Mortgage rates in 1990 were 10.4%. It was not easier back then for people in their mid-20s to buy a home.
This is misleading. PITI is a much better metric
Do you think it was "easier" for a person in their mid-20s to buy a home in 1990? I don't.
College was cheaper. That's going to be a factor. School debt and car debt is going to keep 20s out of homes for a bit.
There's probably something to this. Neither my wife nor I had any student load debt when we graduated. Neither did most people we knew. Student loans existed, of course, but it seemed pretty uncommon to encounter anybody with substantial college debt unless they were a cardiologist or something. My wife and I made it a priority for our own kids to graduate debt-free, and I'm surprised at the number of people in their peer group graduating with debt even though their families could have easily afforded otherwise.
For example, my son's girlfriend (who he can propose to any day now, but that's a separate conversation for another time) has about $50K in student loans stemming from her graduate degree in occupational therapy. Now, obviously, she is going to be just fine. It's not like she took out this debt for a master's degree in gender studies or something -- she'll have no problem recouping this. But I've met her family, and they're loaded. They're taking their kids and SOs (including my son) to Europe for a family trip later this year. That's nice and everything, but don't you think getting your own children off to a debt-free start is a little more important than galavanting around a dying continent? I'll admit to being very judgey about parents who get their kids set up for success but just choose not to do so.
I hear you on parents who won't help out their kids to the extent they're able, but there is a flip side to this as well.
I'm a believer that there's value in kids having some skin in the game when it comes to their own education. My son did me the favor of choosing to stay in-state for his educations, and it's going to save me massive amounts of money. Still, I'm having him take the gov't subsidized loans nonetheless...(5,500 fresh year, 6,500 soph, etc). He'll come out with 28k in debt. We may help him with that after graduation, we may not, but it's valuable I think for him to have some ownership in what's being paid. For my daughter, who decided to go out of state, we're paying much more of course, but she'll exit with the same $28k in debt. We've already told her she of course can live at home for as long as she wants rent free, but we expect her to aggressively pay off these loans while she does so.
Sounds reasonable to me. I can see where this sort of thing might be helpful just to make sure that your kids fully understand how expensive this is and what a serious undertaking it is. As you note, you can pay off those loans for them after graduation if you're so inclined.
Not sure why I feel compelled to post this here, but I've shared in other threads that my second son was asked NOT to come back for his junior year at our state university due to what some might call a failure to attend classes and/or maintain a GPA above 2.0. Did fine his freshman year, his soph year? I don't think he did anything more than attend sporting events and become ultimate "Frat Guy" last year.
Now, this kid also took out some student loans and we paid the balance, including his living expenses. But here's a really important and expensive lesson that he (and we) learned the hard way. When you fail to maintain the minimum GPA for a semester after being placed on Academic Probation, the loans AND grants you received get kicked back and that money is payable to the university. Due in full now or interest begins accumulating. Whoops.
Anyhow, I told him "buddy, this one is on you. We agreed to help you as long as you made your grades. So this nut is yours to cover and if it takes you 2-3 years, so be it." He agreed, but it's going to be a while before he's getting this monkey off his back. But if I paid this off for him, I don't think he learns anything. And my wife would divorce me if I did, so......yeah. Not doing another one of those.