***Official Thread For Those Divorced*** (1 Viewer)

[Fla\/\/ed]

We all face many issues being divorced. This can be a thread where we can vent about ex's, brag about nailing chicks, dating, kids, alimony and whatever things us in the divorced world face.

I am happy now that my divorce is two years old but my ex wife is getting crazier by the day and I pay her $2,100 a month and she does't think that is enough!

 

[mquinnjr]

I'm not married/divorced so I can't add much here, but think it needs to be said when I see something like you're paying your ex $2,100 or so a month that this is total unless it's child support, then I get it.

Divorce laws where you split the assets 50/50 might have helped women out ~60 years ago before they had a stronger presence in academia & the workforce. Now, it's just a straight up jacking, and it baffles me that the whole 50/50 divorce split thing hasn't been revisited legally. It's effectively saying, "We must empower women to have a presence in the workplace and an ability to do the same things as men...but also be the benefactor (generalizing) if the man makes more money and they divorce us." Doesn't gel for me at all, seems like double dipping.

 

[Christo]

I'm not married/divorced so I can't add much here, but think it needs to be said when I see something like you're paying your ex $2,100 or so a month that this is total unless it's child support, then I get it.

Divorce laws where you split the assets 50/50 might have helped women out ~60 years ago before they had a stronger presence in academia & the workforce. Now, it's just a straight up jacking, and it baffles me that the whole 50/50 divorce split thing hasn't been revisited legally. It's effectively saying, "We must empower women to have a presence in the workplace and an ability to do the same things as men...but also be the benefactor (generalizing) if the man makes more money and they divorce us." Doesn't gel for me at all, seems like double dipping.

Why shouldn't a married couple split marital assets 50/50? That has nothing to do with the ability to generate income in the future.

 

[firstseason1988]

I'm not married/divorced so I can't add much here, but think it needs to be said when I see something like you're paying your ex $2,100 or so a month that this is total unless it's child support, then I get it.

Divorce laws where you split the assets 50/50 might have helped women out ~60 years ago before they had a stronger presence in academia & the workforce. Now, it's just a straight up jacking, and it baffles me that the whole 50/50 divorce split thing hasn't been revisited legally. It's effectively saying, "We must empower women to have a presence in the workplace and an ability to do the same things as men...but also be the benefactor (generalizing) if the man makes more money and they divorce us." Doesn't gel for me at all, seems like double dipping.

Why shouldn't a married couple split marital assets 50/50? That has nothing to do with the ability to generate income in the future.

Uh, yeah. How should the split go? 60-40 to the man, just cause he's a man?

 

[Joe T]

In.

 

[Joe T]

I think this has been said many times, but needs to be said many more.

Divorce = double the income, half the expenses

:insert yeeehaw schtick here:

 

[32 Counter Pass]

I'm not married/divorced so I can't add much here, but think it needs to be said when I see something like you're paying your ex $2,100 or so a month that this is total unless it's child support, then I get it.

Divorce laws where you split the assets 50/50 might have helped women out ~60 years ago before they had a stronger presence in academia & the workforce. Now, it's just a straight up jacking, and it baffles me that the whole 50/50 divorce split thing hasn't been revisited legally. It's effectively saying, "We must empower women to have a presence in the workplace and an ability to do the same things as men...but also be the benefactor (generalizing) if the man makes more money and they divorce us." Doesn't gel for me at all, seems like double dipping.

Remember, that goes both ways. I know of some dirt bags collecting big money from their ex wives.

 

[Papa Georgio]

I got a divorce many years ago. When my wife moved out she took the kids 3 hours away back to her home town. For most the time things worked out with visitation. We would meet halfway in between or I would spend the weekend where they lived as much as possible. I have moved twice since, both times moving me closer to my kids and I am now about an hour and fifteen minutes away. However my ex has started demanding that I pay for her gas or that I come all the way to get them. To the best of my knowledge transportation was not covered in our original agreement. She has sole physical custody.

Also add to it as the kids have gotten older that she has signed the kids up for every sport or activity under the sun so that now I either have to be the bad guy and say no to these things or my time with them is cut down because of these activities. For example today my son has a game at 3:30 and tomorrow he has practice at 4. I can either spend a ton of time with my kids traveling, barely see them, or be that dad who says it's my weekend they are to be with me and he has to miss.

Things were great for years and visitation was very flexible due to my busy schedule at certain times of the year. During my busy times I would see them less, but during my down times I could see them more. However now she hogs them as much as possible. She is going though a 2nd divorce and her mother just passed away and is experiencing a MAJOR midlife crisis. Her behavior has been erratic and irrational...wait let me make that easier...she's a woman.

tldr questions: If my wife has sole physical custody but was the one who moved the kids away, am I still responsible for 100% of transportation? What should I do about them being in activities that shorten my time with them but that I like them participating in? My son is 12 and wants to live with me but my state doesn't have a age that allows the kid to chose. Would I still have a chance to get him based on what he wants?

 

[Reginald Cornsilks]

Sorry to hear all of that PG.

In my opinion, the play here is simple. You explain to her once that you covering 100 percent of the transportation is unfair and unacceptable. You tell her, the next time she hears that from you, it will be via an attorney.

If she's going through another divorce, that should scare her straight. But I wouldn't bluff on it either. An attorney can write a letter of that position for 100 dollars.

 

[McGarnicle]

Question for the divorced guys with kids -- ever feel like you're okay just seeing your kids once in a while? Any of you move away from your kids for work or other reasons?

 

[Papa Georgio]

Question for the divorced guys with kids -- ever feel like you're okay just seeing your kids once in a while? Any of you move away from your kids for work or other reasons?

I was OK with it at first and enjoyed the freedom (felt guilty about that too). Now that my oldest is in her mid-teens and I never see her I have a different take on it with my 2nd oldest. I know it's just a matter of time before I become an after thought to him too so I want to take advantage of every minute I can.