I was wrong about ___________? (1 Viewer)

[Ministry of Pain]

I'm not offended. I think you're a good dude, too.  I think MOP is a good dude.  I think everyone's been very tense for a while.

I'm just gonna go ahead and explain my behavior tonight because you deserve the truth. The rest of the peeps don't but you do. 

I go to the doctor and it's the Gastro whatever specialist and he tells me I'm partly responsible for giving myself IBS thru my anxiety...I said What? He says it's just dripping off me. He said, did you look around the wait room? I said yeah, youngest by 20 years. He says yeah and you better get your stress levels down. Blood pressure 120/80, not sure what he is talking about but now I have anxiety and stress about anxiety and stress I don't think I really have. Of course the doctor has a magic pill for me at the end, I scoffed. 

 

[Sabertooth]

I was wrong about people who I thought were my friends after suffering the greatest loss one could ever imagine.

Sorry man.  

 

[Sabertooth]

I'm just gonna go ahead and explain my behavior tonight because you deserve the truth. The rest of the peeps don't but you do. 

I go to the doctor and it's the Gastro whatever specialist and he tells me I'm partly responsible for giving myself IBS thru my anxiety...I said What? He says it's just dripping off me. He said, did you look around the wait room? I said yeah, youngest by 20 years. He says yeah and you better get your stress levels down. Blood pressure 120/80, not sure what he is talking about but now I have anxiety and stress about anxiety and stress I don't think I really have. Of course the doctor has a magic pill for me at the end, I scoffed. 

How's the Diet and fitness?  #### pills.  

 

[Sabertooth]

I was wrong about where babies came from. I was absolutely certain that they came out of your butt.

I was pretty sure girls peed out of their butt.  

 

[James Daulton]

I'm just gonna go ahead and explain my behavior tonight because you deserve the truth. The rest of the peeps don't but you do. 

I go to the doctor and it's the Gastro whatever specialist and he tells me I'm partly responsible for giving myself IBS thru my anxiety...I said What? He says it's just dripping off me. He said, did you look around the wait room? I said yeah, youngest by 20 years. He says yeah and you better get your stress levels down. Blood pressure 120/80, not sure what he is talking about but now I have anxiety and stress about anxiety and stress I don't think I really have. Of course the doctor has a magic pill for me at the end, I scoffed. 

Why'd you even bother going to a doctor?  They're all money grubbers who care for nothing except how much coin they can extract from you.  Be true to your beliefs and don't ever go to a doctor again.

 

[Workhorse]

On a serious note - the quantum physics double slit experiment exposing how little we know about the nature of reality...  it has really bothered me ever since I first saw it.  https://youtu.be/DfPeprQ7oGc

I agree with this.  The downstream ramifications of this (multiverse theory, reality as simulation) are jarring.

 

[mr. furley]

MIne is similar. I used to believe poor people have plenty of opportunity to make it out of poverty too, because anyone who works hard enough will achieve the American dream of a home and family that can be supported by your income. 

and i always thought people would age out of this belief but it seems like, at least around here, folks triple and quadruple down on the thought that the less fortunate are just lazy bloodsuckers who deserve their fate.

sad, really

glad to hear some can see the light 

 

[Higgs]

I agree with this.  The downstream ramifications of this (multiverse theory, reality as simulation) are jarring.

They really are.  #### has kept me up at night.

 

[Jayrod]

They really are.  #### has kept me up at night.

The more we know, the more we realize how little we know.

"The most incomprehensible thing about the world is that it is comprehensible." - Albert Einstein

 

[Higgs]

The more we know, the more we realize how little we know.

"The most incomprehensible thing about the world is that it is comprehensible." - Albert Einstein

Which is why a guy like Einstein is so amazing.  He looked at the world differently than everyone else.  He didn't blindly accept conventional logic.  One of the greatest theoretical physicists is a surfer dude out in Hawaii.  God bless those who have the balls to think outside the box.  We don't know jack #### about the nature of reality.

 

[Gr00vus]

-Higgs, Beaver, HellToupe, Card Trader, William Munny, they are all good posters too

Apart from HellToupe, you're wrong here. About as wrong as it gets with those 4.

 

[matuski]

sure I can love someone who jaywalked while hating the jaywalking, but you can't love someone who's religious and have actual hate in your heart for their religion - it's too much of them.

I don't know how you could hate religion this much.   Most every person I love in this world is religious.

 

[Henry Ford]

I don't know how you could hate religion this much.   Most every person in this world I love is religious.

I don't know how people could hate homosexuality or transgender status, or other races.  Hate is a funny thing that way.

 

[Don't Noonan]

I don't know how people could hate homosexuality or transgender status, or other races.  Hate is a funny thing that way.

I think most religious folks don't hate homosexuals or transgenders, they just believe there is something mentally wrong with them.

 

[Henry Ford]

I think most religious folks don't hate homosexuals or transgenders, they just believe there is something mentally wrong with them.

I don't believe I made a statement about how many people or of what background hate any group of people.

 

[Chemical X]

the collective smarts of our nation as whole.

 

[wikkidpissah]

I don't know how people could hate homosexuality or transgender status, or other races.  Hate is a funny thing that way.

Ironically, it's religion that is likely preventing the challenge of sexual identity's Constitutional protection.

Essentially, sexuality is not purely a state of birth, like race or gender. To have any kind of sexuality, hetero or homo or virgo or whateverOs, beyond procreative function is a choice. And, eventually, science will almost certainly prove that sexuality is a hormonal spectrum and does not purely dictate belief nor practice. However, neither can religion be protected as a birthright. It was naturally assumed that one inherited one's father's religion when the Constitution was written because that was the highly abiding state of things at the time. To challenge sexuality as a birthright would open religion, now that that choice is as open as a lot of "settled" law presently is, to similar scrutiny.

I wonder if religious fundamentalists would trade one protection to challenge the other?

ETA: And that is why, as i think Mr. Ford is saying, tolerance MUST become a part of decency.

 

[Reg Lllama of Brixton]

I think most religious folks don't hate homosexuals or transgenders, they just believe there is something mentally wrong with them.

Being surrounded by religious folk, I disagree.   

 

[matuski]

Being surrounded by religious folk, I disagree.   

I don't think religion is the source of the hate.

The hate is grounded in fear of what you don't understand.. religion is simply a tool to shield/justify the hate.

 

[Reg Lllama of Brixton]

I don't think religion is the source of the hate.

The hate is grounded in fear of what you don't understand.. religion is simply a tool to shield/justify the hate.

 Either way it's pretty F'd up.

 

[wikkidpissah]

Methodist/Packerfan/Democrat/Juggalo = the difference is less distinguishable every day

 

[msudaisy26]

Until my mid 20's I always thought humans would evolve. I thought we would learn how to use more of our brains, compared to the roughly 10 percent we use now. I thought we would learn from the mistakes of the past and become a better species, and make life better for everyone living right now and for the generations to come. 

 

[matuski]

Until my mid 20's I always thought humans would evolve. I thought we would learn how to use more of our brains, compared to the roughly 10 percent we use now. I thought we would learn from the mistakes of the past and become a better species, and make life better for everyone living right now and for the generations to come. 

The scale on which evolution occurs.. your lifetime isn't even a blip.

 

[msudaisy26]

The scale on which evolution occurs.. your lifetime isn't even a blip.

I know, but it seems to be going it he opposite direction. 

 

[Reg Lllama of Brixton]

Until my mid 20's I always thought humans would evolve. I thought we would learn how to use more of our brains, compared to the roughly 10 percent we use now. I thought we would learn from the mistakes of the past and become a better species, and make life better for everyone living right now and for the generations to come. 

wat

 

[Gachi]

My view of race and race relations was permanently changed after I watched a documentary on those 4 little girls that were killed by that KKK church bombing. 

I was about 8 years old when I saw it. Had nightmares for weeks. That's when I realized that "terrorism" had been happening in America long before radical islamists became the face of the term. 

 

[NorvilleBarnes]

Back in the day I use to think I was the man.  Now I just think I am a man. 

Still wrong.

 

[In The Zone]

Still wrong.

I'll take the high road just to prove you wrong. 

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[NorvilleBarnes]

For the longest time I thought Mary Kate and Ashley Olsen were three sisters not two.

 

[rockaction]

They really are.  #### has kept me up at night.

This very much kept me up one night. Thanks for reminding me.

 

[Binky The Doormat]

I don't think religion is the source of the hate.

The hate is grounded in fear of what you don't understand.. religion is simply a tool to shield/justify the hate.




 

 Either way it's pretty F'd up.




 

I think it is the source of hate when your religion tells you that people of other religions should be killed.

 

[Reg Lllama of Brixton]

I think it is the source of hate when your religion tells you that people of other religions should be killed.

Oh come on.  What religion would say that?

 

[Binky The Doormat]

I think it is the source of hate when your religion tells you that people of other religions should be killed.

Oh come on.  What religion would say that?




 

7th Day Adventists - I thought this was common knowledge. 

 

[matuski]

I think it is the source of hate when your religion tells you that people of other religions should be killed.

Religion is the greatest manipulative tool man has ever invented.

Our fears and weaknesses are powerful.. religion can exploit/take advantage of that, but it isn't the source.

 

[Judge Smails]

that working hard enough would get you ahead, but then realizing it's who you know rather than what you know.

Oh come on....

 

[Binky The Doormat]

that working hard enough would get you ahead, but then realizing it's who you know rather than what you know.

Oh come on....




 

Yeah, that's not going to work.  

 

[wazoo11]

I was wrong about being compassionate is weak.   Sometimes it's okay to cry. 

 

[Judge Smails]

Yeah, that's not going to work.  

Hah. It is a tough racket. 

I just push back on any victim/conspiracy talk. 95% of the time it's a cop out from people who aren't honest with themselves or lack awareness.

At our Sales conference we just awarded 6 people not on our Sales team the President's Club trip.  They didn't "know" anybody.  But they were noticed.  They did exceptional work, not just "enough".  The stereotypical DMV employee does enough.  

 

[Binky The Doormat]

Yeah, that's not going to work.  

Hah. It is a tough racket. 

I just push back on any victim/conspiracy talk. 95% of the time it's a cop out from people who aren't honest with themselves or lack awareness.

At our Sales conference we just awarded 6 people not on our Sales team the President's Club trip.  They didn't "know" anybody.  But they were noticed.  They did exceptional work, not just "enough".  The stereotypical DMV employee does enough.




 

I don't want Snoopy to think that personal relationships (who you know) don't matter.  Just don't use it as an excuse. 

 

[Loves You]

I think most religious folks don't hate homosexuals or transgenders, they just believe there is something mentally wrong with them.

Mentally wrong or religious belief?

 

[Bruce Dickinson]

I'm sure religion and politics will be the first things many people reading this will think of, but I'd like to leave those out if possible.   

Reading Is Fundamental

 

[otb_lifer]

For the longest time I thought Mary Kate and Ashley Olsen were three sisters not two.

growed up good

growed up real good

 

[shuke]

Leaf > Manning

 

[shuke]

Amazon wasn't going to make it.  They were becoming too diversified and getting away from what they did best, which was sell books.

     

 

[Runkle]

More and more as I get older, I find I admire people who can recognize they are wrong, and instead of digging in their heels, openly admit it. Often times, it feels threatening to them, but, they find out in the long run it leads to more respect if they handle it properly. There's a way to reverse yourself without losing face.

For example, when a ref blows a call in the moment, but then huddles up and talks it over and changes the decision, you see the other players, announcers, and fans all react with 'that's good to see' and 'much respect to him', rather than 'wow what a loss of authority'.

On a personal level, I think one of the best things I ever did at my job was after making a pretty significant mistake in my first six months at this position, when it happened I didn't know what had gone wrong, so when my boss brought it up, I said "OK, first let me fix what's wrong, then I'll backtrack and figure out where the mistake was made and who made it." Which I did... first fixing the mistake in a few minutes and working on getting the rest of the team on the correct path. Then I spent an hour re-tracing every step and decision until I found the fault... which was my own mistake.

I still remember walking into my boss's office, he was on the phone at the time so I sat on his couch and waited for him to finish. As soon as he hung up, I said, "I screwed up, it's on me." I let him know the steps I took to correct it. He advised me on who to call and apologize to, which I did. Everyone got over it immediately once I owned up. Been here 15 years since and the boss sees me as his best employee because I'm direct, honest, fair, and accountable. I have made plenty of mistakes since then, we all have. But when I do it's handled quickly and never a real problem.

Anyway, just felt like saying that it's become a lost art in today's society. Other people seem so worried about appearing the slightest bit fallible. The trait I find I admire most in other people nowadays is being willing to listen to all sides, take in new information and perspectives, and chart a new or different course based on it.


If anyone else feels like sharing a time they were wrong about something, I encourage the catharsis. Admitting you were wrong is a difficult step but you'd be surprised how much better you feel after.

 

[IvanKaramazov]

More and more as I get older, I find I admire people who can recognize they are wrong, and instead of digging in their heels, openly admit it. Often times, it feels threatening to them, but, they find out in the long run it leads to more respect if they handle it properly. There's a way to reverse yourself without losing face.

For example, when a ref blows a call in the moment, but then huddles up and talks it over and changes the decision, you see the other players, announcers, and fans all react with 'that's good to see' and 'much respect to him', rather than 'wow what a loss of authority'.

On a personal level, I think one of the best things I ever did at my job was after making a pretty significant mistake in my first six months at this position, when it happened I didn't know what had gone wrong, so when my boss brought it up, I said "OK, first let me fix what's wrong, then I'll backtrack and figure out where the mistake was made and who made it." Which I did... first fixing the mistake in a few minutes and working on getting the rest of the team on the correct path. Then I spent an hour re-tracing every step and decision until I found the fault... which was my own mistake.

I still remember walking into my boss's office, he was on the phone at the time so I sat on his couch and waited for him to finish. As soon as he hung up, I said, "I screwed up, it's on me." I let him know the steps I took to correct it. He advised me on who to call and apologize to, which I did. Everyone got over it immediately once I owned up. Been here 15 years since and the boss sees me as his best employee because I'm direct, honest, fair, and accountable. I have made plenty of mistakes since then, we all have. But when I do it's handled quickly and never a real problem.

Anyway, just felt like saying that it's become a lost art in today's society. Other people seem so worried about appearing the slightest bit fallible. The trait I find I admire most in other people nowadays is being willing to listen to all sides, take in new information and perspectives, and chart a new or different course based on it.


If anyone else feels like sharing a time they were wrong about something, I encourage the catharsis. Admitting you were wrong is a difficult step but you'd be surprised how much better you feel after.

The worst person I ever worked for, by far, was one of those people who (a) was never wrong about anything, ever, and (b) always knew the answer to any question she was asked and never had to "look into it" or "get back to you."

A lack of intellectual humility is like having a learning disability. You're never going to be able to make sense of the world around you if you don't have a built-in mechanism for error correction.

(Also, I'll bet you and I are thinking of the same ref from this weekend who reversed his own call. I forget the game, but it was really refreshing.)

 

[Runkle]

A lack of intellectual humility is like having a learning disability.

Well said

 

[Ilov80s]

I agree and I admit I’m wrong all the time. To my wife, my kid, my students, to myself. It’s healthy and it will improve all of your relationships.

But what do I know?

 

[3C's]

I'm never wrong, so my wife says.

 

[Gally]

Anyway, just felt like saying that it's become a lost art in today's society.

It's a lost art in today's society because it always someone else's fault now. That is the way of the world. It can never be your own fault. That is impossible. Must be because of someone else.

Your post was very well crafted. More often than not just admitting your mistakes and moving on does a world of wonder for everyone. As you said, everyone makes mistakes. Owning up to them so you can learn from them is a very underrated skill.