Marriage counseling - Looking for recommendations in the DMV (1 Viewer)

[STEADYMOBBIN 22]

Morning all,

I know this is a shot in the dark but I'd rather take the shot that one/some of you have used a marriage counselor in our area rather than go off of Yelp or google reviews. 

I'd also like help on how to get insurance to cover it. Bizarre that it doesn't or at least from what Ive read it doesn't. I don't mind paying cause its worth it, but it would be nice if I didnt have to.

We live in the Silver Spring/Burtonsville area. Wife and I have been married for 18 years. 2 kids. We just need help communicating better. My wife lost her mother last year and I don't think shes recovered. I have my own set of issues and it seems I need to listen and communicate better. 

I know this is a pretty private matter so by all means PM me if you wish. 

Thanks so much. 

 

[Cowboysfan8]

I don’t have any help for you but would like to wish you and your wife good luck. Hope you get everything worked out

 

[AAABatteries]

Good luck Steady - I don't live in the area so no recommendations.  My wife and I went to see a counselor years ago - we didn't have any major issues (or personal things like a death in the family going on) but kind of like you alluded to we had some communication issues.  I think both of us were more inclined to let things bother us without speaking up.  I can't say that those things got resolved by talking about them but it at least allowed us to understand what each other was thinking and to express our POV.  I think it helped but my big suggestion is to make sure that both of you are onboard with going - if not then I think it can be more detrimental than helpful.  If only one of you wants to go then I would suggest going by yourself.

 

[STEADYMOBBIN 22]

Good luck Steady - I don't live in the area so no recommendations.  My wife and I went to see a counselor years ago - we didn't have any major issues (or personal things like a death in the family going on) but kind of like you alluded to we had some communication issues.  I think both of us were more inclined to let things bother us without speaking up.  I can't say that those things got resolved by talking about them but it at least allowed us to understand what each other was thinking and to express our POV.  I think it helped but my big suggestion is to make sure that both of you are onboard with going - if not then I think it can be more detrimental than helpful.  If only one of you wants to go then I would suggest going by yourself.

Appreciate it. She’s down to go. I just want to try to get the right therapist the first time if we can. 

She has trouble with holding stuff in and I’m pretty flippant about stuff. 

 

[General Malaise]

Morning all,

I know this is a shot in the dark but I'd rather take the shot that one/some of you have used a marriage counselor in our area rather than go off of Yelp or google reviews. 

I'd also like help on how to get insurance to cover it. Bizarre that it doesn't or at least from what Ive read it doesn't. I don't mind paying cause its worth it, but it would be nice if I didnt have to. 

We live in the Silver Spring/Burtonsville area. Wife and I have been married for 18 years. 2 kids. We just need help communicating better. My wife lost her mother last year and I don't think shes recovered. I have my own set of issues and it seems I need to listen and communicate better. 

I know this is a pretty private matter so by all means PM me if you wish. 

Thanks so much. 

I would call your insurance company and ask to speak to a specialist on mental health/therapy.  Just try and get somebody from your insurance provider to give you as much information as they can with regards to therapy because even if you're reading that they don't provide coverage for 'marriage counseling' they should have a department dedicated to finding mental health assistance for the people they cover.  I mean, you're paying them (or your employer is or both most likely) so they work for you.  Use that stance as your leverage and get somebody on the phone who can help you not only locate a therapist in your area, but a therapist that is one of their providers.  Squeaky wheel and all that.  Advocate for yourself.

Good luck, man.  I think it's always a good step to admit there's issues and seeking a way to mitigate and work on them is never a bad thing.  

 

[STEADYMOBBIN 22]

I would call your insurance company and ask to speak to a specialist on mental health/therapy.  Just try and get somebody from your insurance provider to give you as much information as they can with regards to therapy because even if you're reading that they don't provide coverage for 'marriage counseling' they should have a department dedicated to finding mental health assistance for the people they cover.  I mean, you're paying them (or your employer is or both most likely) so they work for you.  Use that stance as your leverage and get somebody on the phone who can help you not only locate a therapist in your area, but a therapist that is one of their providers.  Squeaky wheel and all that.  Advocate for yourself.

Good luck, man.  I think it's always a good step to admit there's issues and seeking a way to mitigate and work on them is never a bad thing.  

Thanks for the advice. I called. Turns out it’s 100% covered in network and @ 75% out of network. 

I  our insurance. 

 

[Dezbelief]

My wife and I got together a little over a year after her mom posted. She said her boyfriend at the time never really let her grieve when they were together. I don't know for sure but I got the feeling this was a big part of their breakup. I held her when she told me this and she cried many tears.

My Dad passed unexpectedly in a tragic manner. One of the officers on the scene warned me not to let my Father's death affect my marriage. He said one of his partners had died in a similar manner and it tore that man's daughter apart and eventually her marriage as well. When I got home my wife laid me down on the couch, put my head in her lap and let me cry all night.

Be that shoulder your wife needs to cry on sometimes. 

 

[Clown Car]

I’m sorry for your wife’s loss. My parents died within 3 mos of each other almost this time last year. I went to a hospice counselor for a few weeks after the second death and it really helped me. 

 

[El Floppo]

Best of luck, steady.

I'm a big fan of counseling/therapy, individually and for couples. It's the kind of stuff in a relationahip that isn't necessarily about being in an awful place- just wanting to make what you have better. And I wish you both all the best in that.

 

[Mrs. Rannous]

Perhaps your wife could see a grief counselor.  That could help both of you.

Good luck.

 

[STEADYMOBBIN 22]

I’m sorry for your wife’s loss. My parents died within 3 mos of each other almost this time last year. I went to a hospice counselor for a few weeks after the second death and it really helped me. 

So sorry to hear that. Very best wishes. 

 

[Judge Smails]

Best wishes amigo. Glad you’re taking this route and that insurance is picking it up. I see so many marriages where one party is resistant to even trying counseling. 

 

[top dog]

When my mother passed away in 2004 I was devastated.  I was still young and had just been married only a couple years.  I went to a pretty dark place.  Was a horrible person and husband.  My wife is an angel for being able to navigate that because it was a long period before I really came out of that.  A couple years.  We almost ended up divorced to be honest. It can have a really devastating affect on you and your relationships.  If she has never dealt with that I can tell you from experience it can be a huge factor.  Make sure you guys work on yourselves and not just "the relationship".  Until you fix the inner problems, the outer stuff like relationships can't really be fixed.

 

[Long Ball Larry]

Thanks for the advice. I called. Turns out it’s 100% covered in network and @ 75% out of network. 

I  our insurance. 

if it doesn't work out with the wife, hit me up.  i'll marry you just to get that kind of coverage.

 

[STEADYMOBBIN 22]

if it doesn't work out with the wife, hit me up.  i'll marry you just to get that kind of coverage.

Yeah, it’s sick. I still remember years of paying $366 a week back when the kids were under 5. And that was with work paying some towards it. 

Since this new job (Union) I’ve had deviated septum surgery, 2 sets of braces per kid and countless doctors visits and I’ve never paid more than a $10 co-pay. $2 for prescriptions. 

:notsohumblebrag: