How often do you get laid? (1 Viewer)

[James Daulton]

Oh- and how many of you guys would need wild horses to drag you out to see that 50 Shades flick for Valentines Day because the "little" woman wanted to? You're not helping your cause...

Thankfully my wife has no desire to see a film glamorizing abuse.

come on

Seriously, a film glamorizing female abuse based on a book written by a female for females and directed by a female. Yea, women should be up in arms about it.

Never said they should be, though there's plenty of people who feel that way. my wife just doesn't want to see it. Neither do my female co-workers. Or male for that matter.

Not wanting to see the movie is understandable. To say that the film glamorizes abuse is completely silly.

 

[comfortably numb]

Surprised how much has been caught with that stinky bait

 

[James Daulton]

I would not be able to stay married in a sexless marriage. I'm not sure if that's shallow, but that's the truth. I'm not interested in a sexless marraige at all. That's a big part of being married. That's like getting married and then springing on the wife that you are going to live off the grid. Just not part of what she signed up for at all.

Now, taking it a step further. Those in a sexless marriage that tolerate it, what is unacceptable to you? What if she told you she cheated once ten years ago but it was a one off thing and she is very sorry? How can you offer unconditional love to somebody who obviously doesn't reciprocate? That's not love. I mean, I spent 4 hours in a car in a blizzard to go see a performance I had no interest at all in seeing. I did it because I love my wife and kids. If she's not even willing to try and have sex, that just seems totally out of whack to me.

I think part of the problem is that the expectation is that, once "settled down", modern man puts most of his own wants aside for the family. If this means that sex changes radically or dwindles, too bad. It's better for the family if we don't complain or put too many expectations on our spouses. She's tired, works hard, has kids all day, etc. Don't ask too much or you're being selfish. Biologically sex is an important element of male's life. The urgency is likely different at 40 than it was at 20, but it doesn't go away. For men who willingly go into almost abstinence while still being relatively young is a disservice to themselves.

 

[Sabertooth]

I agree with you for the most part but would like to hear from some of the guys who are actually living that situation out. I suspect access to porn plays a big role as well because it is so easy to scratch the itch nowadays without upsetting the apple cart so to speak.

 

[Sabertooth]

More succinctly, if the wife pulls sex off the table after the vows are spoken and that's not breaking the marriage contract, what is?

 

[James Daulton]

I agree with you for the most part but would like to hear from some of the guys who are actually living that situation out. I suspect access to porn plays a big role as well because it is so easy to scratch the itch nowadays without upsetting the apple cart so to speak.

Really sad if men use porn to largely replace sex with the woman they married.

 

[FUBAR]

More succinctly, if the wife pulls sex off the table after the vows are spoken and that's not breaking the marriage contract, what is?

what exactly do you mean by pulling sex off the table? If you mean having her say "we're not going to have sex any more, I don't want it, too bad", that's one thing. allowing life to get in the way while she still says we need to work on our physical relationship is different, but at the same time frustrating.

 

[shadyridr]

I dont understand whats so wow about me saying i love bjs and i wouldn't have fallen in love with someone who didnt give them to me

I think Keerock's issue was that you stated you would leave your wife if you didn't get your BJs. I'm not judging and I love the secks as much as the next guy, but that amazes me too. I can't imagine leaving your spouse because you aren't getting oral secks. Totally blows me away (no pun intended).

This. It reeks of being really, really shallow.

So if your wife stopped having sex with you for years you wouldnt think about divorce? Getting some on the side? Is that shallow?

 

[Tennessee_ATO]

I dont understand whats so wow about me saying i love bjs and i wouldn't have fallen in love with someone who didnt give them to me

I think Keerock's issue was that you stated you would leave your wife if you didn't get your BJs. I'm not judging and I love the secks as much as the next guy, but that amazes me too. I can't imagine leaving your spouse because you aren't getting oral secks. Totally blows me away (no pun intended).

This. It reeks of being really, really shallow.

So if your wife stopped having sex with you for years you wouldnt think about divorce? Getting some on the side? Is that shallow?

That's not the same as not getting a beej.

 

[Keerock]

I dont understand whats so wow about me saying i love bjs and i wouldn't have fallen in love with someone who didnt give them to me

I think Keerock's issue was that you stated you would leave your wife if you didn't get your BJs. I'm not judging and I love the secks as much as the next guy, but that amazes me too. I can't imagine leaving your spouse because you aren't getting oral secks. Totally blows me away (no pun intended).

This. It reeks of being really, really shallow.

So if your wife stopped having sex with you for years you wouldnt think about divorce? Getting some on the side? Is that shallow?

That's not the same as not getting a beej.

I think it's time to give up with him... he doesn't get it.

 

[Tom Servo]

I dont understand whats so wow about me saying i love bjs and i wouldn't have fallen in love with someone who didnt give them to me

I think Keerock's issue was that you stated you would leave your wife if you didn't get your BJs. I'm not judging and I love the secks as much as the next guy, but that amazes me too. I can't imagine leaving your spouse because you aren't getting oral secks. Totally blows me away (no pun intended).

This. It reeks of being really, really shallow.

So if your wife stopped having sex with you for years you wouldnt think about divorce? Getting some on the side? Is that shallow?

Way to totally deflect my comment. Not getting any sex <> not getting any hummers.

 

[Tennessee_ATO]

I dont understand whats so wow about me saying i love bjs and i wouldn't have fallen in love with someone who didnt give them to me

I think Keerock's issue was that you stated you would leave your wife if you didn't get your BJs. I'm not judging and I love the secks as much as the next guy, but that amazes me too. I can't imagine leaving your spouse because you aren't getting oral secks. Totally blows me away (no pun intended).

This. It reeks of being really, really shallow.

So if your wife stopped having sex with you for years you wouldnt think about divorce? Getting some on the side? Is that shallow?

That's not the same as not getting a beej.

I think it's time to give up with him... he doesn't get it.

You may be right. Even the completely unrelated hypothetical has problems. If my wife suddenly stopped having sex w/ me, I would try to figure out why. I would talk to her about it way before it had been going on for years. The why would matter far more than anything else.

 

[shadyridr]

I dont understand whats so wow about me saying i love bjs and i wouldn't have fallen in love with someone who didnt give them to me

I think Keerock's issue was that you stated you would leave your wife if you didn't get your BJs. I'm not judging and I love the secks as much as the next guy, but that amazes me too. I can't imagine leaving your spouse because you aren't getting oral secks. Totally blows me away (no pun intended).

This. It reeks of being really, really shallow.

So if your wife stopped having sex with you for years you wouldnt think about divorce? Getting some on the side? Is that shallow?

Way to totally deflect my comment. Not getting any sex <> not getting any hummers.

For you maybe. For me sex and hummers are basically equivalent. If I had a furry fetish and I met my wife at a furry convention and then she stopped dressing up as a furry after we got married I would be pretty damn pissed. Not saying hummers are a fetish but how are sex and hummers not equivalent?

 

[shadyridr]

I dont understand whats so wow about me saying i love bjs and i wouldn't have fallen in love with someone who didnt give them to me

I think Keerock's issue was that you stated you would leave your wife if you didn't get your BJs. I'm not judging and I love the secks as much as the next guy, but that amazes me too. I can't imagine leaving your spouse because you aren't getting oral secks. Totally blows me away (no pun intended).

This. It reeks of being really, really shallow.

So if your wife stopped having sex with you for years you wouldnt think about divorce? Getting some on the side? Is that shallow?

That's not the same as not getting a beej.

Why not? They are both very important to me.

 

[shadyridr]

I dont understand whats so wow about me saying i love bjs and i wouldn't have fallen in love with someone who didnt give them to me

I think Keerock's issue was that you stated you would leave your wife if you didn't get your BJs. I'm not judging and I love the secks as much as the next guy, but that amazes me too. I can't imagine leaving your spouse because you aren't getting oral secks. Totally blows me away (no pun intended).

This. It reeks of being really, really shallow.

So if your wife stopped having sex with you for years you wouldnt think about divorce? Getting some on the side? Is that shallow?

That's not the same as not getting a beej.

I think it's time to give up with him... he doesn't get it.

You may be right. Even the completely unrelated hypothetical has problems. If my wife suddenly stopped having sex w/ me, I would try to figure out why. I would talk to her about it way before it had been going on for years. The why would matter far more than anything else.

If my wife stopped giving me bjs I wouldn't get divorced on the spot obviously. There would obviously be much discussion and trying to figure out why. I never said it would be an instant divorce.

 

[comfortably numb]

http://www.troll.me/images/ancient-aliens-guy/i-need-a-blow-job.jpg

 

[Leroy Hoard]

The Mormons might have had the right idea. Marry 7 women and assign each their own sex day.

 

[Mad Cow]

The Mormons might have had the right idea. Marry 7 women and assign each their own sex day.

You know what the worst part of multiple wives is?

Spoiler

Multiple mothers in law

 

[Leroy Hoard]

The Mormons might have had the right idea. Marry 7 women and assign each their own sex day.

You know what the worst part of multiple wives is?

Spoiler

Multiple mothers in law

Spoiler

That and if their periods all get synced .......

 

[Tennessee_ATO]

I dont understand whats so wow about me saying i love bjs and i wouldn't have fallen in love with someone who didnt give them to me

I think Keerock's issue was that you stated you would leave your wife if you didn't get your BJs. I'm not judging and I love the secks as much as the next guy, but that amazes me too. I can't imagine leaving your spouse because you aren't getting oral secks. Totally blows me away (no pun intended).

This. It reeks of being really, really shallow.

So if your wife stopped having sex with you for years you wouldnt think about divorce? Getting some on the side? Is that shallow?

That's not the same as not getting a beej.

I think it's time to give up with him... he doesn't get it.

You may be right. Even the completely unrelated hypothetical has problems. If my wife suddenly stopped having sex w/ me, I would try to figure out why. I would talk to her about it way before it had been going on for years. The why would matter far more than anything else.

If my wife stopped giving me bjs I wouldn't get divorced on the spot obviously. There would obviously be much discussion and trying to figure out why. I never said it would be an instant divorce.

But you clearly said no BJs = divorce.

 

[shadyridr]

I dont understand whats so wow about me saying i love bjs and i wouldn't have fallen in love with someone who didnt give them to me

I think Keerock's issue was that you stated you would leave your wife if you didn't get your BJs. I'm not judging and I love the secks as much as the next guy, but that amazes me too. I can't imagine leaving your spouse because you aren't getting oral secks. Totally blows me away (no pun intended).

This. It reeks of being really, really shallow.

So if your wife stopped having sex with you for years you wouldnt think about divorce? Getting some on the side? Is that shallow?

That's not the same as not getting a beej.

I think it's time to give up with him... he doesn't get it.

You may be right. Even the completely unrelated hypothetical has problems. If my wife suddenly stopped having sex w/ me, I would try to figure out why. I would talk to her about it way before it had been going on for years. The why would matter far more than anything else.

If my wife stopped giving me bjs I wouldn't get divorced on the spot obviously. There would obviously be much discussion and trying to figure out why. I never said it would be an instant divorce.

But you clearly said no BJs = divorce.

Meaning if after figuring out why and its not physical related and she still refuses, then yes.

 

[James Daulton]

I dont understand whats so wow about me saying i love bjs and i wouldn't have fallen in love with someone who didnt give them to me

I think Keerock's issue was that you stated you would leave your wife if you didn't get your BJs. I'm not judging and I love the secks as much as the next guy, but that amazes me too. I can't imagine leaving your spouse because you aren't getting oral secks. Totally blows me away (no pun intended).

This. It reeks of being really, really shallow.

So if your wife stopped having sex with you for years you wouldnt think about divorce? Getting some on the side? Is that shallow?

Way to totally deflect my comment. Not getting any sex <> not getting any hummers.

For you maybe. For me sex and hummers are basically equivalent. If I had a furry fetish and I met my wife at a furry convention and then she stopped dressing up as a furry after we got married I would be pretty damn pissed. Not saying hummers are a fetish but how are sex and hummers not equivalent?

This. Why is it so wrong to expect sex post-marriage to at least resemble what it did pre-marriage?

 

[Mad Cow]

Bait or not, man, some FBG's are looking amazingly shallow. I have been here since Day 1, but wow, this is pretty eye opening.

 

[shadyridr]

Bait or not, man, some FBG's are looking amazingly shallow. I have been here since Day 1, but wow, this is pretty eye opening.

Not all of us can have 7 wives so if one wife doesn't put out we can just move on to the next one

 

[Tennessee_ATO]

I dont understand whats so wow about me saying i love bjs and i wouldn't have fallen in love with someone who didnt give them to me

I think Keerock's issue was that you stated you would leave your wife if you didn't get your BJs. I'm not judging and I love the secks as much as the next guy, but that amazes me too. I can't imagine leaving your spouse because you aren't getting oral secks. Totally blows me away (no pun intended).

This. It reeks of being really, really shallow.

So if your wife stopped having sex with you for years you wouldnt think about divorce? Getting some on the side? Is that shallow?

Way to totally deflect my comment. Not getting any sex <> not getting any hummers.

For you maybe. For me sex and hummers are basically equivalent. If I had a furry fetish and I met my wife at a furry convention and then she stopped dressing up as a furry after we got married I would be pretty damn pissed. Not saying hummers are a fetish but how are sex and hummers not equivalent?

This. Why is it so wrong to expect sex post-marriage to at least resemble what it did pre-marriage?

I don't think anyone has said that it is wrong.

Whatever floats your boat as far as I'm concerned, but I don't think it's fair to get indignant because someone wonders about the foundation of a marriage after you announce that it hinges on the frequency of hummers.

Personally I've been blown by a lot of chicks in my life. Didn't want to marry any of them except my wife, and her BJ technique had absolutely nothing to do with why I wanted to marry her. We all have lists of priorities and things that are important in our marriages. I guess BJs are on my list somewhere, just way on down the list.

And doesn't it create potential issues on down the road? What happens post menopause when/if your wife's sex drive diminishes? Kick her to the curb if she doesn't suck it up and take it for team (by which I mean, take it for you)?

 

[Tom Servo]

I dont understand whats so wow about me saying i love bjs and i wouldn't have fallen in love with someone who didnt give them to me

I think Keerock's issue was that you stated you would leave your wife if you didn't get your BJs. I'm not judging and I love the secks as much as the next guy, but that amazes me too. I can't imagine leaving your spouse because you aren't getting oral secks. Totally blows me away (no pun intended).

This. It reeks of being really, really shallow.

So if your wife stopped having sex with you for years you wouldnt think about divorce? Getting some on the side? Is that shallow?

Way to totally deflect my comment. Not getting any sex <> not getting any hummers.

For you maybe. For me sex and hummers are basically equivalent. If I had a furry fetish and I met my wife at a furry convention and then she stopped dressing up as a furry after we got married I would be pretty damn pissed. Not saying hummers are a fetish but how are sex and hummers not equivalent?

This. Why is it so wrong to expect sex post-marriage to at least resemble what it did pre-marriage?

I don't think anyone has said that it is wrong.

Whatever floats your boat as far as I'm concerned, but I don't think it's fair to get indignant because someone wonders about the foundation of a marriage after you announce that it hinges on the frequency of hummers.

Personally I've been blown by a lot of chicks in my life. Didn't want to marry any of them except my wife, and her BJ technique had absolutely nothing to do with why I wanted to marry her. We all have lists of priorities and things that are important in our marriages. I guess BJs are on my list somewhere, just way on down the list.

And doesn't it create potential issues on down the road? What happens post menopause when/if your wife's sex drive diminishes? Kick her to the curb if she doesn't suck it up and take it for team (by which I mean, take it for you)?

I've had hummers; they're meh to me. If I never got another one ever, it wouldn't bother me in the slightest. I much prefer soaking the walls instead.

As someone who never had a close and personal friend growing up, my wife meets that need perfectly. I value the companionship and the non-sexual aspect of intimacy quite highly. She literally gives my life purpose and meaning. If she died, I really don't know what I'd do as far as remarriage.

 

[Bucky86]

Unfortunately, in my experience the only chicks that are good at bj's are usually bat #### crazy. My gf isn't very good, but she tries. Ain't nothing wrong with a mediocre bj before work in the morning.

 

[glock]

Wow. Thread title change needed here.

That is all.

 

[Keerock]

Unfortunately, in my experience the only chicks that are good at bj's are usually bat #### crazy. My gf isn't very good, but she tries. Ain't nothing wrong with a mediocre bj before work in the morning.

Or fat, or extremely ugly.

ETA: or some combination of the three...

 

[glock]

BTW- the ground rules for just what constitutes "oral" haven't been clearly laid out in this thread. I'm thinking that some here might be in the "swallowing the seed or it didn't happen" camp.

 

[loser]

Nomarriage.com

 

[FUBAR]

 

[snogger]

Bait or not, man, some FBG's are looking amazingly shallow. I have been here since Day 1, but wow, this is pretty eye opening.

Love means more to me than Oral.. If my wife told me tomorrow we'd continue to do the but no more oral I'd be very disappointed.. But it isn't the death punch for our marriage.

 

[loser]

Bait or not, man, some FBG's are looking amazingly shallow. I have been here since Day 1, but wow, this is pretty eye opening.

Love means more to me than Oral.. If my wife told me tomorrow we'd continue to do the but no more oral I'd be very disappointed.. But it isn't the death punch for our marriage.

You should really get into the greeting card business.

 

[Tennessee_ATO]

Bait or not, man, some FBG's are looking amazingly shallow. I have been here since Day 1, but wow, this is pretty eye opening.

Love means more to me than Oral.. If my wife told me tomorrow we'd continue to do the but no more oral I'd be very disappointed.. But it isn't the death punch for our marriage.

You should really get into the greeting card business.

Good stuff right there.

 

[snogger]

Bait or not, man, some FBG's are looking amazingly shallow. I have been here since Day 1, but wow, this is pretty eye opening.

Love means more to me than Oral.. If my wife told me tomorrow we'd continue to do the but no more oral I'd be very disappointed.. But it isn't the death punch for our marriage.

You should really get into the greeting card business.

 

[Sabertooth]

More succinctly, if the wife pulls sex off the table after the vows are spoken and that's not breaking the marriage contract, what is?

what exactly do you mean by pulling sex off the table? If you mean having her say "we're not going to have sex any more, I don't want it, too bad", that's one thing. allowing life to get in the way while she still says we need to work on our physical relationship is different, but at the same time frustrating.

I agree. Didn't really think of it that way.

 

[tonydead]

So the shallow BJ people are the same people that don't really

Unfortunately, in my experience the only chicks that are good at bj's are usually bat #### crazy. My gf isn't very good, but she tries. Ain't nothing wrong with a mediocre bj before work in the morning.

Or fat, or extremely ugly.

ETA: or some combination of the three...

Your past experiences most likely influence your opinion of it being shallow.

 

[tonydead]

Tons of marriages fail because of lack of sex or other problems in that department. Specifically saying BJs is the same thing it's just taking it one step further. Nothing shallow about it in my opinion.

And please stop with the menopause nonsense. I get more Bjs because menopause can make the vag sex uncomfortable.

 

[Tom Servo]

Tons of marriages fail because of lack of sex or other problems in that department. Specifically saying BJs is the same thing it's just taking it one step further. Nothing shallow about it in my opinion.

And please stop with the menopause nonsense. I get more Bjs because menopause can make the vag sex uncomfortable.

I see Bill Clinton posts here.

 

[eoMMan]

"Your honor, I don't feel I should owe spousal support. She clearly didn't honor her vows when she neglected to put her lips on my sweaty penis."

 

[belljr]

People you are forgetting. For this pole oral during foreplay does not count. It needs to be a standalone act.

 

[Tom Servo]

People you are forgetting. For this pole oral during foreplay does not count. It needs to be a standalone act.

Oh, we haven't forgotten. Shady makes darn sure we - like Pepperidge Farm - remembers.

 

[pizzatyme]

Bait or not, man, some FBG's are looking amazingly shallow. I have been here since Day 1, but wow, this is pretty eye opening.

Love means more to me than Oral.. If my wife told me tomorrow we'd continue to do the but no more oral I'd be very disappointed.. But it isn't the death punch for our marriage.

What if she told you tomorrow that there no more sex? Does love mean more than sex to you?

 

[tonydead]

Tons of marriages fail because of lack of sex or other problems in that department. Specifically saying BJs is the same thing it's just taking it one step further. Nothing shallow about it in my opinion.

And please stop with the menopause nonsense. I get more Bjs because menopause can make the vag sex uncomfortable.

I see Bill Clinton posts here.

Sorry, no sex can be an issue with marriage but no BJs can't? I can't make that leap.

 

[shadyridr]

Technically the bjs aren't shallow :drumroll:

 

[glock]

People you are forgetting. For this pole oral during foreplay does not count. It needs to be a standalone act.

Didn't see this stated in here. All of this back and forth has been about men getting their shorts in a bunch because their wimmin don't service them outside of foreplay??

RLY?

 

[shadyridr]

Im stunned at the 40% still

 

[James Daulton]

Im stunned at the 40% still

I was at first too, but the more posts I read the more I believe it.

 

[snogger]

Bait or not, man, some FBG's are looking amazingly shallow. I have been here since Day 1, but wow, this is pretty eye opening.

Love means more to me than Oral.. If my wife told me tomorrow we'd continue to do the but no more oral I'd be very disappointed.. But it isn't the death punch for our marriage.

What if she told you tomorrow that there no more sex? Does love mean more than sex to you?

Yes, love to me is more then just Sex.. Once to twice a week right now is great.. But sooner or later( Hopefully a LOT later ) the amount of sex between us will be reduced... The relationship I have built with her over the past 24+ years will always mean more to me then the sex we have..

Let's go down a complete Rabbit hole with probably no return..

Your S.O. gets in an accident tomorrow and is paralyzed from the neck down.. Do you get a divorce because they can no longer have sex??