Totally. I do think that groups like BLM and pundits on tv focus 97% of their energy on the meme of cops hunting black men and have little time to discuss anything else.
Regarding the traffic stop numbers you are right and the reason for that as well as the stupidly simple solution can be described better than me by
@parasaurolophus. I should find the thread that he broke it down in, as its been referenced in this thread previously.
The simple reality is that cops go to where the most crime happens and they are invariably going to have more interactions when there. The knowledge of being in an area with heightened crime puts cops more on edge than they would be elsewhere. This in combination with the expectation that the cop probably will shoot them makes the black person more agitated. A very small percentage of interactions turn violent and even less turn deadly. That number is amplified in the black community due to there simply being way more police-citizen interactions. And the wheel goes round and round.
Regarding the bolded, I understand it as well, but the reality is that in almost every case it is as cut and dry as your last sentence.
I say that as a white man who has zero lived experience as a black man. Frankly, I don't need that to understand statistics or to understand the simple concept that a traffic stop is not the time to voice your frustration with society or to litigate your case against the cop pulling you over.
I know that is not a popular opinion. akin to "pulling yourself up by the bootstraps" but in this case it is 100% accurate.