Yeah, don't get me started on the kid thing.
Cool for those that have them. I'm sure they enrich your lives in ways I can never understand.
But its absolute crap how any "absence" related to kids (whether its actual child "care" or just leaving early to see them in an activity..dont get wrong, that stuff is VERY important) is always 100% acceptable and those of us without kids are open to catching a hard time if we want to duck out early for another reason.
If Bill 3 cubicles down gets to leave at 3 PM 2X a week to catch his son's JV baseball game, I should be able to duck out for an early 18 holes without hassle if my workload that day allows for it.
Almost enough to make me want to have kids....almost.
For the most part, the reason for the time off is irrelevant. No manager should ask what the person will be doing during that time off as a way to determine if it's approved. If you have the leave balance and I don't need you working at that particular time, then it's approved.
Now, if I decline a leave request because of an insufficient leave balance or because I need the employee at that time, then it does matter what's going on with the employee and it is important for the employee to communicate their emergency need for leave.
"I need to leave early today."
"I'm sorry, you know we have a big deadline today and your part of the project isn't done yet so I have to deny that request."
"I understand, but my son was in a bad car accident and is on his way to the ER so I'm leaving whether you like it or not."
"Ok, go ahead. I hope your son is ok. Don't worry about anything here; we'll figure it out."
Vs.
"I need to leave early today."
"I'm sorry, you know we have a big deadline today and your part of the project isn't done yet so I have to deny that request."
"I understand, but it's really nice out and there's an open tee time at my favorite course."
"Sorry, I'm not approving that."