This is one of those times where in a perfect world, I wish people could slow down and talk for a minute. And it's also where words and definitions struggle.
Here's the thing as I see it: Given our nation's history and the wrongs and hurtful things done to black people in this way, a white person putting on makeup to make one's face the color of a black person's face is wrong. Full stop.
Even if it's with good intentions. It just is hurtful and wrong. It may not feel hurtful to you. But this is bigger than just you. And that's an important point.
The idea that a 10-year-old white little girl that loves tennis and sees Serena Williams as her hero is a good thing. And if she wants to "be" Serena Williams for a party, it's at the base, a good thing if the child truly wants to emulate her hero and isn't letting skin color get in the way. One hope for equality is skin color becomes less a factor in how we choose our heroes.
But back to the start, a white person putting on makeup to make their face the color of a black person's is wrong.
This is where definitions and words struggle. In the case of the little girl and Serena Williams, calling this girl "racist", the same word one uses for a white supremacist, maybe seems too strong a word. It seems to me, "wrong" or "hurtful" might be more accurate words to describe the girl.
And no it does not "work both ways" and yes, you can call that a "double standard". That's just how it is.
This isn't "white guilt". It's white people realizing not everyone's had their experience. And being respectful for those people. And let's be real, the "sacrifice" that a white little girl needs to pick a different person to be at the party isn't much of a sacrifice. And I don't think it's "political correctness", whatever that is. Sometimes, I think what people call "political correctness" is actually just being cool.
My hope is people will slow down a second and talk. If the goal is a better understanding, it feels like we all need to try to listen better. And be cooler to each other.