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My 31 year old sister-in-law has been estranged from the family for some time. She has always made the worst choices in life. She has 3 kids by 3 different guys. One is in prison (rumored to be dead, not 100% sure), another molested my niece and is no longer in the picture, and the third guy is a decent father but their relationship is toxic. For the past decade my in-laws have tried everything to help her. Paid for her education, helped her find apartments, helped with auto loans only to get #### on time and time again. He two oldest daughters live with my mother in law and father in law. They have custody and are raising them. Drug abuse has always been highly suspected.
The past couple years she has been with this loser guy who is also a dealer. A week ago she calls my wife at 1:30am crying that she is barricaded in the bedroom with my nephew and the boyfriend and others is outside the room and they are going to hurt them. My wife calls 911 relays the address and info. I grab my weapon and we jump in the car heading that way. It is Cleveland and sometimes the response time isn't the greatest so not sure if we are making it there before the cops. We are outside the city so we 30 mins out. By the time we get there (couple more phone calls from the sister, couple more calls to the police) the officers are already on the scene and talking to the SIL. There isn't any of what she said going on. She is coked out of her mind, off her psych meds, and hallucinating. The boyfriend is sitting there on the steps just laid back like nothing is going on. Weirdest situation I've ever seen. The officers tell my wife that they believe she is having a mental episode. So she tells them "Great. We'll take my nephew, how about she goes to the hospital?" Everyone including my sister-in-law agree.
They do an evaluation at the ER. She has cocaine and other drugs in her system. She is unregulated with her bi-polar and borderline personality disorder. She agrees to self commit to a short term stay at a state mental hospital. She has been there now over a week. She has been sober for a week and DESPERATELY wants to go to an in-patient rehab facility. The intake person at the hospital gives her a list to work from and she starts calling. No beds... Sorry, your mental illness is a problem we can't take you... Welfare insurance? Sorry we can't take you.
For the first time EVER she is in a place where she finally realizes she has a problem AND is ready to get help. Only problem is there just doesn't seem to be any. She is literally getting in a cab right now heading to my house (a couple hours away from where she is at) and we have no plan of action. SO FRUSTRATING. Waiting to hear back from the last two facilities we haven't heard from. The only 2 that were possible for her wouldn't work. One was a holistic recover where she would have to not take any psych meds. Effectively becoming unbalanced from her mental illness. The other was a faith based one where you had to commit to a 12 month stay. No smoking, not allowed to see anyone from the family for 3 months.. Just not going to work for her.
Without this spilling over into the PSF I just can't believe there isn't a central agency or something that can help facilitate this. So disappointed in the system right now.
The past couple years she has been with this loser guy who is also a dealer. A week ago she calls my wife at 1:30am crying that she is barricaded in the bedroom with my nephew and the boyfriend and others is outside the room and they are going to hurt them. My wife calls 911 relays the address and info. I grab my weapon and we jump in the car heading that way. It is Cleveland and sometimes the response time isn't the greatest so not sure if we are making it there before the cops. We are outside the city so we 30 mins out. By the time we get there (couple more phone calls from the sister, couple more calls to the police) the officers are already on the scene and talking to the SIL. There isn't any of what she said going on. She is coked out of her mind, off her psych meds, and hallucinating. The boyfriend is sitting there on the steps just laid back like nothing is going on. Weirdest situation I've ever seen. The officers tell my wife that they believe she is having a mental episode. So she tells them "Great. We'll take my nephew, how about she goes to the hospital?" Everyone including my sister-in-law agree.
They do an evaluation at the ER. She has cocaine and other drugs in her system. She is unregulated with her bi-polar and borderline personality disorder. She agrees to self commit to a short term stay at a state mental hospital. She has been there now over a week. She has been sober for a week and DESPERATELY wants to go to an in-patient rehab facility. The intake person at the hospital gives her a list to work from and she starts calling. No beds... Sorry, your mental illness is a problem we can't take you... Welfare insurance? Sorry we can't take you.
For the first time EVER she is in a place where she finally realizes she has a problem AND is ready to get help. Only problem is there just doesn't seem to be any. She is literally getting in a cab right now heading to my house (a couple hours away from where she is at) and we have no plan of action. SO FRUSTRATING. Waiting to hear back from the last two facilities we haven't heard from. The only 2 that were possible for her wouldn't work. One was a holistic recover where she would have to not take any psych meds. Effectively becoming unbalanced from her mental illness. The other was a faith based one where you had to commit to a 12 month stay. No smoking, not allowed to see anyone from the family for 3 months.. Just not going to work for her.
Without this spilling over into the PSF I just can't believe there isn't a central agency or something that can help facilitate this. So disappointed in the system right now.