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just found out a male teacher gave the 5th grade (1 Viewer)
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quickhands
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teacher.
quickhands
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public elementary
Officer Pete Malloy
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This.
As a teacher all of this is sounding every alarm I can think of.
The best case scenario is this guy isn't a creep/perv but just an absolute moron. Either way he shouldn't be around kids.
Officer Pete Malloy
Footballguy
Oh and since you already talked to the principal it is time to go over his head. Demand to speak with the district supernintendo.
Otis
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Otis
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DA RAIDERS
Footballguy
I volunteer daily at my daughters public school.
She's in 1st grade I passed a background check and am allowed to work with the kids one on one. That being said, I try to never touch any of the kids, boys or girls.
In my situation The principal is useless. She is most definitely middle management and seems to just be slogging her way to a pension.
In your shoes I would immediately kick it up the food chain, get the district involved ASAP. Before you meet with the principal again. There is something wrong going on, and you as a parent know it. Trust yourself and do what's right and necessary for the safety of your child.
She's in 1st grade I passed a background check and am allowed to work with the kids one on one. That being said, I try to never touch any of the kids, boys or girls.
In my situation The principal is useless. She is most definitely middle management and seems to just be slogging her way to a pension.
In your shoes I would immediately kick it up the food chain, get the district involved ASAP. Before you meet with the principal again. There is something wrong going on, and you as a parent know it. Trust yourself and do what's right and necessary for the safety of your child.
glumpy
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I was a chaperone at one of these when my son was 3rd - 6th grades, held at a YMCA Camp in Charlotte. It was so well received that we threw our own followup at Jordan Lake just for the school. Can't conceive of setting up a situation which would encourage or even enable such a display.
Actually read beyond before posting and would add that unsupervised end of year parties would definitely be unacceptable, and I'm one to file a complaint on record with the school first. ETA I missed that you are beyond that--Board of Education the next step? Police are always in consideration but at that point you're looking to prosecute imo.
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pittstownkiller
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The only one putting his job at risk is the teacher. Incredibly stupid in this day and age to put yourself in this situation with children. Interesting enough I started a thread about an "overnight" for my 4th-grader that had the proposal of one-on-one contact with a teacher (I did not allow my child to attend); I got more than a few responses that I was coddling my boy.
Baloney Sandwich
Footballguy
You went to the Principle once, I would go to the police this time but would probably look to get some other parents involved. Dude sounds like a major perv.
Cjw_55106
Footballguy
I'd tell them exactly what was told in this thread. Of course, I would also tell them about the details of the story quickhands doesnt want to talk about.
In any case quickhands, do what you know is right. Never be afraid to protect your kids.
Henry Ford
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How the #### is this the only thread without Gordon Gekko nailing a cat to a door or putting a gun in someone's mouth?
Ned
Footballguy
Dinsy Ejotuz
Footballguy
Go over his head to the school. Worst case you'll be a little embarrassed and he'll stop something relatively harmless, but inappropriate. Best case you're saving some future kid from sexual abuse. Trust your gut.
ETA: Oops. Didn't read far enough. Think you're doing the right thing QH. Definitely wouldn't let go of it either now.
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AcerFC
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Another teacher checking in.
ETA: I hope that nothing happened and that if it did, there is serious consequences. Good luck
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Oink Oink the Pig
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This guy may have a prior or may have been accused by other children or parents of inappropriate contact. I would expect them to build a case. CALL THE POLICE.
fatguyinalittlecoat
Footballguy
Why do you think your 5th grade daughter kept this from you until you asked her about it directly? Was it because she felt scared/embarrassed/etc.? Or because she didn't think it was a big deal?
I feel like my daughters (4th grade and 1st grade) would tell me something like this as soon as they could, but maybe I should talk to them about it.
I feel like my daughters (4th grade and 1st grade) would tell me something like this as soon as they could, but maybe I should talk to them about it.
Godsbrother
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Never heard of a teacher having a party for the students at their own house. Seems pretty weird to me.
Jayrok
Footballguy
I'm not a teacher but have been in supervisory roles with younger females where counseling was involved. I learned that it is best to not be in your office alone with a female subordinate when you have to talk about work issues or behavioral issues. If she gets upset you never know what she'll say. Unfortunately, it could be her word against yours. Not a good situation to be in.
Wyld Stallyns
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I'm going to write this off as a Friday fishing trip just so I don't have to accept the potential reality of it.
Sucks if true. Thankfully sounds like it was caught in time before anything worse happened.
Sucks if true. Thankfully sounds like it was caught in time before anything worse happened.
quickhands
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Morning update. My wife talked to my daughter. Apparently the girls were all tucked in bed. He came around and kissed them in front of 1 other teacher and 2 parents. This whole thing friggen mystifies me.
This strikes me as grooming and the women didnt stop it. Meeting the principal at 10.
This strikes me as grooming and the women didnt stop it. Meeting the principal at 10.
BroncoFreak_2K3
sucker for Orange
and no one had a problem with it...wow. this guy would have trouble trying to fix his face after I witnessed something like that. unbelieveable.
Godsbrother
Footballguy
Why in the hell is a male teacher tucking in 5th grade girls??? The teacher should be fired just for being that stupid.
Actually the whole idea of teachers doing an overnight trip with 5th graders is extremely odd. I have no idea why a school would endorse such a thing.
BroncoFreak_2K3
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wazoo11
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McGarnicle
Footballguy
He's done with this mealy mouthed no load liberal hippy dippy 9th place ribbon pansy forum.
LittleLarry
Footballguy
what is the age of this teacher and how long has he been teaching
saintsfan
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As a youth minister, this is over the line. There are kids in my group that are friends of the family that I still wouldn't dream of kissing, even on the forehead. The sideways hug, the pat on the back or back of the head?? Maybe. You did the right thing in reporting this.
Girls at that age can be very affectionate and you don't always know how to handle it. I have some girls in my group who are huggers. They hug everybody and everything and that includes me. I don't want to discourage it because it's a good quality, but I usually opt for the sideways hug. It does cross my mind occasionally that some kid having a bad day could say that I did something that I didn't do. That's why I usually want other adults in the room with me. When we do youth trips, men are absolutely not allowed in the room with the girls, even doing bed checks. I get one of the female youth ministers to check my girls and I check my boys and help the female youth ministers check their boys. Even with the BOYS, I don't go in the room. I stand outside and they all have to come to the door so I can see them.
Girls at that age can be very affectionate and you don't always know how to handle it. I have some girls in my group who are huggers. They hug everybody and everything and that includes me. I don't want to discourage it because it's a good quality, but I usually opt for the sideways hug. It does cross my mind occasionally that some kid having a bad day could say that I did something that I didn't do. That's why I usually want other adults in the room with me. When we do youth trips, men are absolutely not allowed in the room with the girls, even doing bed checks. I get one of the female youth ministers to check my girls and I check my boys and help the female youth ministers check their boys. Even with the BOYS, I don't go in the room. I stand outside and they all have to come to the door so I can see them.
fatguyinalittlecoat
Footballguy
Really? I think a trip like that could be very fun and educational. My 5th grade class (maybe 6th grade?) went to a place for a whole week where we learned about science and stuff. There was no kissing but I went like 5 days in a row without pooping.
ETA: This is the place we went -- http://www.naturesclassroom.org/nc_what.htm
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Dinsy Ejotuz
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Maybe, maybe not. But the only way to be sure is for him to stop ####### doing it.
Andy Dufresne
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This just seems like the setup for a Quentin Tarantino type revenge fantasy.Seriously. What is wrong with people?
KCitons
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fatguyinalittlecoat
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Otis
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quickhands
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Update 2. Wife talked to the her friend who was in the room. She described herself as deer in headlights. She said she brought it up. And the other teacher 60s something ladyy. Said it was ok and a tradition.
I got a big fu for that tradition
I got a big fu for that tradition
Godsbrother
Footballguy
I just don't see the need for schools to be involved in overnight trips with elementary school children.
BroncoFreak_2K3
sucker for Orange
Andy Dufresne
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fatguyinalittlecoat
Footballguy
Well, schools shouldn't be prisons. As long as safeguards are in place to prevent creepy dudes from kissing the kids, I think the kids get a lot of value out of it.
BroncoFreak_2K3
sucker for Orange
This guy's not related to Jerry Sandusky is he?
Psychopav
Help us, Joebi-Wan Brynobi, you're our only ho
Lot of people talking about being careful around elementary school age girls here. Anytime there's an overnight or activity of any kind outside of the classroom setting, it should be 2 deep leadership (2 adults minimum), regardless of whether it's boys or girls, one or several. Also, any adults chaperoning or having contact with the kids should receive training and certification to be there beforehand, including warning signs of grooming techniques of child predators.
Yes, that's a tip from the hard earned lessons of the Boy Scouts. The Catholic Church in my diocese also has required training but I don't think they've formally adopted 2 deep leadership (although they should imo).
Yes, that's a tip from the hard earned lessons of the Boy Scouts. The Catholic Church in my diocese also has required training but I don't think they've formally adopted 2 deep leadership (although they should imo).
Psychopav
Help us, Joebi-Wan Brynobi, you're our only ho
A teacher kissed some kids on the forehead (and now it turns out there were multiple adult chaperons present as well). What do you think the police would do?
Pick
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quickhands
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42 ish. 20 years
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goodposting
WTF was a male teacher even doing in the same room as the girls at bedtime? What about the parents that were in the room? Was there a male parent in the room?
quickhands
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which is exactly what I expected.
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