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Trouble getting pregnant? (2 Viewers)
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gianmarco
Footballguy
Man, so sorry to hear that.
so sorry to hear man. hope you get to feel that way again soonReading this again still makes my smile. The short time we were pregnant was one of the best times or our lives. I hope we get to feel that way again.Well it happend. The greatest news we could of ever gotten. Out of no where after trying for 3 years, multiple IUI 2 failed IVF we are pregnant. My wife surprised me with the news the first week of January. I was in shock could't believe after all that we have gone threw it happened naturally. We just had our first Dr. appointment today and saw the heart beat. Man was that cool.I would like to thank everyone in this thread for the support. And to the rest of you waiting stay positie and relaxed good things can happen. It seemed that once we fully came to terms that we may not ever get pregnet it happened. Not sure if it was related but I think just accepting and relaxing made a difference. I'm am so jacked right now. We truly live a blessed life.
Dickies
Footballguy
Wow, I don't even want to know what that would feel like. :(
The Commish
Footballguy
So sorry to hear that Wooderson.
The Z Machine
Footballguy
That sucks, Wooderson. My heart goes out to you and your wife.
gianmarco
Footballguy
Thanks. Embryo transfer was yesterday. After getting news initially that everything looked great with 11 total embryos, only 2 were good enough yesterday to transfer and none of the remaining could even be frozen :( The vibe wasn't very hopeful based on how they looked but I guess we'll see.
The Z Machine
Footballguy
I'm sorry to hear that. But you still have 2 good shots here. GLLLLLLLLLLL
YSR
Footballguy
I've now read this entire thread. Really nice thread, from A-Z. Lots of happiness, sadness, subsequent encouragement, etc. No snark. A nice place to be in the FFA.
That said, I'm starting my quest. I'm 35 and other than drinking more than I should, I'm pretty healthy. I don't exercise nearly as much as I should, but there's no fast food, I try to limit processed foods, etc.
My husband and I got married in May of last year and are still working through some stresses in re: closing a business in April of last year, but for the most part we are okay. We have been doing ovulation tests and been trying based on that, but I've not taken it any further than that (i.e. taking temperatures, etc).
At my age, should I give it another few months of trying to do what the Internet tells me regarding ovulation, or go ahead and see a doctor?
This might be the most vulnerable I've been here. Feels strange, but this is a great thread.
That said, I'm starting my quest. I'm 35 and other than drinking more than I should, I'm pretty healthy. I don't exercise nearly as much as I should, but there's no fast food, I try to limit processed foods, etc.
My husband and I got married in May of last year and are still working through some stresses in re: closing a business in April of last year, but for the most part we are okay. We have been doing ovulation tests and been trying based on that, but I've not taken it any further than that (i.e. taking temperatures, etc).
At my age, should I give it another few months of trying to do what the Internet tells me regarding ovulation, or go ahead and see a doctor?
This might be the most vulnerable I've been here. Feels strange, but this is a great thread.
Not sure where in south jersey you are but we had some luck with dr. Ziegler in tinton falls. He got my wife pregnant with 2 IUIs but they never made it past 19 weeks. Tried an ivf but it never took. Eventually she got pregnant naturally much like wooderson. Total surprise.Condolences to wooderson. Sorry to hear but on the bright side, she can get pregnant on her own. At least that's what my wife says, she won't lemme near her anymore. Ones enough for her at age 37.
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FBGirl79
Footballguy
I picked up the book Take Control of your Fertility based on the recommendations here. I personally wouldn't wait to talk to someone. You can start with your Ob/Gyn and if they deal with fertility at all, they should be able to run the basic tests. My last doctor gave me clomid but didn't run any tests and thought it was just a timing/ovulation issue. I finally got into a new Dr. in January and she has been great. She ran tests and finally found what was going on and discovered the problem. We went ahead and had my husband tested last week to make sure we don't have two things against us but I am relieved to finally have some answers. She put me on 2 new medicines to get me ready to start fertility medicine this summer bc she wanted a few months of the other meds to work before we start again. At least if you go to someone now, you can rule out problems rather than waste precious time. I know there are tons of fertility forums & threads out there that might help you too but honestly, this thread is the only one I read. Good luck...you have lots of support here!
El Floppo
Footballguy
I'll second talking to somebody sooner than later... especially since you're really, really old.
My wife started at about the same age as you and decided at the outset to give it 6 months of no birth control and then to see somebody, which she did right away (she had PCOS to start with, so she didn't feel the need to dance around seeing a specialist). We got lucky the first time, but had a harder go-around with #2 (also a lot more stress in both our lives by that point, including a building fire a week after an IUI that left us homeless and unpregnant.Given that it turned out during our treatment for Floppo 2 Electric Boogaloo that I was the one with the main issue (0% morphology of goo, aka monster-headed sperm... which we named our 2nd kid, btw), I would also recommend Mr YSR get checked as well... no point beating around the bush on any of this, so to speak. Speaking of which- nothing more embarrassing than doing that walk of shame to/from the masturbatory chambers at the docs' office. If it's too fast, will the people in the waiting room think less of me? Too long, will they be creeped out that I'm lounging around perusing too many worn out copies of hispanic bootie sluts revenge vols 2-11?
GL YSR. SOme great info and support in here- welcome.
Good Posting Judge
Footballguy
Good luck to all of you. We had an easy time getting pregnant, an easy pregnancy, and a pretty great first two years, and we don't ever take it for granted.
TobiasFunke
Footballguy
One full year post-marriage is the "norm" for starting to look for some sort of medical assistance, and that's when the the insurance coverage generally will kick in, to the extent any is available. But my wife and I started well before that because she had an educated hunch it would be problematic due to family history, and I'm really glad we did. It took a while to work through some of the less drastic steps like an initial consult and then stuff like Clomid before we finally decided to try IVF and then eventually egg donors. All told, the process took almost three years before we finally got a bun in the oven. Those extra six months or so we bought ourselves seem incredibly valuable now- my wife is only 32, but we are planning to have another one some time.
Wrighteous Ray
Footballguy
I don't think you should wait. The first steps will be tests on you and your husband. Having that information will allow you to make better decisions going forward. Given that you're 35, I think most doctors will understand your anxiety about getting tested.ETA: Oh yeah, good luck! It's a rough journey but it often ends up with a very happy conclusion.
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Wrighteous Ray
Footballguy
I've posted in this thread with 6 different usernames. 
I would do two things right away: 1. Make sure to tell your OB that you're starting to try to get pregnant. Based on your age and what he/she knows about you they might recommend to see a specialist...I can't remember exactly but I want to say that females over 35 automatically raise a flag (someone might want to check me on that though).2. Make sure Mr. YSR gets checked. If you have insurance, a regular test should be $100 or less. I say this out of precaution b/c we went through like a year or hell before I realized there was a problem with me as well.GLLLLL
The Z Machine
Footballguy
Furthermore, they say that 1/3rd of the "problems" are with the female, 1/3rd are with the male, and 1/3rd are unexplained. Whether or not they are truly "unexplainable" or rather that things get resolved before any more diagnosis is necessary is another question.
For us, there are factors on both sides, but nothing conclusive as to why we haven't been able to conceive. So, YSR, please do have both you and your husband checked out, at least consultation-wise. It can't hurt to do it sooner rather than later.
Also, GLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL to all in here.
For us, there are factors on both sides, but nothing conclusive as to why we haven't been able to conceive. So, YSR, please do have both you and your husband checked out, at least consultation-wise. It can't hurt to do it sooner rather than later.
Also, GLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL to all in here.
I'd just like to echo this sentiment.
mlball77
Footballguy
Yeah, that's the way to look at it. As much of a roller coaster as it is, try to stay as positive as you can... if will be good for you and your lady, imho.
The Commish
Footballguy
This is common. We were told that we would be incredibly lucky if we experienced only 50% loss at each stage after egg harvesting. We started with 22 eggs. Ended up with 9 fertilized, and then 4 embryos. We implanted two and froze two. We considered ourselves an exception case and very fortunate for that.
gianmarco
Footballguy
Looks like some of the good vibes have helped
Still very early on and lots can happen, but..........couldn't be more excited with the news we got a few weeks ago. Looks like just 1 so just hoping we can make it to the finish line.......Thanks to all well wishes and good luck to those still trying.
Steve Tasker
Footballguy
The Z Machine
Footballguy
That's great news. Best of luck gianmarco.
El Floppo
Footballguy
bentley
Footballguy
The Commish
Footballguy
fingers crossed.
The Z Machine
Footballguy
My brother just called me to tell me that his wife is pregnant with their 3rd (he's 2 years older than me at 34. S.I.L. is 38). It was an "oops" baby and not planned. He was sort of lamenting his lot in life, and I told him I have not much empathy for his situation. My wife is upset tonight, and I'll have to deal with that. As for me, I'm happy for him, but it is a kick in the nuts to know that even my own flesh and blood can make a baby while actively trying NOT to make a baby.
Steve Tasker
Footballguy
Sorry to hear it man.
Wrighteous Ray
Footballguy
That sucks Z. If your brother knows what you've been going through and still complained he needs to shut the F up. Hope you and Mrs. Z can get through this.
The Z Machine
Footballguy
We'll be OK. I did try to rub it in with him about being a DINK household and all the fun things we get to do because we don't have kids.
Dickies
Footballguy
Sorry to hear that Z. I know how it feels. When we were trying for 2 years and doing the whole fertility thing, everyone around us was announcing that they were pregnant. I was genuinely happy for them, but the wife was destroyed with every new announcement. Hang in there, it will happen eventually.
SouthJersey
Footballguy
Hey bud didn't see this till now, thanks for the suggestion but wouldn't work for us. I grew up in South Jersey but currently live in New England.
SouthJersey
Footballguy
So no luck for me and wifey. She's getting more and more frustrated. She already gets moody when she menstruates, but now it's even worse when you add in the disappointment of knowing you're not pregnant when her period starts.
I also made a huge mistake 2 months ago. Ever since we started tracking her ovulation cycle she's been a very consistent 26 days. 2 months ago she was 13 days late. After about 5 days she started talking about how she knew she was pregnant, she could just feel it, the mommy blogs say you'll know right away when you are and she knows, etc. Instead of helping keep her hopes in check I just went along with it and probably hyped it up myself. Needless to say that didn't work out well.
Next step for us is wifey needs a hysterosalpingogram and ultrasound, and I have to go bust a nut into a cup. From there our OB said she would refer us to the Infertility clinic and most likely start with Clomid.
I couldn't find it on my employer's insurance site but know we're covered for 4 rounds of IVF. I assume IVF is a last case resort. Besides Clomid what do you try before? When you try insemination are you on Clomid at the same time as well?
I also made a huge mistake 2 months ago. Ever since we started tracking her ovulation cycle she's been a very consistent 26 days. 2 months ago she was 13 days late. After about 5 days she started talking about how she knew she was pregnant, she could just feel it, the mommy blogs say you'll know right away when you are and she knows, etc. Instead of helping keep her hopes in check I just went along with it and probably hyped it up myself. Needless to say that didn't work out well.
Next step for us is wifey needs a hysterosalpingogram and ultrasound, and I have to go bust a nut into a cup. From there our OB said she would refer us to the Infertility clinic and most likely start with Clomid.
I couldn't find it on my employer's insurance site but know we're covered for 4 rounds of IVF. I assume IVF is a last case resort. Besides Clomid what do you try before? When you try insemination are you on Clomid at the same time as well?
TobiasFunke
Footballguy
No simultaneous Clomid, or at least we didn't do it. I thin they have two different functions.Sorry to hear about your initial struggles. FWIW 4 rounds of IVF coverage is incredible, you should be thankful you have that. We had three rounds of 50% IVF coverage and we thought that was great.As I'm mentioned here my wife and I tried for years, first with Clomid and then IVF and then finally an egg donor, before we finally got her knocked up 8 months ago. So stick with it. And from my experience, I think the women who say they "just know" when they're pregnant are full of it. My wife and I obviously had many many months of failure prior to success. And as far as I can tell and from what she told me, there was not one thing different in the successful month, until we got the test results. Obviously I can't speak from personal experience, but I think the women who say they knew are engaging in some sort of selective recall.
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belljr
Footballguy
Not sure what my wife was on when we did the IUI, the step before IVF. We visited the fertility doctor on a regular basis.
Clomid (a few months) >>> IUI (3 attempts, then I got tested, then another attempt) >>> successful IVFHave you been tested yet? We had no idea that anything was wrong with me....$6000 into IUIs later, and we find out I had an issue as well, and we weren't dealing with the best sperm. A $75 test right at the beginning could have confirmed that. Switched doctors right after that.
belljr
Footballguy
Man I feel for you guys... here all that stuff is covered. It's been a while since we went through this. I know we took something yellow. For a while, then we moved on to shots. We tried a few months with just drugs, then 3 months IUI. The month right before IVF was to start we got lucky.Just popping in to wish every one luck, it's a trying time for sure and not to lose hope.
The Z Machine
Footballguy
We had a false start this week for a new IVF cycle. Hormone levels too high to start the egg harvest routine, so we're on hold for another month. Goal is to harvest as many eggs as possible.
Wrighteous Ray
Footballguy
Sorry to hear this.
The Commish
Footballguy
The Commish
Footballguy
To start the harvest or to start the growth of new eggs for the harvest?
DocHolliday
Footballguy
I just popped in here since my wife and I had trouble getting pregnant. It is a very frustrating time and very, very tough on the woman.
My wife and I got help after 1 year of trying naturally. We got pregnant using the Clomid and IUI process after a few months. Since we got married late and it took a couple of years to get pregnant, we only had time to have 1 kid. My wife turned 41 a few months ago and having kids at that age can be risky.
Our daughter is 2 years old now and the best thing to ever happen to me. Those embarrassing times of giving samples and the crushing blows each month of a not-pregnant wife sure do not matter at all now.
Hang in there folks. Keep trying.
My wife and I got help after 1 year of trying naturally. We got pregnant using the Clomid and IUI process after a few months. Since we got married late and it took a couple of years to get pregnant, we only had time to have 1 kid. My wife turned 41 a few months ago and having kids at that age can be risky.
Our daughter is 2 years old now and the best thing to ever happen to me. Those embarrassing times of giving samples and the crushing blows each month of a not-pregnant wife sure do not matter at all now.
Hang in there folks. Keep trying.
The Z Machine
Footballguy
To start the growth. So no meds other than ones to alter her hormone levels a smidge. She's worried that a too high FSH indicates poor egg quality. She was excited and upbeat prior to this, but as well know, all it takes is one knock and it can send a person down for a while.'The Commish said:
The Commish
Footballguy
Gotcha....it read like she had gone the distance, had ovaries the size of softballs and they were going to hold off on harvesting. I can't imagine that kind of pain. That's why I asked.
bentley
Footballguy
We went through six or so IUIs before getting to IVF with none of it being covered. Luckily both our fresh IVFs worked and we have two wonderful boys. I also had the big snip last month (even though we had both male and female issues) to ensure that we didn't get any surprises now. I think we've managed to pay off about 80 percent of what we spent making the boys.
It's heartbreaking to read the stories of the folks going through trouble now. I remember those days in the past with the failed efforts and everyone around us seeming to get pregnant without a problem. Thoughts and prayers to all of you. I wish there way some way I could do more.
It's heartbreaking to read the stories of the folks going through trouble now. I remember those days in the past with the failed efforts and everyone around us seeming to get pregnant without a problem. Thoughts and prayers to all of you. I wish there way some way I could do more.
The Z Machine
Footballguy
We had a setback this month due to high FSH level, which led to some genetic screening, which came back inconclusive. My wife was in a bad place two days ago, but has since talked with her main doc and feels better. She's taking something to get the FSH down so we can try to pump up the ovaries to produce lots of good follicles. I may have to travel for work, so my boys might have to be put on ice for the petri dish action.
gianmarco
Footballguy
So sorry to hear. Best of luck to both of you and hope things turn around quickly and for the better very soon.
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