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CoronaVirus - The relationship Ender (1 Viewer)

Angry Beavers said:
Lastly, heard in my house this morning from the 19 year old home from college - "What are we doing today?" " I am like, "What do you mean, we are playing quarantine again."  The reply "Well that sucks".  It just struck me as funny. That's all. 
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My 18 year old is there after 3 weeks of being home from college. She was asking about the Spanish Flu last night and I mentioned that coupled with WWI going on, it wasn't a real fun time to be alive. She countered with, "neither is right now."  :rolleyes:

 
My wife and I are doing just fine, but I may have to strangle my 18 year old daughter.  Her day/night cycle is now completely messed up and unaligned with that of me and my wife, she hogs the PS4 for Netflix, and she generates an unbelievable quantity of clutter because apparently we never passed on our sense of fastidiousness.  I am praying for covid to subside over the summer so we can drive her to campus, drop her off, pay somebody to fumigate her room in our house, and forget that any of this happened.

 
In my household are my wife, me, and 4 daughters.. 14, 17, 18 & 22...

The 18 year old "was" a Senior in high school, the 17 year old a Junior, the 14 year old in 8th grade and the 22 year old is home after spending a year in Germany as a nanny..

The 3 younger ones got used to not having "big sister" around and now that she's back the dynamic has changed a bit.. 

Thank God i'm "essential" and still go to work everyday.. might be marriage saving.

 
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beer 30 said:
My 18 year old is there after 3 weeks of being home from college. She was asking about the Spanish Flu last night and I mentioned that coupled with WWI going on, it wasn't a real fun time to be alive. She countered with, "neither is right now."  :rolleyes:
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At least she did not ask what you did to say safe back then. 

 
Every time these Covid/divorce threads pop up, I excitedly open the thread and read on, hoping it will contain a "how-to-manual" that will provide me some clear steps to follow to achieve my desired outcome.  Instead, it's just a bunch of people venting and sharing stories.   No how-to-manual.  So I'm still married.   Groundhog Day.  

 
Also putting items in the dishwasher that are concave are supposed to go in with the concave side up. Apparently it is a unique way of scoffing at the drying feature. 

 
The Captain said:
Wife and I really have a different approach to this whole situation.  She is sick of me trying to get her to wear a mask when she goes to grocery store and wash hands after bringing in groceries. She tells me she’s doing everything she is supposed to do and I need to back off. I’m 50 and have asthma so I have some obvious concerns about catching the virus. Watched my SIL and best friend on a ventilator the past two years and the idea of seeing my wife or being in that position freaks me out. 

Currently my wife meets up with friends to go on a 7 mile walk everyday. She says they stay at least 6 feet apart. For this I have to trust her. 
 

She believes that groceries or carry out can’t possibly infect us so Friday I bring home carry out pizza, she takes the box from me and immediately opens it and takes out 2 pieces and puts it on a plate for me. I know she thinks she is being helpful but she has the cardboard box in her hands and instantly grabs the pizza with her hands and puts it on  my plate. I tell her I’d prefer that she wash her hands after grabbing the box and she blows up at me. 
 

Today, she tells me that our friend wants to have  Easter brunch at her house and mybwife wants to go. Says our friend really misses our get together and that it will be outside so we don’t have to be close to each other...just our friend (my best friends widow who goes on the daily walks with my wife) and her three 18-24 year old kids...one of which is returning from South Carolina next Saturday where there is no stay at home order. I love my buddy’s family (so much) but our state is inundated with C-19 cases right now (Michigan) and I’d prefer we keep our distance especially with my asthma. However, if I express this opinion my wife is going to lose it.

To me my wife’s social needs are taking precedent over our safety but maybe I’m over reacting.  To her I’m being a hypochondriac and overreacting. I just don’t get it. Am I nuts?

As mentioned before my wife refuses to see my side so I’m prepared to call my buddy’s widow to put a stop to the whole brunch idea. I feel like I’m surrounded by a bunch of morons. 
 

Thoughts?  

 
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No way on the brunch but I’m ok with touching the pizza and then eating it

 
Dan Lambskin said:
I’m pretty sure my wife thinks you just randomly toss dishes in there and some water nymphs lovingly hand wash everything 
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Honestly if my wife just chucked stuff in i would be totally fine with it. It is the fact that she spends 20 minutes rearranging everything in order to jam pack it all in. I am half tempted to take three big dishes next time she is doing it. Go in the basement and wash and dry them. Eat some tacos on them, wash them again, dry them and put them away and right as she is closing the dishwasher and turning it on say "arent you happy i took care of the big ones for you."

 
My son's spring break starts on Thursday and he's off all of next week.  He's 15. We were going to go to Florida, so I feel bad for him of course.  His school has really stepped up and is keeping him pretty busy, and he's been pretty good around the house, although the teenager in him is strong.  We've significantly relaxed his media/gaming time restrictions obviously.  For spring break, my wife suggested we just remove all restrictions and all curfews for a week - just let him play xbox all night long and sleep all day if he wants.  He'll be in heaven at first.  I think its a great idea - really looking forward to this. I might even buy him a case of Monster drinks if my wife will allow it.

 
CletiusMaximus said:
My son's spring break starts on Thursday and he's off all of next week.  He's 15. We were going to go to Florida, so I feel bad for him of course.  His school has really stepped up and is keeping him pretty busy, and he's been pretty good around the house, although the teenager in him is strong.  We've significantly relaxed his media/gaming time restrictions obviously.  For spring break, my wife suggested we just remove all restrictions and all curfews for a week - just let him play xbox all night long and sleep all day if he wants.  He'll be in heaven at first.  I think its a great idea - really looking forward to this. I might even buy him a case of Monster drinks if my wife will allow it.
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Same for my 14-year-old daughter I don't know what we're going to do

 
Angry Beavers said:
it was axed. It was either oatmeal chat or instructions on how to bury a body ....... there seems to be a question as to which.  :shrug:
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Lol. There is no way a thread gets deleted for talking about oatmeal. Thats like heaven to Joe. If he woke up and each thread had devolved into quaker oats talk instead of anything else beyond a g rating like it often does he would just smile. 

 
My wife and I drove up the coast to Malibu and got take-out pizza. We ate it while overlooking the ocean. We had a tense Friday night so it was good to get out for a few hours.

 
If it weren't for the thermostat, we'd be all good.  Wife is way more stir crazy than me, so she gets frustrated when I get frustrated that she goes out occasionally for non-essentials, but whateves.

 
My oldest is starting to get annoyed that he can't go out with his friends, but he has been managing with Xbox and social media. Biggest issue with him is getting his school work done without clean lines of defining time and while I'm trying to stay on top of it, it's not easy in a first world problem sort of way.

Youngest is doing her school work in 30-45 minute intervals with a lot of playtime in between so she is being managed well.

Overall, my wife and I are really doing the teamwork thing well.  We are making it a point to talk about the day and if something could have been handled different or better we are talking it through so we are ready the next time.  I am going along with her 10 step quarantine procedure when I have to leave the house.  I've had days where I took 5 showers because of having to leave the house multiple times just out of poor planning on my part or something happening with work that changed plans.

This really is the time in a marriage where open communication about literally everything is vitally important.  When she tells me she needs space or a break or whatever, I drop what I'm doing and make sure she gets it.  I have scheduled an hour every day where I sit on my deck with a bottle and a cigar and just relax with music without anyone bothering me and she respects that and makes sure the kids do too.  

We are alternating who cooks dinner.  Breakfast I do more often than not simply because I wake up first.  Lunch is a free for all and we have the pantry and supplies set up for that so the kids don't ask for something, they just get it.  If it has to be cooked, though, she does it for them.

We are also making an effort to spend time together when they go to bed.  A few nights ago we watched the Les Miserable 10th anniversary concert on YouTube because it's a shared thing we like and just enjoyed each other's company.  And yes the bedroom is extremely important as well.

We've certainly both fell victim to assuming something was said or done for a reason that wasn't true.  It takes work for sure.  But we trust each other, which is also vitally important.  All I could offer for advice (as was mentioned above, and if meant seriously) is to really talk about everything.  Literally, everything.  This is a new dynamic in life and whether any of us admit it or not there is a level of fear, stress and uncertainty that is going to cloud every thought and action.  We are meant to be the best of teammates.  If you start from that premise it makes everything else easier - not easy, for sure.  But easier.

 
Yankee23Fan said:
is to really talk about everything.  Literally, everything.  This is a new dynamic in life and whether any of us admit it or not there is a level of fear, stress and uncertainty that is going to cloud every thought and action.  We are meant to be the best of teammates.  If you start from that premise it makes everything else easier - not easy, for sure.  But easier.
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Yeah, this has been a plus for us as well. 

It's just been so weird not having kids sports. No practices. No games. No school activities. No play-dates. Nothing. It's been disturbing and liberating all in one. I swear I'm sleeping more soundly that I have in 14 years - since my first child was born. Hell, I've been having these memorable dreams every night - I normally can never remember a dream at all.

It's like all this extraneous crap and planning and activity being gone has opened up my brain somehow. Yet the worry and fear is still there. 

Just wild.

 
My wife and I are doing pretty well.  Both fully WFH, both fully employed, and full salaries so that all is working fine.  We're both a little on edge about everything that's going on in the world and just being home all the time so occasionally we get snippy, but so far no heated arguments.  We both also have enough work to do during the day and our offices are far enough apart that we get some separation.  

My anxiety and stress comes from our 21yo.  She hasn't really changed her habits and works in food service so she's constantly seeing people.  She also is coming over to our place (she has an apartment) to eat dinner 3+ times per week.  I'm about ready to tell her she can't come over anymore, but I'm sure that will be a big fight with the wife.  I'm also sure that if she does get the virus then she'll be staying here while she convalesces (even if it's like the flu).  That whole situation infuriates me to no end.  

 
CletiusMaximus said:
My son's spring break starts on Thursday and he's off all of next week.  He's 15. We were going to go to Florida, so I feel bad for him of course.  His school has really stepped up and is keeping him pretty busy, and he's been pretty good around the house, although the teenager in him is strong.  We've significantly relaxed his media/gaming time restrictions obviously.  For spring break, my wife suggested we just remove all restrictions and all curfews for a week - just let him play xbox all night long and sleep all day if he wants.  He'll be in heaven at first.  I think its a great idea - really looking forward to this. I might even buy him a case of Monster drinks if my wife will allow it.
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Good call. basically how we have been handling weekends with 13/14yo boys (our spring break is over).  Let em do whatever at the house,  all their sports and such are shut down and they can't go anywhere or actually hang out with anyone anyways.

 
EYLive said:
My wife and I drove up the coast to Malibu and got take-out pizza. We ate it while overlooking the ocean. We had a tense Friday night so it was good to get out for a few hours.
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In the rain? 

 
Alex P Keaton said:
Every time these Covid/divorce threads pop up, I excitedly open the thread and read on, hoping it will contain a "how-to-manual" that will provide me some clear steps to follow to achieve my desired outcome.  Instead, it's just a bunch of people venting and sharing stories.   No how-to-manual.  So I'm still married.   Groundhog Day.  
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here it is:

1. Drink

2.

3. Repeat

4.

wait, what happened? is this ... is it a weekday?

 
Oh, I have been drinking heavily.  I have been stocking up at the liquor store weekly when I make the grocery run.  

I am trying to not drink this week, have to run a bunch of online meetings this week that are fairly important to my career.  Friday tho, I'm going to make up for it.  Again.  

 
guys, if your wife comes home telling you about an IQ test that all employees at her job are required to take as part of the hiring process.. and she tells you that her boss told her she scored the 3rd best out of everyone in the company.... and then she asks you to take it "for fun".... tank it.  just... tank it.

and when she makes you take it again "to be sure the score was right".  tank it again. and again. until you score lower than she does. do it drunk and with both eyes closed if you have to, but for the love of god just tank it.

 
mr. furley said:
guys, if your wife comes home telling you about an IQ test that all employees at her job are required to take as part of the hiring process.. and she tells you that her boss told her she scored the 3rd best out of everyone in the company.... and then she asks you to take it "for fun".... tank it.  just... tank it.

and when she makes you take it again "to be sure the score was right".  tank it again. and again. until you score lower than she does. do it drunk and with both eyes closed if you have to, but for the love of god just tank it.
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mr. furley said:
seriously. just fall over dead if that's what it takes.

real dead.

not WWF dead.
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h.f.s.

  :lmao:

 
My wife has slight ADHD, which has now kicked into major overdrive.   It's barely noticeable usually.  Now she's over the cliff. 

Clothes must be removed entering the house and put in a hamper in the garage.  Gloves and masks 100% required, even in my own car.  Alcohol swabs?  There's never a chance you'd need one since we are in hazmat gear anytime we exit the premises by 1 foot.  She has not left the house in the last 3 days.  There will be no touching.  Can't get within 5 feet of her without her losing it.  Every morning a lecture to me and the college kids about what we need to do and did wrong yesterday.  Cause you know, college kids love the lectures about what they are doing wrong.  Groceries sterilize 3 days in the garage, but as of today we have to order online.  No more stores.

She's really smart.  How she went down this road in the last week is sad.  It's one thing to be smart.  It's another to live in constant fear. 

Trying to play along for the most part.  But soon I'm gonna quarantine myself in the extra bedroom, put some medieval chain locks on the door, and get a full subscription to pornhub.

 
Poke_4_Life said:
She also is coming over to our place (she has an apartment) to eat dinner 3+ times per week
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Our daughter has been staying here 3-4 times a week. It's been ok but that's all we can handle, all of us...lol. She's working from home like me. She doesn't see people and neither do we so I['m ok with her staying here.

 
Poke_4_Life said:
My wife and I are doing pretty well.  Both fully WFH, both fully employed, and full salaries so that all is working fine.  We're both a little on edge about everything that's going on in the world and just being home all the time so occasionally we get snippy, but so far no heated arguments.  We both also have enough work to do during the day and our offices are far enough apart that we get some separation.  

My anxiety and stress comes from our 21yo.  She hasn't really changed her habits and works in food service so she's constantly seeing people.  She also is coming over to our place (she has an apartment) to eat dinner 3+ times per week.  I'm about ready to tell her she can't come over anymore, but I'm sure that will be a big fight with the wife.  I'm also sure that if she does get the virus then she'll be staying here while she convalesces (even if it's like the flu).  That whole situation infuriates me to no end.  
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If you are anywhere near a hot spot, I would tell your daughter to stay away.

 
You know what's fun?  Having your wife on her tablet, giggling every 30 seconds, then interrupting whatever you are doing so she can read you something.

You know what's even funnier?  Having her do it drunk, and forgetting she just read the same joke to you over and over.

 
my dr. mcdougall's superfood hot cereal has no line on the package!

but i tried putting water in it anyway and just estimated the amount.  and it worked!

-excerpt from my forthcoming memoir, The Boring Lives of the Coronavirus 

 
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Long Ball Larry said:
my dr. mcdougall's superfood hot cereal has no line on the package!

but i tried putting water in it anyway and just estimated the amount.  and it worked!

-excerpt from my forthcoming memoir, The Boring Lives of the Coronavirus 
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Why?  If you are trying to get a rise out of the mods, at least write something that pertains to the thread title.  Care to expand on how your hot cereal affected (or effected, I always get this wrong) a relationship you have?

 
fantasycurse42 said:
What happened to that thread? Anyone know why it was axed?
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Not sure but the moderation should think about being a little more relaxed during this crisis.  People have more time to be online, more time to make jokes, more time to inadvertently cross the blurred lines.  Like they keep saying "We all in this together"

Take care fellas!

 
Brunell4MVP said:
My wife has slight ADHD, which has now kicked into major overdrive.   It's barely noticeable usually.  Now she's over the cliff. 

Clothes must be removed entering the house and put in a hamper in the garage.  Gloves and masks 100% required, even in my own car.  Alcohol swabs?  There's never a chance you'd need one since we are in hazmat gear anytime we exit the premises by 1 foot.  She has not left the house in the last 3 days.  There will be no touching.  Can't get within 5 feet of her without her losing it.  Every morning a lecture to me and the college kids about what we need to do and did wrong yesterday.  Cause you know, college kids love the lectures about what they are doing wrong.  Groceries sterilize 3 days in the garage, but as of today we have to order online.  No more stores.

She's really smart.  How she went down this road in the last week is sad.  It's one thing to be smart.  It's another to live in constant fear. 

Trying to play along for the most part.  But soon I'm gonna quarantine myself in the extra bedroom, put some medieval chain locks on the door, and get a full subscription to pornhub.
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How do people let items that need refrigeration sit in the garage for 3 days?  Like any dairy products like yogurt, milk ,cheese, ice cream?

I have the large plastic crate that I have been putting my canned goods, Gatorade and all sealed packages in.  I put it in the driveway and spray some Clorox on.  Then rise off everything with running water from the hose for a couple of minutes and let dry.    Not sure if it works but it makes my wife feel better.

 
TheWinz said:
Why?  If you are trying to get a rise out of the mods, at least write something that pertains to the thread title.  Care to expand on how your hot cereal affected (or effected, I always get this wrong) a relationship you have?
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i don't even know why the original thread was axed.  if that could be explained, it would be helpful.

i would say that there is something relevant in here, anyway, because the fact is that being cooped up with family all day every day is what is exacerbating many of these issues.  i guess i am just trying to blow off steam in a seemingly innocuous way, which does help  reduce tension and i thought that this thread was initially kind of supposed to be for that.  now, i do know that it took a much more serious turn, which i don't discount, so if people are saying that they only want this thread to be serious, then so be it.  my general feeling is that overpolicing during this unprecedented situation doesn't help.

 
Brunell4MVP said:
My wife has slight ADHD, which has now kicked into major overdrive.   It's barely noticeable usually.  Now she's over the cliff. 

Clothes must be removed entering the house and put in a hamper in the garage.  Gloves and masks 100% required, even in my own car.  Alcohol swabs?  There's never a chance you'd need one since we are in hazmat gear anytime we exit the premises by 1 foot.  She has not left the house in the last 3 days.  There will be no touching.  Can't get within 5 feet of her without her losing it.  Every morning a lecture to me and the college kids about what we need to do and did wrong yesterday.  Cause you know, college kids love the lectures about what they are doing wrong.  Groceries sterilize 3 days in the garage, but as of today we have to order online.  No more stores.

She's really smart.  How she went down this road in the last week is sad.  It's one thing to be smart.  It's another to live in constant fear. 

Trying to play along for the most part.  But soon I'm gonna quarantine myself in the extra bedroom, put some medieval chain locks on the door, and get a full subscription to pornhub.
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What's a full subscription give you that you can't already get for free?  I mean.....how much more is there?  :oldunsure:   

 
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