TPW to Otis, YSR, and Bobby Sac
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glllllllllll oatcousin####. Close cousin of mine, who is a poster here, got some awful news today. He's been in business school working like a maniac with extra credits trying to finish up this semester, while working full time, because his wife is due with their first child. He's been working and schooling like a maniac. They are set for a C-section in about 30 hours. Amidst all this crap, this afternoon he was diagnosed with lymphoma. He's freaking 27 years old. The bright side is I understand it's early stage (stage 2, non hodgkins), and so the prognosis is positive. He's starting treatment right away, and has the best doctors modern medicine can offer.
Ugh. So if you're the praying type, say one for one of our GBs here. Scary how life can kick you like that, out of nowhere, in what's supposed to be an awesome and exciting time for a healthy young guy. Also, if anyone has gone through this with family before and has any pointers on things we might do for him (we've already offered to watch the baby when they need a break, get groceries, whatever), I'm all ears.
TIA
This is so, 100%, completely normal. (at least for me) When HulkBaby was little, I remember crying to my dad about this very issue. HulkBaby was probably between 18 months and 2 years before I really started to feel the bond. And now it's like Superbond. Sometimes it even feels like Overbond. Anyway I know what a sh*tty feeling that is and I just wanted to let you know that you're not the only one!YSR said:I like to think that I'm going to be one of those "is my kid an #######" parents, which I think is great down the line.
Spoiler because I am about to whine/ramble/seek advice so if you don't care about kid stuff please ignore.
Problem is, I'm kind of that parent now. There is a marked difference between the way Romo is with our kid and the way I am. He thinks she is the most amazing thing ever and while I agree that she's awesome and the best thing to happen to us... well, I don't know. When he's gone for work, I'm a single mom 24/7 - we don't have many friends here (mostly my fault because I've been pretty miserable here and haven't wanted to put down roots) and neither of us trust her with his family. But I'm not getting the joy out of it that he seems to when he stays with her.
When he's here, he has an unending amount of patience and desire to engage her (hugs, kisses, baths, feeding, playing, etc.). They are best friends. When I am with her, I play with her and read to her and feed her and bathe her, but I feel like there's a chip or something missing. Some of it has to do with the fact that I'm trying to work enough hours during the week to keep my job in good standing, but still.
Anyway, sorry for the ramble. All of this is to say that down the line, he might not be able to see her faults but I think I will (because maybe I already do?)
YSR said:I like to think that I'm going to be one of those "is my kid an #######" parents, which I think is great down the line.
Spoiler because I am about to whine/ramble/seek advice so if you don't care about kid stuff please ignore.
Problem is, I'm kind of that parent now. There is a marked difference between the way Romo is with our kid and the way I am. He thinks she is the most amazing thing ever and while I agree that she's awesome and the best thing to happen to us... well, I don't know. When he's gone for work, I'm a single mom 24/7 - we don't have many friends here (mostly my fault because I've been pretty miserable here and haven't wanted to put down roots) and neither of us trust her with his family. But I'm not getting the joy out of it that he seems to when he stays with her.
When he's here, he has an unending amount of patience and desire to engage her (hugs, kisses, baths, feeding, playing, etc.). They are best friends. When I am with her, I play with her and read to her and feed her and bathe her, but I feel like there's a chip or something missing. Some of it has to do with the fact that I'm trying to work enough hours during the week to keep my job in good standing, but still.
Anyway, sorry for the ramble. All of this is to say that down the line, he might not be able to see her faults but I think I will (because maybe I already do?)
YSR said:I like to think that I'm going to be one of those "is my kid an #######" parents, which I think is great down the line.
Spoiler because I am about to whine/ramble/seek advice so if you don't care about kid stuff please ignore.
Problem is, I'm kind of that parent now. There is a marked difference between the way Romo is with our kid and the way I am. He thinks she is the most amazing thing ever and while I agree that she's awesome and the best thing to happen to us... well, I don't know. When he's gone for work, I'm a single mom 24/7 - we don't have many friends here (mostly my fault because I've been pretty miserable here and haven't wanted to put down roots) and neither of us trust her with his family. But I'm not getting the joy out of it that he seems to when he stays with her.
When he's here, he has an unending amount of patience and desire to engage her (hugs, kisses, baths, feeding, playing, etc.). They are best friends. When I am with her, I play with her and read to her and feed her and bathe her, but I feel like there's a chip or something missing. Some of it has to do with the fact that I'm trying to work enough hours during the week to keep my job in good standing, but still.
Anyway, sorry for the ramble. All of this is to say that down the line, he might not be able to see her faults but I think I will (because maybe I already do?)This is so, 100%, completely normal. (at least for me) When HulkBaby was little, I remember crying to my dad about this very issue. HulkBaby was probably between 18 months and 2 years before I really started to feel the bond. And now it's like Superbond. Sometimes it even feels like Overbond. Anyway I know what a sh*tty feeling that is and I just wanted to let you know that you're not the only one!
I'm totally drinking some wine for you right now.
what about me? i was violated.TPW to Otis, YSR, and Bobby Sac
Yeah, and I had to do brainstorming with stickers.what about me? i was violated.TPW to Otis, YSR, and Bobby Sac
YSR said:I like to think that I'm going to be one of those "is my kid an #######" parents, which I think is great down the line.
Spoiler because I am about to whine/ramble/seek advice so if you don't care about kid stuff please ignore.
Problem is, I'm kind of that parent now. There is a marked difference between the way Romo is with our kid and the way I am. He thinks she is the most amazing thing ever and while I agree that she's awesome and the best thing to happen to us... well, I don't know. When he's gone for work, I'm a single mom 24/7 - we don't have many friends here (mostly my fault because I've been pretty miserable here and haven't wanted to put down roots) and neither of us trust her with his family. But I'm not getting the joy out of it that he seems to when he stays with her.
When he's here, he has an unending amount of patience and desire to engage her (hugs, kisses, baths, feeding, playing, etc.). They are best friends. When I am with her, I play with her and read to her and feed her and bathe her, but I feel like there's a chip or something missing. Some of it has to do with the fact that I'm trying to work enough hours during the week to keep my job in good standing, but still.
Anyway, sorry for the ramble. All of this is to say that down the line, he might not be able to see her faults but I think I will (because maybe I already do?)This is so, 100%, completely normal. (at least for me) When HulkBaby was little, I remember crying to my dad about this very issue. HulkBaby was probably between 18 months and 2 years before I really started to feel the bond. And now it's like Superbond. Sometimes it even feels like Overbond. Anyway I know what a sh*tty feeling that is and I just wanted to let you know that you're not the only one!
I'm totally drinking some wine for you right now.![]()
Wanna make out?
Yeah, but you liked it.what about me? i was violated.TPW to Otis, YSR, and Bobby Sac
Spill the beans, Frosty. What happened?Yeah, and I had to do brainstorming with stickers.what about me? i was violated.TPW to Otis, YSR, and Bobby Sac
It was horrible. I don't want to talk about it.Spill the beans, Frosty. What happened?Yeah, and I had to do brainstorming with stickers.what about me? i was violated.TPW to Otis, YSR, and Bobby Sac
If there are enough people you really don't have to try. Or you can really vote for outrageous options, but then they sometimes ask the person to explain their picks. Ugh - takes a lot of energy to try and sound sensible about a purposely goof pick.It was horrible. I don't want to talk about it.Spill the beans, Frosty. What happened?Yeah, and I had to do brainstorming with stickers.what about me? i was violated.TPW to Otis, YSR, and Bobby Sac
Hey I found that book. You want it in like a month or whenever I get to the post office? IB i have your box all ready to go just need to go.Kid's asleep and I'm now friends with PV on teh FB.
I'm out of practice but i think a friend request pretty much means she wants to bone.
Do I need to do a whole Fro coffee shop thing or what?
Not a frequent poster; his brother posts frequently in the shark pool, guy plays in like 40 leagues each year.Sorry GBO. Not that it matters, but, well-known poster?
TPW Otis. Had a good friend go through the same diagnosis about two years ago and she is totally fine now.![]()
Yeah. get it to me when you can.Hey I found that book. You want it in like a month or whenever I get to the post office? IB i have your box all ready to go just need to go.Kid's asleep and I'm now friends with PV on teh FB.
I'm out of practice but i think a friend request pretty much means she wants to bone.
Do I need to do a whole Fro coffee shop thing or what?
You are the walrus, GB.Oh yeah, I get that GB. Right now I'm embracing my role as top whiskey drinker in the house.My son does the same thing. We got different roles, GB. My father's mentioned this to me. It's just natural and ingrained for boys (all kids really) to gravitate to their mothers. As boys get older and turn into men and then fathers I think they remember us a little more.
Good morning, Homer. Did you have a good day's sleep?You are the walrus, GB.Oh yeah, I get that GB. Right now I'm embracing my role as top whiskey drinker in the house.My son does the same thing. We got different roles, GB. My father's mentioned this to me. It's just natural and ingrained for boys (all kids really) to gravitate to their mothers. As boys get older and turn into men and then fathers I think they remember us a little more.
AND WHEN DO I GET SOMETHING OUT OF THIS CAROLINE?!?!?!!?!?Yeah. get it to me when you can.Hey I found that book. You want it in like a month or whenever I get to the post office? IB i have your box all ready to go just need to go.Kid's asleep and I'm now friends with PV on teh FB.
I'm out of practice but i think a friend request pretty much means she wants to bone.
Do I need to do a whole Fro coffee shop thing or what?
If you can throw in some other perks from your job that would be awesome. I say this not to be an ####### but the t-shirts you've sent in the past have been awesome and high quality and worn a good bit.
We love movies too. If, however, you've got nothing to shoot out, I'd still love to have that book..
I love you.
OOF.Hey guys. 2 day update?
Otis, sorry to hear about your cousin.
I took my daughter back to her original eye doctor for a second opinion today, and it looks like we're going to do the surgery. I feel a lot more comfortable with this doctor doing it, though.
Wife and I had just a horrible fight yesterday. Probably prompted by the fact that she has the flu on top of her migraines and I just got done working a full day after taking the redeye in the Monday night/Tuesday morning. Afterwards we ended up talking about some things we really needed to, but I feel really really ####ty about something I said in the heat of the moment.
what a loonIf it makes you feel any better, our infant is now into week 6 doing nothing but screaming all day long, my wife is absolutely losing her #### (in part because of the hormones oh and, in addition to the normal hormones, when we finally got to have secks for the first time in eons I figured it would be safe to unload the troops into the mess hall, only to realize that it apparently was NOT OK, and in fact bad timing for that, and so we had to go get Plan B which has screwed up her hormones even more), so everyone has a short temper and is losing their minds here, and oh I've got a 102 fever tonight.When it rains its pours around here
Damn. Best of luck.####. Close cousin of mine, who is a poster here, got some awful news today. He's been in business school working like a maniac with extra credits trying to finish up this semester, while working full time, because his wife is due with their first child. He's been working and schooling like a maniac. They are set for a C-section in about 30 hours. Amidst all this crap, this afternoon he was diagnosed with lymphoma. He's freaking 27 years old. The bright side is I understand it's early stage (stage 2, non hodgkins), and so the prognosis is positive. He's starting treatment right away, and has the best doctors modern medicine can offer.
Ugh. So if you're the praying type, say one for one of our GBs here. Scary how life can kick you like that, out of nowhere, in what's supposed to be an awesome and exciting time for a healthy young guy. Also, if anyone has gone through this with family before and has any pointers on things we might do for him (we've already offered to watch the baby when they need a break, get groceries, whatever), I'm all ears.
TIA
Let's do this, druggymcdrugteacher.I'm really tempted to finish off that abomination of a flavored vodka.
TRE - the masters thing. Does anything get posted?Let's do this, druggymcdrugteacher.I'm really tempted to finish off that abomination of a flavored vodka.
Que?TRE - the masters thing. Does anything get posted?Let's do this, druggymcdrugteacher.I'm really tempted to finish off that abomination of a flavored vodka.
Of course, we both apologized profusely.OOF.Hey guys. 2 day update?
Otis, sorry to hear about your cousin.
I took my daughter back to her original eye doctor for a second opinion today, and it looks like we're going to do the surgery. I feel a lot more comfortable with this doctor doing it, though.
Wife and I had just a horrible fight yesterday. Probably prompted by the fact that she has the flu on top of her migraines and I just got done working a full day after taking the redeye in the Monday night/Tuesday morning. Afterwards we ended up talking about some things we really needed to, but I feel really really ####ty about something I said in the heat of the moment.
Sorry GB. Apologize? How bad was it?
Call the hotels now and have them look it up. Or if the charges are not at the hotel, report your card stolen.So I stayed at a Hilton Monday for our conference. Paid by company. I then stayed at a courtyard last night to see a property some where else. I have a $50 charge pending on my cc from Monday and a $26 charge from Tuesday (in addition to the correct room charge). I ordered nothing. No movie. No food. Nothing. Wtf? Now I'm going to be thinking about this all night.
I have to admit, I have a hard time watching MMA. Too brutal.I feel like so many threads here turn out like this:
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I have some experience with this just today. My hotel in Lubbock pended a $50 charge on my credit card in case I charged anything to the room just to make sure that the card was good. They said that it would clear in a few days.Call the hotels now and have them look it up. Or if the charges are not at the hotel, report your card stolen.So I stayed at a Hilton Monday for our conference. Paid by company. I then stayed at a courtyard last night to see a property some where else. I have a $50 charge pending on my cc from Monday and a $26 charge from Tuesday (in addition to the correct room charge). I ordered nothing. No movie. No food. Nothing. Wtf? Now I'm going to be thinking about this all night.![]()
Somehow this has been around for a while yet I have never seen it...
This guy's facial expressions from 0:30 to 1:30.