Have you had a midlife crisis? (1 Viewer)

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Can you say whether or not you have had a midlife crisis?

How would you define a midlife crisis?

 

[Geezil]

I think it's the last gasp of childhood. It's all the promises we made ourselves as kids, and one labeled moment in time when some choose to keep at least some of them before we die.

 

[E-Z Glider]

Midlife crisis' are for drama queens.

 

[Geezil]

I'm in the midst of a spelling crisis intertwined with a comma crisis. It's almost a braid, but not quite. Not yet at least.

 

[James Daulton]

Yep. Hit 43'ish, realized that life was half over, got a new car, started to get in shape, etc. Still trying to hold onto as much youth as possible. Not much left to hold onto unfortunately.

 

[CurlyNight]

I see a lot of folks with later years crisis. The reality of life ends showing up on your doorstep having witnessed your grandparents dying, then parents, and then you are next in line. Time does go faster as you get older. You just need to figure out what is really important to you, cut out the crap and negatives, and surround yourself with only people that add quality to your life.

 

[TheIronSheik]

Yep. Hit 43'ish, realized that life was half over, got a new car, started to get in shape, etc. Still trying to hold onto as much youth as possible. Not much left to hold onto unfortunately.

Is getting in shape part of a midlife crisis? My 40th is just 3 weeks away and I can honestly say it's just another birthday for me. But a year ago, I started losing weight and walking more. Mainly because I wanted to be more healthy. Does that count as a midlife crisis?

 

[Horses Mouth]

After doing very little athletic endeavors in my life, at 39 years old I did an Ironman race. Does that count?

 

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I see a lot of folks with later years crisis. The reality of life ends showing up on your doorstep having witnessed your grandparents dying, then parents, and then you are next in line. Time does go faster as you get older. You just need to figure out what is really important to you, cut out the crap and negatives, and surround yourself with only people that add quality to your life.

Yep. Hit 43'ish, realized that life was half over, got a new car, started to get in shape, etc. Still trying to hold onto as much youth as possible. Not much left to hold onto unfortunately.

Is getting in shape part of a midlife crisis? My 40th is just 3 weeks away and I can honestly say it's just another birthday for me. But a year ago, I started losing weight and walking more. Mainly because I wanted to be more healthy. Does that count as a midlife crisis?

This was kind of what I was wondering with the definition. Is it wanting to recapture your youth or is it wanting to get out of a bad situation you've created for yourself while you still have time?

 

[James Daulton]

I see a lot of folks with later years crisis. The reality of life ends showing up on your doorstep having witnessed your grandparents dying, then parents, and then you are next in line. Time does go faster as you get older. You just need to figure out what is really important to you, cut out the crap and negatives, and surround yourself with only people that add quality to your life.

Yep. Hit 43'ish, realized that life was half over, got a new car, started to get in shape, etc. Still trying to hold onto as much youth as possible. Not much left to hold onto unfortunately.

Is getting in shape part of a midlife crisis? My 40th is just 3 weeks away and I can honestly say it's just another birthday for me. But a year ago, I started losing weight and walking more. Mainly because I wanted to be more healthy. Does that count as a midlife crisis?

This was kind of what I was wondering with the definition. Is it wanting to recapture your youth or is it wanting to get out of a bad situation you've created for yourself while you still have time?

That's kind of how I think about it. I think it's you realize that you're no longer young, and your best physical years are really behind you. Making radical changes to maintain some hold onto your youth. In my definition this usually takes the form of younger women, getting in shape, new job, new car, etc.

 

[DSP]

Ill be 30 in may and im already having a bit of a crisis

 

[glock]

I see a lot of folks with later years crisis. The reality of life ends showing up on your doorstep having witnessed your grandparents dying, then parents, and then you are next in line. Time does go faster as you get older. You just need to figure out what is really important to you, cut out the crap and negatives, and surround yourself with only people that add quality to your life.

Yep. Hit 43'ish, realized that life was half over, got a new car, started to get in shape, etc. Still trying to hold onto as much youth as possible. Not much left to hold onto unfortunately.

Is getting in shape part of a midlife crisis? My 40th is just 3 weeks away and I can honestly say it's just another birthday for me. But a year ago, I started losing weight and walking more. Mainly because I wanted to be more healthy. Does that count as a midlife crisis?

This was kind of what I was wondering with the definition. Is it wanting to recapture your youth or is it wanting to get out of a bad situation you've created for yourself while you still have time?

Separation/divorce at 30.

 

[FUBAR]

Yep. Hit 43'ish, realized that life was half over, got a new car, started to get in shape, etc. Still trying to hold onto as much youth as possible. Not much left to hold onto unfortunately.

Is getting in shape part of a midlife crisis? My 40th is just 3 weeks away and I can honestly say it's just another birthday for me. But a year ago, I started losing weight and walking more. Mainly because I wanted to be more healthy. Does that count as a midlife crisis?

I wouldn't think so. Positive lifestyle changes aren't a crisis IMO. Though others could reasonably feel differently. I told my wife yesterday that I was getting a convertible BMW when I reach my midlife crisis in 5 years (our oldest son just turned 11, and 5 years will bring a lot of changes in other ways).

I have recently come to the realization that I need to do a few things before getting older, an Ironman being one. So that will be done in August. I've also thought about checking a few things off my bucket list and have questioned whether my life is where I want it to be (mostly, yes). I checked no... maybe I need to change my vote?

 

[LinusMarr]

I see a lot of folks with later years crisis. The reality of life ends showing up on your doorstep having witnessed your grandparents dying, then parents, and then you are next in line. Time does go faster as you get older. You just need to figure out what is really important to you, cut out the crap and negatives, and surround yourself with only people that add quality to your life.

Yep. Hit 43'ish, realized that life was half over, got a new car, started to get in shape, etc. Still trying to hold onto as much youth as possible. Not much left to hold onto unfortunately.

Is getting in shape part of a midlife crisis? My 40th is just 3 weeks away and I can honestly say it's just another birthday for me. But a year ago, I started losing weight and walking more. Mainly because I wanted to be more healthy. Does that count as a midlife crisis?

This was kind of what I was wondering with the definition. Is it wanting to recapture your youth or is it wanting to get out of a bad situation you've created for yourself while you still have time?

Separation/divorce at 30.

I did my divorce at 43 lol

 

[Clifford]

I'm interested in the young unmanageable post-divorce girlfriend aspect of the mid-life crisis. Can anyone share their experiences?

 

[jwb]

I see a lot of folks with later years crisis. The reality of life ends showing up on your doorstep having witnessed your grandparents dying, then parents, and then you are next in line. Time does go faster as you get older. You just need to figure out what is really important to you, cut out the crap and negatives, and surround yourself with only people that add quality to your life.

Yep. Hit 43'ish, realized that life was half over, got a new car, started to get in shape, etc. Still trying to hold onto as much youth as possible. Not much left to hold onto unfortunately.

Is getting in shape part of a midlife crisis? My 40th is just 3 weeks away and I can honestly say it's just another birthday for me. But a year ago, I started losing weight and walking more. Mainly because I wanted to be more healthy. Does that count as a midlife crisis?

This was kind of what I was wondering with the definition. Is it wanting to recapture your youth or is it wanting to get out of a bad situation you've created for yourself while you still have time?

That's kind of how I think about it. I think it's you realize that you're no longer young, and your best physical years are really behind you. Making radical changes to maintain some hold onto your youth. In my definition this usually takes the form of younger women, getting in shape, new job, new car, etc.

That's prettymuch the classic - divorce, car, get in shape, Rogaine, etc. You look at your life and say "wait, this isn't what I want, and I'm going to change it."

I know someone who just did this. He's 41, was unhappily married, etc. Lost the wife, got the car, lost 80 lbs, younger girlfriend, etc. Says it's not a midlife crisis, that's it's just time for him to be happy.

 

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Still.. the image of midlife crisis is gray hair flapping in the wind driving a convertible ZR1

 

[L5UT1ger]

I'm interested in the young unmanageable post-divorce girlfriend aspect of the mid-life crisis. Can anyone share their experiences?

She was 19 and the niece of the guy whose house i was crashing. I was 30.

 

[Guest]

AT 39 I had legit washboard abs.

At 40 I was messing around with my 20-something assistant.

Got Divorced.

Got a tattoo.

Got a motorcycle.

Got a different job. (See: messing around with 20-something assistant.)

Yadda-yadda-yadda

Not sure if that is considered a mid-life crisis.

 

[pats3in4]

Early 40s and marriage is on the rocks, but more of a case of waiting way too long to end years of bullfeces. I wouldn't call it a midlife crisis, but maybe it is. Where is the line drawn between "desperate attempt to hold onto one's youth" and "realize life is too short to waste with toxic relationships"?

 

[Fennis]

I would like to have one

 

[ShaqAttaq]

I'm turning 43 tomorrow, and I had one about 3 - 4 years ago. Not really about turning 40 per se, but I just started evaluating my job and career realizing that I was running out of time to make significant changes. I considered a reboot, but ultimately chose to quit my job and go work for a competitor.

No car, divorce, or hair plugs. It really didn't occur to me that it was a "mmidlife crisis" until it was over.

 

[CurlyNight]

One shouldn't wait until a crisis or a certain age to evaluate. Life is short, you could be gone tomorrow. Make good with your life now.

 

[Binky The Doormat]

55 - hasn't hit yet. Laid off and retired a couple months ago. I am growing my hair longer and thinking about growing a full southern colonel "flavor savor" type arrangement on the lower part of my face if that counts.

 

[BobbyLayne]

I'm a 51 divorcee banging a 23 y.o. spinner.

I'll try to keep good notes and report back once I get over my MLC.

 

[elguapo07]

I'm a 51 divorcee banging a 23 y.o. spinner.

I'll try to keep good notes and report back once I get over my MLC.

Atta boy

 

[BigSteelThrill]

I'm living the dream. Midlife has been absolutely awesome.

 

[Abraham]

I had one last year and documented it in the Jim tan. Mine didn't manifest in a new car and exercise but rather in self destructive behavior that nearly cost me my family and everything I hold dear now but didn't see at the time.

 

[TheIronSheik]

I would like to have one

Yeah. Sadly, I can't afford one in this economy. Thanks a lot, Obama.

 

[glock]

55 - hasn't hit yet. Laid off and retired a couple months ago. I am growing my hair longer and thinking about growing a full southern colonel "flavor savor" type arrangement on the lower part of my face if that counts.

Totally going to pot then, are we?

 

[Clifford]

AT 39 I had legit washboard abs.

At 40 I was messing around with my 20-something assistant.

Got Divorced.

Got a tattoo.

Got a motorcycle.

Got a different job. (See: messing around with 20-something assistant.)

Yadda-yadda-yadda

Not sure if that is considered a mid-life crisis.

textbook

 

[Clifford]

I'm interested in the young unmanageable post-divorce girlfriend aspect of the mid-life crisis. Can anyone share their experiences?

She was 19 and the niece of the guy whose house i was crashing. I was 30.

This seems to be more of a downward spiral...

 

[Bull Dozier]

One shouldn't wait until a crisis or a certain age to evaluate. Life is short, you could be gone tomorrow. Make good with your life now.

I'd like to agree with this but sometimes people need a crisis to make a serious change in their life.

 

[Jobber]

Yep. Hit 43'ish, realized that life was half over, got a new car, started to get in shape, etc. Still trying to hold onto as much youth as possible. Not much left to hold onto unfortunately.

Not a crisis unless said car is a Miata or other convertible.

Me, I'm 41. No crisis for me (yet) but I've decided I'll buy a decent car next time around. Probably somehwere in the $25k range.

 

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Early 40s and marriage is on the rocks, but more of a case of waiting way too long to end years of bullfeces. I wouldn't call it a midlife crisis, but maybe it is. Where is the line drawn between "desperate attempt to hold onto one's youth" and "realize life is too short to waste with toxic relationships"?

I think they are 2 completely different things. It seems a midlife crisis is mostly the first type as people think of it.

 

[James Daulton]

Yep. Hit 43'ish, realized that life was half over, got a new car, started to get in shape, etc. Still trying to hold onto as much youth as possible. Not much left to hold onto unfortunately.

Not a crisis unless said car is a Miata or other convertible.

Me, I'm 41. No crisis for me (yet) but I've decided I'll buy a decent car next time around. Probably somehwere in the $25k range.

lol convertible bmw. That said, I've always liked convertibles. When the wife and I first started to go to key west we three times flew into Ft. Lauderdale and rented a convertible for our stay (typically 3 -4 nights) for the drive over the keys. That cost at least double what a regular car would have cost, I just dig riding with the top down. I actually would have gotten a jeep but the wife vetoed because her brother had one and said the ride was too rough.

 

[CurlyNight]

One shouldn't wait until a crisis or a certain age to evaluate. Life is short, you could be gone tomorrow. Make good with your life now.

I'd like to agree with this but sometimes people need a crisis to make a serious change in their life.

This is true for people who are afraid of change.

 

[Bull Dozier]

One shouldn't wait until a crisis or a certain age to evaluate. Life is short, you could be gone tomorrow. Make good with your life now.

I'd like to agree with this but sometimes people need a crisis to make a serious change in their life.

This is true for people who are afraid of change.

Or for the lazy. Inertia is a powerful thing.

 

[Mookie]

I feel one coming on. 46 and relatively happily married with a good job, solid friends, and only 10 lbs too many. I have this nagging sense that I need to find something new and challenging in my life but I have no idea what it is.

 

[CurlyNight]

I feel one coming on. 46 and relatively happily married with a good job, solid friends, and only 10 lbs too many. I have this nagging sense that I need to find something new and challenging in my life but I have no idea what it is.

It's easy to get in a rut even when life is going great. Hobbies are awesome, activities, sports, whatever you have an interest in. I know folks who can't find a hobby they like volunteer. Volunteering for something you feel strongly about is a powerful feeling. Just a thought as imo in life you need to feel like you are contributing more than the same ole to feel good about yourself.

 

[CurlyNight]

One shouldn't wait until a crisis or a certain age to evaluate. Life is short, you could be gone tomorrow. Make good with your life now.

I'd like to agree with this but sometimes people need a crisis to make a serious change in their life.

This is true for people who are afraid of change.

Or for the lazy. Inertia is a powerful thing.

That too.

 

[Two Deep]

I set a goal to make seventy...so at 35... got a divorce, got a red Mustang, got a 20 year old girlfriend and went to the bar every night.

The divorce lasted 6 years, the mustang lasted 3 years, the 20 year old lasted a glorious 8 months and the bar is still there.

 

[Horses Mouth]

I had one last year and documented it in the Jim tan. Mine didn't manifest in a new car and exercise but rather in self destructive behavior that nearly cost me my family and everything I hold dear now but didn't see at the time.

link?

 

[bostonfred]

I set a goal to make seventy...so at 35... got a divorce, got a red Mustang, got a 20 year old girlfriend and went to the bar every night.

The divorce lasted 6 years, the mustang lasted 3 years, the 20 year old lasted a glorious 8 months and the bar is still there.

Wait, you're back with your ex wife after all that?

 

[Spike]

One shouldn't wait until a crisis or a certain age to evaluate. Life is short, you could be gone tomorrow. Make good with your life now.

I'd like to agree with this but sometimes people need a crisis to make a serious change in their life.

This is true for people who are afraid of change.

Great, great point.