BobbyLayne
Footballguy
Nobody ever expects the Spanish inquisition.
As a means of punishment, always no. That should be fairly obvious As a means of interrogation, always no. It's not effective, you are just as likely to get false information.
It's funny, we often see iTough guys talk about how they would mete out punishment. Frankly, it's not very nuanced thinking. That's not going to allow you to move on from tragic loss. Looks good in action flick though, highly satisfying in that genre.
I recently read about a man in Farmington Hills, MI, who lost his wife and two children to a car crash caused by a drunk driver. That was nine years ago. It was the defining moment of his life. Most of us won't (hopefully) have to contend with sudden loss, but I found his story remarkable. He was able to move on with his life and find peace only once he forgave the man the killed his family. I really don't care if you have any religious sentiment, I think this is fascinating conceptually. It certainly resonates with me that you have to find a way to be able to let go of past wrongs or it destroys you.
http://www.freep.com/article/20120401/COL10/204010497/Man-who-lost-his-family-finds-forgiveness-gives-him-peace
This guy, Gary Weinstein, is one of the subjects in two documentaries coming out this year. One is called Project Forgive. Not sure I will see that as I haven't seen any screenings scheduled for around here, but I am going to see him in another documentary called Transforming Loss. It will be shown at the NYCFF in early July. I am really inspired by people who demonstrate grace in the midst of tragedy. I'd like to think I am capable of that, but I'm not so sure. It's pretty extraordinary.
http://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2013/01/02/michigan-film-grief/1805505/
While these are pretty heavy subjects, I think it's something worth exploring. All of us, at one time or another, have to deal with grief.
Related - this is another article along those lines, about the perspective of two Florida families involved in a murder case. Long read (from NYT Magazine) but really an incredible, amazing story. A young man shot his fiance, and then turned himself in. The victim didn't die immediately. The father of the killer went to the hospital before he visited his son in jail. Much later, both families, a mediator, the DA and community representatives met in this thing they call a restorative-justice circle. It didn't replace the sentencing or pre-trial plea process, but it did influence it. While practical application might be very limited, in this instance it had an incredible effect on both families and the boyfriend who committed the crime. Anyway, worth your time but you'll probably want to read it later.
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/01/06/magazine/can-forgiveness-play-a-role-in-criminal-justice.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0
Alright, back to the regularly schtick, sorry for the interruption.
As a means of punishment, always no. That should be fairly obvious As a means of interrogation, always no. It's not effective, you are just as likely to get false information.
It's funny, we often see iTough guys talk about how they would mete out punishment. Frankly, it's not very nuanced thinking. That's not going to allow you to move on from tragic loss. Looks good in action flick though, highly satisfying in that genre.
I recently read about a man in Farmington Hills, MI, who lost his wife and two children to a car crash caused by a drunk driver. That was nine years ago. It was the defining moment of his life. Most of us won't (hopefully) have to contend with sudden loss, but I found his story remarkable. He was able to move on with his life and find peace only once he forgave the man the killed his family. I really don't care if you have any religious sentiment, I think this is fascinating conceptually. It certainly resonates with me that you have to find a way to be able to let go of past wrongs or it destroys you.
http://www.freep.com/article/20120401/COL10/204010497/Man-who-lost-his-family-finds-forgiveness-gives-him-peace
This guy, Gary Weinstein, is one of the subjects in two documentaries coming out this year. One is called Project Forgive. Not sure I will see that as I haven't seen any screenings scheduled for around here, but I am going to see him in another documentary called Transforming Loss. It will be shown at the NYCFF in early July. I am really inspired by people who demonstrate grace in the midst of tragedy. I'd like to think I am capable of that, but I'm not so sure. It's pretty extraordinary.
http://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2013/01/02/michigan-film-grief/1805505/
While these are pretty heavy subjects, I think it's something worth exploring. All of us, at one time or another, have to deal with grief.
Related - this is another article along those lines, about the perspective of two Florida families involved in a murder case. Long read (from NYT Magazine) but really an incredible, amazing story. A young man shot his fiance, and then turned himself in. The victim didn't die immediately. The father of the killer went to the hospital before he visited his son in jail. Much later, both families, a mediator, the DA and community representatives met in this thing they call a restorative-justice circle. It didn't replace the sentencing or pre-trial plea process, but it did influence it. While practical application might be very limited, in this instance it had an incredible effect on both families and the boyfriend who committed the crime. Anyway, worth your time but you'll probably want to read it later.
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/01/06/magazine/can-forgiveness-play-a-role-in-criminal-justice.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0
Alright, back to the regularly schtick, sorry for the interruption.
Agree, Ramsey SNOW takes it over the top on the torturing.
