I’m starting to learn/believe I may have some autism traits that has trouble picking some sarcasm. Weird because I’m pretty sarcastic, myself.
Well, one on hand I want to say something about ruining a good ruse, but it's probably because sarcasm is muddy and there's a lot of truth in jest. Even stuff as tongue-in-cheek as my first post can get lost in the ether given the internet and its tendency to amplify anonymous speech as something to be taken prima facie. There's almost no limit to what one can say, so why wouldn't I, the speaker, really feel this way? And do I actually, in my worst moments, feel that way?
In truth, I have no desire to have children in my current or former state. I have never burdened nor would burden an innocent child like that. I made it this far without having a child, and it wasn't on accident. It was a conscious decision. otb and you had it right. So that said, I also feel like maybe I'm missing out on a lot and I don't know what the future holds. Maybe I want my own brood to hang with as I age. That's the lament, though, and it's brief.
The rest of the **** I'm saying in this thread is uncomfortably true as true is, and is indicative of our current societal condition mixed with our biological natures.
Because what really ****ing has begun to burn me is how younger guys walk around siring all these kids and leaving them to the mother or neglecting and abusing them, all while calling themselves a father and taking all this pride in doing absolutely nothing in the raising of their children. Being their friend. Being afraid to impart life lessons because they're so selfish and fragile they can't anger the kid lest the kid act out. Those children wind up in various states of want and need, economically and emotionally.
And yet the strut of the siring loins never stops. And the kids are still attached to the bad fathers and mothers, because that's how biology works.
And we're too scared as a society to tell the childbearers and male half of the equation to stop having children out of wedlock or into neglect. It's so anathema to our non-judgmental selves that we pillory and ridicule a guy who brings up the proposition that maybe somebody advocating single motherhood isn't the ideal role model for people. We make fun of
him, not the people leaving their kids in emotional and spiritual want. We wait for the person making the moral claim to trip up so that we might label him a hypocrite for at least nodding to a standard of behavior.
Look, nobody is asking for the "never darken our door" way in which young lovers were treated once. But spitting out six kids and barely being able to care for them is not something we should be encouraging. The words "baby mama" should have never entered our family lexicon.
There. High horse done. Thread virtually over. It was sort of fun in spots. Dark humor and all.
