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I had a child graduate high school a couple years ago.  We had grad open house announcements made and we sent them out to friends and family.  She also took them to school and handed them out to her friends and a few teachers.  This year I have noticed that parents are just using Facebook to announce their open house instead of mailing the announcements.  I told my wife that the only ones we are giving money to as a gift are the ones who actually send us an invite in the mail.  She doesn't agree.  Thoughts?   #getoffmylawn

 
I agree for you and your wife unless you have a strong relationship with the family such as good family friends or close relatives.

You know what a FB invite means? No mailed thank you cards either. :thumbdown:  I'm big on handwriting thank you cards for important events like this as a life lesson. 

You don't want to personally invite me then I don't want to personally attend. No thank you (pun intended).

 
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Meh.  If you show up at someone's house and it's for a graduation, you should bring some sort of gift.  It shouldn't matter how you were invited.

 
idk? Im guessing its like a party, but instead its doesn't really have scheduled start time so people can go to several of them. When I graduated we hit up several parties during the afternoon and evening. I guess they were like open houses. People came and went. I did to at Romping Rhondas party!

 
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Is the whole idea of having a start time for a party antiquated?   When do you put out the food?  How do you know that you're not showing up too early?  This is so bizarre.

 
crnerblitz said:
idk? Im guessing its like a party, but instead its doesn't really have scheduled start time so people can go to several of them. When I graduated we hit up several parties during the afternoon and evening. I guess they were like open houses. People came and went. I did to at Romping Rhondas party!
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:goodposting: graduated 1986 and that was how they went "way back then"... you set a time say 12 to 6pm and people came and went. :shrug:

 
snogger said:
:goodposting: graduated 1986 and that was how they went "way back then"... you set a time say 12 to 6pm and people came and went. :shrug:
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I graduated in 1986 and I'd never heard of them until this thread. It's freaking HS. Go out and get drunk with your friends.

 
4 kids through high school 4 open houses I estimate we dropped 2 big to host equal to the amount of what each one got from non immediate family. Tried in vane to offer 2 big in lieu of party wifey would have none of it. So every other year took two weeks off getting house ready for party, thankful it's over, for those we get invited to we give 35 if we don't go 50 if we attend 

 
Christo said:
I graduated in 1986 and I'd never heard of them until this thread. It's freaking HS. Go out and get drunk with your friends.
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Seems weird as F.   When I graduated we had a party about a week later.  BUT it was for me, one of my cousins, and another cousin who had earned her BS.  Pretty much just a big backyard BBQ.

 
Cjw_55106 said:
Is it a regional thing? We've had these parties for as long as I can remember. 
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It must be regional. In SE Michigan these are extremely common. They were usually just all day BBQs. Some families let the grads drink, some made them wait until most of the guests cleared out before letting the grads drink and other we're all day  boozefests. They were a good time and always kind of weird to sit around and have a few beers with parents and former teachers. 

 
As I remember it, only family and real close family friends would have given money. Most of the guests were teens. I didn't have a party. My parents offered me some money to save the hassle of throwing the party and buying all the food/beverages. I was no fool, I took the cash offer.

 
Officer Pete Malloy said:
Seems weird as F.   When I graduated we had a party about a week later.  BUT it was for me, one of my cousins, and another cousin who had earned her BS.  Pretty much just a big backyard BBQ.
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This. Lol at sending out a bunch of fancy invitations to some thing called a graduation open house.  My house won't be open. The girls want to celebrate, we will invite over the fsmily and some friends and have a party. 

By the way this totally has to be a southern thing. 

 
Tons of the kids I graduated with had events like this when I graduated HS 14 years ago. We just called them graduation parties though. For the 6 weeks or so after we graduated,(i guess some of the parents coordinated to try and spread them out)  you could count on 5 or 6 them occurring pretty much every weekend. I'd usually hit 2 or 3 during the day for an hour or 2 and then make my way to one at night (usually someone whose parents were cool with a bunch of kids getting hammered in their basement as long as they left their keys upstairs).

The day time parties would often have relatives, family friends or neighbors stopping by for food but then they'd clear out at night so we could have some fun.

If I remember, some people passed out paper invitations but a lot of it was just word of mouth. I imagine that if we had them today, they'd also go out as FB invites, group texts or tweets. I don't see what the big  deal is :shrug:

 
JFC. It's high school .   "Congrats on not being a total F-up.  We're so impressed that you did something that about 82% of American teens do that we're inviting the entire population of the  Tri-state area for a raging shin dig."

 
Graduating with my bachelor's on Friday. I sent out ~50 invitations and along with invites, I added a note that said something along the lines of "please join us on so and so date to celebrate with the new graduate." 

Never heard of it being called an "open house" I've always referred to it as a graduation reception or party. 

Anyways, everyone who shows up to my house this weekend isn't gonna bring a gift but a good amount (over half) will.

I would assume that from a parents' perspective, they'd give gifts to their kids' close friends regardless of if they were sent an individual invite. 

Then again, in my mind you would make an effort to send the important/special people an invite. But hey that's just me.

 
Gachi said:
Graduating with my bachelor's on Friday. I sent out ~50 invitations and along with invites, I added a note that said something along the lines of "please join us on so and so date to celebrate with the new graduate." 

Never heard of it being called an "open house" I've always referred to it as a graduation reception or party. 

Anyways, everyone who shows up to my house this weekend isn't gonna bring a gift but a good amount (over half) will.

I would assume that from a parents' perspective, they'd give gifts to their kids' close friends regardless of if they were sent an individual invite. 

Then again, in my mind you would make an effort to send the important/special people an invite. But hey that's just me.
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College is a much bigger deal IMO.   Congrats BTW.   

 
Every year we get several invites to graduations from kids of people that are more acquaintances than real friends.  Its the usual play for HS grad monies.  Pretty sad - we put out a very modest amount (usually $30-$40) and let it go.  

We did not do that when our son graduated last year - we only imposed on family and a handful of very close friends  :D

 
I had neither a high school nor college graduation party and I didn't think anything of it, really. I got my parents' old cars both times, and that was plenty. This isn't a get off of my lawn moment, I think anything that brings communities together is cool. I'm just remembering. The gift part gets a bit sticky. It should be for really close friends and family only. 

 
Cjw_55106 said:
Is it a regional thing? We've had these parties for as long as I can remember. 
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I see you are from St Paul. Open Houses have been a common thing for decades for people graduating in the mid-west. These southerners and Yankees are just a bunch of uncouth alcoholics.

 
Dignan_ said:
Cjw_55106 said:
Is it a regional thing? We've had these parties for as long as I can remember. 
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I see you are from St Paul. Open Houses have been a common thing for decades for people graduating in the mid-west. These southerners and Yankees are just a bunch of uncouth alcoholics.
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:goodposting:   As mentioned above, mainly all day BBQ parties.. Enjoyed driving around on a nice summer day going from party to party for free food and  :banned:

 
Officer Pete Malloy said:
JFC. It's high school .   "Congrats on not being a total F-up.  We're so impressed that you did something that about 82% of American teens do that we're inviting the entire population of the  Tri-state area for a raging shin dig."
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Jeez, you must really despise birthday parties. 

 
Thank you notes are proper etiquette and important to some people. Thank you notes indicate a personalized response to a significant gift. 

What is wrong with the modern world? 

 
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Mom used to make me write thank you notes. I think it's good for kids to do as an exercise in accounting. So many just take and take and take with no appreciation for the other side of the ledger. Making them stop and put pen to paper addressing the gift I think helps them get closer to what actually happened. Rather than just taking it as yet another thing pulled off the free stuff for me tree.

Open house notifications? Just somebody with cool parents throw a rager and everybody's happy. If some family members want to send some money I'm not going to turn it away, but give me a break with this open house business. Wgaf. It's along the lines of a participation trophy.

 
Otis said:
This. Lol at sending out a bunch of fancy invitations to some thing called a graduation open house.  My house won't be open. The girls want to celebrate, we will invite over the fsmily and some friends and have a party. 

By the way this totally has to be a southern thing. 
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Not sure but I don't think so - I've lived in Atlanta my entire life and never heard of them.  Graduation parties, sure - but never an open house.

And to answer the OP - I don't do FB and don't like it but that's the way things are now.  Seems silly to not give someone money just because they use modern technology to communicate with you.  Maybe they should use carrier pigeon to deliver you the invite?

 
Kids in our area will rake in about $1k for these things.  Open house from say 12-5.  People come and go, food out all day. Most have them in their garages. with chairs/tables set up. Big basket set out for cards/money.....

 
In this day and age, we're expected to celebrate each of our delicate flower's "achievements" like they'd just won the nobel prize.

 
James Daulton said:
In this day and age, we're expected to celebrate each of our delicate flower's "achievements" like they'd just won the nobel prize.
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Um...I graduated nearly 25 years ago and like I said earlier, they've had them as far back as I can remember. Has nothing to do with the completely different topic you mentioned. 

 
Cjw_55106 said:
Um...I graduated nearly 25 years ago and like I said earlier, they've had them as far back as I can remember. Has nothing to do with the completely different topic you mentioned. 
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You must be from a part of the country that was way ahead in celebrating their delicate flowers.  As most of posters have noted, when we graduated (80's) this kind of thing was not done.  Neither were elementary and junior high graduations.      

 
James Daulton said:
You must be from a part of the country that was way ahead in celebrating their delicate flowers.  As most of posters have noted, when we graduated (80's) this kind of thing was not done.  Neither were elementary and junior high graduations.      
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:no: ... Maybe where you are from it wasn't done...  Or maybe it is a "Big school" vs. "Small School" difference...

I graduated from Burnsville in 1986 and it was really the only way to do it... There were over 700 kids that graduated in our class.

 
James Daulton said:
You must be from a part of the country that was way ahead in celebrating their delicate flowers.  As most of posters have noted, when we graduated (80's) this kind of thing was not done.  Neither were elementary and junior high graduations.      
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We had 5th adn 8th grade graduation in the 80's :unsure:

Basically when we switched to a new school

 
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James Daulton said:
You must be from a part of the country that was way ahead in celebrating their delicate flowers.  As most of posters have noted, when we graduated (80's) this kind of thing was not done.  Neither were elementary and junior high graduations.      
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We didn't have elementary or junior high graduations.  :shrug:

 
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