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Amen!
To me this is the greatest gift you can give someone, the gift of life. I'd love nothing more to know that my passing has given life back to a few people. I can only imagine how even better it would be if you saved a loved one's life. Good idea not to push it. Seeing first hand how someone is saving his mother's life ought to do it.
Aren't they always? The last time I was hospitalized they brought in this lady who was chatty as hell telling her sob story of how she broke her hip in a fluke bike accident over and over. To boot she had diarrhea. I had infection as well and thought wtf? This person with such issues should not be in with me. I put up a stink, not being a bully or mean, but just nice about it and once she was released, they put a note not to give me a roomie unless it's the last resort. The last week I was there I was in peace, well as peaceful as it can be when you are interrupted every hour with taking bp, vitals and changing IV bags and such. And they tell you to rest, get some sleep! Yeah, righto! I'd put in a request for her to be left alone. I don't see why they wouldn't honor it unless they are short on beds.
I'm doing my best but inside I feel like a fraud. I try to project strength for her despite not feeling it internally. Decided she is a much stronger person than I am.
Being by her side is strength. There were times my friend's husband would go MIA and that was ok. He was there for what he could handle and relied on the rest of us to help. She wanted it that way. That's what a support system is about. And I don't know your wife but I'm willing to bet she'd like for you to give yourself a break and credit. Do what you can, but you have to take care of yourself too. Use your support system.
You're correct and she does. I have difficulty asking for help even though it's available in abundance. I get my breaks hanging out with our son at his bowling tournaments.
You'd be amazed how much your support system wants to help your family. I loved it when her husband would call me for favors. And for me even though I'm pretty independent, my bffs beg me to tell them what they can do to help. I think if you ask for help from someone who cares, you'll make their day. Win/Win.
I'm doing ok, all things considered. Just completely mentally exhausted. Putting life on hold while waiting for an organ to become available is very draining and stressful at the same time.
Good good. Hang on to that excellent prognosis for your family. I know from personal experience that it's very easy to get bogged down in the incredibly unfair here and now, which takes emotions and energy away from focusing on a hopeful future. Stay strong man.
I get the impression from her doctor it's probably in the weeks/months range. She has my wife listed as desperate and the team is proactive looking for an organ. But in reality, we really just don't know. The best option is at this point is a living donor, but that route doesn't seem to be leading anywhere either.
