:

I explored a lot of the ideas here and appreciate it. Nothing really hit home... like looking for a theatre date night..... nothing looked like she would really like in the next few months.... the celebrity message thing... I looked for the people she really likes and none were on it. If any one of the guys from Depeche Mode were that would have been a slam dunk grand slam but nope. Then time restraints made a lot of things hard (all my fault) and then money restraints made some things just not doable right now.

Her Mom is making Steaks and Pancit for dinner tonight so I don't even have to worry about that too.
 
With everything she has going on, I like the self care package idea, especially if you help her here and there:

My wife loves these and they are very affordable yet nice:


I like the robe idea, throw in some slippers, I personally use All Birds Slip ons as indoor/outdoor and they are are awesome for bothe men and women.

The robe is a solid idea too, throw in some good soaps, couple lotions and maybe a candle and you are golden.

Follow up with dinner and/or a trip when she is up for it!

Good luck and keep going! All the best to you and your family!
Yea, my wife is an odd duck.... she got a nice robe a couple of years ago when the whole breast cancer started... I have never seen her wear it. She hates baths so bath bomb things won't do anything. She is very picky on the lotion etc stuff she uses and right now pretty much everything has to be simple and easy on the skin etc. It all makes getting her something in normal times a PIA but when I realize just a few days ahead of time and am not doing well financially.... makes it dang much harder.
 

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