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This is a topic born over a conversation that @KarmaPolice and myself were having in the "Drag Queen Story Hour" thread.
In debating the acceptance and idea of drag queens being paid to read to young children, naturally the conversation weaved it's way through LGBTQ and other men's sexual topics.
One of the points that I raised was that I feel that the "Traditional, American male image and role in society" has been under some form of attack over the last few years and there has been a push to tame the Alpha personality. I used the term "emasculation" as in this idea that the traditional male personality is being "weeded out" in a way intentionally. You can read my response here
In it I cite this shift in society whereas the man does not need to be the bread winner any longer, feminism and the rise of females managing in the workplace. The reduction of the spirit of competition in traditionally boy-oriented youth sports. Male children disciplined in school for acting out in ways that are more biological than behavioral. And overall, the idea where we have created a society where the "hunter" role has been diminished and we are living a more homogeneous life between the sexes.
Now is that a bad thing? IDK. However, given the context of the original conversation posted in a thread about men dressing as women in front of children, the topic is worth discussing. I don't want to get into a morality debate over same sex attraction and lifestyle is good or bad, but studies have show that the LGTBQ/fluid/non-binary identifying population is topping over 20% in the US, specifically in the young adult demo. IMO, something is influencing that beyond just biology. Yes, you can say that society acceptance helps that number be truer than in the past, but that brings me back to the original title of the thread.
I also pointed out that we are experiencing more "female led relationships" whereas the traditional male role is played by the mother and the father has taken a beta position in the household. I used the example in the DQ thread of videos posted where the wife is interviewed defending the situation and the husband is just off to the side silently nodding to her. A very small act but I know a few men who are in relationships like this where they have little to no say.
The next question would be, was the "Traditional American Male Role" all that great to begin with? Again, IDK. But IMO, the "Traditional Male Image/Role" was one of the breadwinner, hunter, visible head of the household. He may have had an office job but could still be found tuning up the car engine on the weekend with a cold beer nearby. He may not have had a lot of options on politics or how the house was decorated, but when you needed life advice he could give you it. But to some, he also could be disengaged with the family, or too heavy of a disciplinarian.
Why I bring KarmaPolice into this is that my post struck a nerve with him (its cool, we hugged it out), and he debated that we are better today b/c men and fathers are more overall loving and involved with the family unit then in the past. You can read his reply here. Now I 100% agree with him on many of his points. I'm sure if we lined up our days, his family and my family would pretty much align—we share things like shopping, taking kids to sports/events, etc.
But larger picture, the point of my post was biologically, are male and female roles more important then we figured and is it having an effect on the sexual non-conformity issues we are looking at today. And I say "issues" not to minimize the LGTBQ community, but more to highlight the rise in numbers of the members of it and its long term effects on society. Until we a growing kids in a lab, we still need the population to reproduce effectively and so far thats between a M/F process.
Bringing biology into this, studies have shown that young male testosterone levels are dropping at an alarming rate. Most of it seems to be due to inactivity and poor diets. But back to my original point, have we been trying to tame young boys natural need to engage in more masculine activities like wresting, and competition and just out getting dirty and bruised up? We've replaced it participation accolades (vs the desire to actually win at something), taking contact out of sports and automatically suspending a kid b/c he makes a "pew pew" sound with a finger gun.
Similarly, other studies show increases in testosterone levels when the male head is in the hunter/head of the house mode vs "nurture" mode.
Is testosterone a good thing? I'm no scientist, but it seems like this country was built and defended on it by mostly men who were willing to jump out of airplanes into a firefight and guys walking on 6 inch wide I-beams 40 stories above ground.
In debating the acceptance and idea of drag queens being paid to read to young children, naturally the conversation weaved it's way through LGBTQ and other men's sexual topics.
One of the points that I raised was that I feel that the "Traditional, American male image and role in society" has been under some form of attack over the last few years and there has been a push to tame the Alpha personality. I used the term "emasculation" as in this idea that the traditional male personality is being "weeded out" in a way intentionally. You can read my response here
In it I cite this shift in society whereas the man does not need to be the bread winner any longer, feminism and the rise of females managing in the workplace. The reduction of the spirit of competition in traditionally boy-oriented youth sports. Male children disciplined in school for acting out in ways that are more biological than behavioral. And overall, the idea where we have created a society where the "hunter" role has been diminished and we are living a more homogeneous life between the sexes.
Now is that a bad thing? IDK. However, given the context of the original conversation posted in a thread about men dressing as women in front of children, the topic is worth discussing. I don't want to get into a morality debate over same sex attraction and lifestyle is good or bad, but studies have show that the LGTBQ/fluid/non-binary identifying population is topping over 20% in the US, specifically in the young adult demo. IMO, something is influencing that beyond just biology. Yes, you can say that society acceptance helps that number be truer than in the past, but that brings me back to the original title of the thread.
I also pointed out that we are experiencing more "female led relationships" whereas the traditional male role is played by the mother and the father has taken a beta position in the household. I used the example in the DQ thread of videos posted where the wife is interviewed defending the situation and the husband is just off to the side silently nodding to her. A very small act but I know a few men who are in relationships like this where they have little to no say.
The next question would be, was the "Traditional American Male Role" all that great to begin with? Again, IDK. But IMO, the "Traditional Male Image/Role" was one of the breadwinner, hunter, visible head of the household. He may have had an office job but could still be found tuning up the car engine on the weekend with a cold beer nearby. He may not have had a lot of options on politics or how the house was decorated, but when you needed life advice he could give you it. But to some, he also could be disengaged with the family, or too heavy of a disciplinarian.
Why I bring KarmaPolice into this is that my post struck a nerve with him (its cool, we hugged it out), and he debated that we are better today b/c men and fathers are more overall loving and involved with the family unit then in the past. You can read his reply here. Now I 100% agree with him on many of his points. I'm sure if we lined up our days, his family and my family would pretty much align—we share things like shopping, taking kids to sports/events, etc.
But larger picture, the point of my post was biologically, are male and female roles more important then we figured and is it having an effect on the sexual non-conformity issues we are looking at today. And I say "issues" not to minimize the LGTBQ community, but more to highlight the rise in numbers of the members of it and its long term effects on society. Until we a growing kids in a lab, we still need the population to reproduce effectively and so far thats between a M/F process.
Bringing biology into this, studies have shown that young male testosterone levels are dropping at an alarming rate. Most of it seems to be due to inactivity and poor diets. But back to my original point, have we been trying to tame young boys natural need to engage in more masculine activities like wresting, and competition and just out getting dirty and bruised up? We've replaced it participation accolades (vs the desire to actually win at something), taking contact out of sports and automatically suspending a kid b/c he makes a "pew pew" sound with a finger gun.
Similarly, other studies show increases in testosterone levels when the male head is in the hunter/head of the house mode vs "nurture" mode.
Is testosterone a good thing? I'm no scientist, but it seems like this country was built and defended on it by mostly men who were willing to jump out of airplanes into a firefight and guys walking on 6 inch wide I-beams 40 stories above ground.
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