***Official*** FFA iDating Thread (4 Viewers)

[Bankerguy]

OK......so where was I.... (and yes the third wheel used to like me...but I thought she was clear on the friends situation).

SO, third wheel is in the office checking email, I thought she had left to go upstairs, when walk by the den I can see she is still there. I pretend to get a glass of water and return to bed.

I wait.....and wait....and wait.

Finally I jsut said #### it. I walk into the den inform the third wheel/"friend" that I am going up to "Hot Cougars" room to try my luck (Even though I am pretty confident) regardless of what she thinks.

It's funny, as I walk up the dark stairs, I quickly realize I have no idea what room she is in. . I first walk into a closet...... . The second door I go into, is the teen age boy's (who lives there) room. I am glad I didn't hop into bed... that could have been hard to explain. Ah too funny...anyways.....so I finally find her room.

Go in.....she is laughing at me, because she could see me tip toeing in the hallway and going into the teenage boys room. We talk for a bit and she is still worried about the third wheel who is still downstairs. After some chatting and assurances that everything will be just fine. We had a VERY nice night together. OMG.....I am still thinking about it today.

I just might be done with the i.dating thing. I definately am taking her out again when our schedules match up.

p.s. The third wheel is royally pissed at both me and Hot Cougar and says she doesn't want to be friends amymore......we are both like WTF???.

p.s.s.......The last 3 days are out of bizarro world. As I typed this note, my rebound girl after my separation, just texted me. "Can I sleep over tonight???" I haven't talked to her in about a month....what is going on today??

Need to find out what the heck is up.

 

[code]

what is going on today??

Whatever it is it sounds like the exact opposite of the Otis Slump

 

[Bankerguy]

what is going on today??

Whatever it is it sounds like the exact opposite of the Otis Slump

She is recently off work on a stress leave and she has to tell me something imortant. I am freaking out right now!!

 

[Disco Stu]

what is going on today??

Whatever it is it sounds like the exact opposite of the Otis Slump

She is recently off work on a stress leave and she has to tell me something imortant. I am freaking out right now!!

Sounds bad. Hopefully it's important in her mind but doesn't necessarily affect you. GLLLL

 

[Pip's Invitation]

what is going on today??

Whatever it is it sounds like the exact opposite of the Otis Slump

She is recently off work on a stress leave and she has to tell me something imortant. I am freaking out right now!!

Sounds a little Woz-Ex-ish. Third Wheel is being real immature. Either she'll learn to deal with it, or she won't. No need for you to do anything different.

 

[Otis]

what is going on today??

Whatever it is it sounds like the exact opposite of the Otis Slump

 

[Otis]

On the kids issue...

I got a message from a hottie with kids. I just don't think I can do it. Total dealbreaker for me.

 

[Capella]

On the kids issue...I got a message from a hottie with kids. I just don't think I can do it. Total dealbreaker for me.

Why? They're the easiest prey.

 

[Capella]

oh wait, you're looking for a wife. nevermind, carry on...

 

[Bankerguy]

On the kids issue...I got a message from a hottie with kids. I just don't think I can do it. Total dealbreaker for me.

Nothing wrong with knowing what you like.It's good to see that you won't "shoplift the pootie".

 

[Disco Stu]

On the kids issue...I got a message from a hottie with kids. I just don't think I can do it. Total dealbreaker for me.

Nothing wrong with knowing what you like.It's good to see that you won't "shoplift the pootie".

Leaves more for us divorced guys.BTW, chick from last night and her friend she was hanging out with when I got there both confided that they specifically look for divorced guys because "they know what they're doing". These two are 30 something moms currently going through divorces. YMMV.

 

[krista4]

BG, reading your story made me feel like I was stuck in the movie The Ice Storm. I'm glad it worked out well, though!

 

[Bankerguy]

BG, reading your story made me feel like I was stuck in the movie The Ice Storm. I'm glad it worked out well, though!

Krista...what is your take on the third wheel. I am really as to why she is so upset. As a female, any insights?

 

[Guy LeDouche]

Did Woz get laid yet? We have a pool going

 

[krista4]

BG, reading your story made me feel like I was stuck in the movie The Ice Storm. I'm glad it worked out well, though!

Krista...what is your take on the third wheel. I am really as to why she is so upset. As a female, any insights?

It's one of two things: (1) she was interested in you herself, or (2) she thought Hot Cougar (not digging that name, BTW ) and she were there hanging out together and is resentful that HC "left" her when they were going to be having fun together. Did Third Wheel come to the weekend alone, or with HC? If the latter, then it's definitely reason #2. Otherwise, I'd say she somehow thought she might get to hook up with you.Doesn't make it right, but some women are whacked. I lost a friend once because my boyfriend and I were nice enough to let her tag along with us for New Year's Eve. It was a fairly new relationship and we didn't really want her along, but we were both friends with her and felt bad for her otherwise being alone so we said sure. Then she got mad because the bf and I kissed each other while we were out, and she stormed away mad (for some reason, more mad at me than him). I figured good riddance, and we were never friends again. Whacked, I tell ya.

 

[Bankerguy]

BG, reading your story made me feel like I was stuck in the movie The Ice Storm. I'm glad it worked out well, though!

Krista...what is your take on the third wheel. I am really as to why she is so upset. As a female, any insights?

It's one of two things: (1) she was interested in you herself, or (2) she thought Hot Cougar (not digging that name, BTW ) and she were there hanging out together and is resentful that HC "left" her when they were going to be having fun together. Did Third Wheel come to the weekend alone, or with HC? If the latter, then it's definitely reason #2. Otherwise, I'd say she somehow thought she might get to hook up with you.Doesn't make it right, but some women are whacked. I lost a friend once because my boyfriend and I were nice enough to let her tag along with us for New Year's Eve. It was a fairly new relationship and we didn't really want her along, but we were both friends with her and felt bad for her otherwise being alone so we said sure. Then she got mad because the bf and I kissed each other while we were out, and she stormed away mad (for some reason, more mad at me than him). I figured good riddance, and we were never friends again. Whacked, I tell ya.

It was late at night.....we were all going to bed. I wasn't cutting in on their time. So, you think she still has feelings for me, even though I was really clear about just being "friends" years ago? She really helped me out during my separation, I crashed at her house for a couple of weeks. (Nothing at all happened).

 

[Uruk-Hai]

BG, reading your story made me feel like I was stuck in the movie The Ice Storm. I'm glad it worked out well, though!

Krista...what is your take on the third wheel. I am really as to why she is so upset. As a female, any insights?

It's one of two things: (1) she was interested in you herself, or (2) she thought Hot Cougar (not digging that name, BTW ) and she were there hanging out together and is resentful that HC "left" her when they were going to be having fun together. Did Third Wheel come to the weekend alone, or with HC? If the latter, then it's definitely reason #2. Otherwise, I'd say she somehow thought she might get to hook up with you.Doesn't make it right, but some women are whacked. I lost a friend once because my boyfriend and I were nice enough to let her tag along with us for New Year's Eve. It was a fairly new relationship and we didn't really want her along, but we were both friends with her and felt bad for her otherwise being alone so we said sure. Then she got mad because the bf and I kissed each other while we were out, and she stormed away mad (for some reason, more mad at me than him). I figured good riddance, and we were never friends again. Whacked, I tell ya.

Could be a combination, but I'm leaning towards #1. BG said she used to have feelings for him. She never stopped, probably. BG, has she dated much?

 

[krista4]

BG, reading your story made me feel like I was stuck in the movie The Ice Storm. I'm glad it worked out well, though!

Krista...what is your take on the third wheel. I am really as to why she is so upset. As a female, any insights?

It's one of two things: (1) she was interested in you herself, or (2) she thought Hot Cougar (not digging that name, BTW ) and she were there hanging out together and is resentful that HC "left" her when they were going to be having fun together. Did Third Wheel come to the weekend alone, or with HC? If the latter, then it's definitely reason #2. Otherwise, I'd say she somehow thought she might get to hook up with you.Doesn't make it right, but some women are whacked. I lost a friend once because my boyfriend and I were nice enough to let her tag along with us for New Year's Eve. It was a fairly new relationship and we didn't really want her along, but we were both friends with her and felt bad for her otherwise being alone so we said sure. Then she got mad because the bf and I kissed each other while we were out, and she stormed away mad (for some reason, more mad at me than him). I figured good riddance, and we were never friends again. Whacked, I tell ya.

It was late at night.....we were all going to bed. I wasn't cutting in on their time. So, you think she still has feelings for me, even though I was really clear about just being "friends" years ago? She really helped me out during my separation, I crashed at her house for a couple of weeks. (Nothing at all happened).

Yes. Especially if she helped you through your separation...

 

[Leeroy Jenkins]

Just back from date #2. I was INCHES from getting her home. She had an annoying voice and an ok personality but a killer body. By the end of the date, the first two just melted into the third. If I'd have pushed, I could have gotten her home. We made a scene for about 20 minutes outside the bar as we left. I had my hands on her like Beethoven on a piano as she debated how much she liked me and how she thinks I would never call her back if she came home with me the first night. I started to feel guilty and decided not to force the issue. Call me a good guy tonight. Had I pushed, she'd be here now.Oh well.

I'd sacrafice homefield advantage w/ these random iChicks at first. High psycho-ratio I would think.

 

[Bankerguy]

BG, reading your story made me feel like I was stuck in the movie The Ice Storm. I'm glad it worked out well, though!

Krista...what is your take on the third wheel. I am really as to why she is so upset. As a female, any insights?

It's one of two things: (1) she was interested in you herself, or (2) she thought Hot Cougar (not digging that name, BTW ) and she were there hanging out together and is resentful that HC "left" her when they were going to be having fun together. Did Third Wheel come to the weekend alone, or with HC? If the latter, then it's definitely reason #2. Otherwise, I'd say she somehow thought she might get to hook up with you.Doesn't make it right, but some women are whacked. I lost a friend once because my boyfriend and I were nice enough to let her tag along with us for New Year's Eve. It was a fairly new relationship and we didn't really want her along, but we were both friends with her and felt bad for her otherwise being alone so we said sure. Then she got mad because the bf and I kissed each other while we were out, and she stormed away mad (for some reason, more mad at me than him). I figured good riddance, and we were never friends again. Whacked, I tell ya.

It was late at night.....we were all going to bed. I wasn't cutting in on their time. So, you think she still has feelings for me, even though I was really clear about just being "friends" years ago? She really helped me out during my separation, I crashed at her house for a couple of weeks. (Nothing at all happened).

Yes. Especially if she helped you through your separation...

Oh brother......you chicks are freaking crazy sometimes.How could she not know I wasn't interested, or was it more wishful thinking.

 

[ditka...mike ditka]

the girl I went out with friday who said she would be calling me from New York later in the week just sent an unexpected text telling me she made it to NY ok. sure, its a text that doesnt really say anything, but its better than nothing!

 

[Bankerguy]

BG, reading your story made me feel like I was stuck in the movie The Ice Storm. I'm glad it worked out well, though!

Krista...what is your take on the third wheel. I am really as to why she is so upset. As a female, any insights?

It's one of two things: (1) she was interested in you herself, or (2) she thought Hot Cougar (not digging that name, BTW ) and she were there hanging out together and is resentful that HC "left" her when they were going to be having fun together. Did Third Wheel come to the weekend alone, or with HC? If the latter, then it's definitely reason #2. Otherwise, I'd say she somehow thought she might get to hook up with you.Doesn't make it right, but some women are whacked. I lost a friend once because my boyfriend and I were nice enough to let her tag along with us for New Year's Eve. It was a fairly new relationship and we didn't really want her along, but we were both friends with her and felt bad for her otherwise being alone so we said sure. Then she got mad because the bf and I kissed each other while we were out, and she stormed away mad (for some reason, more mad at me than him). I figured good riddance, and we were never friends again. Whacked, I tell ya.

Could be a combination, but I'm leaning towards #1. BG said she used to have feelings for him. She never stopped, probably. BG, has she dated much?

No, while a great person and friend, she is a bigger girl and has been hurt badly in the past. She self admitedly does not even want a relationship. She knows she is not my "type".

 

[Bankerguy]

the girl I went out with friday who said she would be calling me from New York later in the week just sent an unexpected text telling me she made it to NY ok. sure, its a text that doesnt really say anything, but its better than nothing!

Always a good sign.

 

[krista4]

BG, reading your story made me feel like I was stuck in the movie The Ice Storm. I'm glad it worked out well, though!

Krista...what is your take on the third wheel. I am really as to why she is so upset. As a female, any insights?

It's one of two things: (1) she was interested in you herself, or (2) she thought Hot Cougar (not digging that name, BTW ) and she were there hanging out together and is resentful that HC "left" her when they were going to be having fun together. Did Third Wheel come to the weekend alone, or with HC? If the latter, then it's definitely reason #2. Otherwise, I'd say she somehow thought she might get to hook up with you.Doesn't make it right, but some women are whacked. I lost a friend once because my boyfriend and I were nice enough to let her tag along with us for New Year's Eve. It was a fairly new relationship and we didn't really want her along, but we were both friends with her and felt bad for her otherwise being alone so we said sure. Then she got mad because the bf and I kissed each other while we were out, and she stormed away mad (for some reason, more mad at me than him). I figured good riddance, and we were never friends again. Whacked, I tell ya.

It was late at night.....we were all going to bed. I wasn't cutting in on their time. So, you think she still has feelings for me, even though I was really clear about just being "friends" years ago? She really helped me out during my separation, I crashed at her house for a couple of weeks. (Nothing at all happened).

Yes. Especially if she helped you through your separation...

Oh brother......you chicks are freaking crazy sometimes.How could she not know I wasn't interested, or was it more wishful thinking.

Yep.

 

[krista4]

the girl I went out with friday who said she would be calling me from New York later in the week just sent an unexpected text telling me she made it to NY ok. sure, its a text that doesnt really say anything, but its better than nothing!

Always a good sign.

 

[Uruk-Hai]

BG, reading your story made me feel like I was stuck in the movie The Ice Storm. I'm glad it worked out well, though!

Krista...what is your take on the third wheel. I am really as to why she is so upset. As a female, any insights?

It's one of two things: (1) she was interested in you herself, or (2) she thought Hot Cougar (not digging that name, BTW ) and she were there hanging out together and is resentful that HC "left" her when they were going to be having fun together. Did Third Wheel come to the weekend alone, or with HC? If the latter, then it's definitely reason #2. Otherwise, I'd say she somehow thought she might get to hook up with you.Doesn't make it right, but some women are whacked. I lost a friend once because my boyfriend and I were nice enough to let her tag along with us for New Year's Eve. It was a fairly new relationship and we didn't really want her along, but we were both friends with her and felt bad for her otherwise being alone so we said sure. Then she got mad because the bf and I kissed each other while we were out, and she stormed away mad (for some reason, more mad at me than him). I figured good riddance, and we were never friends again. Whacked, I tell ya.

Could be a combination, but I'm leaning towards #1. BG said she used to have feelings for him. She never stopped, probably. BG, has she dated much?

No, while a great person and friend, she is a bigger girl and has been hurt badly in the past. She self admitedly does not even want a relationship. She knows she is not my "type".

"Knowing" and "not feeling it anyway" are two different things, as I'm sure you well know. Her actions are pretty understandable (though not commendable), given what'll probably be a lifelong unrequited love for you.Back to HC - now that you've (maybe) come down off of your cloud a bit - what's the long-term prospect here? Or are you both just looking for a few fun rolls in the hay?

 

[Woz]

Just back from date #2. I was INCHES from getting her home. She had an annoying voice and an ok personality but a killer body. By the end of the date, the first two just melted into the third. If I'd have pushed, I could have gotten her home. We made a scene for about 20 minutes outside the bar as we left. I had my hands on her like Beethoven on a piano as she debated how much she liked me and how she thinks I would never call her back if she came home with me the first night. I started to feel guilty and decided not to force the issue. Call me a good guy tonight. Had I pushed, she'd be here now.Oh well.

I'd sacrafice homefield advantage w/ these random iChicks at first. High psycho-ratio I would think.

I'm starting to think this guy actually knows things.

 

[Woz]

Did Woz get laid yet? We have a pool going

Woz doesn't like screwing with psycho chicks

 

[Bankerguy]

BG, reading your story made me feel like I was stuck in the movie The Ice Storm. I'm glad it worked out well, though!

Krista...what is your take on the third wheel. I am really as to why she is so upset. As a female, any insights?

It's one of two things: (1) she was interested in you herself, or (2) she thought Hot Cougar (not digging that name, BTW ) and she were there hanging out together and is resentful that HC "left" her when they were going to be having fun together. Did Third Wheel come to the weekend alone, or with HC? If the latter, then it's definitely reason #2. Otherwise, I'd say she somehow thought she might get to hook up with you.Doesn't make it right, but some women are whacked. I lost a friend once because my boyfriend and I were nice enough to let her tag along with us for New Year's Eve. It was a fairly new relationship and we didn't really want her along, but we were both friends with her and felt bad for her otherwise being alone so we said sure. Then she got mad because the bf and I kissed each other while we were out, and she stormed away mad (for some reason, more mad at me than him). I figured good riddance, and we were never friends again. Whacked, I tell ya.

Could be a combination, but I'm leaning towards #1. BG said she used to have feelings for him. She never stopped, probably. BG, has she dated much?

No, while a great person and friend, she is a bigger girl and has been hurt badly in the past. She self admitedly does not even want a relationship. She knows she is not my "type".

"Knowing" and "not feeling it anyway" are two different things, as I'm sure you well know. Her actions are pretty understandable (though not commendable), given what'll probably be a lifelong unrequited love for you.Back to HC - now that you've (maybe) come down off of your cloud a bit - what's the long-term prospect here? Or are you both just looking for a few fun rolls in the hay?

It looks like things are set for a Sunday date. We both want to see where this goes. Here is what she wrote back from this morning (Been edited to change names):Hey!Yeah, I'm also having withdrawals... Thinking it's going to take a littlewhile for my body to get back to normal! I'm speaking about the amount offood/alcohol that I put into it (not other things!) ;-) And thanks - youdisrupted my sleep also. But that's ok - I like waking up with a smile onmy face!I have (The host's) email - XXXXXXXXXXXX, sorry, don't have (Husband's) email...Didn't get a chance to stick my pics on my computer yet, but am hoping to doat some point tonight - will send out when I do (they'll be coming from myhotmail account where I use my maiden name, so don't delete me!). I thinkmine are the fairly tame ones - oh wait, there is that one... heheheI'd definitely like to see you again too, but my week is somewhat crazyduring the day - have a fair amount that I need to get done before I startholidays next week. (Her daughter) is with (her ex) on Wednesday and Sunday - Let meknow which is better for you. Maybe Sunday? I haven't spoken with (Third wheel) yet - am also going to give her some time. I'm not sure whyshe's so pissed either, but don't always understand how her mind works. Personally, if two of my friends were somewhat interested in each other, I'd be encouraging them. But enough about that! I thoroughly enjoyed hanging out with you over theweekend and of course our alone time on Sunday night when, well you know, we"weren't having sex". Gotta tell you though, for it not being sex, it waspretty damn good! Thanks... The smile is back!Talk to you soon,C

 

[Disco Stu]

I think mine are the fairly tame ones - oh wait, there is that one... hehehe

Underground STAT.

Personally, if two of my friends were somewhat interested in each other, I'd be encouraging them.

Somewhat?

But enough about that! I thoroughly enjoyed hanging out with you over the weekend and of course our alone time on Sunday night when, well you know, we "weren't having sex". Gotta tell you though, for it not being sex, it was pretty damn good!

So was it sex or not? lol

 

[Uruk-Hai]

BG, reading your story made me feel like I was stuck in the movie The Ice Storm. I'm glad it worked out well, though!

Krista...what is your take on the third wheel. I am really as to why she is so upset. As a female, any insights?

It's one of two things: (1) she was interested in you herself, or (2) she thought Hot Cougar (not digging that name, BTW ) and she were there hanging out together and is resentful that HC "left" her when they were going to be having fun together. Did Third Wheel come to the weekend alone, or with HC? If the latter, then it's definitely reason #2. Otherwise, I'd say she somehow thought she might get to hook up with you.Doesn't make it right, but some women are whacked. I lost a friend once because my boyfriend and I were nice enough to let her tag along with us for New Year's Eve. It was a fairly new relationship and we didn't really want her along, but we were both friends with her and felt bad for her otherwise being alone so we said sure. Then she got mad because the bf and I kissed each other while we were out, and she stormed away mad (for some reason, more mad at me than him). I figured good riddance, and we were never friends again. Whacked, I tell ya.

Could be a combination, but I'm leaning towards #1. BG said she used to have feelings for him. She never stopped, probably. BG, has she dated much?

No, while a great person and friend, she is a bigger girl and has been hurt badly in the past. She self admitedly does not even want a relationship. She knows she is not my "type".

"Knowing" and "not feeling it anyway" are two different things, as I'm sure you well know. Her actions are pretty understandable (though not commendable), given what'll probably be a lifelong unrequited love for you.Back to HC - now that you've (maybe) come down off of your cloud a bit - what's the long-term prospect here? Or are you both just looking for a few fun rolls in the hay?

It looks like things are set for a Sunday date. We both want to see where this goes. Here is what she wrote back from this morning (Been edited to change names):Hey!Yeah, I'm also having withdrawals... Thinking it's going to take a littlewhile for my body to get back to normal! I'm speaking about the amount offood/alcohol that I put into it (not other things!) ;-) And thanks - youdisrupted my sleep also. But that's ok - I like waking up with a smile onmy face!I have (The host's) email - XXXXXXXXXXXX, sorry, don't have (Husband's) email...Didn't get a chance to stick my pics on my computer yet, but am hoping to doat some point tonight - will send out when I do (they'll be coming from myhotmail account where I use my maiden name, so don't delete me!). I thinkmine are the fairly tame ones - oh wait, there is that one... heheheI'd definitely like to see you again too, but my week is somewhat crazyduring the day - have a fair amount that I need to get done before I startholidays next week. (Her daughter) is with (her ex) on Wednesday and Sunday - Let meknow which is better for you. Maybe Sunday? I haven't spoken with (Third wheel) yet - am also going to give her some time. I'm not sure whyshe's so pissed either, but don't always understand how her mind works. Personally, if two of my friends were somewhat interested in each other, I'd be encouraging them. But enough about that! I thoroughly enjoyed hanging out with you over theweekend and of course our alone time on Sunday night when, well you know, we"weren't having sex". Gotta tell you though, for it not being sex, it waspretty damn good! Thanks... The smile is back!Talk to you soon,C

Looks good, BG - she's definitely interested.

 

[Tremendous Upside]

if two of my friends were somewhat interested in each other, I'd be encouraging them.

This is my favorite part...I mean for Chrissake, you guys have had sex and are planning another date, and yet she feels the need to qualify it?

 

[Bankerguy]

I think mine are the fairly tame ones - oh wait, there is that one... hehehe

Underground STAT.

Personally, if two of my friends were somewhat interested in each other, I'd be encouraging them.

Somewhat?

But enough about that! I thoroughly enjoyed hanging out with you over the weekend and of course our alone time on Sunday night when, well you know, we "weren't having sex". Gotta tell you though, for it not being sex, it was pretty damn good!

So was it sex or not? lol

When we started to make out in the room she said....."OK, but we are definately not having sex". So, about half way though "sex", I joked, "I am so glad we aren't having sex".OH and pics.......I will definately post once I get them.

 

[Bankerguy]

if two of my friends were somewhat interested in each other, I'd be encouraging them.

This is my favorite part...I mean for Chrissake, you guys have had sex and are planning another date, and yet she feels the need to qualify it?

Hmmmm.... I took no offense to this?Should I?

I felt she just meant if 2 hypothetical friends were somewhat interested in each other she would have no problem with it. The rest of note apprears more than "somewaht" interested....imo.

 

[Tremendous Upside]

if two of my friends were somewhat interested in each other, I'd be encouraging them.

This is my favorite part...I mean for Chrissake, you guys have had sex and are planning another date, and yet she feels the need to qualify it?

Hmmmm.... I took no offense to this?Should I?

I felt she just meant if 2 hypothetical friends were somewhat interested in each other she would have no problem with it. The rest of note apprears more than "somewaht" interested....imo.

No, I wouldn't take offense...I think she did it for her own protection more than anything else...

Just found it funny...

 

[Bankerguy]

if two of my friends were somewhat interested in each other, I'd be encouraging them.

This is my favorite part...I mean for Chrissake, you guys have had sex and are planning another date, and yet she feels the need to qualify it?

Hmmmm.... I took no offense to this?Should I?

I felt she just meant if 2 hypothetical friends were somewhat interested in each other she would have no problem with it. The rest of note apprears more than "somewaht" interested....imo.

No, I wouldn't take offense...I think she did it for her own protection more than anything else...

Just found it funny...

Ah....gotcha.It didn't even register here.

 

[Tremendous Upside]

if two of my friends were somewhat interested in each other, I'd be encouraging them.

This is my favorite part...I mean for Chrissake, you guys have had sex and are planning another date, and yet she feels the need to qualify it?

Hmmmm.... I took no offense to this?Should I?

I felt she just meant if 2 hypothetical friends were somewhat interested in each other she would have no problem with it. The rest of note apprears more than "somewaht" interested....imo.

No, I wouldn't take offense...I think she did it for her own protection more than anything else...

Just found it funny...

Ah....gotcha.It didn't even register here.

You were concentrating on the sex talk and pics talk...I was concentrating on the semantical word choices...



It's what I do, I'm an English major and lawyer...I could over analyze the writing on a shampo bottle...

 

[krista4]

I'm going to add my update here, even though it has nothing to do with iDating, because it came out in the context of this thread anyway. A reminder: I don't want to date anyone, but then met this seemingly perfect guy last Wednesday night. In classic Otisian fashion, we exchanged many, many text messages (in his defense, this is because I told him that I do not talk on the phone, which is true).

We carried this on for a while (I had plans every evening but Thursday, when I was nursing a hangover), and then on Sunday he sent me this text:

"When do we have time to hang out? U work during the day, i have my daughter at night, weekends i work at night and u try to stay busy. What time does that

leave"

So I texted back that that sounded really pessimistic, but we could figure something out.

Then Sunday night I was at dinner in my neighborhood, steps from where he was working, and after dinner I texted to see if he was there, and he said yes, and I asked if I should stop by, and here's what went down from there:

FPG (Formerly Perfect Guy): "what time? I have a friend stopping by for a while and wouldn't want u to feel ignored."

Me: "That's OK. I just had dinner at bin 36 and thought maybe I'd stop by since I was right here."

FPG: "Please, not the drama queen act. I dont think i can handle a breakdown." [Krista Note: ]

FPG: "I would love to see u, but if honesty and reality isnt something your [sic] into, i'll pass."

Me: "I hope you're not serious about that ####."

FPG: "Let's talk another day."

Me: "I've a better idea...let's not."

FPG: "Perfect!"

FPG (five minutes later): "For a Lawyer, u really are sensitive...What's the best day for me to buy u dinner next week?"

I haven't responded. WTF? The guy freaked out and seems to be bipolar.

I will no longer listen to any "chicks are crazy" talk here any more.

 

[Tremendous Upside]

I'm going to add my update here, even though it has nothing to do with iDating, because it came out in the context of this thread anyway. A reminder: I don't want to date anyone, but then met this seemingly perfect guy last Wednesday night. In classic Otisian fashion, we exchanged many, many text messages (in his defense, this is because I told him that I do not talk on the phone, which is true).We carried this on for a while (I had plans every evening but Thursday, when I was nursing a hangover), and then on Sunday he sent me this text:"When do we have time to hang out? U work during the day, i have my daughter at night, weekends i work at night and u try to stay busy. What time does that leave"So I texted back that that sounded really pessimistic, but we could figure something out.Then Sunday night I was at dinner in my neighborhood, steps from where he was working, and after dinner I texted to see if he was there, and he said yes, and I asked if I should stop by, and here's what went down from there:FPG (Formerly Perfect Guy): "what time? I have a friend stopping by for a while and wouldn't want u to feel ignored."Me: "That's OK. I just had dinner at bin 36 and thought maybe I'd stop by since I was right here."FPG: "Please, not the drama queen act. I dont think i can handle a breakdown." [Krista Note: ]FPG: "I would love to see u, but if honesty and reality isnt something your [sic] into, i'll pass."Me: "I hope you're not serious about that ####."FPG: "Let's talk another day."Me: "I've a better idea...let's not."FPG: "Perfect!"FPG (five minutes later): "For a Lawyer, u really are sensitive...What's the best day for me to buy u dinner next week?"I haven't responded. WTF? The guy freaked out and seems to be bipolar. I will no longer listen to any "chicks are crazy" talk here any more.

Wow, that's some bizarre behavior on his part...Drama queen act and breakdown?WTF?

 

[krista4]

I'm going to add my update here, even though it has nothing to do with iDating, because it came out in the context of this thread anyway. A reminder: I don't want to date anyone, but then met this seemingly perfect guy last Wednesday night. In classic Otisian fashion, we exchanged many, many text messages (in his defense, this is because I told him that I do not talk on the phone, which is true).We carried this on for a while (I had plans every evening but Thursday, when I was nursing a hangover), and then on Sunday he sent me this text:"When do we have time to hang out? U work during the day, i have my daughter at night, weekends i work at night and u try to stay busy. What time does that leave"So I texted back that that sounded really pessimistic, but we could figure something out.Then Sunday night I was at dinner in my neighborhood, steps from where he was working, and after dinner I texted to see if he was there, and he said yes, and I asked if I should stop by, and here's what went down from there:FPG (Formerly Perfect Guy): "what time? I have a friend stopping by for a while and wouldn't want u to feel ignored."Me: "That's OK. I just had dinner at bin 36 and thought maybe I'd stop by since I was right here."FPG: "Please, not the drama queen act. I dont think i can handle a breakdown." [Krista Note: ]FPG: "I would love to see u, but if honesty and reality isnt something your [sic] into, i'll pass."Me: "I hope you're not serious about that ####."FPG: "Let's talk another day."Me: "I've a better idea...let's not."FPG: "Perfect!"FPG (five minutes later): "For a Lawyer, u really are sensitive...What's the best day for me to buy u dinner next week?"I haven't responded. WTF? The guy freaked out and seems to be bipolar. I will no longer listen to any "chicks are crazy" talk here any more.

Wow, that's some bizarre behavior on his part...Drama queen act and breakdown?WTF?

This actually just occurred to me...I wonder if he was mixing me up with someone else? Not the whole time, but in that series of messages? Ahhh, but then the "you're too sensitive for a lawyer" part wouldn't make sense, unless he was trying to cover.ETA: Perhaps he's just insane.

 

[Uruk-Hai]

I'm going to add my update here, even though it has nothing to do with iDating, because it came out in the context of this thread anyway. A reminder: I don't want to date anyone, but then met this seemingly perfect guy last Wednesday night. In classic Otisian fashion, we exchanged many, many text messages (in his defense, this is because I told him that I do not talk on the phone, which is true).We carried this on for a while (I had plans every evening but Thursday, when I was nursing a hangover), and then on Sunday he sent me this text:"When do we have time to hang out? U work during the day, i have my daughter at night, weekends i work at night and u try to stay busy. What time does that leave"So I texted back that that sounded really pessimistic, but we could figure something out.Then Sunday night I was at dinner in my neighborhood, steps from where he was working, and after dinner I texted to see if he was there, and he said yes, and I asked if I should stop by, and here's what went down from there:FPG (Formerly Perfect Guy): "what time? I have a friend stopping by for a while and wouldn't want u to feel ignored."Me: "That's OK. I just had dinner at bin 36 and thought maybe I'd stop by since I was right here."FPG: "Please, not the drama queen act. I dont think i can handle a breakdown." [Krista Note: ]FPG: "I would love to see u, but if honesty and reality isnt something your [sic] into, i'll pass."Me: "I hope you're not serious about that ####."FPG: "Let's talk another day."Me: "I've a better idea...let's not."FPG: "Perfect!"FPG (five minutes later): "For a Lawyer, u really are sensitive...What's the best day for me to buy u dinner next week?"I haven't responded. WTF? The guy freaked out and seems to be bipolar. I will no longer listen to any "chicks are crazy" talk here any more.

Are you sure he was male?Seriously, better to find out now I guess, than to get involved first - not that that would happen in your case since you're not interested in dating anyway

 

[Disco Stu]

This actually just occurred to me...I wonder if he was mixing me up with someone else? Not the whole time, but in that series of messages? Ahhh, but then the "you're too sensitive for a lawyer" part wouldn't make sense, unless he was trying to cover.ETA: Perhaps he's just insane.

This is what I was wondering. It sounded like he got his wires crossed. But it may just be the wires in his brain...

 

[Leeroy Jenkins]

I'm going to add my update here, even though it has nothing to do with iDating, because it came out in the context of this thread anyway. A reminder: I don't want to date anyone, but then met this seemingly perfect guy last Wednesday night. In classic Otisian fashion, we exchanged many, many text messages (in his defense, this is because I told him that I do not talk on the phone, which is true).We carried this on for a while (I had plans every evening but Thursday, when I was nursing a hangover), and then on Sunday he sent me this text:"When do we have time to hang out? U work during the day, i have my daughter at night, weekends i work at night and u try to stay busy. What time does that leave"So I texted back that that sounded really pessimistic, but we could figure something out.Then Sunday night I was at dinner in my neighborhood, steps from where he was working, and after dinner I texted to see if he was there, and he said yes, and I asked if I should stop by, and here's what went down from there:FPG (Formerly Perfect Guy): "what time? I have a friend stopping by for a while and wouldn't want u to feel ignored."Me: "That's OK. I just had dinner at bin 36 and thought maybe I'd stop by since I was right here."FPG: "Please, not the drama queen act. I dont think i can handle a breakdown." [Krista Note: ]FPG: "I would love to see u, but if honesty and reality isnt something your [sic] into, i'll pass."Me: "I hope you're not serious about that ####."FPG: "Let's talk another day."Me: "I've a better idea...let's not."FPG: "Perfect!"FPG (five minutes later): "For a Lawyer, u really are sensitive...What's the best day for me to buy u dinner next week?"I haven't responded. WTF? The guy freaked out and seems to be bipolar. I will no longer listen to any "chicks are crazy" talk here any more.

Wow, that's some bizarre behavior on his part...Drama queen act and breakdown?WTF?

This actually just occurred to me...I wonder if he was mixing me up with someone else? Not the whole time, but in that series of messages? Ahhh, but then the "you're too sensitive for a lawyer" part wouldn't make sense, unless he was trying to cover.ETA: Perhaps he's just insane.

My first instinct was that you got a text meant for somebody else. I actually did something like that before, but I realized it and turned it around somehow. It happens. Also, tone and sarcasm is often lost via text. Thirdly, he could just be psycho.

 

[Woz]

I'm going to add my update here, even though it has nothing to do with iDating, because it came out in the context of this thread anyway. A reminder: I don't want to date anyone, but then met this seemingly perfect guy last Wednesday night. In classic Otisian fashion, we exchanged many, many text messages (in his defense, this is because I told him that I do not talk on the phone, which is true).We carried this on for a while (I had plans every evening but Thursday, when I was nursing a hangover), and then on Sunday he sent me this text:"When do we have time to hang out? U work during the day, i have my daughter at night, weekends i work at night and u try to stay busy. What time does that leave"So I texted back that that sounded really pessimistic, but we could figure something out.Then Sunday night I was at dinner in my neighborhood, steps from where he was working, and after dinner I texted to see if he was there, and he said yes, and I asked if I should stop by, and here's what went down from there:FPG (Formerly Perfect Guy): "what time? I have a friend stopping by for a while and wouldn't want u to feel ignored."Me: "That's OK. I just had dinner at bin 36 and thought maybe I'd stop by since I was right here."FPG: "Please, not the drama queen act. I dont think i can handle a breakdown." [Krista Note: ]FPG: "I would love to see u, but if honesty and reality isnt something your [sic] into, i'll pass."Me: "I hope you're not serious about that ####."FPG: "Let's talk another day."Me: "I've a better idea...let's not."FPG: "Perfect!"FPG (five minutes later): "For a Lawyer, u really are sensitive...What's the best day for me to buy u dinner next week?"I haven't responded. WTF? The guy freaked out and seems to be bipolar. I will no longer listen to any "chicks are crazy" talk here any more.

Drama Queen Act??? Was he drunk?

 

[Tremendous Upside]

I'm going to add my update here, even though it has nothing to do with iDating, because it came out in the context of this thread anyway. A reminder: I don't want to date anyone, but then met this seemingly perfect guy last Wednesday night. In classic Otisian fashion, we exchanged many, many text messages (in his defense, this is because I told him that I do not talk on the phone, which is true).We carried this on for a while (I had plans every evening but Thursday, when I was nursing a hangover), and then on Sunday he sent me this text:"When do we have time to hang out? U work during the day, i have my daughter at night, weekends i work at night and u try to stay busy. What time does that leave"So I texted back that that sounded really pessimistic, but we could figure something out.Then Sunday night I was at dinner in my neighborhood, steps from where he was working, and after dinner I texted to see if he was there, and he said yes, and I asked if I should stop by, and here's what went down from there:FPG (Formerly Perfect Guy): "what time? I have a friend stopping by for a while and wouldn't want u to feel ignored."Me: "That's OK. I just had dinner at bin 36 and thought maybe I'd stop by since I was right here."FPG: "Please, not the drama queen act. I dont think i can handle a breakdown." [Krista Note: ]FPG: "I would love to see u, but if honesty and reality isnt something your [sic] into, i'll pass."Me: "I hope you're not serious about that ####."FPG: "Let's talk another day."Me: "I've a better idea...let's not."FPG: "Perfect!"FPG (five minutes later): "For a Lawyer, u really are sensitive...What's the best day for me to buy u dinner next week?"I haven't responded. WTF? The guy freaked out and seems to be bipolar. I will no longer listen to any "chicks are crazy" talk here any more.

Wow, that's some bizarre behavior on his part...Drama queen act and breakdown?WTF?

This actually just occurred to me...I wonder if he was mixing me up with someone else? Not the whole time, but in that series of messages? Ahhh, but then the "you're too sensitive for a lawyer" part wouldn't make sense, unless he was trying to cover.ETA: Perhaps he's just insane.

That ocurred to me also, as those two emails "The drama queen one and the honesty one) souns SO out of context...I would ask him about it...

 

[BassNBrew]

I'm going to add my update here, even though it has nothing to do with iDating, because it came out in the context of this thread anyway. A reminder: I don't want to date anyone, but then met this seemingly perfect guy last Wednesday night. In classic Otisian fashion, we exchanged many, many text messages (in his defense, this is because I told him that I do not talk on the phone, which is true).We carried this on for a while (I had plans every evening but Thursday, when I was nursing a hangover), and then on Sunday he sent me this text:"When do we have time to hang out? U work during the day, i have my daughter at night, weekends i work at night and u try to stay busy. What time does that leave"So I texted back that that sounded really pessimistic, but we could figure something out.Then Sunday night I was at dinner in my neighborhood, steps from where he was working, and after dinner I texted to see if he was there, and he said yes, and I asked if I should stop by, and here's what went down from there:FPG (Formerly Perfect Guy): "what time? I have a friend stopping by for a while and wouldn't want u to feel ignored."Me: "That's OK. I just had dinner at bin 36 and thought maybe I'd stop by since I was right here."FPG: "Please, not the drama queen act. I dont think i can handle a breakdown." [Krista Note: ]FPG: "I would love to see u, but if honesty and reality isnt something your [sic] into, i'll pass."Me: "I hope you're not serious about that ####."FPG: "Let's talk another day."Me: "I've a better idea...let's not."FPG: "Perfect!"FPG (five minutes later): "For a Lawyer, u really are sensitive...What's the best day for me to buy u dinner next week?"I haven't responded. WTF? The guy freaked out and seems to be bipolar. I will no longer listen to any "chicks are crazy" talk here any more.

Wow, that's some bizarre behavior on his part...Drama queen act and breakdown?WTF?

This actually just occurred to me...I wonder if he was mixing me up with someone else? Not the whole time, but in that series of messages? Ahhh, but then the "you're too sensitive for a lawyer" part wouldn't make sense, unless he was trying to cover.ETA: Perhaps he's just insane.

Hey Krista...I got a text from an iChick syaing that she was running late. Ahh...we did have a date planned for that day. Guess she was juggling too much.Anyway, that perfect guy sounds like a jerk.

 

[Bankerguy]

I'm going to add my update here, even though it has nothing to do with iDating, because it came out in the context of this thread anyway. A reminder: I don't want to date anyone, but then met this seemingly perfect guy last Wednesday night. In classic Otisian fashion, we exchanged many, many text messages (in his defense, this is because I told him that I do not talk on the phone, which is true).We carried this on for a while (I had plans every evening but Thursday, when I was nursing a hangover), and then on Sunday he sent me this text:"When do we have time to hang out? U work during the day, i have my daughter at night, weekends i work at night and u try to stay busy. What time does that leave"So I texted back that that sounded really pessimistic, but we could figure something out.Then Sunday night I was at dinner in my neighborhood, steps from where he was working, and after dinner I texted to see if he was there, and he said yes, and I asked if I should stop by, and here's what went down from there:FPG (Formerly Perfect Guy): "what time? I have a friend stopping by for a while and wouldn't want u to feel ignored."Me: "That's OK. I just had dinner at bin 36 and thought maybe I'd stop by since I was right here."FPG: "Please, not the drama queen act. I dont think i can handle a breakdown." [Krista Note: ]FPG: "I would love to see u, but if honesty and reality isnt something your [sic] into, i'll pass."Me: "I hope you're not serious about that ####."FPG: "Let's talk another day."Me: "I've a better idea...let's not."FPG: "Perfect!"FPG (five minutes later): "For a Lawyer, u really are sensitive...What's the best day for me to buy u dinner next week?"I haven't responded. WTF? The guy freaked out and seems to be bipolar. I will no longer listen to any "chicks are crazy" talk here any more.

Wow! Sorry Krista, it seemed you had a little chemistry going with this guy. He does seem a little messed up though. That would be enough for me to wish them a good life too.Good decision, don't spend any more time thinking about it. When you are ready, you'll have no troubles finding a great guy.

 

[BassNBrew]

Short haired girl is taking me to a baseball game on Wed. Third date for us. Second date involved water and adventure. She's got her #### together, is a bunch of fun, and has a smokin' body that would put most 20-somethings to shame.

 

[Bankerguy]

Short haired girl is taking me to a baseball game on Wed. Third date for us. Second date involved water and adventure. She's got her #### together, is a bunch of fun, and has a smokin' body that would put most 20-somethings to shame.

How old again Bass? I totally have a new appreciation of older women as well right now! GB em. Third date.....hmmm. Someone will be happy on Thursday morning!

 

[krista4]

This actually just occurred to me...I wonder if he was mixing me up with someone else? Not the whole time, but in that series of messages? Ahhh, but then the "you're too sensitive for a lawyer" part wouldn't make sense, unless he was trying to cover.ETA: Perhaps he's just insane.

This is what I was wondering. It sounded like he got his wires crossed. But it may just be the wires in his brain...

Yeah, what's weird to me is that the reason I deemed him Perfect Guy was because he just seems so solid - balanced and together and all that. So much for my ability to read people (though my friend Lisa thought exactly the same thing and was really pushing me to get together with him). Oh well. My dinner Sunday night was also with a "date", though it was more like an obligation because I'd met the guy months ago and kept putting him off. Unbelievably boring. Back to www.nodating.com for me.