Godsbrother
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So my nephew (brother's son) is getting married at an all-inclusive near Cancun in October and my wife and I are invited. I have three brothers and two sisters also invited and from what I hear they are planning on going.
I don't want to go for a variety of reasons, the biggest being that my elderly parents (88, 92) have health issues and aren't able to attend. I am very concerned about all of us kids being out of the country at the same time.
As I see it my options are either to call my brother and explain my concerns and tell him that we will not be attending but then send a very generous gift -OR- go to the wedding with my wife and hope nothing happens with my parents while we are in Mexico.
I won't lie that part of the reason that I don't want to go is that my wife and I vacationed at an-all inclusive in Riveria Maya less than a year ago and vowed we wouldn't go back (beach stunk and we both got sick). Also I have priced out the wedding trip and the cost will be roughly $2,000 coming in on Friday and leaving Sunday morning. Add a wedding gift and incidentals and we are looking at $2,500 for 2 nights and 1 full day which is pretty steep.
So I am between a rock and a hard place. On one hand I don't want to offend my brother and his wife but I really am concerned about leaving my Mom & Dad without any help if they need it and shelling out $2,500 for a very short trip to a place I don't want to go does not thrill me.
Right now I am leaning towards declining the invitation and if get the sense that my brother or his wife are pissed then I'll go to the wedding by myself which would leave my wife home if anything happens to Mom & Dad.
Thoughts?
I don't want to go for a variety of reasons, the biggest being that my elderly parents (88, 92) have health issues and aren't able to attend. I am very concerned about all of us kids being out of the country at the same time.
As I see it my options are either to call my brother and explain my concerns and tell him that we will not be attending but then send a very generous gift -OR- go to the wedding with my wife and hope nothing happens with my parents while we are in Mexico.
I won't lie that part of the reason that I don't want to go is that my wife and I vacationed at an-all inclusive in Riveria Maya less than a year ago and vowed we wouldn't go back (beach stunk and we both got sick). Also I have priced out the wedding trip and the cost will be roughly $2,000 coming in on Friday and leaving Sunday morning. Add a wedding gift and incidentals and we are looking at $2,500 for 2 nights and 1 full day which is pretty steep.
So I am between a rock and a hard place. On one hand I don't want to offend my brother and his wife but I really am concerned about leaving my Mom & Dad without any help if they need it and shelling out $2,500 for a very short trip to a place I don't want to go does not thrill me.
Right now I am leaning towards declining the invitation and if get the sense that my brother or his wife are pissed then I'll go to the wedding by myself which would leave my wife home if anything happens to Mom & Dad.
Thoughts?