Are you ready for . . . a dose of reality?Oct. 28, 2003 12:00 AM The Phoenix TV stations sent their mobile vans to Tempe early Monday morning. If any of that footage had made the Today Show or CNN, we'd have had a tough time convincing the rest of the nation that we're not a bunch of self-centered, insensitive pinheads - we just play them on TV.That's the feeling a person could have come away with after chatting with some fans lined up outside Sun Devil Stadium. "We came as soon as we heard that the game got moved here and that it was free," one of them told me. "If you love football you can't pass up a deal like that.""Free, baby!" shouted a nearby fan.Except, of course, it wasn't free. By dawn Monday the cost of moving the Dolphins-Chargers game to Tempe was 300,000 acres of charred California landscape, more than 850 destroyed homes and 13 lives.The Cardinals and ASU and Tempe did a good thing in agreeing to take the game on short notice. The NFL did a good thing in not charging an entry fee but instead asking for donations to California's wildfire relief fund.But it shouldn't have ended there.In Monday's Arizona Republic the mayor of Tempe, Neil Giuliano, is quoted as saying, "It shows the NFL that Arizona and the Valley is willing to step up and help out when they need help. Hopefully, they will remember that when they consider Arizona for a Super Bowl in a few days."Hopefully, just the opposite is true. Hopefully, the NFL will forget that an Arizona politician was foolish enough to suggest payback for what should be an act of generosity. Hopefully, the rest of the nation will not assume that one politician or a few simple-minded fans speak for the rest of us.By the time people began lining up outside the stadium, firefighters from a half-dozen or more stations in Arizona were headed to California to help fight the fires. The same is true of disaster volunteers and others.That's what people should think about when they consider Arizona's "charitable" reaction to the disaster next door. Not the fact, as was reported Monday, that Tempe officials expect to be reimbursed for the overtime paid to its police officers Monday night.This should be about one NFL franchise helping another. About one town helping another. About one state helping another.In Catholic grade school, the nuns used to say if we asked for anything in return or if we bragged about it, then it wasn't charity.In some of the back streets of Tempe, homeowners had signs Monday offering parking spots on their driveways or yards for $10 or more. I saw no sign promising to donate that money to the wildfire fund.Maybe that's because there was no similar promise publicly stated by area businesses and government. Not from community leaders or from politicians.It was a spur of the moment decision to move the game's location, so people didn't have a lot of time to think. But I didn't hear a lot about charity from the folks in line outside the stadium or from anyone else.I did hear from several football fans who thought this would be a good opportunity to trash the Cardinals. The most printable came from a Phoenix man, who wrote in part: "I am going to the game tonight. I'll be the one with the sign that says, 'Arizona Loves the NFL - Hates Bill Bidwill.' I hope there are more people at tonight's game than were at yesterday's. I think that would be a monumental embarrassment to Bidwill. It would be a dream come true! Then he would know that Arizona really does care about football, but that we want a competitive team."I wrote back saying that I, too, hoped that there would be more people at Monday's game than were at Sunday's. Not because it would be a monumental embarrassment to Bidwill, but because it would be a monumental boost to the disaster relief fund, assuming fans are as generous as I believe they are. I also suggested that he alter his sign to say something like: "Arizona Loves the NFL - Hates getting a game this way." Because then everyone would know that while we care about football, we care a little more about those who are caught up in the tragedy.