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Am I being catfished? (1 Viewer)

Dennis Castro

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This could be a really cool person that I met through serendipity, which would be pretty awesome, but there are a few red flags.

So I got a wrong number text from a girl who was trying to get ahold of her friend to meet for lunch. I messed with her a little bit at first, pretending to be that friend. She wanted to meet me/her at a place called Yeganey Bakery in San Jose, CA. Apparently, she thought she was texting ‘Nikky.’ But she was on her work phone, so had to type in the phone number manually and made a mistake. I told her I was in Tennessee at the moment and would need a plane ticket to get there on time. I owned up to pulling her chain, and ultimately, she thought the situation was hilarious.

Here is what I have been told at this point:

-Her name is Rebecca Chen, but she goes by Sophie.
-Her phone number has no hits on Google.
-She is the one who keeps the conversation going, even if I don’t respond for awhile.
-She was born in Singapore, grew up in LA, and moved to San Jose after her divorce. She is now a freelance fashion designer who has her own garment shop.
-She is 35 years old (I am in my late 40s) and said that I am handsome. I don’t consider that the case, but she is basing this on a photo where I look alright and am posed with my 11-year-old kid. Stupid, I know I shouldn’t have done that.
-I mentioned wanting to see the Winchester Mystery House (a tourist attraction in San Jose), and she said it was really cool. She also said she has been watching The Bear, though it has made her stress eat.
-Her English is fine, other than a few careless texting typos, but she tends to repeat everything I say in her responses. Things like, if I say “I enjoy X, because of Y” she responds, “I think it’s cool that you like X because of Y. I think Y is important, especially because Z.”
-She has told me a bit about her family, but nothing specific, other than that she has a cousin named Halima Chen, who she named dropped as if I might know who that is.
-She sent me a photo which looks a tad catfishy.
-She wants to video call me tomorrow.

https://imgur.com/a/qTtXUAa

I’m not asking for an *** penny, so save it. It could be that I’m talking to a somewhat naïve, but legit person, or I could be wasting my time. Finances have not come up. What do you people think?
 
This could be a really cool person that I met through serendipity, which would be pretty awesome, but there are a few red flags.

So I got a wrong number text from a girl who was trying to get ahold of her friend to meet for lunch. I messed with her a little bit at first, pretending to be that friend. She wanted to meet me/her at a place called Yeganey Bakery in San Jose, CA. Apparently, she thought she was texting ‘Nikky.’ But she was on her work phone, so had to type in the phone number manually and made a mistake. I told her I was in Tennessee at the moment and would need a plane ticket to get there on time. I owned up to pulling her chain, and ultimately, she thought the situation was hilarious.

Here is what I have been told at this point:

-Her name is Rebecca Chen, but she goes by Sophie.
-Her phone number has no hits on Google.
-She is the one who keeps the conversation going, even if I don’t respond for awhile.
-She was born in Singapore, grew up in LA, and moved to San Jose after her divorce. She is now a freelance fashion designer who has her own garment shop.
-She is 35 years old (I am in my late 40s) and said that I am handsome. I don’t consider that the case, but she is basing this on a photo where I look alright and am posed with my 11-year-old kid. Stupid, I know I shouldn’t have done that.
-I mentioned wanting to see the Winchester Mystery House (a tourist attraction in San Jose), and she said it was really cool. She also said she has been watching The Bear, though it has made her stress eat.
-Her English is fine, other than a few careless texting typos, but she tends to repeat everything I say in her responses. Things like, if I say “I enjoy X, because of Y” she responds, “I think it’s cool that you like X because of Y. I think Y is important, especially because Z.”
-She has told me a bit about her family, but nothing specific, other than that she has a cousin named Halima Chen, who she named dropped as if I might know who that is.
-She sent me a photo which looks a tad catfishy.
-She wants to video call me tomorrow.

https://imgur.com/a/qTtXUAa

I’m not asking for an *** penny, so save it. It could be that I’m talking to a somewhat naïve, but legit person, or I could be wasting my time. Finances have not come up. What do you people think?
This looks like catfishing 101.
 
0.0% chance this is not a scam. Among other things, "on her work phone", so she just left her personal phone at home? Girls are NEVER without their phone.
 
Is the Winchester Mystery House anything like the Springfield Mystery Spot? If so, I'd probably let this play out. That would be cool to potentially see.
 
Ok, I wasn’t familiar with this particular scam, that’s why I asked. Thought the community here would be able to provide some insight. Thank you.

To those who just feel like making me feel stupid, well done. I’ve learned my lesson.
 
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DUANE Castro would NEVER have fallen for this......

Seriously though....as obvious as a scam gets. They're getting better at delaying/hiding the whole "asking for money" thing....but its coming.
 
Ok, I wasn’t familiar with this particular scam, that’s why I asked. Thought the community here would be able to provide some insight. Thank you.

To those who just felt like making me feel stupid, well done. I’ve learned my lesson.
This forum is full of old grumpy men with no sense of adventure. Go follow your heart. Just don't send money and you're fine.
 
This could be a really cool person that I met through serendipity, which would be pretty awesome, but there are a few red flags.

So I got a wrong number text from a girl who was trying to get ahold of her friend to meet for lunch. I messed with her a little bit at first, pretending to be that friend. She wanted to meet me/her at a place called Yeganey Bakery in San Jose, CA. Apparently, she thought she was texting ‘Nikky.’ But she was on her work phone, so had to type in the phone number manually and made a mistake. I told her I was in Tennessee at the moment and would need a plane ticket to get there on time. I owned up to pulling her chain, and ultimately, she thought the situation was hilarious.

Here is what I have been told at this point:

-Her name is Rebecca Chen, but she goes by Sophie.
-Her phone number has no hits on Google.
-She is the one who keeps the conversation going, even if I don’t respond for awhile.
-She was born in Singapore, grew up in LA, and moved to San Jose after her divorce. She is now a freelance fashion designer who has her own garment shop.
-She is 35 years old (I am in my late 40s) and said that I am handsome. I don’t consider that the case, but she is basing this on a photo where I look alright and am posed with my 11-year-old kid. Stupid, I know I shouldn’t have done that.
-I mentioned wanting to see the Winchester Mystery House (a tourist attraction in San Jose), and she said it was really cool. She also said she has been watching The Bear, though it has made her stress eat.
-Her English is fine, other than a few careless texting typos, but she tends to repeat everything I say in her responses. Things like, if I say “I enjoy X, because of Y” she responds, “I think it’s cool that you like X because of Y. I think Y is important, especially because Z.”
-She has told me a bit about her family, but nothing specific, other than that she has a cousin named Halima Chen, who she named dropped as if I might know who that is.
-She sent me a photo which looks a tad catfishy.
-She wants to video call me tomorrow.

https://imgur.com/a/qTtXUAa

I’m not asking for an *** penny, so save it. It could be that I’m talking to a somewhat naïve, but legit person, or I could be wasting my time. Finances have not come up. What do you people think?
Yes you are being catfished. I get these about every other month. They play the long game. Run away, or lose a kidney.
 
I don’t think anybody is really piling on you, man—it’s just that this type of thing is so common that people are in disbelief you don’t know. I think the big question is are we being catfished by you?

Every guy on this board has probably gotten something similar to this. I know I have. The real way to play this is to just stop responding totally and fully. You already sent her a pic of your kid (indeed, you point out how dumb that was so we all don’t have to, which also leads me to the catfishing question above) and probably other personal information you’re not copping to.

So the thing is to stop now and hope whatever compromising **** you’ve sent isn’t used as blackmail in any sort of way. That way you can forget about this and rest easy. If you do get blackmail, tell her you’re saving the message and going straight to the police. They’ll probably stop once you do that. They’re trying to prey on your ignorance, fear, and vulnerability.

In fact, we laugh about it, but it’s an awfully sick thing they do. Don’t forget that when you start feeling sympathy for this person or they act confused like they don’t understand why you’re not responding or why you’re being the way you’re being. They’re sick and depraved. That’s what they are.
 
Ok, I wasn’t familiar with this particular scam, that’s why I asked. Thought the community here would be able to provide some insight. Thank you.

To those who just felt like making me feel stupid, well done. I’ve learned my lesson.


It is better to be safe than sorry.

100%. Always best to ask. Ignore the posters trying to make you feel stupid.
 
you're not the only one dude, if this scam weren't successful, people would stop doing it.

This. I don't really think people were trying to make you feel dumb, and you shouldn't feel dumb. It seems like you might be extra-sensitive due to the disappointment of finding it's a scam, which is understandable. I honestly don't think the picture looks that scammy, but the rest of it clearly is. These don't just come to men, by the way. I got one several months back at a time when I was bored and decided to mess with him/her for a while. Oh boy, they get really angry and insulting after a while. It amused me, but be careful that when you "break it off," he/she could become pretty aggressive.
 
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Ok, I wasn’t familiar with this particular scam, that’s why I asked. Thought the community here would be able to provide some insight. Thank you.

To those who just felt like making me feel stupid, well done. I’ve learned my lesson.


It is better to be safe than sorry.

100%. Always best to ask. Ignore the posters trying to make you feel stupid.
Thank you Joe.

You can get rid of this thread. I have the useful input I asked for. Should’ve expected the rest.
 
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you're not the only one dude, if this scam weren't successful, people would stop doing it.

This. I don't really think people were trying to make you feel dumb, and you shouldn't feel dumb. I honestly don't think the picture looks that scammy, but the rest of it clearly is. These don't just come to men, by the way. I got one several months back at a time when I was bored and decided to mess with him/her for a while. Oh boy, they get really angry and insulting after a while. It amused me, but be careful that when you "break it off," he/she could become pretty aggressive.


I used to mess around with these texters also - but after reading up on the "pig butchering" scam a lot of times the person sending the text are college aged kids that are abducted in Europe and held and forced into this "business" against their will. Now I just don't respond and that generally ends it.
 
Block the number and report it as spam next time they reach out.

The first time this happened to me was on Whatsapp about 5 years ago... A youngish woman asking if I was the vet office for her dog appointment. I responded with no, but good luck with the dog. She replied with something more about the dog and if I had one. Once she replied, I knew it was leading to a setup of some kind I couldn't quite visualize, but knew it was coming. Blocked the number.

ETA... I got 2 more identical WhatsApp messages within a week from different numbers with similar but different young attractive Asian "women" (all had pictures attached to their profile)
 
And this really gives me a warm fuzzy. Listen, I respect you, and I do appreciate the commiseration (for lack of a better word), but please don’t make these assumptions about me.

Sorry. Not what I was going for at all. I was talking about the general “we,” which obviously doesn’t include you at the moment. I even meant the “you” in a general sense.

I appreciate the levity.

levity means to bring humor to a serious situation. Joe was bringing serious to a serious situation.

You do not appreciate levity. People have been giving you levity in the thread, and you obviously don’t care for it.

That’s all I have left for you, Dennis. Best of luck with this and other endeavors.
 
are we being catfished by you?

No

probably other personal information you’re not copping to.

No

In fact, we laugh about it

And this really gives me a warm fuzzy. Listen, I respect you, and I do appreciate the commiseration (for lack of a better word), but please don’t make these assumptions about me.

I think @rockaction ’s response was really well-intentioned and provided good advice (particularly with respect to what is likely to come next when you cut this off).
 
And this really gives me a warm fuzzy. Listen, I respect you, and I do appreciate the commiseration (for lack of a better word), but please don’t make these assumptions about me.

Sorry. Not what I was going for at all. I was talking about the general “we,” which obviously doesn’t include you at the moment. I even meant the “you” in a general sense.

I appreciate the levity.

levity means to bring humor to a serious situation. Joe was bringing serious to a serious situation.

You do not appreciate levity. People have been giving you levity in the thread, and you obviously don’t care for it.

That’s all I have left for you, Dennis. Best of luck with this and other endeavors.
Thank you for setting me straight. I guess I’ve been using that word incorrectly.
 
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And this really gives me a warm fuzzy. Listen, I respect you, and I do appreciate the commiseration (for lack of a better word), but please don’t make these assumptions about me.

Sorry. Not what I was going for at all. I was talking about the general “we,” which obviously doesn’t include you at the moment. I even meant the “you” in a general sense.

I appreciate the levity.

levity means to bring humor to a serious situation. Joe was bringing serious to a serious situation.

You do not appreciate levity. People have been giving you levity in the thread, and you obviously don’t care for it.

That’s all I have left for you, Dennis. Best of luck with this and other endeavors.
Thank you for setting me straight. I guess I’ve been using that work incorrectly.

You’re welcome
 
Should I be offended that I've never been catfished? Am I not good enough?

I have been threatened and told there are videos of me, um... pleasuring myself. But no one has tried to romance me.
 

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