Monitoring a kid's internet history - How? (1 Viewer)

[TheIronSheik]

Daughter's at the age where I'm fairly sure she's not doing anything wrong on the internet, but I'm sure those days are soon to be coming.

We've told her that every so often, we will do unannounced spot checks on her iPod Touch and Kindle to check texts and internet history.

But I soon realized, I actually am not really sure how to check the internet history of those devices. Is there an easy way to check what sites she's accessed?

I'm starting to feel like my dad. He was the CIO of a large corporation and he's constantly calling me up asking me questions that I'm like, "How did this guy ever get to his position?" I used to be a computer whiz growing up, and with each passing year, I get further in my career and dumber in my knowledge of IT.

I would think there's an easy way to check this stuff, right?

 

[Fennis]

go work for the NSA

 

[TheIronSheik]

go work for the NSA

I don't need to be that good.

 

[McGarnicle]

You don't even know how to check her history and she is likely really well-versed in numerous ways to hide it.

I would just talk to her about appropriate online activity and trust her to make the right decisions.

 

[TheIronSheik]

You don't even know how to check her history and she is likely really well-versed in numerous ways to hide it.

I would just talk to her about appropriate online activity and trust her to make the right decisions.

I was a great kid. And my parents taught me to be a good person. And I turned out pretty good.

But I can assure you I did not have a halo on my head my entire childhood. I'm pretty sure no one did. The point is not to check up on her constantly. It is to let her know that even though we are trusting her with this equipment, we still can check it at any time. I can't imagine I'll check it that often. But I think anyone who gives a kid access to the internet and then just assumes that they'll make good decisions all of the time are just setting themselves up for disappointment.

 

[Sarnoff]

You don't even know how to check her history and she is likely really well-versed in numerous ways to hide it.

Nah. I mean, a kid probably knows pretty well how to hide browser history. Some know how to clear cookies and erase caches and all that, too. But a rare few know about router logs.

 

[meatwad1]

Two words: Keystroke Logger

Its the only way to be certain that nothing untoward is going on.

http://ikeymonitor.com/

http://download.cnet.com/Free-Keystroke-Logger/3000-2162_4-75447782.html

Your welcome.

 

[LAUNCH]

Ipod/Iphone

• 1Tap "Safari" to open the Web browser on your iPod touch. Tap the "Bookmarks" icon on the bottom toolbar to load the Bookmarks page.
  
• 2Select "History." The History page loads displaying a folder for each date you've accessed Safari.
  
• 3Tap a folder to view the Internet history for that date.
  
• 4Tap the "Done" button to return to the Safari home page.
  
  This is for texts
  
  http://www.ilounge.com/index.php/articles/comments/monitoring-imessages-on-a-childs-ipod-touch/
  
  If you use the same email for Apple, this works. It is a little weird as you can watch texts as they happen.
  

 

[McGarnicle]

You don't even know how to check her history and she is likely really well-versed in numerous ways to hide it.

I would just talk to her about appropriate online activity and trust her to make the right decisions.

I was a great kid. And my parents taught me to be a good person. And I turned out pretty good.

But I can assure you I did not have a halo on my head my entire childhood. I'm pretty sure no one did. The point is not to check up on her constantly. It is to let her know that even though we are trusting her with this equipment, we still can check it at any time. I can't imagine I'll check it that often. But I think anyone who gives a kid access to the internet and then just assumes that they'll make good decisions all of the time are just setting themselves up for disappointment.

So with the bolded in mind, I'm curious what the point is of monitoring. And what you would do if you found she was visiting porn sites?

To me the most critical things to teach a girl on this topic is never talking to strangers or God forbid meeting a stranger from online, and sending/receiving revealing pics. I would drill that stuff into my daughter's head constantly. Other than that, it's normal for kids to be curious about what's out there.

 

[meatwad1]

I would never punish the kid unless it was something crazy like plotting to murder people. If your kid is looking at porn, it is time to have a talk about what porn is and why they should try to stay away from it.

In any event, it is good to know what your kids are looking at. You can never predict who will fall down the rabbit hole. Just because your kid is a good kid does not mean a thing. Many situations have been known to have the ability to turn on a dime.

 

[Rustoleum]

I'd be just as concerned with Skype, Snapchat, Facebook, etc. etc., what she is exposed to and how she comports herself on those type of sites.

I don't think it's so much a matter of what sites kids go to on on the internet, but rather what they feel passes for acceptable (language, bullying, sheer dickmittenery).

 

[jon_mx]

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Ipod/Iphone

• 1
  
  
  
  Tap "Safari" to open the Web browser on your iPod touch. Tap the "Bookmarks" icon on the bottom toolbar to load the Bookmarks page.
  
• 2
  
  
  
  Select "History." The History page loads displaying a folder for each date you've accessed Safari.
  
• 3
  
  
  
  Tap a folder to view the Internet history for that date.
  
• 4
  
  
  
  Tap the "Done" button to return to the Safari home page.
  
  
  
  This is for texts
  
  
  http://www.ilounge.com/index.php/articles/comments/monitoring-imessages-on-a-childs-ipod-touch/
  
  
  
  If you use the same email for Apple, this works. It is a little weird as you can watch texts as they happen.
  
  
  

. Does Safari have an incognito mode. If so it will not leave an easy trail. Checking the router is the surer solution.

 

[TheIronSheik]

You don't even know how to check her history and she is likely really well-versed in numerous ways to hide it.

I would just talk to her about appropriate online activity and trust her to make the right decisions.

I was a great kid. And my parents taught me to be a good person. And I turned out pretty good.

But I can assure you I did not have a halo on my head my entire childhood. I'm pretty sure no one did. The point is not to check up on her constantly. It is to let her know that even though we are trusting her with this equipment, we still can check it at any time. I can't imagine I'll check it that often. But I think anyone who gives a kid access to the internet and then just assumes that they'll make good decisions all of the time are just setting themselves up for disappointment.

So with the bolded in mind, I'm curious what the point is of monitoring. And what you would do if you found she was visiting porn sites?

To me the most critical things to teach a girl on this topic is never talking to strangers or God forbid meeting a stranger from online, and sending/receiving revealing pics. I would drill that stuff into my daughter's head constantly. Other than that, it's normal for kids to be curious about what's out there.

Dude. Good luck with being a parent. I'm really not sure what you're arguing here. Are you saying that you'd just trust your kid 100% on blind faith?

 

[butcher boy]

what's her screen name? I'll let you know what she's up to.

 

[McGarnicle]

You don't even know how to check her history and she is likely really well-versed in numerous ways to hide it.

I would just talk to her about appropriate online activity and trust her to make the right decisions.

I was a great kid. And my parents taught me to be a good person. And I turned out pretty good. But I can assure you I did not have a halo on my head my entire childhood. I'm pretty sure no one did. The point is not to check up on her constantly. It is to let her know that even though we are trusting her with this equipment, we still can check it at any time. I can't imagine I'll check it that often. But I think anyone who gives a kid access to the internet and then just assumes that they'll make good decisions all of the time are just setting themselves up for disappointment.

So with the bolded in mind, I'm curious what the point is of monitoring. And what you would do if you found she was visiting porn sites?To me the most critical things to teach a girl on this topic is never talking to strangers or God forbid meeting a stranger from online, and sending/receiving revealing pics. I would drill that stuff into my daughter's head constantly. Other than that, it's normal for kids to be curious about what's out there.

Dude. Good luck with being a parent. I'm really not sure what you're arguing here. Are you saying that you'd just trust your kid 100% on blind faith?

I would give trust gradually as it's earned and give lots of guidance along the way. I would hope to avoid this cat & mouse stuff as much as possible and trust that my wisdom is being heeded.

 

[Time Kibitzer]

Why do you need to check her internet history for? If she's a good kid to everyone and does well at school and whatnot, who cares if she likes to watch s&m porn every once in a while.

 

[AhrnCityPahnder]

Does Safari have an incognito mode. If so it will not leave an easy trail. Checking the router is the surer solution.

Except for that whole pesky 4G thing.

 

[grateful zed]

spying on your kid can lead to long term distrust on both sides. better to live and let live, imo.

 

[3C's]

Unless you have a reason to snoop don't do it. Set boundaries and guidelines, let them make their own mistakes, reel them in if needed.

 

[Slapdash]

PM Homer

 

[ClownCausedChaos2]

Two words: Keystroke Logger

Its the only way to be certain that nothing untoward is going on.

http://ikeymonitor.com/

http://download.cnet.com/Free-Keystroke-Logger/3000-2162_4-75447782.html

Your welcome.

Thank ewe.

 

[BobbyLayne]

Hey Sheik,

Curious what kind of a plan you have here once you overcome the technology hurdle. From your vague OP about her level of purity, guessing her age ismaybe grade school / early junior high?

What now? Let's see, these are unannounced 'inspections.' So do you barge in her room and confiscate her devices? Or do you stand there and search her history while she's there next to you? Check this stuff when she's out of the house? Or do you just go ahead and check her activity via the router logs or a keystroke logger?

What is the objective if you win this game of gotcha? Do you think there might be long term effects to her psyche? A bond of trust has built up over the last 10-12 years; any thoughts on how that will be affected?

Anyway, maybe I'm missing something here.

My approach with my 15 year old is to trust him. Blind faith? No. I've invested a decade and a half in helping him become a good decision maker. As has his mother. We set boundaries at a very early age and have gradually given him more responsibility and trust. He's earned it. I don't micro manage him or pester him about doing his homework every night. I get weekly reports (power school) on his 8 classes. He's getting good marks and he's a solid kid. His friends come from good homes. He's achieving his goals academically and he's involved in sports and activities. He doesn't have to be perfect.

I can't imagine spying on my own kid. If I was concerned or worried about something I'd take a direct approach. But thankfully, so far so good

ETA: thumbs!

 

[Chaos Commish]

Hey Sheik,

Curious what kind of a plan you have here once you overcome the technology hurdle. From your vague OP about her level of purity, guessing her age ismaybe grade school / early junior high?

What now? Let's see, these are unannounced 'inspections.' So do you barge in her room and confiscate her devices? Or do you stand there and search her history while she's there next to you? Check this stuff when she's out of the house? Or do you just go ahead and check her activity via the router logs or a keystroke logger?

What is the objective if you win this game of gotcha? Do you think there might be long term effects to her psyche? A bond of trust has built up over the last 10-12 years; any thoughts on how that will be affected?

Anyway, maybe I'm missing something here.

My approach with my 15 year old is to trust him. Blind faith? No. I've invested a decade and a half in helping him become a good decision maker. As has his mother. We set boundaries at a very early age and have gradually given him more responsibility and trust. He's earned it. I don't micro manage him or pester him about doing his homework every night. I get weekly reports (power school) on his 8 classes. He's getting good marks and he's a solid kid. His friends come from good homes. He's achieving his goals academically and he's involved in sports and activities. He doesn't have to be perfect.

I can't imagine spying on my own kid. If I was concerned or worried about something I'd take a direct approach. But thankfully, so far so good

ETA: thumbs!

If you've put in the time you can live in peace and let kids be who they are. The unsavory (?) material teenagers are exposed to has changed in obvious, and for some, distressing ways. Ease of access, volume, the general acceptance of what for us was taboo. Forbidden fruit for me as a teen is kind of lame and boring and stupid to informed teens today. The downright obscene vulgar weird perverse #### out there isn't avoidable unless you take drastic measures to deny access that do more harm than good.

So put in the time. Don't have the talk. Have a hundred talks. The direct approach. Everything right up front. Don't spy. No one likes a sneaky distrustful parent creeping around. You'll be rewarded with a kid you can trust because you trusted, talked, disciplined, talked, corrected, talked, and made sure to talk. It's education teaching your kid how to behave. If he/she doesn't follow perfectly, congratulations, your kid is normal.

 

[moleculo]

several years ago, my 13 year old stepson was here with for the summer. After he left to go back to his dads house, I took a gander at his browser history, out of curiousity more than anything. It was hilarious - "Britney Spears in a bra"... "butts"..."boobies"..."Selena Gomez"....etc. nothing too nasty, but definitely stuff a 13 year old would be googling when adults aren't around. I told his mom and we had a good laugh; never said anything to the kid.

I don't have anything to advise here, just thought I'd share.

 

[McGarnicle]

In fairness though, this has to be the most difficult period in human history to raise kids. I don't envy the task at all. I wonder if you literally have to sit there with the kid and watch a video of midgets being pissed on and then take questions about why it's harmful to watch. Because they're going to be around kids who have huge collections of videos of midgets being pissed on. And there is no history to fall back on. The technology that kids are exposed to now is unprecedented and there is no known "perfect" way to navigate through it.

Having said that, I would still contend that the basic approach is to put in the time, give lots of advice and guidance and then trust the kid to make the right decisions, but then again this is also a time when people are working longer hours and commutes are longer than ever. And of course any kid who wants to get into a good college needs lots of extracurricular activities on their resume. I'm sure parents feel like there are never enough hours in the day.

 

[Psychopav]

I am using K9 browser (link: http://www.google.com/url?q=http://www1.k9webprotection.com/&sa=U&ei=1XuOU6-sOqnLsQTOqYBg&ved=0CBkQFjAD&sig2=-L-fzxES_5PIugKwDjZMGg&usg=AFQjCNHH8cm8hwTGekVoXYe5nTUv2vvKhw) and Avast on my 14 y.o. son's android phone and tablet and trust me they are needed. I went the trust route first, raised him right and told him about choices, but he and his idiot friends saw things that could not be unseen. There were things in his history that would make the :e: crowd blush. So now we're taking the more controlled approach (after he finally got his devices back after several months).

His 15 y.o. sister is still on the trust but verify plan.

 

[meatwad1]

In fairness though, this has to be the most difficult period in human history to raise kids. I don't envy the task at all. I wonder if you literally have to sit there with the kid and watch a video of midgets being pissed on and then take questions about why it's harmful to watch. Because they're going to be around kids who have huge collections of videos of midgets being pissed on. And there is no history to fall back on. The technology that kids are exposed to now is unprecedented and there is no known "perfect" way to navigate through it.

Having said that, I would still contend that the basic approach is to put in the time, give lots of advice and guidance and then trust the kid to make the right decisions, but then again this is also a time when people are working longer hours and commutes are longer than ever. And of course any kid who wants to get into a good college needs lots of extracurricular activities on their resume. I'm sure parents feel like there are never enough hours in the day.

Well put! This is why you should send your kids to Catholic school.

 

[NCCommish]

It's hard to parent these days. To me reading her history, posts, etc would be like reading her diary. But I understand the concern as well. Tough choices with lots of possible sticky outcomes.

 

[NCCommish]

In fairness though, this has to be the most difficult period in human history to raise kids. I don't envy the task at all. I wonder if you literally have to sit there with the kid and watch a video of midgets being pissed on and then take questions about why it's harmful to watch. Because they're going to be around kids who have huge collections of videos of midgets being pissed on. And there is no history to fall back on. The technology that kids are exposed to now is unprecedented and there is no known "perfect" way to navigate through it.

Having said that, I would still contend that the basic approach is to put in the time, give lots of advice and guidance and then trust the kid to make the right decisions, but then again this is also a time when people are working longer hours and commutes are longer than ever. And of course any kid who wants to get into a good college needs lots of extracurricular activities on their resume. I'm sure parents feel like there are never enough hours in the day.

Well put! This is why you should send your kids to Catholic school.

Catholic schoolgirls were my favorite.

 

[TheIronSheik]

Hey Sheik,

Curious what kind of a plan you have here once you overcome the technology hurdle. From your vague OP about her level of purity, guessing her age ismaybe grade school / early junior high?

What now? Let's see, these are unannounced 'inspections.' So do you barge in her room and confiscate her devices? Or do you stand there and search her history while she's there next to you? Check this stuff when she's out of the house? Or do you just go ahead and check her activity via the router logs or a keystroke logger?

What is the objective if you win this game of gotcha? Do you think there might be long term effects to her psyche? A bond of trust has built up over the last 10-12 years; any thoughts on how that will be affected?

Anyway, maybe I'm missing something here.

My approach with my 15 year old is to trust him. Blind faith? No. I've invested a decade and a half in helping him become a good decision maker. As has his mother. We set boundaries at a very early age and have gradually given him more responsibility and trust. He's earned it. I don't micro manage him or pester him about doing his homework every night. I get weekly reports (power school) on his 8 classes. He's getting good marks and he's a solid kid. His friends come from good homes. He's achieving his goals academically and he's involved in sports and activities. He doesn't have to be perfect.

I can't imagine spying on my own kid. If I was concerned or worried about something I'd take a direct approach. But thankfully, so far so good

ETA: thumbs!

You can judge me how ever you want. That's cool. Just remember, you don't know me. You don't know my situation other than what I've expressed over an internet message board. So keep that in mind.

First off, you are more than welcome to raise your kids however you want. There is more than one way to raise a good kid.

My daughter is a very good kid. And we have a very open relationship of talking about what's right and what's wrong. But that doesn't mean that she doesn't need policing every so often to remind her that there are consequences to making poor decisions. I'd rather her learn now than later in life.

In the year that she's had these devices, I've told her to bring them down to me so I can look at them. She brings them down and I check out what's on them. She doesn't care. And we tell her we're proud of her when everything checks out. It's positive reinforcement.

So in summation: Yes. You are missing something.

 

[TheIronSheik]

It's hard to parent these days. To me reading her history, posts, etc would be like reading her diary. But I understand the concern as well. Tough choices with lots of possible sticky outcomes.

The difference between those two things is that she has expectations of privacy with her diary. She should never have expectations of privacy with her mobile devices.

 

[NCCommish]

It's hard to parent these days. To me reading her history, posts, etc would be like reading her diary. But I understand the concern as well. Tough choices with lots of possible sticky outcomes.

The difference between those two things is that she has expectations of privacy with her diary. She should never have expectations of privacy with her mobile devices.

Well while I don't envy you your job I would politely disagree. A phone and the messages on it are the modern equivalent to the little diary tucked under a pillow. That's my opinion when it comes to police searches and when it comes to parents searches. But you have to do what you think is right for your child. Again tough choices.

 

[Clifford]

Daughter's at the age where I'm fairly sure she's not doing anything wrong on the internet, but I'm sure those days are soon to be coming.

We've told her that every so often, we will do unannounced spot checks on her iPod Touch and Kindle to check texts and internet history.

But I soon realized, I actually am not really sure how to check the internet history of those devices. Is there an easy way to check what sites she's accessed?

I'm starting to feel like my dad. He was the CIO of a large corporation and he's constantly calling me up asking me questions that I'm like, "How did this guy ever get to his position?" I used to be a computer whiz growing up, and with each passing year, I get further in my career and dumber in my knowledge of IT.

I would think there's an easy way to check this stuff, right?

Custodio out of Spain has a cross platform solution

 

[TheIronSheik]

It's hard to parent these days. To me reading her history, posts, etc would be like reading her diary. But I understand the concern as well. Tough choices with lots of possible sticky outcomes.

The difference between those two things is that she has expectations of privacy with her diary. She should never have expectations of privacy with her mobile devices.

Well while I don't envy you your job I would politely disagree. A phone and the messages on it are the modern equivalent to the little diary tucked under a pillow. That's my opinion when it comes to police searches and when it comes to parents searches. But you have to do what you think is right for your child. Again tough choices.

What I'm saying is that one of the stipulations of getting these devices was that we would be able to check them at any time. These are not a surprise to her that they could be coming. She has known even before she got the devices that they would not be private and that they can be checked.

One of the things we've talked about is that in today's world, people post things online and don't realize that everyone can see them. Now, she doesn't use FB or anything like that. Yet. But what we're trying to teach her is that these devices, while in her possession and no one else's, do not mean that things on them are private. Don't post things that you don't want everyone to know about.

I think when she eventually does get on a social network, she'll be more informed and understand how to be a little more careful with what she puts out there.

 

[Psychopav]

It's hard to parent these days. To me reading her history, posts, etc would be like reading her diary. But I understand the concern as well. Tough choices with lots of possible sticky outcomes.

The difference between those two things is that she has expectations of privacy with her diary. She should never have expectations of privacy with her mobile devices.

Well while I don't envy you your job I would politely disagree. A phone and the messages on it are the modern equivalent to the little diary tucked under a pillow. That's my opinion when it comes to police searches and when it comes to parents searches. But you have to do what you think is right for your child. Again tough choices.

I hear what you're saying and agree it's a very fine line to navigate, but communication with other people goes beyond the diary analogue. It's one thing if it's her own friends who you know and have met irl, and a totally other thing if it's extended network/strangers/adults. It would be akin to letting your kid hang out at the local (pick a public spot) and have private conversations with a broad variety of people. The level of caution required goes far - far - beyond that of a simple diary.

 

[NCCommish]

It's hard to parent these days. To me reading her history, posts, etc would be like reading her diary. But I understand the concern as well. Tough choices with lots of possible sticky outcomes.

The difference between those two things is that she has expectations of privacy with her diary. She should never have expectations of privacy with her mobile devices.

Well while I don't envy you your job I would politely disagree. A phone and the messages on it are the modern equivalent to the little diary tucked under a pillow. That's my opinion when it comes to police searches and when it comes to parents searches. But you have to do what you think is right for your child. Again tough choices.

What I'm saying is that one of the stipulations of getting these devices was that we would be able to check them at any time. These are not a surprise to her that they could be coming. She has known even before she got the devices that they would not be private and that they can be checked.

One of the things we've talked about is that in today's world, people post things online and don't realize that everyone can see them. Now, she doesn't use FB or anything like that. Yet. But what we're trying to teach her is that these devices, while in her possession and no one else's, do not mean that things on them are private. Don't post things that you don't want everyone to know about.

I think when she eventually does get on a social network, she'll be more informed and understand how to be a little more careful with what she puts out there.

True

 

[NCCommish]

It's hard to parent these days. To me reading her history, posts, etc would be like reading her diary. But I understand the concern as well. Tough choices with lots of possible sticky outcomes.

The difference between those two things is that she has expectations of privacy with her diary. She should never have expectations of privacy with her mobile devices.

Well while I don't envy you your job I would politely disagree. A phone and the messages on it are the modern equivalent to the little diary tucked under a pillow. That's my opinion when it comes to police searches and when it comes to parents searches. But you have to do what you think is right for your child. Again tough choices.

I hear what you're saying and agree it's a very fine line to navigate, but communication with other people goes beyond the diary analogue. It's one thing if it's her own friends who you know and have met irl, and a totally other thing if it's extended network/strangers/adults. It would be akin to letting your kid hang out at the local (pick a public spot) and have private conversations with a broad variety of people. The level of caution required goes far - far - beyond that of a simple diary.

Good points.

 

[TheIronSheik]

It's hard to parent these days. To me reading her history, posts, etc would be like reading her diary. But I understand the concern as well. Tough choices with lots of possible sticky outcomes.

The difference between those two things is that she has expectations of privacy with her diary. She should never have expectations of privacy with her mobile devices.

Well while I don't envy you your job I would politely disagree. A phone and the messages on it are the modern equivalent to the little diary tucked under a pillow. That's my opinion when it comes to police searches and when it comes to parents searches. But you have to do what you think is right for your child. Again tough choices.

I hear what you're saying and agree it's a very fine line to navigate, but communication with other people goes beyond the diary analogue. It's one thing if it's her own friends who you know and have met irl, and a totally other thing if it's extended network/strangers/adults. It would be akin to letting your kid hang out at the local (pick a public spot) and have private conversations with a broad variety of people. The level of caution required goes far - far - beyond that of a simple diary.

I understand what you're saying. And I agree.

My daughter is 10 years old and really doesn't text that much other than saying things like "Hey!" or "Can you come over this weekend?" Our goal here isn't to read every single thing she writes. Or monitor every single thing she does. It's more of a spot check.

If we we're security, we'd be less like the TSA and more like the security guy at a gates to a professional baseball game.

 

[Black Box]

Why do you need to check her internet history for? If she's a good kid to everyone and does well at school and whatnot, who cares if she likes to watch s&m porn every once in a while.

Slenderman.

 

[James Daulton]

Are people really questioning whether it makes sense to monitor the internet history of a teen? Particularly a girl? So 99.9% of the time there's no issue and the kid makes good decisions with no outside interference. Does anyone here want to be the one who's kid gets tricked or swayed by an adult into doing something they normally wouldn't? How about just verifying that the kid has decent relationships with their peers and isn't being beaten down without you even knowing.

I commend TIS on taking on active role in guiding and monitoring his child while he still has the opportunity.

 

[shader]

Are people really questioning whether it makes sense to monitor the internet history of a 15 year old? Particularly a girl? So 99.9% of the time there's no issue and the kid makes good decisions with no outside interference. Does anyone here want to be the one who's kid gets tricked or swayed by an adult into doing something they normally wouldn't? How about just verifying that the kid has decent relationships with their peers and isn't being beaten down without you even knowing.

I commend TIS on taking on active role in guiding and monitoring his child while he still has the opportunity.

Of course they are, this is the FFA. I was told a few months back that it's GOOD for your 16 year old daughter to be out having sex and learning, because it's a wonderful time in life. A certain demographic of the country basically thinks that if you aren't plotting a murder, you can do whatever you want.

 

[TheIronSheik]

Are people really questioning whether it makes sense to monitor the internet history of a teen? Particularly a girl? So 99.9% of the time there's no issue and the kid makes good decisions with no outside interference. Does anyone here want to be the one who's kid gets tricked or swayed by an adult into doing something they normally wouldn't? How about just verifying that the kid has decent relationships with their peers and isn't being beaten down without you even knowing.

I commend TIS on taking on active role in guiding and monitoring his child while he still has the opportunity.

Thank you, GB. I'm actually surprised people are so offended by what we're doing.

 

[NCCommish]

Are people really questioning whether it makes sense to monitor the internet history of a teen? Particularly a girl? So 99.9% of the time there's no issue and the kid makes good decisions with no outside interference. Does anyone here want to be the one who's kid gets tricked or swayed by an adult into doing something they normally wouldn't? How about just verifying that the kid has decent relationships with their peers and isn't being beaten down without you even knowing.

I commend TIS on taking on active role in guiding and monitoring his child while he still has the opportunity.

Thank you, GB. I'm actually surprised people are so offended by what we're doing.

You do what you think is right for yours they do the same for theirs. Most kids are going to end up at the same place in the long run. Healthy happy adults. Some that are monitored will still be problems. Some that aren't will also be problems. There is no one size fits all.

 

[James Daulton]

Are people really questioning whether it makes sense to monitor the internet history of a teen? Particularly a girl? So 99.9% of the time there's no issue and the kid makes good decisions with no outside interference. Does anyone here want to be the one who's kid gets tricked or swayed by an adult into doing something they normally wouldn't? How about just verifying that the kid has decent relationships with their peers and isn't being beaten down without you even knowing.

I commend TIS on taking on active role in guiding and monitoring his child while he still has the opportunity.

Thank you, GB. I'm actually surprised people are so offended by what we're doing.

You do what you think is right for yours they do the same for theirs. Most kids are going to end up at the same place in the long run. Healthy happy adults. Some that are monitored will still be problems. Some that aren't will also be problems. There is no one size fits all.

While I don't necessarily disagree with this. The world we live in now offers predators much more access to our children than we experienced as children. Kid on kid mental bullying is also much easier than it used to be. I think we owe it to our kids to not only give them a good role models and to guide them while their under our roof, we also need to actively make sure they're not being manipulated or coerced by some skeezy adult. It happens and we should do all we can to make sure it doesn't happen to our kids.

 

[Corporation]

You are doing the right thing Sheik. I trust my kids to make good decisions but curiosity is very high at that age. They really don't have the skills to limit their searches to stuff that doesn't "cross the line". There are some things that once seen can't be unseen and it festers.

Once they are adults they are free to do as they choose, but while they are "kids" they will get the protection they don't think they need.

 

[Cjw_55106]

Are people really questioning whether it makes sense to monitor the internet history of a teen? Particularly a girl? So 99.9% of the time there's no issue and the kid makes good decisions with no outside interference. Does anyone here want to be the one who's kid gets tricked or swayed by an adult into doing something they normally wouldn't? How about just verifying that the kid has decent relationships with their peers and isn't being beaten down without you even knowing.

I commend TIS on taking on active role in guiding and monitoring his child while he still has the opportunity.

Thank you, GB. I'm actually surprised people are so offended by what we're doing.

You do what you think is right for yours they do the same for theirs. Most kids are going to end up at the same place in the long run. Healthy happy adults. Some that are monitored will still be problems. Some that aren't will also be problems. There is no one size fits all.

Well there was..until the magnum came out.

 

[James Daulton]

Are people really questioning whether it makes sense to monitor the internet history of a teen? Particularly a girl? So 99.9% of the time there's no issue and the kid makes good decisions with no outside interference. Does anyone here want to be the one who's kid gets tricked or swayed by an adult into doing something they normally wouldn't? How about just verifying that the kid has decent relationships with their peers and isn't being beaten down without you even knowing.

I commend TIS on taking on active role in guiding and monitoring his child while he still has the opportunity.

Thank you, GB. I'm actually surprised people are so offended by what we're doing.

Keep staying active and involved Shiek. They grow up so fast.

 

[James Daulton]

Are people really questioning whether it makes sense to monitor the internet history of a teen? Particularly a girl? So 99.9% of the time there's no issue and the kid makes good decisions with no outside interference. Does anyone here want to be the one who's kid gets tricked or swayed by an adult into doing something they normally wouldn't? How about just verifying that the kid has decent relationships with their peers and isn't being beaten down without you even knowing.

I commend TIS on taking on active role in guiding and monitoring his child while he still has the opportunity.

Thank you, GB. I'm actually surprised people are so offended by what we're doing.

You do what you think is right for yours they do the same for theirs. Most kids are going to end up at the same place in the long run. Healthy happy adults. Some that are monitored will still be problems. Some that aren't will also be problems. There is no one size fits all.

Well there was..until the magnum came out.

And when it did come out, you really had no choice but to buy that one. Genius.

 

[NCCommish]

Are people really questioning whether it makes sense to monitor the internet history of a teen? Particularly a girl? So 99.9% of the time there's no issue and the kid makes good decisions with no outside interference. Does anyone here want to be the one who's kid gets tricked or swayed by an adult into doing something they normally wouldn't? How about just verifying that the kid has decent relationships with their peers and isn't being beaten down without you even knowing.

I commend TIS on taking on active role in guiding and monitoring his child while he still has the opportunity.

Thank you, GB. I'm actually surprised people are so offended by what we're doing.

You do what you think is right for yours they do the same for theirs. Most kids are going to end up at the same place in the long run. Healthy happy adults. Some that are monitored will still be problems. Some that aren't will also be problems. There is no one size fits all.

While I don't necessarily disagree with this. The world we live in now offers predators much more access to our children than we experienced as children. Kid on kid mental bullying is also much easier than it used to be. I think we owe it to our kids to not only give them a good role models and to guide them while their under our roof, we also need to actively make sure they're not being manipulated or coerced by some skeezy adult. It happens and we should do all we can to make sure it doesn't happen to our kids.

And again I don't disagree. But I don't think anyone has the one answer for every kid. I would have been pissed off and rebelled every chance I got if I thought I was being monitored. That's my personality. I am much more likely to go along with the rules if you explain them. For instance I was really young and bugging my mom for a toy in a store. She explained to me we couldn't afford it right now. I was good with that. And from then on all she had to say was not today and I understood. Now that's me. That wouldn't have worked with a lot of kids. Hopefully you know your child well enough to choose the right approach for them.

 

[Jayrod]

My son is 7 and my daughter is 4. Growing up with the internet is NOTHING like we have experienced. The diary analogy is laughable. A diary is a private monologue. The internet is a public dialogue with basically the entire world, sickos and predators included.

I'm the polar opposite of a helicopter parent. There are a lot of areas I'm very lax in with my kids that my wife and probably the majority of you would argue with.

But the internet is a jacked up place and kids are ill-equipped to handle it until they are close to adults. If they can't drive themselves to the mall and hang out without you, they shouldn't be allowed to roam the internet un-monitored.