My older brother and I are not overly close. We see each other mainly on holiday's and family birthday's. Although we get along well, we're just completely different. My brother is very outgoing socially to a point where he's completely over the top at times. Everything with him is a debate; he'll bring political conversation into every discussion no matter the participants, and he seems to have different views on such a variety of topics that I often wonder if he'd take any side just to have a debate. My brother loves his craft beer, I've seen him take a down a 6 pack like drinking water, and that's often why he tends to be a bit loud.
My brother is a smart person; he was always a good student until he got involved with different drugs. He is well aware of the world events, but I think he has not taken advantage of his smarts. Since graduating from college, he has been a manager of a fast food chain. He talks about getting a better job, but never actually does. He doesn't make much money, I think he lives pay check to pay check, and I don't think he has a savings account.
I have another brother and a sister. My other brother recently told me that my brother's teeth are literally falling out of his mouth. My older brother apparently doesn't like to smile because that will show his teeth, and he won't eat certain foods as they will make his teeth crack. I'm not the most observant person; for example, I probably wouldn't notice the condition of his teeth. Anyways, my younger brother told me he would take him to his dentist to have his teeth looked at, and get an estimate of how much and what was a priority, etc. That hasn't happened, and I don't think it will.
My sister is going to be getting together with him in a few weeks. She said she would bring it up to him, but only if the timing was right. My sister believes he has a major anxiety dis-order that impacts all aspects of his live, and that helps to explain why even his teeth falling out doesn't propel him to get help. From a financial perspective, my parents and myself are willing to help him; i know he doesn't ask for help, but in this situation, I feel like an intervention is necessary.
Right now, I am ashamed that I haven't helped my brother, and this is where he's at. I know he's a grown man, and I shouldn't have to step in. I also know that I can't force him to go. He has to be the one who wants to go.
So, how do I help my brother? Can I help him?
My brother is a smart person; he was always a good student until he got involved with different drugs. He is well aware of the world events, but I think he has not taken advantage of his smarts. Since graduating from college, he has been a manager of a fast food chain. He talks about getting a better job, but never actually does. He doesn't make much money, I think he lives pay check to pay check, and I don't think he has a savings account.
I have another brother and a sister. My other brother recently told me that my brother's teeth are literally falling out of his mouth. My older brother apparently doesn't like to smile because that will show his teeth, and he won't eat certain foods as they will make his teeth crack. I'm not the most observant person; for example, I probably wouldn't notice the condition of his teeth. Anyways, my younger brother told me he would take him to his dentist to have his teeth looked at, and get an estimate of how much and what was a priority, etc. That hasn't happened, and I don't think it will.
My sister is going to be getting together with him in a few weeks. She said she would bring it up to him, but only if the timing was right. My sister believes he has a major anxiety dis-order that impacts all aspects of his live, and that helps to explain why even his teeth falling out doesn't propel him to get help. From a financial perspective, my parents and myself are willing to help him; i know he doesn't ask for help, but in this situation, I feel like an intervention is necessary.
Right now, I am ashamed that I haven't helped my brother, and this is where he's at. I know he's a grown man, and I shouldn't have to step in. I also know that I can't force him to go. He has to be the one who wants to go.
So, how do I help my brother? Can I help him?
