Translating the Mom for the Kids (1 Viewer)

[Chadstroma]

Yesterday I planned on taking the kids to the pool for most of the day. Kids were looking forward to it. Then that morning my wife said it was too hot to go. Well... yea. That is why we are going to the pool. I pushed back a little "my entire childhood was spent in the water in triple degree heat" The kids pushed back a lot... she gets pissed.

The kids kept coming to me and I said "look, I ain't doing nuthin that Mommy isn't happy about"

Thet come back "Mom said we could go".... I ask "Ok, what exactly did she say?" They tell me "she said do whatever you want."



No, kids, that isn't permission.... that is a dare and it isn't a dare that I am taking on and you shouldn't ever as well.

Any 'splaining you have to do for your kids like that? Or is that just me?

 

[MTskibum]

Your wife was going or not?

I understand if it is too hot for her to sit in the heat and just wants you to go without her. But if that is her excuse for you not taking the kids, then she seems kind of controlling. Why would she restrict your ability to take the kids and have a good time bonding with them.

 

[B Maverick]

You have learned well. Nice of you to pass along what you have learned.

 

[Chadstroma]

Your wife was going or not?

I understand if it is too hot for her to sit in the heat and just wants you to go without her. But if that is her excuse for you not taking the kids, then she seems kind of controlling. Why would she restrict your ability to take the kids and have a good time bonding with them.

She had already decided the day before she was not going.

She doesn't know how to swim so naturally avoids the water so she doesn't quite get the fact that even if it is deathly hot outside being in the water makes it feel good. She also very much does not do well in heat and/or humidity. She heard on the news that morning that due to the heat and humidity that they were urging people not be outdoors. Well... that doesn't mean if you are in water. So, she was thinking of the kids well being though in a certain amount of ignorance and her perspective that isn't exactly what everyone else experiences.

She did eventually tell my boys (my daughter already left with a friend to the movies) that after lunch I could take them so we did go for a few hours.

My entire childhood was at the beach, pool, lake or river in very hot places. Heck, the most common vacation spot for my family was at the Colorado River at Yuma, AZ. So it is natural for me. Completely opposite for her.

 

[Terminalxylem]

What the sigma?

Seems like wife was being unreasonable, unless she proposed an alternative activity. But I’m not sure what you were trying to accomplish by “pushing back”, if you had no intentions of going against her will.

I would use this opportunity to talk about the birds and the bees,

 

[MTskibum]

Your wife was going or not?

I understand if it is too hot for her to sit in the heat and just wants you to go without her. But if that is her excuse for you not taking the kids, then she seems kind of controlling. Why would she restrict your ability to take the kids and have a good time bonding with them.

She had already decided the day before she was not going.

She doesn't know how to swim so naturally avoids the water so she doesn't quite get the fact that even if it is deathly hot outside being in the water makes it feel good. She also very much does not do well in heat and/or humidity. She heard on the news that morning that due to the heat and humidity that they were urging people not be outdoors. Well... that doesn't mean if you are in water. So, she was thinking of the kids well being though in a certain amount of ignorance and her perspective that isn't exactly what everyone else experiences.

She did eventually tell my boys (my daughter already left with a friend to the movies) that after lunch I could take them so we did go for a few hours.

My entire childhood was at the beach, pool, lake or river in very hot places. Heck, the most common vacation spot for my family was at the Colorado River at Yuma, AZ. So it is natural for me. Completely opposite for her.

I live in Houston and we go out in the summer in 100 degree heat. If heat stopped us we wouldn't get to do any outdoor activities.

 

[Mrs. Rannous]

Your wife was going or not?

I understand if it is too hot for her to sit in the heat and just wants you to go without her. But if that is her excuse for you not taking the kids, then she seems kind of controlling. Why would she restrict your ability to take the kids and have a good time bonding with them.

She had already decided the day before she was not going.

She doesn't know how to swim so naturally avoids the water so she doesn't quite get the fact that even if it is deathly hot outside being in the water makes it feel good. She also very much does not do well in heat and/or humidity. She heard on the news that morning that due to the heat and humidity that they were urging people not be outdoors. Well... that doesn't mean if you are in water. So, she was thinking of the kids well being though in a certain amount of ignorance and her perspective that isn't exactly what everyone else experiences.

She did eventually tell my boys (my daughter already left with a friend to the movies) that after lunch I could take them so we did go for a few hours.

My entire childhood was at the beach, pool, lake or river in very hot places. Heck, the most common vacation spot for my family was at the Colorado River at Yuma, AZ. So it is natural for me. Completely opposite for her.

I live in Houston and we go out in the summer in 100 degree heat. If heat stopped us we wouldn't get to do any outdoor activities.

And 90+% humidity.

Apply sunblock. Re-apply it every so often. Wear a hat. Those UVA/B blocking t-shirts might a nice touch.

Go swim.

 

[Chadstroma]

What the sigma?

Seems like wife was being unreasonable, unless she proposed an alternative activity. But I’m not sure what you were trying to accomplish by “pushing back”, if you had no intentions of going against her will.

I would use this opportunity to talk about the birds and the bees,

What the sigma

Oh, it was unreasonable. The push back was trying to be rational with her that going to the pool is what you do when it is that hot... etc.

 

[Leroy Hoard]

Sleep with someone's wife at the pool?

 

[Grahamburn]

Maybe she didn’t want you to have shrinkage?

 

[BlackCrowes]

Maybe she didn’t want you to have shrinkage?

It shrinks?

 

[BlackCrowes]

Couldn’t you have just feigned ignorance? The kids told me you said it was ok. Better to ask forgiveness than permission?

In case it’s not obvious, I’m not married

 

[Grahamburn]

Maybe she didn’t want you to have shrinkage?

It shrinks?

Like a frightened turtle!!

 

[Beef Ravioli Part 2]

I think @Chadstroma is not trying to prove a point if the wife is being unreasonable but the fact that he is teaching his kids that “do whatever you want” actually means “You can do it but I’m not going to be happy “.

 

[Bossman]

I certainly am not fluent in wife speak ... but I DO know what "do what you want" means.
Doesn't mean I wont do what I want but I move forward knowing there will be consequences.

 

[dickey moe]

That just sucks.

 

[acarey50]

Now teach them what it means when a wife say "I'm fine"

 

[Chadstroma]

Couldn’t you have just feigned ignorance? The kids told me you said it was ok. Better to ask forgiveness than permission?

In case it’s not obvious, I’m not married

Yea.... it don't work like that my friend. Ignorance is not a defense in marital relations.

 

[Chadstroma]

I think @Chadstroma is not trying to prove a point if the wife is being unreasonable but the fact that he is teaching his kids that “do whatever you want” actually means “You can do it but I’m not going to be happy “.

Yea, plus I knew she would come around. And again, I know it was really based on her not doing the pool thing when it is hot because A) she can not swim and B) she generally doesn't like being outdoors in general but very much so when it is hot.

 

[Chadstroma]

That just sucks.

Worked out in the end and got to explain to my kids how to translate Mom speak.

 

[Chadstroma]

Now teach them what it means when a wife say "I'm fine"

and "I'm not mad"

 

[SWC]

That just sucks.

Worked out in the end and got to explain to my kids how to translate Mom speak.

but not for your daughter because she ended up not getting to go to the pool finding something else to do while mom was still sorting her stuff out and that is sort of crummy take that to the bank brochacho

 

[Van Dyman]

Yesterday I planned on taking the kids to the pool for most of the day. Kids were looking forward to it. Then that morning my wife said it was too hot to go. Well... yea. That is why we are going to the pool. I pushed back a little "my entire childhood was spent in the water in triple degree heat" The kids pushed back a lot... she gets pissed.

Maybe she got pissed because everyone ganged up on her, or pretended to be pissed as a defense mechanism once she realized she might be wrong? Either way, not ok.

 

[odin33]

Now teach them what it means when a wife say "I'm fine"

and "I'm not mad"

And "I'm tired and have a headache", Oh wait...

 

[McBokonon]

was trying to be rational with her

I've identified the issue

 

[WVU Alum]

I recently attempted an emotional response, it did not, in fact, have the opposite effect of a rational response. I got the dead-eye stare and the angry, passive aggressive vibe for the same amount of time.

 

[Chadstroma]

That just sucks.

Worked out in the end and got to explain to my kids how to translate Mom speak.

but not for your daughter because she ended up not getting to go to the pool finding something else to do while mom was still sorting her stuff out and that is sort of crummy take that to the bank brochacho

All she really wanted to do is hang out with her friend which she did. We just got back from 5+ hours at the pool today and I texted my wife "we are at the pool, fyi" and she just asked if they had sunscreen.

All is good in the hood.

I know my wife slightly better than you do.

 

[Chadstroma]

Yesterday I planned on taking the kids to the pool for most of the day. Kids were looking forward to it. Then that morning my wife said it was too hot to go. Well... yea. That is why we are going to the pool. I pushed back a little "my entire childhood was spent in the water in triple degree heat" The kids pushed back a lot... she gets pissed.

Maybe she got pissed because everyone ganged up on her, or pretended to be pissed as a defense mechanism once she realized she might be wrong? Either way, not ok.

I think the gang up might be on the nose.... she said something along the lines of "no one ever listens to me anymore" But again.... I knew she would come around.

It is like this.... someone who grew up shooting guns would have not issues taking their kids shooting. But someone who has never shot a gun before might be a little freaked out about it. Same here. This is a totally foreign concept to my wife. She adjusted to it just like what all normal adults that aren't on meds do.

 

[WVU Alum]

That just sucks.

Worked out in the end and got to explain to my kids how to translate Mom speak.

but not for your daughter because she ended up not getting to go to the pool finding something else to do while mom was still sorting her stuff out and that is sort of crummy take that to the bank brochacho

All she really wanted to do is hang out with her friend which she did. We just got back from 5+ hours at the pool today and I texted my wife "we are at the pool, fyi" and she just asked if they had sunscreen.

All is good in the hood.

I know my wife slightly better than you do.

I wouldn’t take that to the bank brohan. Pretty sure SWC knows a lot of wives.

 

[Keerock]

Skibidi Toilet Rizz

 

[ChiefD]

One thing I’ve figured out about women is

 

[Chadstroma]

Skibidi Toilet Rizz

no cap

 

[Mrs. Rannous]

That just sucks.

Worked out in the end and got to explain to my kids how to translate Mom speak.

I think you only taught them about being passive-aggressive.

 

[Chadstroma]

That just sucks.

Worked out in the end and got to explain to my kids how to translate Mom speak.

I think you only taught them about being passive-aggressive.

I don't understand what anything I did was passive aggressive.

I engaged in conversation about it with her (not passive) and then decided it wasn't a hill I was going to die on so I relented with the expectation that she would come around later anyways (not aggressive).

 

[Mrs. Rannous]

That just sucks.

Worked out in the end and got to explain to my kids how to translate Mom speak.

I think you only taught them about being passive-aggressive.

I don't understand what anything I did was passive aggressive.

I engaged in conversation about it with her (not passive) and then decided it wasn't a hill I was going to die on so I relented with the expectation that she would come around later anyways (not aggressive).

Not you. Her.

 

[Chadstroma]

That just sucks.

Worked out in the end and got to explain to my kids how to translate Mom speak.

I think you only taught them about being passive-aggressive.

I don't understand what anything I did was passive aggressive.

I engaged in conversation about it with her (not passive) and then decided it wasn't a hill I was going to die on so I relented with the expectation that she would come around later anyways (not aggressive).

Not you. Her.

Awww, nah....

I mean, she got irrationally upset about it but what woman doesn't do that occasionally? She got over it.

 

[Mrs. Rannous]

That just sucks.

Worked out in the end and got to explain to my kids how to translate Mom speak.

I think you only taught them about being passive-aggressive.

I don't understand what anything I did was passive aggressive.

I engaged in conversation about it with her (not passive) and then decided it wasn't a hill I was going to die on so I relented with the expectation that she would come around later anyways (not aggressive).

Not you. Her.

Awww, nah....

I mean, she got irrationally upset about it but what woman doesn't do that occasionally? She got over it.

You know you typed that out loud?

 

[Chadstroma]

I mean, she got irrationally upset about it but what woman doesn't do that occasionally? She got over it.

You know you typed that out loud?

I thought "occasionally" would make it all cool and stuff.

 

[Terminalxylem]

I mean, she got irrationally upset about it but what woman doesn't do that occasionally? She got over it.

You know you typed that out loud?

I thought "occasionally" would make it all cool and stuff.

Person

 

[Chadstroma]

1

I thought "occasionally" would make it all cool and stuff.

Person

Yes, women are persons.... what are ypu some kind of misogynist?!

 

[Terminalxylem]

1

I thought "occasionally" would make it all cool and stuff.

Person

Yes, women are persons.... what are ypu some kind of misogynist?!

Occasionally