I didn't respond, YSR, but I'd like to agree with most everything that folks have said here. My kids are 13 and 10, and it is AMAZING how much my relationship with each of them has changed through the years. I adored them when they were young, but never really. . . bonded with them until the last few years. In particular, my son, who is a ####### hoot. You will find your stride with your daughter. Don't try and rush it, because a few years from now (when you do have that "bond"), you will be looking back at old pictures of her, and you don't want to be saying to yourself "man, I wish i appreciated that age more. . ." There is a ton to appreciate. But there is a ton that sucks too. And those two things can both occure. You aren't crazy to feel both feelings.
Anyway, I also agree in spades with this:
The point I'm crawling to is that sometimes, it takes a little time to develop bonds and what you're going through is not unusual. Don't beat yourself up. You're a great mom, a great person and a terrific friend. You don't have to be in love with your kid every second of every day. #### Facebook and all the societal 'norms' about motherhood. We're all wired differently and not all pizza comes in a straight line.
I have an 11 year old daughter. I look back at my two older sisters and one got really close to my dad and one didn't. I have yet to "bond" with my daughter. I hope it happens someday, but who knows?
You never know, you know?