Cool family/friends and their annoying kids. How do you deal with it? (1 Viewer)

[comfortably numb]

You know what I mean...maybe it's a couple you and your SO get along with really well but their kid is just an annoying askhole.

You guys are having a great time as usual but the kid is screaming all over the place or is simply unable to just get along with your kids.

Or when they leave your like "he wasn't THAT bad this time" and then you go into your bathroom and you find all your shampoo bottles emptied into the toilet.

Have you stopped hanging with people cause of their annoying kids?

Do you try to only hang with them if you know their kids will not be around?
Do you confront them?

Is YOUR kid the annoying and difficult one? If so, do you notice people avoiding you?

 

[yak651]

Good buddy from high school ended up buying a lot by me and built a stupid house that has the basement open to the living room/kitchen area. Kids have a basket ball hoop/play area down there, any time we go there you can't have a conversation because the noise from the basement carries upstairs. My wife and I hate going over there, we seen them more when they lived 20 miles away...guess their kids aren't that bad, they just poorly designed their house...

 

[Zegras11]

poop on the kid

 

[comfortably numb]

I hate to say it but for me it's my nephew. He can be a terror.

He is 5 my kids are 6 and 9 and they enjoy each others company but it just seems like most of the time we are having to intervene, He is just always aggressive.

and one of those kids that really enjoys destroying things. My kids want to build something, he wants to knock it down.

Makes for a really stressful time hanging out.

This summer, my son comes up as we are all hanging in the living room.

"Daddy, Tyler did peepee in the waste basket"

I see him hanging and pulling down on my door handle to the glass french doors.

"Tyler, don't hang on that buddy. It will break"

He takes it as his cue to jump up and down on the door handle and scream like a baboon.

 

[mr roboto]

Usually the ####### parents do nothing or don't watch their kids. My wife's brothers are both passive parents. They both have 2 boys. I can't stand having them all together.

When we go home my girls talk back more, scream/run more etc. I can tell when they've been spending time with their cousins.

Oh and the ####### spawn of Satan lives next door. She's 5, and is in total complete control of her house. She convinced my 5 year old it would be OK to climb on top of their SUV.

'Taran said it was ok!'

Of course she did. She's usually wrong.

 

[shuke]

Have a few beers and just deal with it. Kids grow out of it.

 

[Rick James]

I hate to say it but for me it's my nephew. He can be a terror.

He is 5 my kids are 6 and 9 and they enjoy each others company but it just seems like most of the time we are having to intervene, He is just always aggressive.

and one of those kids that really enjoys destroying things. My kids want to build something, he wants to knock it down.

Makes for a really stressful time hanging out.

This summer, my son comes up as we are all hanging in the living room.

"Daddy, Tyler did peepee in the waste basket"

I see him hanging and pulling down on my door handle to the glass french doors.

"Tyler, don't hang on that buddy. It will break"

He takes it as his cue to jump up and down on the door handle and scream like a baboon.

that's b/c tyler hasn't been spanked a single time in his precious life

 

[Chemical X]

don't have kids and limit your time around them....

kids are generally spoiled morons, give them an iPad, promise to buy them something or put some idiotic cartoon on TV.

 

[culdeus]

Have sex with the wife.

 

[Ned]

Have a few beers mimosas and just deal with it. Kids grow out of it.

Fixed for the OP.

 

[comfortably numb]

Have a few beers mimosas and just deal with it. Kids grow out of it.

Fixed for the OP.

FTR

I have never had a mimosa

 

[sbonomo]

I do not hang around parents with kids that are brats. In fact, we have not gone to my wife parents house for holidays the last two years because her sisters kid is a complete disaster. Let me remind you parents of the out of control kids, time outs dont work. Letting them throw a 45 minute tantrum in another room while the entire family cant have a conversation over the screaming is not effective. i dont know what is but i just stay away.

 

[Guest]

I hate to say it but for me it's my nephew. He can be a terror.

I had a nephew that was a little terrorist. I hated visiting them. Smash you in the face with a plastic sword when you weren't looking. Kick you in the back of the knee when he was behind you. I didn't want to be alone with the kid for fear I might murder him. I would have bet money at the time that he would have ended up in prison.

Ended up being a very good college athlete and student. Has a very good job and just got married to a great girl a few weeks ago. WhatDoIKnow?

 

[RUSF18]

When did "no dessert tonight!" become the primary method of disciplining kids?

 

[Rick James]

When did "no dessert tonight!" become the primary method of disciplining kids?

when parents started getting arrested for spankings

 

[Fat Nick]

We're the first of most of our friends to have kids...so they're probably saying that about us...

I can relate to the concept though as my SIL's dog is a royal pain. Dumbest dog ever. We got our dog from a breeder who litter box trained them. Our dog is awesome. ZERO accidents. My SIL got her dog from the same place, except her dog was the special ed dog. "Litter box trained," means she knows where the litter box is. If she chooses to, she'll take a #### right next to the box. Most of the time she just goes wherever though. Every time my SIL comes to stay for a few days, the dog comes too. Somehow, my SIL is 100% OK with this, and just apologizes. She doesn't try and fix the behavior. She doesn't try and take the dog outside instead. She just cleans it up when she sees it. Which means 75% of the time, when I/My wife sees it and we point it out to her.

If you comment, she gets all mad. She asked if her dog could stay with us when she went to Oktoberfest, and my wife said it was OK. Honestly - never again. If she wants her to stay with us, she can pony up $300 to have our carpets professionally cleaned when she leaves.

Sorry. Rant over. Again, not a kid, but kind of the same concept.

 

[Da Guru]

We had a really fun couple that we hung with all the time but the had two demon kids that could not be pleased. Anywhere we went or anything we did within 10 minutes they would sit there pouting saying "I am bored" We would be at a Tiger game and by the third inning they wanted to leave. Then the parents would bend over backwards trying to make them happy... It wrecked every good time we were having so it just got the point the only time we would go out with them or have them over was adult gatherings without kids.

 

[EYLive]

Nokids.com

 

[Scoresman]

Find friends who dont have kids. That can be tough because most of us are out of town on vacations to Hawaii instead of saving money for diapers and college funds.

 

[Cjw_55106]

I hate to say it but for me it's my nephew. He can be a terror.

He is 5 my kids are 6 and 9 and they enjoy each others company but it just seems like most of the time we are having to intervene, He is just always aggressive.

and one of those kids that really enjoys destroying things. My kids want to build something, he wants to knock it down.

Makes for a really stressful time hanging out.

This summer, my son comes up as we are all hanging in the living room.

"Daddy, Tyler did peepee in the waste basket"

I see him hanging and pulling down on my door handle to the glass french doors.

"Tyler, don't hang on that buddy. It will break"

He takes it as his cue to jump up and down on the door handle and scream like a baboon.

that's b/c tyler hasn't been spanked a single time in his precious life

Not, it isnt. I have three kids and I spanked the oldest once and the other two zero. The youngest is now 9 and they are all well behaved and always have been.

Yes, they need discipline and consequences, but spanking is not needed.

 

[Nigel]

I have a nephew a year older than my daughter who would beat the crap out her on a regular basis from the time he was 2 through 7. Punched, kicked, bit, hit her with wiffle ball bats, you name it. Only child of my SIL and her husband who we got along with otherwise, we are his God parents. It was never his fault, no discipline whatsoever. So damn stressful. Boiled over one day when he jammed a stick in her ear and I told her dad (We'd both had a few) that next time he touched her her brother (3 yrs older) would pummel him, which he was dying to do. They packed up the car and we didn't speak for a year and a half. We're back to hanging out occasionally but it's not the same. The kid is still a ##### but mostly keeps his hands to himself.

 

[ChiefD]

This one falls into two categories for me, depending on who we are hanging with:

Couples without kids: Act like hellions. If you can make our friends cringe or shake uncontrollably, you get $5 when we get home.

Couples with kids: You better act better than their kids. If I have to say one word to you about behavior, you owe me $5.

 

[eoMMan]

Nokids.com

 

[cstu]

Find friends who dont have kids. That can be tough because most of us are out of town on vacations to Hawaii instead of saving money for diapers and college funds.

Make sure you're fun to be with - gonna need them when you're old and alone.

 

[cstu]

I hate to say it but for me it's my nephew. He can be a terror.

I had a nephew that was a little terrorist. I hated visiting them. Smash you in the face with a plastic sword when you weren't looking. Kick you in the back of the knee when he was behind you. I didn't want to be alone with the kid for fear I might murder him. I would have bet money at the time that he would have ended up in prison.

Ended up being a very good college athlete and student. Has a very good job and just got married to a great girl a few weeks ago. WhatDoIKnow?

Always amazes me when this happens. Then the perfect kid you think is going to be a doctor someday becomes a drugged out whore.

 

[eoMMan]

Find friends who dont have kids. That can be tough because most of us are out of town on vacations to Hawaii instead of saving money for diapers and college funds.

Make sure you're fun to be with - gonna need them when you're old and alone.

You're really scared of dying alone, huh?

You posted that before. Is that the sole reason you had kids?

 

[Fat Nick]

I have a nephew a year older than my daughter who would beat the crap out her on a regular basis from the time he was 2 through 7. Punched, kicked, bit, hit her with wiffle ball bats, you name it. Only child of my SIL and her husband who we got along with otherwise, we are his God parents. It was never his fault, no discipline whatsoever. So damn stressful. Boiled over one day when he jammed a stick in her ear and I told her dad (We'd both had a few) that next time he touched her her brother (3 yrs older) would pummel him, which he was dying to do. They packed up the car and we didn't speak for a year and a half. We're back to hanging out occasionally but it's not the same. The kid is still a ##### but mostly keeps his hands to himself.

...and this is why we're glad our first kid was a boy...Just in case he needs to stick up for a future little sis.

I'd guess that this will spark some of the anti-violence folk here, but honestly, if they didn't let it get to that point in the first place, you would've never had to say anything. That's what sucks about these situations. It has to get to the point where someone snaps, then you end up looking like the bass hole when they had repeated chances to diffuse the situation in the first place.

 

[irish eyes]

I have a nephew a year older than my daughter who would beat the crap out her on a regular basis from the time he was 2 through 7. Punched, kicked, bit, hit her with wiffle ball bats, you name it. Only child of my SIL and her husband who we got along with otherwise, we are his God parents. It was never his fault, no discipline whatsoever. So damn stressful. Boiled over one day when he jammed a stick in her ear and I told her dad (We'd both had a few) that next time he touched her her brother (3 yrs older) would pummel him, which he was dying to do. They packed up the car and we didn't speak for a year and a half. We're back to hanging out occasionally but it's not the same. The kid is still a ##### but mostly keeps his hands to himself.

...and this is why we're glad our first kid was a boy...Just in case he needs to stick up for a future little sis.

I'd guess that this will spark some of the anti-violence folk here, but honestly, if they didn't let it get to that point in the first place, you would've never had to say anything. That's what sucks about these situations. It has to get to the point where someone snaps, then you end up looking like the bass hole when they had repeated chances to diffuse the situation in the first place.

I actually would have asked the older brother if he was going to protect his sister, and if not he better damn sure or else. Hate little bulky @@@@s like that. Only thing that gets through to them is an a@@ whipping

 

[sbonomo]

This one falls into two categories for me, depending on who we are hanging with:

Couples without kids: Act like hellions. If you can make our friends cringe or shake uncontrollably, you get $5 when we get home.

Couples with kids: You better act better than their kids. If I have to say one word to you about behavior, you owe me $5.

what is wrong with you??????

 

[Fat Nick]

This one falls into two categories for me, depending on who we are hanging with:

Couples without kids: Act like hellions. If you can make our friends cringe or shake uncontrollably, you get $5 when we get home.

Couples with kids: You better act better than their kids. If I have to say one word to you about behavior, you owe me $5.

what is wrong with you??????

Maybe it's like some kind of Darwinism thing...like he wants his kids to act horribly around friends without kids so they are afraid to have kids, and thus increasing the resources available for his offspring and the survival of his DNA? That's all I got.

 

[Bonfire]

'Taran said it was ok!'

That should tip you off immediately, in my experience you can guess with reasonable certainty kids with ridiculous names are much more likely to be brats.

"Braxlee, if you promise to consider possibly thinking about not slapping the other girls and taking their ice cream, I'll get you three scoops cause you're my angel."

"Isn't it cute how Jayiden likes to pee on your curtains? It means he likes you."

 

[phatdawg]

This one falls into two categories for me, depending on who we are hanging with:

Couples without kids: Act like hellions. If you can make our friends cringe or shake uncontrollably, you get $5 when we get home.

Couples with kids: You better act better than their kids. If I have to say one word to you about behavior, you owe me $5.

what is wrong with you??????

Maybe it's like some kind of Darwinism thing...like he wants his kids to act horribly around friends without kids so they are afraid to have kids, and thus increasing the resources available for his offspring and the survival of his DNA? That's all I got.

Or maybe he's joking.

 

[matuski]

My kids are angels.

We haven't been invited over in ages.

 

[yak651]

Find friends who dont have kids. That can be tough because most of us are out of town on vacations to Hawaii instead of saving money for diapers and college funds.

Make sure you're fun to be with - gonna need them when you're old and alone.

You're really scared of dying alone, huh?

You posted that before. Is that the sole reason you had kids?

No guarantee your kids will want anything to do with you when they get old...

 

[Ned]

I hate to say it but for me it's my nephew. He can be a terror.

He is 5 my kids are 6 and 9 and they enjoy each others company but it just seems like most of the time we are having to intervene, He is just always aggressive.

and one of those kids that really enjoys destroying things. My kids want to build something, he wants to knock it down.

Makes for a really stressful time hanging out.

This summer, my son comes up as we are all hanging in the living room.

"Daddy, Tyler did peepee in the waste basket"

I see him hanging and pulling down on my door handle to the glass french doors.

"Tyler, don't hang on that buddy. It will break"

He takes it as his cue to jump up and down on the door handle and scream like a baboon.

that's b/c tyler hasn't been spanked a single time in his precious life

Not, it isnt. I have three kids and I spanked the oldest once and the other two zero. The youngest is now 9 and they are all well behaved and always have been.

Yes, they need discipline and consequences, but spanking is not needed.

I'd wager most of these situations are where parents only count to 2. Kids will exploit empty threats to no end.

 

[Fat Nick]

This one falls into two categories for me, depending on who we are hanging with:

Couples without kids: Act like hellions. If you can make our friends cringe or shake uncontrollably, you get $5 when we get home.

Couples with kids: You better act better than their kids. If I have to say one word to you about behavior, you owe me $5.

what is wrong with you??????

Maybe it's like some kind of Darwinism thing...like he wants his kids to act horribly around friends without kids so they are afraid to have kids, and thus increasing the resources available for his offspring and the survival of his DNA? That's all I got.

Or maybe he's joking.

No way. Nobody jokes here.

 

[Meatwad Reloaded]

I hate to say it but for me it's my nephew. He can be a terror.

He is 5 my kids are 6 and 9 and they enjoy each others company but it just seems like most of the time we are having to intervene, He is just always aggressive.

and one of those kids that really enjoys destroying things. My kids want to build something, he wants to knock it down.

Makes for a really stressful time hanging out.

This summer, my son comes up as we are all hanging in the living room.

"Daddy, Tyler did peepee in the waste basket"

I see him hanging and pulling down on my door handle to the glass french doors.

"Tyler, don't hang on that buddy. It will break"

He takes it as his cue to jump up and down on the door handle and scream like a baboon.

Step One: Get an inch from his face

Step Two: Make your voice so low you are actually growling, but inaudible to anyone around.

Step Three: Threaten bodily harm to child in words that he does not quite understand, but does in an inferential way.

Step Four: Kid will stop his b.s because he is afraid of the crazy man who might snap.