***Official*** FFA iDating Thread (4 Viewers)

[Tremendous Upside]

Finally grew a set and asked out a good looking legal secratary on my way back from the courthouse today. Meeting her in 15 for drinks.

Yeah I got stood up.

Really?

That sucks man. How often do you see this broad?

In passing maybe once or twice a week. Definitely wasn't too happy since i'm sure I looked like an idiot sitting there by myself. Anything happens in the future with her it better be her doing.

Sucks that you were stood up...But this is the least of the reasons you should be pissed...

Be pissed because she wasted your time, because it was rude and inconsiderate, whatever...

But you gotta care way less about what other people think...

Less self-consciousness, more self-esteem...

Just my

 

[Cheeky Monkey]

 

[Alias]

Finally grew a set and asked out a good looking legal secratary on my way back from the courthouse today. Meeting her in 15 for drinks.

Yeah I got stood up.

Really?That sucks man. How often do you see this broad?

In passing maybe once or twice a week. Definitely wasn't too happy since i'm sure I looked like an idiot sitting there by myself. Anything happens in the future with her it better be her doing.

Man that sucks. Sorry Bro. What was the conversation when you asked her?

 

[JAA]

Finally grew a set and asked out a good looking legal secratary on my way back from the courthouse today. Meeting her in 15 for drinks.

Yeah I got stood up.

Her lossThough I would be a man, go back to her, and make her feel bad about it. Women hate to be made feel bad about their anti-confrotational actions. Say something like "Sorry you couldt make it Tuesday, my Gin & Tonic and I had great conversation, you really missed out", <pause and see if she tries to appologize>, "Look, if you want to make it up to me, I work over at ABC. Stop on by and we cant set something up. I promise I wont hold this against you."Dont be a #### about it, but dont be a #### either. Dont say this in passing, but in a conversational sense so that she cant easily escape or turn her head. Depending on her ##### level, she should squirm a little and feel bad. In the end you will feel better about yourself in that you didnt get :served: by some low level hooch bag.It is possible that she couldnt make it and didnt have your number. If thats the case, still squeeze her some with "Aww that sucks. I thought about that also but figured you would have given a call to the bar to let me know to save us all time. Im sure you were way too busy to make that call. Dont worry about it, its not a big deal, just Im not used to being stood up".

 

[Woz]

Finally grew a set and asked out a good looking legal secratary on my way back from the courthouse today. Meeting her in 15 for drinks.

Yeah I got stood up.

Really?That sucks man. How often do you see this broad?

In passing maybe once or twice a week. Definitely wasn't too happy since i'm sure I looked like an idiot sitting there by myself. Anything happens in the future with her it better be her doing.

Man that sucks. Sorry Bro. What was the conversation when you asked her?

It was fine. She smiled and stuff. She's best described probably as a ditzy blonde type - not someone I'd consider long term but seems like she'd be fun to have a drink with - so when I asked her she sort of spaced out for a moment and then said sure and asked where. I was really in a hurry so I told her the place and she smiled and said see you there. And there I sat.

 

[Woz]

Finally grew a set and asked out a good looking legal secratary on my way back from the courthouse today. Meeting her in 15 for drinks.

Yeah I got stood up.

Her lossThough I would be a man, go back to her, and make her feel bad about it. Women hate to be made feel bad about their anti-confrotational actions. Say something like "Sorry you couldt make it Tuesday, my Gin & Tonic and I had great conversation, you really missed out", <pause and see if she tries to appologize>, "Look, if you want to make it up to me, I work over at ABC. Stop on by and we cant set something up. I promise I wont hold this against you."Dont be a #### about it, but dont be a #### either. Dont say this in passing, but in a conversational sense so that she cant easily escape or turn her head. Depending on her ##### level, she should squirm a little and feel bad. In the end you will feel better about yourself in that you didnt get :served: by some low level hooch bag.It is possible that she couldnt make it and didnt have your number. If thats the case, still squeeze her some with "Aww that sucks. I thought about that also but figured you would have given a call to the bar to let me know to save us all time. Im sure you were way too busy to make that call. Dont worry about it, its not a big deal, just Im not used to being stood up".

I agree and plan on saying something at least - probably to the tune that I really didn't care (which is partially true since she's no "10," I'm just pissed I wasted about an hour of my day waiting). I'm guessing I'll see her again before I leave her. Although she knows where my office is so if it really bothered her or she felt bad she could easily stop by.

 

[Alias]

Finally grew a set and asked out a good looking legal secratary on my way back from the courthouse today. Meeting her in 15 for drinks.

Yeah I got stood up.

Really?That sucks man. How often do you see this broad?

In passing maybe once or twice a week. Definitely wasn't too happy since i'm sure I looked like an idiot sitting there by myself. Anything happens in the future with her it better be her doing.

Man that sucks. Sorry Bro. What was the conversation when you asked her?

It was fine. She smiled and stuff. She's best described probably as a ditzy blonde type - not someone I'd consider long term but seems like she'd be fun to have a drink with - so when I asked her she sort of spaced out for a moment and then said sure and asked where. I was really in a hurry so I told her the place and she smiled and said see you there. And there I sat.

Have you talked with her before? Was there any small talk or just an all out assault of let's do drinks? Getting her name/number is generally a good idea too so that you can at least call her to see what is up. Sounds like she is just clueless and forgot.

 

[Woz]

Finally grew a set and asked out a good looking legal secratary on my way back from the courthouse today. Meeting her in 15 for drinks.

:X

Yeah I got stood up.

Really?That sucks man. How often do you see this broad?

In passing maybe once or twice a week. Definitely wasn't too happy since i'm sure I looked like an idiot sitting there by myself. Anything happens in the future with her it better be her doing.

Man that sucks. Sorry Bro. What was the conversation when you asked her?

It was fine. She smiled and stuff. She's best described probably as a ditzy blonde type - not someone I'd consider long term but seems like she'd be fun to have a drink with - so when I asked her she sort of spaced out for a moment and then said sure and asked where. I was really in a hurry so I told her the place and she smiled and said see you there. And there I sat.

Have you talked with her before? Was there any small talk or just an all out assault of let's do drinks? Getting her name/number is generally a good idea too so that you can at least call her to see what is up. Sounds like she is just clueless and forgot.

We had made very very minor smalltalk before and I went to her office once for a work matter but the asking out was done so with class, but an assault nonetheless. I was actually pretty happy with myself because I just did it so fast that I didn't stutter or look shy or anything like that. First time I've ever done it. Like I said before, she either doesn't know how to say no, it's ditzy, or is a careless #####. Not really interested in any of them.

 

[code]

Finally grew a set and asked out a good looking legal secratary on my way back from the courthouse today. Meeting her in 15 for drinks.

:X

Yeah I got stood up.

Really?That sucks man. How often do you see this broad?

In passing maybe once or twice a week. Definitely wasn't too happy since i'm sure I looked like an idiot sitting there by myself. Anything happens in the future with her it better be her doing.

Man that sucks. Sorry Bro. What was the conversation when you asked her?

It was fine. She smiled and stuff. She's best described probably as a ditzy blonde type - not someone I'd consider long term but seems like she'd be fun to have a drink with - so when I asked her she sort of spaced out for a moment and then said sure and asked where. I was really in a hurry so I told her the place and she smiled and said see you there. And there I sat.

Have you talked with her before? Was there any small talk or just an all out assault of let's do drinks? Getting her name/number is generally a good idea too so that you can at least call her to see what is up. Sounds like she is just clueless and forgot.

We had made very very minor smalltalk before and I went to her office once for a work matter but the asking out was done so with class, but an assault nonetheless. I was actually pretty happy with myself because I just did it so fast that I didn't stutter or look shy or anything like that. First time I've ever done it. Like I said before, she either doesn't know how to say no, it's ditzy, or is a careless #####. Not really interested in any of them.

Maybe (and I'm just playing devil's advocate here) something legit came up...friend in need, urgent call from home, something...did she have a way to contract you if she needed to change the plans?

 

[Alias]

I guess what I was getting at is it is usually a good idea to build a rapport so that she wants to meet you for drinks. Since you just made an all out assault she was caught off guard, said yes, then possibly thought about it more and decided not to go.

 

[Pip's Invitation]

and of course, I'll go out with Summerfest girl again (probably this weekend--she lives 35 minutes away, which is the downside).

That's nothing.

 

[Woz]

Finally grew a set and asked out a good looking legal secratary on my way back from the courthouse today. Meeting her in 15 for drinks.

Yeah I got stood up.

Really?That sucks man. How often do you see this broad?

In passing maybe once or twice a week. Definitely wasn't too happy since i'm sure I looked like an idiot sitting there by myself. Anything happens in the future with her it better be her doing.

Man that sucks. Sorry Bro. What was the conversation when you asked her?

It was fine. She smiled and stuff. She's best described probably as a ditzy blonde type - not someone I'd consider long term but seems like she'd be fun to have a drink with - so when I asked her she sort of spaced out for a moment and then said sure and asked where. I was really in a hurry so I told her the place and she smiled and said see you there. And there I sat.

Have you talked with her before? Was there any small talk or just an all out assault of let's do drinks? Getting her name/number is generally a good idea too so that you can at least call her to see what is up. Sounds like she is just clueless and forgot.

We had made very very minor smalltalk before and I went to her office once for a work matter but the asking out was done so with class, but an assault nonetheless. I was actually pretty happy with myself because I just did it so fast that I didn't stutter or look shy or anything like that. First time I've ever done it. Like I said before, she either doesn't know how to say no, it's ditzy, or is a careless #####. Not really interested in any of them.

Maybe (and I'm just playing devil's advocate here) something legit came up...friend in need, urgent call from home, something...did she have a way to contract you if she needed to change the plans?

Right, and that's possible. I'm not completely crossing this out. But like I said, she knows where I work and can almost see my office window from hers.

 

[Woz]

I guess what I was getting at is it is usually a good idea to build a rapport so that she wants to meet you for drinks. Since you just made an all out assault she was caught off guard, said yes, then possibly thought about it more and decided not to go.

I understand. But looking back I honestly thought I did okay. Normally I am a mess - stretch my arms too much, stutter, ask in a 'let's do it as friends way,' or even not at all - and the girls still say yes a decent enough of the time. I did probably catch her off guard though. Realized now though that there is a strong possibility that, given that she does look good and that's rare in this area, she may have a boyfriend and then thought better about meeting me whereas when I asked she was probably caught off guard and flattered so she just said yes.

 

[Keys Myaths]

Or tell her you you aren't over your ex yet.

 

[Woz]

Or tell her you you aren't over your ex yet.

Just saying, she'd probably buy it and it dually works to keep you from looking like a womanizing jerk and keeps her ego since it gives her a very valid excuse as to why you don't want to date her.

 

[Keys Myaths]

Or tell her you you aren't over your ex yet.

Just saying, she'd probably buy it and it dually works to keep you from looking like a womanizing jerk and keeps her ego since it gives her a very valid excuse as to why you don't want to date her.

I want to date them. I just don't want a relationship with them.I think you're missing the point. And if, in the end, I come off as a womanizing jerk, oh well. Their problem, not mine.

 

[Woz]

Or tell her you you aren't over your ex yet.

Just saying, she'd probably buy it and it dually works to keep you from looking like a womanizing jerk and keeps her ego since it gives her a very valid excuse as to why you don't want to date her.

I want to date them. I just don't want a relationship with them.I think you're missing the point. And if, in the end, I come off as a womanizing jerk, oh well. Their problem, not mine.

You don't think she'll keep trying to get you to see you should be with her and not your ex? She'll think of it like a challenge. You could probably keep going out with her by making her think that each time she's scoring points and you're "trying" to get over your problem.

 

[Keys Myaths]

Or tell her you you aren't over your ex yet.

Just saying, she'd probably buy it and it dually works to keep you from looking like a womanizing jerk and keeps her ego since it gives her a very valid excuse as to why you don't want to date her.

I want to date them. I just don't want a relationship with them.I think you're missing the point. And if, in the end, I come off as a womanizing jerk, oh well. Their problem, not mine.

You don't think she'll keep trying to get you to see you should be with her and not your ex? She'll think of it like a challenge. You could probably keep going out with her by making her think that each time she's scoring points and you're "trying" to get over your problem.

Nah.Just not my style. I've never had problems getting over someone, so why invent it?

 

[ditka...mike ditka]

I guess what I was getting at is it is usually a good idea to build a rapport so that she wants to meet you for drinks. Since you just made an all out assault she was caught off guard, said yes, then possibly thought about it more and decided not to go.

I understand. But looking back I honestly thought I did okay. Normally I am a mess - stretch my arms too much, stutter, ask in a 'let's do it as friends way,' or even not at all - and the girls still say yes a decent enough of the time. I did probably catch her off guard though. Realized now though that there is a strong possibility that, given that she does look good and that's rare in this area, she may have a boyfriend and then thought better about meeting me whereas when I asked she was probably caught off guard and flattered so she just said yes.

did you emphasize that you meant after work that day? maybe she thought you meant friday or somthing..

 

[Kraft...]

Or tell her you you aren't over your ex yet.

Just saying, she'd probably buy it and it dually works to keep you from looking like a womanizing jerk and keeps her ego since it gives her a very valid excuse as to why you don't want to date her.

I want to date them. I just don't want a relationship with them.I think you're missing the point. And if, in the end, I come off as a womanizing jerk, oh well. Their problem, not mine.

You don't think she'll keep trying to get you to see you should be with her and not your ex? She'll think of it like a challenge. You could probably keep going out with her by making her think that each time she's scoring points and you're "trying" to get over your problem.

so this is woz-logic

 

[Woz]

I guess what I was getting at is it is usually a good idea to build a rapport so that she wants to meet you for drinks. Since you just made an all out assault she was caught off guard, said yes, then possibly thought about it more and decided not to go.

I understand. But looking back I honestly thought I did okay. Normally I am a mess - stretch my arms too much, stutter, ask in a 'let's do it as friends way,' or even not at all - and the girls still say yes a decent enough of the time. I did probably catch her off guard though. Realized now though that there is a strong possibility that, given that she does look good and that's rare in this area, she may have a boyfriend and then thought better about meeting me whereas when I asked she was probably caught off guard and flattered so she just said yes.

did you emphasize that you meant after work that day? maybe she thought you meant friday or somthing..

Yeah, we both said "see you in about 30 minutes"

 

[krista4]

I'm going to add my update here, even though it has nothing to do with iDating, because it came out in the context of this thread anyway. A reminder: I don't want to date anyone, but then met this seemingly perfect guy last Wednesday night. In classic Otisian fashion, we exchanged many, many text messages (in his defense, this is because I told him that I do not talk on the phone, which is true).We carried this on for a while (I had plans every evening but Thursday, when I was nursing a hangover), and then on Sunday he sent me this text:"When do we have time to hang out? U work during the day, i have my daughter at night, weekends i work at night and u try to stay busy. What time does that leave"So I texted back that that sounded really pessimistic, but we could figure something out.Then Sunday night I was at dinner in my neighborhood, steps from where he was working, and after dinner I texted to see if he was there, and he said yes, and I asked if I should stop by, and here's what went down from there:FPG (Formerly Perfect Guy): "what time? I have a friend stopping by for a while and wouldn't want u to feel ignored."Me: "That's OK. I just had dinner at bin 36 and thought maybe I'd stop by since I was right here."FPG: "Please, not the drama queen act. I dont think i can handle a breakdown." [Krista Note: ]FPG: "I would love to see u, but if honesty and reality isnt something your [sic] into, i'll pass."Me: "I hope you're not serious about that ####."FPG: "Let's talk another day."Me: "I've a better idea...let's not."FPG: "Perfect!"FPG (five minutes later): "For a Lawyer, u really are sensitive...What's the best day for me to buy u dinner next week?"I haven't responded. WTF? The guy freaked out and seems to be bipolar. I will no longer listen to any "chicks are crazy" talk here any more.

Wow! Sorry Krista, it seemed you had a little chemistry going with this guy. He does seem a little messed up though. That would be enough for me to wish them a good life too.Good decision, don't spend any more time thinking about it. When you are ready, you'll have no troubles finding a great guy.

Update on Formerly Perfect But Now Likely Insane Guy: After I didn't reply to his text about when he could take me out for dinner, I didn't hear from him again and figured that was it. Yesterday, after however many days had gone by, I got a text saying, "So how long are you going to stay mad at me?"

 

[Keys Myaths]

and of course, I'll go out with Summerfest girl again (probably this weekend--she lives 35 minutes away, which is the downside).

That's nothing.

Not so sure I like it.

 

[Pip's Invitation]

I'm going to add my update here, even though it has nothing to do with iDating, because it came out in the context of this thread anyway. A reminder: I don't want to date anyone, but then met this seemingly perfect guy last Wednesday night. In classic Otisian fashion, we exchanged many, many text messages (in his defense, this is because I told him that I do not talk on the phone, which is true).We carried this on for a while (I had plans every evening but Thursday, when I was nursing a hangover), and then on Sunday he sent me this text:"When do we have time to hang out? U work during the day, i have my daughter at night, weekends i work at night and u try to stay busy. What time does that leave"So I texted back that that sounded really pessimistic, but we could figure something out.Then Sunday night I was at dinner in my neighborhood, steps from where he was working, and after dinner I texted to see if he was there, and he said yes, and I asked if I should stop by, and here's what went down from there:FPG (Formerly Perfect Guy): "what time? I have a friend stopping by for a while and wouldn't want u to feel ignored."Me: "That's OK. I just had dinner at bin 36 and thought maybe I'd stop by since I was right here."FPG: "Please, not the drama queen act. I dont think i can handle a breakdown." [Krista Note: ]FPG: "I would love to see u, but if honesty and reality isnt something your [sic] into, i'll pass."Me: "I hope you're not serious about that ####."FPG: "Let's talk another day."Me: "I've a better idea...let's not."FPG: "Perfect!"FPG (five minutes later): "For a Lawyer, u really are sensitive...What's the best day for me to buy u dinner next week?"I haven't responded. WTF? The guy freaked out and seems to be bipolar. I will no longer listen to any "chicks are crazy" talk here any more.

Wow! Sorry Krista, it seemed you had a little chemistry going with this guy. He does seem a little messed up though. That would be enough for me to wish them a good life too.Good decision, don't spend any more time thinking about it. When you are ready, you'll have no troubles finding a great guy.

Update on Formerly Perfect But Now Likely Insane Guy: After I didn't reply to his text about when he could take me out for dinner, I didn't hear from him again and figured that was it. Yesterday, after however many days had gone by, I got a text saying, "So how long are you going to stay mad at me?"

Are you sure he's not a woman?

 

[Keys Myaths]

I'm going to add my update here, even though it has nothing to do with iDating, because it came out in the context of this thread anyway. A reminder: I don't want to date anyone, but then met this seemingly perfect guy last Wednesday night. In classic Otisian fashion, we exchanged many, many text messages (in his defense, this is because I told him that I do not talk on the phone, which is true).

We carried this on for a while (I had plans every evening but Thursday, when I was nursing a hangover), and then on Sunday he sent me this text:

"When do we have time to hang out? U work during the day, i have my daughter at night, weekends i work at night and u try to stay busy. What time does that

leave"

So I texted back that that sounded really pessimistic, but we could figure something out.

Then Sunday night I was at dinner in my neighborhood, steps from where he was working, and after dinner I texted to see if he was there, and he said yes, and I asked if I should stop by, and here's what went down from there:

FPG (Formerly Perfect Guy): "what time? I have a friend stopping by for a while and wouldn't want u to feel ignored."

Me: "That's OK. I just had dinner at bin 36 and thought maybe I'd stop by since I was right here."

FPG: "Please, not the drama queen act. I dont think i can handle a breakdown." [Krista Note: ]

FPG: "I would love to see u, but if honesty and reality isnt something your [sic] into, i'll pass."

Me: "I hope you're not serious about that ####."

FPG: "Let's talk another day."

Me: "I've a better idea...let's not."

FPG: "Perfect!"

FPG (five minutes later): "For a Lawyer, u really are sensitive...What's the best day for me to buy u dinner next week?"

I haven't responded. WTF? The guy freaked out and seems to be bipolar.

I will no longer listen to any "chicks are crazy" talk here any more.

Wow! Sorry Krista, it seemed you had a little chemistry going with this guy. He does seem a little messed up though. That would be enough for me to wish them a good life too.Good decision, don't spend any more time thinking about it. When you are ready, you'll have no troubles finding a great guy.

Update on Formerly Perfect But Now Likely Insane Guy: After I didn't reply to his text about when he could take me out for dinner, I didn't hear from him again and figured that was it. Yesterday, after however many days had gone by, I got a text saying, "So how long are you going to stay mad at me?"

Are you sure he's not a woman Woz? :(

Fixed.

 

[Alias]

I'm going to add my update here, even though it has nothing to do with iDating, because it came out in the context of this thread anyway. A reminder: I don't want to date anyone, but then met this seemingly perfect guy last Wednesday night. In classic Otisian fashion, we exchanged many, many text messages (in his defense, this is because I told him that I do not talk on the phone, which is true).We carried this on for a while (I had plans every evening but Thursday, when I was nursing a hangover), and then on Sunday he sent me this text:"When do we have time to hang out? U work during the day, i have my daughter at night, weekends i work at night and u try to stay busy. What time does that leave"So I texted back that that sounded really pessimistic, but we could figure something out.Then Sunday night I was at dinner in my neighborhood, steps from where he was working, and after dinner I texted to see if he was there, and he said yes, and I asked if I should stop by, and here's what went down from there:FPG (Formerly Perfect Guy): "what time? I have a friend stopping by for a while and wouldn't want u to feel ignored."Me: "That's OK. I just had dinner at bin 36 and thought maybe I'd stop by since I was right here."FPG: "Please, not the drama queen act. I dont think i can handle a breakdown." [Krista Note: ]FPG: "I would love to see u, but if honesty and reality isnt something your [sic] into, i'll pass."Me: "I hope you're not serious about that ####."FPG: "Let's talk another day."Me: "I've a better idea...let's not."FPG: "Perfect!"FPG (five minutes later): "For a Lawyer, u really are sensitive...What's the best day for me to buy u dinner next week?"I haven't responded. WTF? The guy freaked out and seems to be bipolar. I will no longer listen to any "chicks are crazy" talk here any more.

see texting is bad. lolactually it was good for you since it helped you screen out this guy with the bad temper and/or horrible texting social skills. :(

 

[Disco Stu]

Like I said before, she either doesn't know how to say no, it's ditzy, or is a careless #####. Not really interested in any of them.

You're not interested in girls who don't know how to say no?

 

[JAA]

I'm going to add my update here, even though it has nothing to do with iDating, because it came out in the context of this thread anyway. A reminder: I don't want to date anyone, but then met this seemingly perfect guy last Wednesday night. In classic Otisian fashion, we exchanged many, many text messages (in his defense, this is because I told him that I do not talk on the phone, which is true).We carried this on for a while (I had plans every evening but Thursday, when I was nursing a hangover), and then on Sunday he sent me this text:"When do we have time to hang out? U work during the day, i have my daughter at night, weekends i work at night and u try to stay busy. What time does that leave"So I texted back that that sounded really pessimistic, but we could figure something out.Then Sunday night I was at dinner in my neighborhood, steps from where he was working, and after dinner I texted to see if he was there, and he said yes, and I asked if I should stop by, and here's what went down from there:FPG (Formerly Perfect Guy): "what time? I have a friend stopping by for a while and wouldn't want u to feel ignored."Me: "That's OK. I just had dinner at bin 36 and thought maybe I'd stop by since I was right here."FPG: "Please, not the drama queen act. I dont think i can handle a breakdown." [Krista Note: ]FPG: "I would love to see u, but if honesty and reality isnt something your [sic] into, i'll pass."Me: "I hope you're not serious about that ####."FPG: "Let's talk another day."Me: "I've a better idea...let's not."FPG: "Perfect!"FPG (five minutes later): "For a Lawyer, u really are sensitive...What's the best day for me to buy u dinner next week?"I haven't responded. WTF? The guy freaked out and seems to be bipolar. I will no longer listen to any "chicks are crazy" talk here any more.

dudes a passive agressive tool. dont respond to any of his texts anymoregood luck

 

[JAA]

I'm going to add my update here, even though it has nothing to do with iDating, because it came out in the context of this thread anyway. A reminder: I don't want to date anyone, but then met this seemingly perfect guy last Wednesday night. In classic Otisian fashion, we exchanged many, many text messages (in his defense, this is because I told him that I do not talk on the phone, which is true).We carried this on for a while (I had plans every evening but Thursday, when I was nursing a hangover), and then on Sunday he sent me this text:"When do we have time to hang out? U work during the day, i have my daughter at night, weekends i work at night and u try to stay busy. What time does that leave"So I texted back that that sounded really pessimistic, but we could figure something out.Then Sunday night I was at dinner in my neighborhood, steps from where he was working, and after dinner I texted to see if he was there, and he said yes, and I asked if I should stop by, and here's what went down from there:FPG (Formerly Perfect Guy): "what time? I have a friend stopping by for a while and wouldn't want u to feel ignored."Me: "That's OK. I just had dinner at bin 36 and thought maybe I'd stop by since I was right here."FPG: "Please, not the drama queen act. I dont think i can handle a breakdown." [Krista Note: ]FPG: "I would love to see u, but if honesty and reality isnt something your [sic] into, i'll pass."Me: "I hope you're not serious about that ####."FPG: "Let's talk another day."Me: "I've a better idea...let's not."FPG: "Perfect!"FPG (five minutes later): "For a Lawyer, u really are sensitive...What's the best day for me to buy u dinner next week?"I haven't responded. WTF? The guy freaked out and seems to be bipolar. I will no longer listen to any "chicks are crazy" talk here any more.

Wow! Sorry Krista, it seemed you had a little chemistry going with this guy. He does seem a little messed up though. That would be enough for me to wish them a good life too.Good decision, don't spend any more time thinking about it. When you are ready, you'll have no troubles finding a great guy.

Update on Formerly Perfect But Now Likely Insane Guy: After I didn't reply to his text about when he could take me out for dinner, I didn't hear from him again and figured that was it. Yesterday, after however many days had gone by, I got a text saying, "So how long are you going to stay mad at me?"

give me 1 reason to go out on a date with him?

 

[NRV77]

In going back over my PMs, I note that we haven't had a recent update from the following people about their iDating conquests:LHUCKSjonboltzTirnan (regarding his friend)sshermanPlease pick up the white courtesy phone.

I've been out of town for the past month or so, but I am trying to set something up for this weekend with a girl that winked at me on match. I'll call her Teacher because thats what she does. She's my age 28 (I'm 29) and seems to have a good sense of humor. I was thinking drinks on Friday or Saturday, but she doesn't drink, so I guess coffee or lunch? Also, and I know that this isn't a good sign, I haven't seen a picture yet. I'm going to press that before we finalize plans.Other than that, I've had a bunch of not so attractive women wink at me and I sent 5 or 6 emails flying yesterday...we'll see how that goes.Krista: Thanks for the help with my profile, and sorry I took so long to thank you.Disco Stu: Can I get a PM to the "underground" Thanks.

 

[krista4]

I'm going to add my update here, even though it has nothing to do with iDating, because it came out in the context of this thread anyway. A reminder: I don't want to date anyone, but then met this seemingly perfect guy last Wednesday night. In classic Otisian fashion, we exchanged many, many text messages (in his defense, this is because I told him that I do not talk on the phone, which is true).We carried this on for a while (I had plans every evening but Thursday, when I was nursing a hangover), and then on Sunday he sent me this text:"When do we have time to hang out? U work during the day, i have my daughter at night, weekends i work at night and u try to stay busy. What time does that leave"So I texted back that that sounded really pessimistic, but we could figure something out.Then Sunday night I was at dinner in my neighborhood, steps from where he was working, and after dinner I texted to see if he was there, and he said yes, and I asked if I should stop by, and here's what went down from there:FPG (Formerly Perfect Guy): "what time? I have a friend stopping by for a while and wouldn't want u to feel ignored."Me: "That's OK. I just had dinner at bin 36 and thought maybe I'd stop by since I was right here."FPG: "Please, not the drama queen act. I dont think i can handle a breakdown." [Krista Note: ]FPG: "I would love to see u, but if honesty and reality isnt something your [sic] into, i'll pass."Me: "I hope you're not serious about that ####."FPG: "Let's talk another day."Me: "I've a better idea...let's not."FPG: "Perfect!"FPG (five minutes later): "For a Lawyer, u really are sensitive...What's the best day for me to buy u dinner next week?"I haven't responded. WTF? The guy freaked out and seems to be bipolar. I will no longer listen to any "chicks are crazy" talk here any more.

Wow! Sorry Krista, it seemed you had a little chemistry going with this guy. He does seem a little messed up though. That would be enough for me to wish them a good life too.Good decision, don't spend any more time thinking about it. When you are ready, you'll have no troubles finding a great guy.

Update on Formerly Perfect But Now Likely Insane Guy: After I didn't reply to his text about when he could take me out for dinner, I didn't hear from him again and figured that was it. Yesterday, after however many days had gone by, I got a text saying, "So how long are you going to stay mad at me?"

give me 1 reason to go out on a date with him?

For shtick?

 

[Mrs. BSR]

Update on Formerly Perfect But Now Likely Insane Guy: After I didn't reply to his text about when he could take me out for dinner, I didn't hear from him again and figured that was it. Yesterday, after however many days had gone by, I got a text saying, "So how long are you going to stay mad at me?"

Are you sure he didn't just get you mixed up with someone else like another poster here said? That's what I first thought when I originally read your first post.If you felt at one point that he was "perfect", wouldn't it be worth it to at least find out?

 

[krista4]

Update on Formerly Perfect But Now Likely Insane Guy: After I didn't reply to his text about when he could take me out for dinner, I didn't hear from him again and figured that was it. Yesterday, after however many days had gone by, I got a text saying, "So how long are you going to stay mad at me?"

Are you sure he didn't just get you mixed up with someone else like another poster here said? That's what I first thought when I originally read your first post.If you felt at one point that he was "perfect", wouldn't it be worth it to at least find out?

Oh, there you go again, with your...logic...and stuff.

 

[Mrs. BSR]

Update on Formerly Perfect But Now Likely Insane Guy: After I didn't reply to his text about when he could take me out for dinner, I didn't hear from him again and figured that was it. Yesterday, after however many days had gone by, I got a text saying, "So how long are you going to stay mad at me?"

Are you sure he didn't just get you mixed up with someone else like another poster here said? That's what I first thought when I originally read your first post.If you felt at one point that he was "perfect", wouldn't it be worth it to at least find out?

Oh, there you go again, with your...logic...and stuff.

 

[code]

Update on Formerly Perfect But Now Likely Insane Guy: After I didn't reply to his text about when he could take me out for dinner, I didn't hear from him again and figured that was it. Yesterday, after however many days had gone by, I got a text saying, "So how long are you going to stay mad at me?"

Are you sure he didn't just get you mixed up with someone else like another poster here said? That's what I first thought when I originally read your first post.If you felt at one point that he was "perfect", wouldn't it be worth it to at least find out?

If he meant it for someone else, how come he sent Krista the "how long are you gonna be mad" text?

 

[Bankerguy]

Update on Formerly Perfect But Now Likely Insane Guy: After I didn't reply to his text about when he could take me out for dinner, I didn't hear from him again and figured that was it. Yesterday, after however many days had gone by, I got a text saying, "So how long are you going to stay mad at me?"

Are you sure he didn't just get you mixed up with someone else like another poster here said? That's what I first thought when I originally read your first post.If you felt at one point that he was "perfect", wouldn't it be worth it to at least find out?

Oh, there you go again, with your...logic...and stuff.

Just say no girl.

 

[mr. furley]

and of course, I'll go out with Summerfest girl again (probably this weekend--she lives 35 minutes away, which is the downside).

That's nothing.

Not so sure I like it.

wise man.wait'll University starts up again.

:fishinabarrel:

 

[Leeroy Jenkins]

Update on Formerly Perfect But Now Likely Insane Guy: After I didn't reply to his text about when he could take me out for dinner, I didn't hear from him again and figured that was it. Yesterday, after however many days had gone by, I got a text saying, "So how long are you going to stay mad at me?"

Are you sure he didn't just get you mixed up with someone else like another poster here said? That's what I first thought when I originally read your first post.If you felt at one point that he was "perfect", wouldn't it be worth it to at least find out?

If he meant it for someone else, how come he sent Krista the "how long are you gonna be mad" text?

maybe thought she was mad because they couldnt meet that night

 

[Keys Myaths]

So, went out with blonde again tonight...

And I'm creeped out of my ####### mind. I called Mike right afterwards...he can verify.

I'm going to shower and go to bed. Whoa.

 

[Disco Stu]

So, went out with blonde again tonight...And I'm creeped out of my ####### mind. I called Mike right afterwards...he can verify.I'm going to shower and go to bed. Whoa.

Cliffhanger? :(

 

[Eli2Shockey]

So, went out with blonde again tonight...And I'm creeped out of my ####### mind. I called Mike right afterwards...he can verify.I'm going to shower and go to bed. Whoa.

entourage last episode?

 

[krista4]

Update on Formerly Perfect But Now Likely Insane Guy: After I didn't reply to his text about when he could take me out for dinner, I didn't hear from him again and figured that was it. Yesterday, after however many days had gone by, I got a text saying, "So how long are you going to stay mad at me?"

Are you sure he didn't just get you mixed up with someone else like another poster here said? That's what I first thought when I originally read your first post.If you felt at one point that he was "perfect", wouldn't it be worth it to at least find out?

If he meant it for someone else, how come he sent Krista the "how long are you gonna be mad" text?

maybe thought she was mad because they couldnt meet that night

But I never did anything to act mad. I didn't care at all. :( Oh well, I texted him back; he wanted to call me; I said no because I don't talk on the phone; he wanted my e-mail; I sent it.

 

[krista4]

So, went out with blonde again tonight...And I'm creeped out of my ####### mind. I called Mike right afterwards...he can verify.I'm going to shower and go to bed. Whoa.

There is no freakin' way that you are not telling us this story tonight, young man! :(

 

[Keys Myaths]

So, went out with blonde again tonight...And I'm creeped out of my ####### mind. I called Mike right afterwards...he can verify.I'm going to shower and go to bed. Whoa.

There is no freakin' way that you are not telling us this story tonight, young man! :(

Just trust me. I'll spill it tomorrow at work.Goodnight.

 

[Leeroy Jenkins]

Update on Formerly Perfect But Now Likely Insane Guy: After I didn't reply to his text about when he could take me out for dinner, I didn't hear from him again and figured that was it. Yesterday, after however many days had gone by, I got a text saying, "So how long are you going to stay mad at me?"

Are you sure he didn't just get you mixed up with someone else like another poster here said? That's what I first thought when I originally read your first post.If you felt at one point that he was "perfect", wouldn't it be worth it to at least find out?

If he meant it for someone else, how come he sent Krista the "how long are you gonna be mad" text?

maybe thought she was mad because they couldnt meet that night

But I never did anything to act mad. I didn't care at all. Oh well, I texted him back; he wanted to call me; I said no because I don't talk on the phone; he wanted my e-mail; I sent it.

I'm not saying his interpretation was right.You dont talk on the phone? :(

 

[krista4]

Update on Formerly Perfect But Now Likely Insane Guy: After I didn't reply to his text about when he could take me out for dinner, I didn't hear from him again and figured that was it. Yesterday, after however many days had gone by, I got a text saying, "So how long are you going to stay mad at me?"

Are you sure he didn't just get you mixed up with someone else like another poster here said? That's what I first thought when I originally read your first post.If you felt at one point that he was "perfect", wouldn't it be worth it to at least find out?

If he meant it for someone else, how come he sent Krista the "how long are you gonna be mad" text?

maybe thought she was mad because they couldnt meet that night

But I never did anything to act mad. I didn't care at all. Oh well, I texted him back; he wanted to call me; I said no because I don't talk on the phone; he wanted my e-mail; I sent it.

I'm not saying his interpretation was right.You dont talk on the phone?

Yeah, I see what you're saying.I only talk on the phone in cases of extreme emergency, or when my mom makes me talk to her. Phones = The Debbil

 

[BassNBrew]

give me 1 reason to go out on a date with him?

You're gay and krista told you that he's cute.

 

[Koya]

I shouldnt have been ignoring this thread... or is it more hype than reality?

Cliff notes? Key posts? Im lazy but want to be entertained dammit.

 

[Koya]

Or tell her you you aren't over your ex yet.

Just saying, she'd probably buy it and it dually works to keep you from looking like a womanizing jerk and keeps her ego since it gives her a very valid excuse as to why you don't want to date her.

I want to date them. I just don't want a relationship with them.I think you're missing the point. And if, in the end, I come off as a womanizing jerk, oh well. Their problem, not mine.

You don't think she'll keep trying to get you to see you should be with her and not your ex? She'll think of it like a challenge. You could probably keep going out with her by making her think that each time she's scoring points and you're "trying" to get over your problem.

so this is woz-logic

As true today, AS when it was written...

 

[code]

I shouldnt have been ignoring this thread... or is it more hype than reality?Cliff notes? Key posts? Im lazy but want to be entertained dammit.

There's some early trainwreck stuff from Woz...Bankerguy chasing a couger while a friend blocked...Stu quietly scoring...a few guys posting some interesting date updates...but we're definitely running out of steam...Oh, and if you're very well behaved you get invited to an off-board area where pics of iprospects get posted for reference...