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Have you seen some of the obese children in the US?
I guess. But there are tons of mom who work full time, take care of the kids in the evening, and take care of the house. I think it's also pretty prevalent in other countries for folks who have a bit of money. I think I'm being super nice since my wife only works part time with 1 kid away at college and 1 junior in high school.
I'm speaking from experience, and totally agree.
Are we talking single parent here? There's a huge difference between taking care of the kids when you have someone else to hand them off to for a few minutes while you go to the bathroom or clean up dinner vs. trying to do that stuff with no one else to look after the kid.
Kids that need extra help or a parent who is struggling mentally are the only viable reasons I can see. Everything else? You suck at parenthood. I'm sure people will disagree, but it baffles me how many parents see their kids as a chore.
Maybe the stay at home parent is struggling with postpartum depression and needs extra help some days?
Exactly. Just plain sad.
we have 4 boys, 4-12. No nanny for us, wife does just fine. We did hire a house cleaner to come by once a month for the deep cleaning we (she does 99% of the household chores) didn't get to. Totally worth it as my wife was volunteering in the community and served as the pre-school parents president which was mostly running community events and helping young moms. If your wife volunteers a lot and you could afford it, a nanny starts to make sense even if she (or he) isn't bringing home a salary.
Just curious, what's the longest you've ever taken care of a young (under 3 years old) kid or multiple kids by yourself?
26K per year, under the table i'm sure, is nothing to sneeze at for part time work.
The shark move here is to tell the wife you want to get a little trio action started. Report back the response.
Doesn't baffle me in today's helicopter parent world where even letting your kid play outside alone could get a visit from CPS.
We have a lady who cleans every two weeks. We don't have a huge place and it's still $80, but I can't think of better spent money since I don't have to listen to my wife complain about me cleaning. Do just the bare minimum to keep things tidy is enough until she's comes to clean.Chadstroma said:
I don't recall an exact number...maybe four days while the wife was out of town.
They do it because they have no choice. Is it really the most satisfying life for them? Is it the best environment for their kid to be raised in?
Well, that is called a tutor not a nanny. Those are two different things. A nanny is paid to babysit the kids. Now, obviously a good nanny would help with homework etc but their main job is taking care of the kids- getting them food, keeping them from bodily harm, helping them to the bathroom/change diapers, etc. A tutor is being paid to help them learn outside of the classroom. I don't think you can compare the two. I can see a stay at home parent paying for a tutor. A stay at home parent with a nanny is a different story. I would not say even a nanny is always 'wrong' either but I think that unless there are special needs or the stay at home parent is actually 'working' in other ways (charity work etc) there should be no reason for a nanny other than laziness and bad parenting.
