Family member bringing internet stranger to our house (1 Viewer)

[elguapo07]

What do you think is going to happen? At worst it's awkward and you might find you actually like the guy. What's the difference if he was a guy she ####ed from the bars last week?

She has never even met or talked to the guy before and he is willing to move out of state and bring all of his belongings before meeting her-major red flags. If she met him even a few weeks ago and got to know him a little in person I could see it but he would be coming to our house with other family members here (some small children) an hour after landing and her meeting him for the first time.

My mom did this, some loser from Tennessee moved up to Canada to live with her despite never having met So yeah.....I would rather have it be my neice.

(It lasted about 9 months)

My sister went down to New Orleans to spend a weekend with a guy she met on the internet (she lives in Mass). Yadda yadda yadda a month later there was a $1000 charge on her credit card.

 

[SacramentoBob]

I do not like the idea and the wife is totally hysterical so we told her under the circumstance we do not want him at our house. My brother (her father) is not real happy about the situation and thinks the whole thing is crazy absurd of course but I get the vibe that he thinks we are being a little over the top by not wanting him in our house.

Are we being overly paranoid or doing the right thing?

Wait, what?

Niece: "I kinda know this guy and want to hang out with him. Is it OK if I do it in a safe environment with many adults (including my father) around who can chaperone and make sure this guy doesn't turn out to be a total creep?"

You and her father: "Absolutely not. Meet him alone in a dark bar where you don't know anyone else there."

Unfortunately, I'm out of likes for the day.

Set an outlook reminder, I'll take an IOU for tomorrow.

Debt = paid

 

[Mr. Pickles]

Anywhere I can access the current body count?

 

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Anywhere I can access the current body count?

I thought you were from the internet?

 

[Mr. Pickles]

Anywhere I can access the current body count?

I thought you were from the internet?

This is real life.

 

[CurlyNight]

Id absolutely want him at my house. It you "forbid it" then your niece is going to be with him somewhere else.

Agree. If you forbid it, you are forbiding the relationship without ever meeting him and even if it's not a match, she may continue dating this guy to show you otherwise. Been there done that with the parental forbiding thing back in my late teens..

 

[Joe Summer]

"Don't be jealous that I've been chatting online with babes all day."

 

[CurlyNight]

It's weird that she would want to bring him to a family event the first meeting IRL.

I'm guessing she wants to do this to have him "checked out" by family before they proceed. Online and telephone chats are one thing but irl it can become scary. It's a different frame of mind I think between having met someone online and having met someone irl out somewhere. Seems she is wanting a little safety net, which is smart. I'd be scared with my family to do this back in the day, but I would have a double date set up with a good friend as the first meeting. That's better than just meeting in a very public place, which most folks do the first time they meet up.

 

[LinusMarr]

"Don't be jealous that I've been chatting online with babes all day."

That's my daily routine haha

 

[CurlyNight]

Bonjour.

That commercial is HEElarious!

 

[Das Boot]

I am confused by the reactions and behaviors of everyone in this story.

Your drunk.

 

[Das Boot]

Anywhere I can access the current body count?

1 female - mildly obese, 1 internet male- body type unknown, 1 OP - body type unknown.

 

[Das Boot]

Id absolutely want him at my house. It you "forbid it" then your niece is going to be with him somewhere else.

Agree. If you forbid it, you are forbiding the relationship without ever meeting him and even if it's not a match, she may continue dating this guy to show you otherwise. Been there done that with the parental forbiding thing back in my late teens..

Montagues and Capulets imo.

 

[Warrior]

What's your niece like? Age/profession/other men she has dated? Is there a history of weirdness?

She is a sweet girl and not totally weird but seems to be a little different than most of the family, not always a bad thing but as you can see by her choice here a little out of the box thinking. She is somewhat overweight and I don't think has dated much, hence why the out of town guy draws an interest and concern on our end.

Still waiting for the age. Is she 15 or 35?

 

[Juxtatarot]

Anywhere I can access the current body count?

1 female - mildly obese, 1 internet male- body type unknown, 1 OP - body type unknown.

We don't know about the wife either. Does chronic hysterics keep one thin or drive one to an overeating frenzy?

 

[Sarnoff]

I do not like the idea and the wife is totally hysterical so we told her under the circumstance we do not want him at our house. My brother (her father) is not real happy about the situation and thinks the whole thing is crazy absurd of course but I get the vibe that he thinks we are being a little over the top by not wanting him in our house.

Are we being overly paranoid or doing the right thing?

Wait, what?

Niece: "I kinda know this guy and want to hang out with him. Is it OK if I do it in a safe environment with many adults (including my father) around who can chaperone and make sure this guy doesn't turn out to be a total creep?"

You and her father: "Absolutely not. Meet him alone in a dark bar where you don't know anyone else there."

Unfortunately, I'm out of likes for the day.

Set an outlook reminder, I'll take an IOU for tomorrow.

Thanks bud.

 

[northern exposure]

Why worry? Maybe she's bringing this guy: http://i1.ytimg.com/vi/2bkRGH4sJDE/hqdefault.jpg

 

[johnjohn]

your wife sounds like a horrible person to be around. no offense

 

[Juxtatarot]

your wife sounds like a horrible person to be around. no offense

I"m sure no offense will be taken.

 

[RBM]

I mean, in all honesty, this should be up to your brother.

 

[sports_fan]

your wife sounds like a horrible person to be around. no offense

You sound like a ####### ########. No offense.

 

[fantasycurse42]

When is this family gathering?

Can we come up with a list of questions to ask the stranger here?

 

[RBM]

When is this family gathering?

Can we come up with a list of questions to ask the stranger here?

Even better, can we request your niece and her friend log on for like an hour for a q&a?

 

[cstu]

Even in the world where internet dating is totally acceptable this sounds sketchy.

THIS.

Never even talked on the phone or Skype'd?

W.T.F.

 

[cstu]

No way is this guy coming to my house.

 

[Baloney Sandwich]

I brought a girl I had never met to my sister's wedding reception. I put an ad out on Craiglist and she responded. She was a hot Iranian chick and ended up being a ton of fun. Her dress was a little loud for my taste but I figured that was a cultural thing. I had met an Iraqi girl off of CL the month before and wanted to even things out as I wasn't taking sides. Both were Americanized as each put out first night.

 

[-fish-]

why don't you want fatty mcweirdo to be happy?

 

[jon_mx]

Why the hell haven't they had a phone conversation?

Skype. Yahoo. Or a dozen other apps. If they can chat on the internet they can talk on the internet. Something is seriously wrong.

 

[Mr. Retukes]

I mean, in all honesty, this should be up to your brother.

It's not the 1950s 1850s anymore.

 

[CurlyNight]

Why the hell haven't they had a phone conversation?

Skype. Yahoo. Or a dozen other apps. If they can chat on the internet they can talk on the internet. Something is seriously wrong.

All the more reason to let her bring the guy over after the airport rather than refuse and let her go elsewhere, which she will.

 

[dmac37]

Update time but sorry nothing exciting for you guys.

The guy did not show up (good news for all but the niece) and the niece is devastated of course, SIL went to be with the niece and my brother and nephew joined the family gathering. Once we stated we did not want him here under the circumstances I was not sure how my brother & family would be with us but all is good. In hindsight I can see the view point of him being here in front of a crowd rather than just her (26 yr old grown adult) but just can't rationalize subjecting the unknown crazy to the rest of the family when anything could happen.

After many amusing FFA tales from the football guys community over the years I thought this story may pay it forward some. Also was really curious to see what stand everyone would take on this issue.

 

[Jefferson the Caregiver]

I wonder what GM's wife's family thought when Charvik and I showed up at the rehearsal dinner.

Some of those squirmy questions had to be answered...

"So how do you know GM?"

 

[PinkydaPimp]

do it. then report back.

 

[Das Boot]

Update time but sorry nothing exciting for you guys.

The guy did not show up (good news for all but the niece) and the niece is devastated of course, SIL went to be with the niece and my brother and nephew joined the family gathering. Once we stated we did not want him here under the circumstances I was not sure how my brother & family would be with us but all is good. In hindsight I can see the view point of him being here in front of a crowd rather than just her (26 yr old grown adult) but just can't rationalize subjecting the unknown crazy to the rest of the family when anything could happen.

After many amusing FFA tales from the football guys community over the years I thought this story may pay it forward some. Also was really curious to see what stand everyone would take on this issue.

The least you could do at this point is drive and pick him up (I mean he just lives a state or two over, right?)... he probably just missed his plane and feels terrible about it, but of course he can't call your niece to let her know what happened.

 

[Craig_MiamiFL]

Chins up fatty.

 

[Mr. Pickles]

This is no way to treat an internetter.

 

[fantasycurse42]

####### Walgreens managers, can't count on these guys for anything!

 

[Niles Standish]

Overweight girls have it tough. Fat guys can get charismatic and get girls. Overweight girls aren't gonna get asked out much. They need the Internet so awkward guys can get the nerve up to ask them out. Either that or be aggressive and easy.

 

[CurlyNight]

26 is young. I think it takes most women into their early 30s to have a handle on dating and such. Glad it's a non issue now.

 

[Loan Sharks]

You should murder him , the risk is too great.

 

[sports_fan]

Overweight girls have it tough. Fat guys can get charismatic and get girls. Overweight girls aren't gonna get asked out much. They need the Internet so awkward guys can get the nerve up to ask them out. Either that or be aggressive and easy.

Fat guys don't have it very bad. Skinny or short is worse.

 

[Long Ball Larry]

Didn't come to town or just didn't come to the gathering?

 

[dmac37]

Didn't come to town or just didn't come to the gathering?

To town, gathering was already off limits

 

[RBM]

Didn't come to town or just didn't come to the gathering?

To town, gathering was already off limits

Did he tell her or was she like waiting at the airport and he never showed?

 

[T Bell]

26 is young. I think it takes most women into their early 30s to have a handle on dating and such. Glad it's a non issue now.

What's the alarm set to on the biological clock in your world? 80?

 

[T Bell]

Didn't come to town or just didn't come to the gathering?

To town, gathering was already off limits

Wow, she must be mortified.

Make sure to tell her that there are plenty of other whales in the sea.

 

[mquinnjr]

Chins up fatty.

Because I reached my quota of likes for the day,

 

[flapgreen]

Not a chance

 

[mquinnjr]

I wonder what GM's wife's family thought when Charvik and I showed up at the rehearsal dinner.

Some of those squirmy questions had to be answered...

"So how do you know GM?"

"Work friends" (From another office if needed)

(Hope you don't run into someone else in the family in the same industry GM is in, or are in the same industry and can BS through it)

I was a groomsman in a good friend from work's wedding. Knew literally no one at the wedding except the groom, the bride, and a few of their close friends. Had an absolute blast. No one actually asks about the actual work from my experience with this.

 

[ClownCausedChaos2]

26 is young. I think it takes most women into their early 30s to have a handle on dating and such. Glad it's a non issue now.

Otherwise known as the "love handle".