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Loss of a league member (1 Viewer)

Hoss_Cartwright

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We just had a member of HyperActive 3 pass away, and it really hits home. I'm close to the same age and recently talked to this owner (he is 54 and I'm 49). I still don't know the reason for his passing, but he wanted to know how my hip surgery went and was scheduled for an MRI on his right hip the next week, and was nervous. That was June 23rd. I went into how I got my life back after hip replacement surgery, blah, blah, blah, and wonder if he was having hip surgery. You would think hip surgery wouldn't come that close to an MRI, but I guess it could. I suspect there's a different reason for his death. I don't know why this is affecting me this way since I didn't know this owner (Justice League II). I guess I feel guilty for suggesting hip surgery if he died under the knife.

 
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Guilt is a natural reaction, Hoss. But don't let it get to you too much.
I feel so very sorry for his family and friends, and as far as my guilt is concerned, I know I'm not the blame, but it makes me feel weird for sure. I want to respect him and his family, but because of our conversation I wish I knew the reason for his death. I know that's selfish, but I hope I didn't talk him into anything that cost him his life.
 
Guilt is a natural reaction, Hoss. But don't let it get to you too much.
I feel so very sorry for his family and friends, and as far as my guilt is concerned, I know I'm not the blame, but it makes me feel weird for sure. I want to respect him and his family, but because of our conversation I wish I knew the reason for his death. I know that's selfish, but I hope I didn't talk him into anything that cost him his life.
It's not my place to give out details, but for the sake of your peace of mind, it had nothing whatsoever to do with hip surgery or anything like that.
 
Guilt is a natural reaction, Hoss. But don't let it get to you too much.
I feel so very sorry for his family and friends, and as far as my guilt is concerned, I know I'm not the blame, but it makes me feel weird for sure. I want to respect him and his family, but because of our conversation I wish I knew the reason for his death. I know that's selfish, but I hope I didn't talk him into anything that cost him his life.
It's not my place to give out details, but for the sake of your peace of mind, it had nothing whatsoever to do with hip surgery or anything like that.
Yes, I just got a message that he died of a heart attack in his sleep (that's the way I want to go). I'm very sad about this. He seemed so full of life in his email to me just over a week earlier. As I sent a reply to a PM and I paraphrase, "grab life by the horns and relish it, and grap those you love and relish them too, because you never know when your last day is.". Nothing is guaranteed, and the older I get the more I realize that. You know you're getting older when you attend more funerals than weddings.
 
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Agreed....not my place to share details either, but he will be missed for sure......

Still...a tragic loss and a reality check. Take time to love those close to you...life is so fragile.

 
Tom aka ROUGHRIDER on here, was also a good friend to me. We never meet but we played in numerous leagues together and always talked via IM.

Me and his son are also good chat buddys....this is really sad to me as i was just telling my lady friend about it today. My father is in his late 50's and to lose Tom at that age is pretty hard. I have there family in my prayers and I really am sadden by this situation.

He also was the commish of many leagues, 1 that i play in right now. I will see how we can continue the league for him.

 
Really difficult to put into words the impact of such a loss.

While I did not talk much with him, he was a member of (1) a league I'm in, (2) a member of the FBG community, and (3) a friend to many.

At moments like this you have to look a the bigger picture. Fantasy football is a great hobby to network a great group of people from all different backgrounds, and a loss of a member of one's family is a loss to our extended family of both FBG and the fantasy community as a whole. Sometimes we get so passionate about the game we all share that we forget what is truly most important.

Best wishes to Tom's family and those that knew him most. Thoughts and prayers to all dealing with his tragic and far too soon loss.

RIP Justice League.

 
I didn't deal or talk much with Tom, but I was in that league that we recently concluded drafting. I can't imagine the loss that his family is going through right now though. My thoughts go out to all of them and it's truly a shame to lose someone who's so young.

 
He also was the commish of many leagues, 1 that i play in right now. I will see how we can continue the league for him.
Yea, he was a commish in one of my leagues too (Tom ran a lot of leagues, it seems.) We only spoke once - he called me (by accident) last year when there was a snag in our draft, and even though the issue was already resolved by the time we spoke, we talked for about a half an hour - really enjoyed that conversation. Sad that we never got the chance to talk like that again :confused: RIP Tom. Best to your family.
 
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Thanks for having this discussion. It speaks well to this board that people take the time to recognize someone who shares their passion for FF yet also see the big picture.

Peace...

 
I am (was) in a league with Tom too, but I didn't know him hardly at all. I think it really sucks for his family...I feel bad for them. However, I guess I was personally struck at how the news of his passing didn't really affect me that much when I first heard it. I remember thinking "Wow...that's awful. I sure hope his family is okay." However, we weren't really friends or anything...so it just kind of got me thinking how sometimes my "Internet acquaintances" sometimes get more of my time/attention than the people in my life that I am REALLY close to and care about. If I died tomorrow, maybe 3-4 people around FBGs would truly miss me and feel sad. However, for the other 30,000+ individuals out there, I'm just some guy who plays FFL and shares the occasional thread. That's all I really expect though out of a chat room too. None of us are gonna probably be great friends and/or get together and have our kids play together or anything.

Kind of a bummer, and I don't mean to hijack the thread or anything! Losing Tom in our league though just reinforced to me how "losing me" wouldn't really matter than much to 99+ percent of the FFLers out there that I know and talk with, I guess. Gotta look at how I prioritize my own time/life... :shock:

R.I.P. ....Roughrider

 
Hoss, I am in HA3 also and I understand. A couple of years ago I lost a friend in a FF league. It is very tough. I honestly think of him every week during the season.

 
Guilt is a natural reaction, Hoss. But don't let it get to you too much.
I feel so very sorry for his family and friends, and as far as my guilt is concerned, I know I'm not the blame, but it makes me feel weird for sure. I want to respect him and his family, but because of our conversation I wish I knew the reason for his death. I know that's selfish, but I hope I didn't talk him into anything that cost him his life.
It's not my place to give out details, but for the sake of your peace of mind, it had nothing whatsoever to do with hip surgery or anything like that.
Yes, I just got a message that he died of a heart attack in his sleep (that's the way I want to go). I'm very sad about this. He seemed so full of life in his email to me just over a week earlier. As I sent a reply to a PM and I paraphrase, "grab life by the horns and relish it, and grap those you love and relish them too, because you never know when your last day is.". Nothing is guaranteed, and the older I get the more I realize that. You know you're getting older when you attend more funerals than weddings.
Its Obvious that you care a great deal for folks, I don't pray much but I'll give one in hopes that you find peace Brother.
 
I don't mean to lecture here, but I'll trade offending someone for saving someone's life. For those of us around 40+years old, hip or knee problems are usually a sign that your carrying too much weight. Same with Diabetes and various other ailments. If any of you are like me, you were pretty much invincible as a teen and could eat and drink whatever you wanted and not gain an ounce of fat. When I was 17, I joined the Army in the split option program, and went into basic training in the summer break after my junior year. I was a pretty good athlete before going in and actually played o-line on my high school football team at 130 lbs (I was probably 120 in my sophomore year.) O-line was not my best position, (I was team captain on defense at LB and was a killer headhunter on special teams.), but I beat out guys a hundred pounds heavier than me due to my strength, (I could leg press 710 lbs), my leverage and technique, (I was captain of the wrestling team.), and my endurance and heart, ( I was on the track team and could run the mile in 4 mins and 19 secs and 5 miles in about 27 mins). In the Army, my drill sergeant decided I was too small and 8 weeks later when I graduated basic training, I was a 165 lb beast. The drill sergeants would literally take food off a big guys plate and put it on mine. They would also stand behind me in the chow line and load food on my plate. When I played football my senior year, I was a dominating o-lineman, LB and headhunter. I thought I was a super hero when I got out. I was so much stronger and faster than the guys my size that I had the attitude that "eat + workout hard" is the ultimate combo. In my college years, I didn't find the time to workout so hard. I was still a better athlete than most guys I knew. I was about 185 lbs at this time and could still eat and drink anything I wanted and was still healthier than most people. Around 30 years old my metabolism slowed down, and I pretty much stopped working out all together. It was harder to find the time, but the main reason not to workout was that I wasn't getting the same results. I started working out again about 7 months ago. (My weight was 225 lbs then and I'm 5' 10"). I didn't notice too much of a difference until I started to manage my diet. Once I started to try to cut out the fat, I got a boost to my metabolism and my energy level. I'm now at 203 lbs and I'm pretty sure I'll get back down to 185 and be a lot healthier. Again I don't want to lecture but....

The biggest thing to improve your health is to exercise. Also watch eating the crap if your over 30.

Quit Smoking.

Quit doing what I did and stop blaming your situation for your problem. Once I stopped saying I didn't have time to workout, I found time to workout.

Understand that no matter what you do, your diet will have more impact on your overall health than exercise. Cut out the fat.

Let your family know what your doing. I learned this one from experience. I tried to go it alone and failed because I didn't want to disappoint my family. If you lay out your intent of not wanting to die and fail your family, they are more likely to let you workout instead of arguing that you should take them shoe shopping.

Like everything else in your life, monitor your progress. If you fail, it's not the end of the world as long as you make adjustments.

Set your ego aside. You wouldn't have to make adjustments if you got everything right in the first place, but if you make them, your way ahead of most lazy Americans that won't adjust.

 
I don't mean to lecture here, but I'll trade offending someone for saving someone's life. For those of us around 40+years old, hip or knee problems are usually a sign that your carrying too much weight. Same with Diabetes and various other ailments. If any of you are like me, you were pretty much invincible as a teen and could eat and drink whatever you wanted and not gain an ounce of fat. When I was 17, I joined the Army in the split option program, and went into basic training in the summer break after my junior year. I was a pretty good athlete before going in and actually played o-line on my high school football team at 130 lbs (I was probably 120 in my sophomore year.) O-line was not my best position, (I was team captain on defense at LB and was a killer headhunter on special teams.), but I beat out guys a hundred pounds heavier than me due to my strength, (I could leg press 710 lbs), my leverage and technique, (I was captain of the wrestling team.), and my endurance and heart, ( I was on the track team and could run the mile in 4 mins and 19 secs and 5 miles in about 27 mins). In the Army, my drill sergeant decided I was too small and 8 weeks later when I graduated basic training, I was a 165 lb beast. The drill sergeants would literally take food off a big guys plate and put it on mine. They would also stand behind me in the chow line and load food on my plate. When I played football my senior year, I was a dominating o-lineman, LB and headhunter. I thought I was a super hero when I got out. I was so much stronger and faster than the guys my size that I had the attitude that "eat + workout hard" is the ultimate combo. In my college years, I didn't find the time to workout so hard. I was still a better athlete than most guys I knew. I was about 185 lbs at this time and could still eat and drink anything I wanted and was still healthier than most people. Around 30 years old my metabolism slowed down, and I pretty much stopped working out all together. It was harder to find the time, but the main reason not to workout was that I wasn't getting the same results. I started working out again about 7 months ago. (My weight was 225 lbs then and I'm 5' 10"). I didn't notice too much of a difference until I started to manage my diet. Once I started to try to cut out the fat, I got a boost to my metabolism and my energy level. I'm now at 203 lbs and I'm pretty sure I'll get back down to 185 and be a lot healthier. Again I don't want to lecture but....The biggest thing to improve your health is to exercise. Also watch eating the crap if your over 30. Quit Smoking.Quit doing what I did and stop blaming your situation for your problem. Once I stopped saying I didn't have time to workout, I found time to workout.Understand that no matter what you do, your diet will have more impact on your overall health than exercise. Cut out the fat.Let your family know what your doing. I learned this one from experience. I tried to go it alone and failed because I didn't want to disappoint my family. If you lay out your intent of not wanting to die and fail your family, they are more likely to let you workout instead of arguing that you should take them shoe shopping.Like everything else in your life, monitor your progress. If you fail, it's not the end of the world as long as you make adjustments.Set your ego aside. You wouldn't have to make adjustments if you got everything right in the first place, but if you make them, your way ahead of most lazy Americans that won't adjust.
I quit smoking my pipe on June 28th. I smoked in some form for 32 years. I'm using Chantix and it's working, along with some will power. I really think i can beat it this time. My dad died at 48 of a heart attack (lightning struck next to him, didn't hit him, but caused the heart attack). I'm 49, so with people dropping all around me from heart attacks, I decided now was the time to do something to help myself.
 
I've never smoked (tobacco or otherwise), and I barely drink at all. My vice is soda pop (diet)...can't lay off the stuff...as the caffeine is about the only thing that keeps me propped up during my 12 hour/day, 6 day work weeks. Been working at that pace for pretty much the past ten years. I'm 37, but I feel like I am 67. Exhaustion, headaches and chest pain is pretty much the norm. Every time I go to the doctor (particularly related to the chest pain), they tell me "we can't find anything wrong...must just be stress." I swear though, the way I feel, one of these days there'll be a "R.I.P." thread about me, if anyone even noticed. :unsure:

What do you do though...when you have to work CRAZY hours just to put food on your family's plate, and you feel like that crazy work pace is killing you? Back in my 20s, I could work CRAZY hours, get 3-4 hours of sleep then hit it again the next day. Now? I'm too old for that ####, yet here I am. My problem isn't working out of "major" vices...my problem is money and time. If any of you know where I can find a "money tree" where I can provide for my family and not work myself to death in the process, I'm all-ears.... :heart:

 
I've never smoked (tobacco or otherwise), and I barely drink at all. My vice is soda pop (diet)...can't lay off the stuff...as the caffeine is about the only thing that keeps me propped up during my 12 hour/day, 6 day work weeks. Been working at that pace for pretty much the past ten years. I'm 37, but I feel like I am 67. Exhaustion, headaches and chest pain is pretty much the norm. Every time I go to the doctor (particularly related to the chest pain), they tell me "we can't find anything wrong...must just be stress." I swear though, the way I feel, one of these days there'll be a "R.I.P." thread about me, if anyone even noticed. :banned:

What do you do though...when you have to work CRAZY hours just to put food on your family's plate, and you feel like that crazy work pace is killing you? Back in my 20s, I could work CRAZY hours, get 3-4 hours of sleep then hit it again the next day. Now? I'm too old for that ####, yet here I am. My problem isn't working out of "major" vices...my problem is money and time. If any of you know where I can find a "money tree" where I can provide for my family and not work myself to death in the process, I'm all-ears.... :banned:
Any permanent change you can build on will help.1. Get consistent 8 hour rest.

2. Dumbells(or somthing weighty and holdable) and some excercises in front of your favorite TV show or music

3. Walk, everyday. (Before or after dinner or just before the AM shower) Increase speed & time length as appropriate for the day. Push the comfort zone now and then. Let it be your time to organize thoughts, but have a goal for each walk (5 minutes just to check it off that day, 30 minutes, 60 minute hike, whatever)

4. Make and take what you need to eat until you get home - Trust me, eating out will screw you

5. Make a log of what you eat, everything, on a scrap piece of paper, You'll know what's keeping you back.

Do this for a month. Focus on improvement, not acheivement. Know you're healthier.

This money & time commitment is minimal.

Nobody knows when there time is up, but this will improve the quality of it.

PS: I'm not an expert. Check with your doctor to make sure this won't kill you. Chances are your doctor will say it might if you don't start. Just do it (or just do something at least.)

 
Fairly new to the fantasy scene relatively. I haven't lost a member yet.

When I do, I hope that I was apart of making the hobby a little more enjoyable for them.

 
I've never smoked (tobacco or otherwise), and I barely drink at all. My vice is soda pop (diet)...can't lay off the stuff...as the caffeine is about the only thing that keeps me propped up during my 12 hour/day, 6 day work weeks. Been working at that pace for pretty much the past ten years. I'm 37, but I feel like I am 67. Exhaustion, headaches and chest pain is pretty much the norm. Every time I go to the doctor (particularly related to the chest pain), they tell me "we can't find anything wrong...must just be stress." I swear though, the way I feel, one of these days there'll be a "R.I.P." thread about me, if anyone even noticed. :lmao:

What do you do though...when you have to work CRAZY hours just to put food on your family's plate, and you feel like that crazy work pace is killing you? Back in my 20s, I could work CRAZY hours, get 3-4 hours of sleep then hit it again the next day. Now? I'm too old for that ####, yet here I am. My problem isn't working out of "major" vices...my problem is money and time. If any of you know where I can find a "money tree" where I can provide for my family and not work myself to death in the process, I'm all-ears.... :popcorn:
I feel for ya bro; nothing worse than feeling stuck in a situation with few options. I was talking to a friend last night who is running more construction finish crews than he should be and the stress has caused him to break out with shingles. The man isn't looking out for us so we have to do our best to look out for ourselves. Hopefully you can make some changes to help your situation.I will second what a number of other posters have stated, diet and exercise can go a long way in keeping us upright.

 
Did not play in any leagues nor knew the man until I did a search for his user name and immediately recognized his avatar.

RIP Brother...

 
I'm not really that familiar with Roughrider, but it's pretty sad to loose a FBG none the less. It would be nice for the Shark pool to put together some type of collection - maybe a donation in his honor, or something of the sort.

Staff guys - any chance of setting something up?

 

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